April 2015 thread 2 for miscarriage survivors. today we are pregnant!

[TinyTear]

Thread 2
Nearly at the 12w mark for all and we can start some stats!

14+0

Tiny -it could be. they do say it is earlier with each pregnancy and I know last time I had movements around 16 weeks but wasn't sure what they were till around 18 weeks. Then I got somersault practise around 5am every morning for about a month

I felt DD2 from about 14 weeks tiny so it could well be.

I was brave today and bought some maternity jeans and work trousers. I feel a bit uneasy about it but very much more comfortable.

I've felt a few movements over the last few days, I put it down to it being my 3rd pregnacy in 2 years that my uterus is a bit thinned out.
I wouldn't have known they were movements if it weren't for the midwife with DD who was sure it was an used it as a guide to find DDs heartbeat.
And the scan yesterday did show little legs pretty much in the direction I felt the movements.

Hi everyone, so glad to have found this thread and ditto Tiny's positive vibes to all. Shetland hope your maternity clothes help you start to relax. Just marking my spot now that I've found you, will have a proper read through all comments tomorrow.

For me, 2 mmcs at 12+6 & though theoretically past that, can't help wondering if really am or not. (1st lost naturally wks 11-12, scan showed it only made 5-6wks. 2nd, heartbeat at 5+5 but 12-wk scan showed it only made 8+6). This/third time lucky? scan & heartbeat fine at 6+5, 8+3, 9+4, 12+1, 12+5 & in theory today = 14 wks, 2nd trimester :) (still unclear if that's wk 13 or 14)! But just like the mmcs no symptoms but slightly tender/hard nips - and hardly, today, hence worrying. Only during scans does/has it seemed real. Apologies to those with horrible ms who would love to have no symptoms! Torn between wanting some and not, so at least if lose it again it won't be common knowledge.

Only told 3 people, DM didn't seem overjoyed when showed the 5+5 scan last time (at xmas)! so prefer to keep quiet, till 20wk if poss. Consultant scan due 19+1 due to med hist (neurotube defect/epilepsy/anti-convulsant meds) giving higher risk of spina bifida etc. But then feel stupid for worrying about that when voice in my head says it's probably already dead! Aghh, sorry for the negativity! And I know 2 mmcs is nothing compared to some of you brave ladies. Just can't help feeling like that and keep getting tearful even though no solid reason to be. But DH says bad idea to get a Doppler? Waiting on Harmony any day now anyway.

Little, fingers crossed for you on Tues.

14+0 ?

Welcome Toucan!
is there any way to get a scan halfway? will you get another scan with your harmoney results?

i personally am not a fan of dopplers (too much padding) but I know people who swear by them...

15+2

Just catching up

little im sorry youve had such awful treatment.

tiny ive felt flutters since about 15wks so it is possible.

Hello toucan can you afford a private scan? I love my doppler but I would recommend asking your midwife to show you the difference between your own heartbeat and the babys.

18+1

toucan Welcome glad you have found us I remember how overjoyed I was to find this thread.

It is understandable your anxious, I too take no resurance from scans.
With your medical history its not as straight forward but the general rule is if a heartbeat is found after 9 weeks there is only a 1% chance of loss.

I'm feeling a bit better today, a long day of bed rest.

14+2

Good you are feeling better Little

Embrace the bed! ask your DH for extra pillows, stock up on books and magazines and relax! (easier said than done, i know...)

Tiny oh don't you worry I'm organised already for the last 6 months I've been collecting books, knitting patterns, TV series for this time.

I also planned to work through some A-Levels just for fun. I must have forgot how sluggish my brain gets in pregnancy.

I'm 13 weeks today and starting to show really obviously. Is anyone else sucking their gut in all the time to make it a little less obvious? DH doesn't want to tell anyone about the pregnancy which is tricky for me as I'm the one sporting an enormogut that I'm having to try and hide.

Stuntman I'm 13+1 and showing. We have started telling people now as we got the all clear from Harmony.

Welcome Toucan. You are definitely in the right place.

Carebear best of luck with tomorrow.

Tiny have you had your gestational diabetes test yet? I'm having mine next Thursday and I think I do have GD :(

Right, I'm going to tell my line manager at work about my pregnancy. I have no annual leave left and would hate to take time off for appointment as unpaid leave. Wish me luck please.

I am having mine on the 28th at 16 weeks-ish

GOOD LUCK! I told HR officially today!

OK, I'm having mine on the 30th October. I will be 14+4.

Thanks for the good luck wishes :) I feel awkward setting up a meeting and blurting out that 17 weeks into my job that I'm 13 weeks pregnant! She is NOT going to be happy!

I strongly suspect DH is just too scared to tell his parents. It's a shame when it should be a happy event and I can't tell any friends.

Stuntman - Why is he scared to tell his parents?

I don't know, his family are all secretive like that. He wouldn't tell his parents when we got engaged either, he wanted to wait. My SIL didn't tell their parents she was pregnant till about five months. Personally I think his parents must discourage them from being open about things. It's really annoying at the moment because my MIL is around all the time so I keep having to find big jumpers to hide my bump. It's one thing him not wanting to tell them but I'm the one having to actively lie about it.

stuntman my DH family is very similar I come from a really open family so I find it so frustrating. Perfectly normal life events have to be shrouded in secrecy then casually dropped in and everyone pretends we all knew all along. Weird.

I've just realised I got my days wrong its Wednesday my appointment is, so glad I checked amd didn't just turn up!

My DH won't tell his family until the 8th November, but that is because they live far away and we are going to be viting the SIL and he wants to tell it in person (since we are going there anyway)
I will be 18 w

Confession my house looks like a bomb has hit it.

ah who cares Little

BTW, if you have a few months of bed rest and you are good at knitting we all here want a hat for our little ones

Lol tiny best get started then...

Stuntman I am a bit like your DH but only because I wanted to be sure all is well with Bunny.

Little I also want a pink hat for Bunny (name of our beanie!) :)
My house is also a tip but this is because I couldn't have bed rest as I've started a new job - I've been resting in the evening. I hate the state of the house but keep thinking I need to make sure that Bunny is OK. I've been doing the bare minimum at home. I can't even cook properly as I lack energy :(

BTW, I've decided against getting a Doppler but am looking forward to feeling the movement of the baby - hope it happens soon.

13+1

Welcome toucan :)

stuntman I'm 14+0 and look definitely pregnant. I'm relying on people not daring to ask in case they're wrong(!) as I really don't want to go public until after my 16 week scan which is nearly 3 weeks away.

Bunny is cute. We refer to this one as newbie

London I'm the same with food. I usually love to cook but I'm so unmotivated now. Its the dishwasher I hate loading and unloading it gives me the Boak when with Bairn.
More than happy to knits hats....mind you MIL has been waiting for 6 months for a pair of socks!