April 2015 thread 2 for miscarriage survivors. today we are pregnant!

[TinyTear]

Thread 2
Nearly at the 12w mark for all and we can start some stats!

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Bets.

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LIttle with past history they would be bastards if they begrudged your happiness!

little I hate this idea of stealing peoples thunder, if you are both pregnant its happy news and if they cant see that then they are idiots.

oh and try not to vomit over dinner I say this as someone who threw up in tesco its not fun

Thank you both, they will probably be fine but some people can be a bit precious with their first and we've never even meet his wife so I have no idea how she would take it. Poor woman might not even be pregnant!

smiling oh don't worry I'm quite brazen after having hypermisser with my first (and being in denial...) we ate out at least 3 times a weeks at that point so I've vomited in every bathroom and doorway of every restaurant we frequent. half the time before DH had even paid the bill.

Hi everyone.

We've had our nifty results back today and we're high risk for downs. Organising a cvs but I know this is the beginning of the end. Consultant has mentioned us getting genetic testing as I'm too young for this to have happened twice just randomly.

I know we are going to have another termination because the reasons from last time are still the same and we just wouldn't cope but my heart is completely broken. I think this might be the end of the road for ttc for us, I can't keep ending pregnancies I so desperately want.

I really really wish all of your the best of luck and hope everything works out for all of you xxx

Oh no care, so so sorry for you... I had a friend with a 1 in 5 risk that was all fine after the amnio, but nifty is quite reliable like harmony isn't it?

Do accept the genetic testing and give it one more go! you are in my thoughts

Nifty is 99. Something % I think. Not much hope. Consultant sounded pretty positive that the baby had Down's syndrome. My poor little baby. It's so conflicting and confusing.

oh carebear such awful news, I'm so sorry.

oh carebear, I'm so sorry. For what its worth I'd have the testing, get some answers, and posibky a solution.

Look after yourself xx

carebear I am so sorry. I know you don't want false hope but I hope the CVS does give some more promise or at least the genetic testing helps. (One of my friend's dd has CF (cystic fibrosis) and for the 2nd child she did IVF and they tested the embryos for CF and implanted a non-CF embryo and he is is just fine so they can do good stuff on the NHS to help you get that baby you deserve.) Sending you a huge hug and wishing you didn't have to go through this again.

smiling hope you are feeling better. You are completely right to want to avoid a cold when pg as they are horrible when pg. After a cold at 6 weeks pg my dh was banished to a spare room when he got any illness. I also sent an employee home when sniffling at her desk and told her if she felt that well she could work from home!

I'm so sorry Carebear. This is truly heart-breaking

Smiling Shame about your MIL changing for the worse. I hope that the next 4-6 weeks speeds by for you.

hi to everyone else

Oh carebear im so so sorry x

Ive just had a chat with DP we have agreed that we will see how things go once we are all seperate if things dont improve we will then look at moving, I dont want my baby or my dsc thinking its ok to communicate by being passive aggressive or being rude to people, the atmosphere in the house is awful.

ive spent the last few months trying to make peace, ive had enough and cant even bring myself to be pleasant so im just staying out of the way, what really annoyed me was that she cancelled lunch with friends yesterday because she didnt want to give them her cold, you know the people who can take medication and who are retired so can just rest if need be, but its ok for me to get it even though I cant take meds and still have horses to look after and if I still have it next week will have to work through it

I ended up taking paracetamol this morning because my headache came back which im not happy doing

So sorry carebear what a heart breaking situation. ((Hugs))

london did you not have a scan today or did I make that up?!

I'm on holiday in the back of beyond at the moment with very patchy reception so apologies for my patchy posting.

CareBear I'm so so sorry.
When is your CVS? Sending you strength to get through it. The genetic testing sounds like a positive step. It might not be the end of the road with ttc, you can maybe take a year or two off and see how you feel.

Shetland yes I did have my scan yesterday - thanks for remembering :) Scan went well & baby cooperated with the sonographer. I didn't get the risk for Down syndrome because I needed to have a blood test for the combined test. Results for this will take 2 days.

I think that Thursday will be a big day for me- this is when I get the results for the NHS screening and my harmony results. I'm beyond terrified!

I hope that you'll have a lovely holiday.

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Glad your scan went well london, ill keep everything crossed for you that Thursday goes just as well x

Glad you had a good scan London

Good luck tomorrow for the Harmony and all...

Good news London.

carebear how are you doing today?

I think dd is getting a cold. Been dreading this as she is the one person I cannot avoid when ill. Also, whilst she is normally a daddies girl, when she is ill she only wants me and wants to be attached to me.

carebear your in my thoughts.

smiling sensible approach glad your DH is on side. I would point out to her that having such plans in place (avoiding contact when ill) also protects her once the baby is a toddler they pick up everything. Especially if she's an older lady.

London I'm glad your scan went well.

LIG oh no poor DD. I would try gently persuade her that daddy needs cuddles instead.
I've been rather sniffly on and off this whole pregnancy but its never developed beyond sniffles. I usually have a super robust immune system.
But its reminded to take my Vit C everyday. There is some suggestion that it may strengthen the sac.

Next week I'm going to order my DHA and Vit D too.

Hi everyone.

We found out today our baby is a little boy. I knew he was. We're thinking of a name for him. We have the cvs tomorrow just to confirm things. But nifty is 99% so I'm not hoping for any other outcome.

LIG DD also has a cold, it's that time of year where they seem to be ill every month, grim.

London, hooray for a good scan. With the nifty test we got the results much early than expected. Have you heard anything from the harmony test yet?

And thank you for all your kind words.

Good news london :)

Care you will be in my thoughts tomorrow.

If you find the strength do not give up and take the genetic testing...

Cold central for my DD here as well... cough cough cough cough... ahrgh!

carebear a lovely little boy. I know what its like when you get numbers like 99% certain its so dreadfully unfair especially a second time.

carebear- I hope tomorrow goes well too. I can only imagine how difficult it must be for you both. Lovely that he will get a name and be recognised.