OVER HERE!!! Due April 2015

[cinnamongreyhound]

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lindalove dare I ask where you live? Just City wise or even broader if you like. I just feel like I know you, or you sound like a Linda I know

Linda we're in the process of buying a flat at the moment, so I fear if it goes through there's going to be a fair bit of redecorating to be done! Thankfully the flat is in pretty good condition, but we'll still want to repaint and make it our own. Am dreading it a bit but sure it'll be fun once we get down to it!

I've just checked your age and it would match! We might know each other lol! How weird would that be

We are moving ds2 in with ds1 so will need bunk beds for them and ds2's room is quite male so if we are having a girl it will be the pinkest room you've ever seen . Apparently I was a proper Tom boy and my mum stopped trying to control what I wore before I was 2 so I will be making the most of pink, frilly and lacy while she can't escape if I have a girl. I'm totally not a girly girl and other then when I run as there's very little choice other than pink I never wear pink. I have one dress that I've worn once and a couple of skirts that only come out if it's really hot but I like the idea of a girly girl baby and the shoes I will buy and hide from dh, they'll be sandles, trainers, pumps, boots and all sparkly (once she can walk of course)

Linda we moved last year and have been waiting until now to save up for a new kitchen. The current monstrosity kitchen was the original when the house was built early 70s

I'm with you on not decorating the nursery until they're actually going in there, but I have been looking at ideas

cinnamon I was adamant everything would be as gender neutral as possible but it's really difficult-everything in the shops is either pink, blue, or white/cream which apparently is the colour of death in Africa, useless fact for pub quiz. But some of the girls clothes are just so cute- was debating a pink frilly sleep suit the other day, and thought if I get it and have a boy, he can wear it at home-no harm no foul, right?

I think because everything in my house is soooo male it would be nice to have some feminine too. From personal experience, neutral doesn't last long as you get p'd off if people say 'oh isn't she lovely' when you have a boy and vice versa. Go for the pink frilly Riverrocks who will know

We are looking at having an extension built as there is currently no bedroom for the baby! So yes quite a fair bit of decorating.. I had someone round today for a brief chat / quote and he was saying February / March would be a good time to do it (we have no plans etc yet) and it would take about 12 weeks, a brief calculation told me we needed to start earlier than that!

I've told a few friends, one even knew before DH, but waiting for test results and 12 week scan before telling the DDs and then letting it be general knowledge.
I really cant wait to tell the DDs
My mum doesn't know either yet, but I'm going to stay with her when I'm 13 weeks so hoping to tell her then in person so it definitely needs to stay off Facebook til then. Not planning a big announcement though, I think with it being my third it won't really be a big deal to lots of people.

Linda we did the nursery decorating for dd before she was born - in fact the carpet went in the day before she arrived!!! But we got the furniture a bit later. Still, beware, our dd moved out of our room at 5.5 months because she outgrew her crib. Friends using Moses baskets had to switch to an alternative by about 3 months due to lack of room too - so lots of babies move into their cots earlier than the guidelines (as much as you want to follow them) simply because you run out of space!!!

Just hoping I can sleep without coughing, I've had nothing but broken sleep and I feel horrid. Just caved in and had some paracetamol to try to help with the night. My throat is so sore and all my neck muscles and body ache!!!

Ugh...

Still, 11+1

Sairie my real names not Linda :) so I imagine it's a co- incidence! I live in Stoke Newington, London.

I think it is possible to do a gender neutral decor in a nursery with some pops of colour for their gender - some nice hot pink might be good for a girl. I'm staying away from pastels as prefer strong colours though. I love autumnal shades like orange, brown, green and plum. I love the scandi baby clothes ranges as they look so 70s.

I'm knitting a cream cardy at the moment and will 'gender' it with buttons once done, more for others than for baby, as might end up with a tractor driving farmer girl or a ballet dancer son, either of which would be cool! I used to be a civil engineer so ladies like to build stuff too - I loved Lego! And shaved off my Sindy dolls hair so she was a skinhead. I loved fluffy toys though

Good morning lovelies, lying in bed reading through posts.

Nearly double digits, will be ten weeks on Tuesday then just two weeks till first scan, I cannot wait :) anyone know whether you are allowed to film it? My DH is not here so would be nice for him to see when he gets back.

Told my dad yesterday, seemed quite shocked! And said "it's a lot of responsibility" CHEERS DAD !!

Haha! My granny asked 'do you want it?' So clearly my ( lack of) maternal reputation goes before me!
My niece cried as thought it meant she had to give up her older cousin - 4 year old logic !! ??

Linda - we moved into our house in December, so we've been redecorating for the last mumble months anyway - the next things on the list are the spare room and the room currently full of boxes, which will become a nursery - I'm hoping to have those both done for the due date, so parents/-in-law can stay over easily and we don't have to faff with decorators and a new baby. The house was last decorated in the ?late 80s/early 90s, so it's due a bit of a freshener!

We're planning to have the baby start out in a bedside cot in our room, but it'll be nice for there to be a room for 'baby stuff' proper.

River, I want to go as neutral as possible as well - I'm thinking yellow and cream is the way to go. But I'm not going anywhere near buying baby clothes yet, that just seems too soon.

Also, I actually have no interest in knowing the sex until the baby arrives, if I'm honest - so long as it's healthy, then I'm happy. We'll find out what the sonographer thinks at 20 weeks, because it's weird for them to know and us not, but atm we're not planning to tell another people.

11w+1

Hey everyone. Happy Sunday! Lovely reading everyones posts as we move through the weeks!

On the subject of nursery colours I think I will be quite gender neutral too but like Lindalove I like the idea of dashes of strong colours!! All seems very far away at the moment!

Still finding it very weird now my symptoms have gone. Thats almost 2 weeks now and its really odd. No one else really knows im pregnant yet, and because I have no symptoms im beginning to think im making it all up. When I felt unwell for the first 8 weeks it felt more believable! But I havent had any spotting so hope thats a good sign and everything is still progressing ok. One week til scan so hoping it goes so fast and I can be reassured. Was tempted to book a private scan but im so close to 12 weeks scan now I will just try and ride it out......

Hope everyone is having a nice weekend!

Not sure I could know and keep it a secret! I would like to because I know I get lots of disappointed 'oh another boy' or 'I bet you're so pleased to be having a girl' comments.

We'll be needing a new thread soon so we don't get lost again :)

12+4

Hi Folks, sorry to hear people are still feeling retched with cold and nausea.

Apologies for the mega-long post, but I got a bit shaken-up last night that I wanted to share my experience to see if anyone has had anything similar...?

I'd just been starting to relax after the 12 week scan last Weds, and got up yesterday evening to try and catch up on some work, after being laid low with a cold for a couple of days.

As I was sitting at my computer I started to feel exactly as if I was about to start my period. This feeling got worse until I was forced to retreat... first to the toilet because to be honest, I was convinced my innards were going to drop out.. then to bed clutching a hot water bottle and a dose of paracetamol, and unable to focus on anything much apart from the discomfort and, frankly, fear. And I rock a heavy period usually, so I'm no stranger to period-pain, and typically pretty stoic.
But this was that doubled.

Anyway, I'm relieved to say it subsided after a couple of hours, and there has been no bleeding involved thus far. I'm still concerned though because, although I've read about growing pains, I'd not had any previously. This just seemed to come out of nowhere, and the whole experience was mighty uncomfortable and exhausting.
I'm hoping like hell I've just got a very 'all-or-nothing' uterus!!

We were looking forward to doing the big reveal to my folks over the next few days, but now I'm scared to because I'm worried something has happened to The Peanut :0(

Any thoughts anyone? Or am I going to have to be a bit neurotic and ring my midwife on a Sunday! ?

On a lighter note.. LOL lindalove on your gran thinking you were getting a new cat - really made me chuckle.

And finally buckled and bought first preggers book 'Expecting Better' yesterday morning after seeing it recommended on Mumsnet - seems very good so far. Really cuts thru some of the guff peddled to pregnant women about what they can and can't do.
(Tho now of course I'm wondering if I'm still 'properly' pregnant :( )

I'd get yourself checked out. I was told to contact delivery suit not the mws as the mw is just an answer phone and best to ring delivery suit. If there is an EPU near you you could ring them. Any pain other than mild needs checking. That's what I was told anyway. It's probably fine but best to know one way or the other. Save yourself some unneeded worry.

Hi nunkie, I have no medical knowledge obviously, so this is just my opinion, but there has been no bleeding or anything leaving your body, so no reason to think anything has happened to the baby. If something had happened to the baby then that wouldn't translate to a pain for you, so it must be some sort of stretching I would guess, or I get really bad pains when I need a poo or even desperate for a wee sometimes, eg when I wake up in the morning, or trapped wind. This is definitely not something that I would get when not pregnant, so things must be a lot more sensitive with the lack of space I suppose.

nunkie if you are worried just ask; no harm at all and it can reassure you. How scary for you! Glad it has settled, I would agree that no bleeding is very reassuring.

My daughter's room has a grey carpet, 2 cream walls and 2 walls with red, yellow, green and blue birds on (see pic - it's a wallpaper). We didn't find out the sex and so went for something gender neutral. She LOVES the birds. She has matching curtains too. "Birds" is one of her first words, in the mornings she points and tells me they are birds, then tweets!!! Even when tiny she would look and always smile at them when we were changing her nappy - nice bright colours. We thought about underwater scenes, or farmyard paper/murals, but I fell in love with this paper and my daughter loves it too. We accessorise the room with red, yellow and blue.

11+2!

I think I'd ask the question Nunkie, it sounds quite extreme pain. I've had cramps earlier on that we're at least equal to period pains. Could it be your bowels? With all three pregnancies I have been quite constipated and it does could some horrible stabbing pains.

I would get checked out as a matter of urgency Nunkie. With my fourth pregnancy I went to A&E one evening because I was having pain. I told them I was worried it was an ectopic pregnancy and they sent me straight up to obs and gynae for a scan. It was a bit embarrassing actually as they got a porter to take me in a wheelchair! Yes I was in pain but I'm pretty sure I could have walked it myself.

nunkie have you had your booking in appt yet? If so you should have MW contact number, I'd give her a call or the antenatal unit at your hospital, I would expect it is nothing, but worth checking to put your mind at rest.

daholster I love that paper! We have just painted what will be the nursery a sort of cream/very pale yellow colour but beyond that no idea what to add. We won't find out the gender so needs to be neutral, but I want some colour in there too. Pinterest is my new friend!

Hi all

nunkie I'd go to the EPU tomorrow am if I were you - it's probably nothing but no harm in getting checked out. Have you got one near you and do they accept walk ins (mine does but I think some want a GP or midwife referral - so if that's the case then might be worth ringing the midwife). Have you had any early scans that show it's definitely not ectopic?

Nursery decoration - well the nursery for this baby is done as it's DD's current room - cream walls, everything else a kind of circus theme - a bright stripy blind, Scandinavian animal posters and various brightly coloured bits and bobs around. I like it because it's gender neutral but not pastel iyswim.

However when dd2 turns up, dd1 will need to move rooms so we do have to decorate dd1's new room - I'd like something a little girlier this time, not pink walls but maybe a pale green. And some curtains with green and pink in them so any pink bits will fit in (I gather all little girls go through a pink phase these days, the effect of Disney etc, so may as well ensure the decor won't clash...).

oh and we are redoing a bathroom too! eek.

Thanks for the suggestions, guys. Wasn't bowel-ishoos or trapped wind tho (I'm well acquainted with both :0D). It was definitely like persistent, dull, period ache, but worse in terms of intensity, and that 'heavy' feeling (no stabbing pains, or pain moving about). I did half wonder if I'd aggravated it by all the violent sneezing I've been doing lately!

In the end, I rang the 'WORRIED??' number in my notes (which I assume was the hospital) and got thru to a very nice lady who didn't seem overly concerned when she heard that it had subsided and there was no blood - just told me I did right to rest up with some paracetamol, and to do the same if it happened again, then maybe contact my GP, or the early pregnancy unit.
She did mention that (in her personal experience) women that get heavier periods do tend to feel growing pains more severely also, and didn't seem surprised by the sudden onset, which was comforting.

On well, that definitely helped (tho I expect I'll probably cave and buy a Doppler at some point, now :0D)

Lovely wallpaper, daholster! We don't want to know the gender, and - like lindalove - I am not a fan of pastel colours. So I think it has to be some strident greens, yellows and indigos for us ;0D Or, rather, just some nice splashes of bright colours on a neutral background.

PS: minipie had my 12 week scan last Wednesday, so it's definitely not ectopic.... unless that hand I posted was located somewhere in my Fallopian tubes!