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October 14. Thread 12. Still no babies? Let the raspberry leaf tea drinking commence

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YellowWellies · 29/08/2014 12:45

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Missus2ndwife · 07/09/2014 22:03

Dearest Vicky, my thoughts are with you during this painful time and I am truly sorry for your loss xx

FlipFantasia · 07/09/2014 22:10

Vicky, I am so sorry to hear of Edith's death. I love the name Edith and I bet she looked beautiful. I cannot even imagine the pain you must be in. I hope you have lots of RL support (I too have heard great things about t Sands). Huge hugs to you and your DP and your son. It must be so hard explaining where his sister has done Hmm.

The reason I stopped posting/started lurking was that one of my best friends went through this when I was 29 weeks. Her gorgeous girl Isobel was born sleeping at 41 weeks. I flew out to Colorado for her memorial a week after her birth. Unbelievably hard for them and a stark reminder to me that all I want is a healthy baby (and I appreciate my two older DC all the more). I am heartbroken that one of our little October babies came and went in the same way...

hefner · 07/09/2014 22:20

Vicky I'm so sorry to hear that Edith was born sleeping. Such heartbreaking news, I will be thinking of you. Take care of yourself.

mrsb87 · 07/09/2014 22:21

Vicky I'm so sorry to hear your sad news. I can't Imagine the pain you must be going through. I hope you're getting lots of support from SANDS and your family.

Sorry if tmi but I went to the loo earlier, wiped as normal and there was a hell of a lot of mucus stuff. I had to wipe twice. Hoping this might be my mucus plug going. Fingers crossed! Suddenly have that horrid feeling that nothing is ready! Proceeded to have a lovely relaxing bath and it's done me the world of good. Hip ache and back ache has all gone, feeling proper chilled now Smile

BadgerInBury · 07/09/2014 22:27

Vicky This is such sad news. Thank you for thinking of us all and for trying to help us keep our babies safe even while you mourn your little girl. I hope you and your family are able to draw strength from each other in the days and weeks to come.

Bumpforme2014 · 07/09/2014 23:28

RIP beautiful Edith, heaven got another angel that was too good for this world. I wish you all the strength and support possible Vicky, lately I've been stressing about silly things like routine and getting everything ready, may this be a reminder to us all, nothing is more precious than a healthy baby.

binkybunny · 07/09/2014 23:43

Oh gosh Vicki, I'm so sorry to hear your awful news, I hope you have lots of support in RL Thanks Sad

MundayCakes85 · 07/09/2014 23:46

Vicky so sorry to hear about your little princess, I hope you and your family get all the support you need.

porcito · 08/09/2014 00:51

Vicky, so sorry to read about Edith. I'm sure there's nothing to say at all that can start to make you feel better, but you'll all be in my thoughts and I hope you get as much support and love as you need in real life.

bumpbangbump · 08/09/2014 03:49

Oh Vicky, I'm so so sorry to hear about baby Edith. I hope you and your family have plenty of support to get through this aweful time.

kittyvet · 08/09/2014 06:23

Deepest sympathy to you and your family vicky for the loss of little Edith

Lulu298 · 08/09/2014 07:11

So so sorry vicky to hear about baby Edith. Hope you and your family get lots of support and tlc and will definitely be taking your advice about getting checked out if anything seems different or wrong. Xx

MrsDinoRawr · 08/09/2014 07:30

What devastating news vicky. There are no words that I can say to make it better but I hope that you grow stronger as a family through this. Baby Edith will always be part of that family too x

sazzlehopes · 08/09/2014 08:05

Vicky to echo everyone else on here I'm so sorry to hear about Edith. I can't imagine what you are going through. My thoughts are with you and your whole family xxx

clairemiss79 · 08/09/2014 08:19

So sorry to hear your news. I cannot imagine what you must be going through.

Just to echo vickys comment about getting checked out at hospital at the slightest niggle. I was 41 weeks with my 2nd dd and was on a monitor at the hosp thinking all was well and was going to be induced within 12hrs. It was at that moment my DDs heart stopped beating and the hosp staff had me run to the operating theatre for a ceasarean. She was out within 5 mins and her heart started beating the second she was born. I count my blessings every day.
I don't want to alarm anyone, i just want to reinforce the point that by presenting yourself at labour ward for monitoring at the slightest niggle or doubt does not make you a nuisance or paranoid. Since Dd i go up every day for the last 2 weeks of my subsequent pregs

Missus2ndwife · 08/09/2014 09:15

I can't stop thinking about Vicky and poor baby Edith. I am heart broken for them and there are no words I can say to make it better for Vicky.

How do you know when something is wrong? My consultant said if you feel no movement - but I can go hours without feeling anything or like yesterday, hardly anything because I think he was tired from the day before. Today I have only felt a few niggles ... I don't want to be over anxious but

JellyBeansHaveNoAgeLimit · 08/09/2014 09:16

Vicky i am so so sorry for your loss Sad. Thank you so much for thinking of us at such a sad time for yourself. I hope you are getting all the support you need Thanks

Loulou888 · 08/09/2014 09:18

vicky I'm so sorry to hear your news it's so devastating we really think we are in the home straight. I can't imagine what you are going through. Sending you lots of love xx

SweetPeaPods · 08/09/2014 09:26

Missus I know exactly what you mean. Bump goes through many hrs with no movement but hosp said to have a hot drink, and/or cold drink, something sweet etc and if still no movement then go in.
Some people notice a pattern in active times etc so also if it's different from that.

pinkfizzsparkles · 08/09/2014 09:31

vicky I am so saddened to hear of your loss. There are no words I can say to scratch the surface of how devasted you must be. Please take care of yourself xx

Loulou888 · 08/09/2014 09:34

pregnant I got a sling this time because my other two had really bad colic hoping it will help comfort them and it may help be easier when I'm taking the kids here there and every where for things rather than PC. But then I didn't want to spend a fortune incase like dd they are a hot baby and hate to be in it. It was only £20 when you think of the money you spend setting up it's not that bad.

clops2000 · 08/09/2014 09:42

Vicky, I just want to echo all that everyone else has said, I cannot imagine what you are going through and your kindness to think of us all at this time is very much appreciated. So sorry for your loss x

binkybunny · 08/09/2014 09:43

missus I'm exactly the same, some days she's constantly wriggling other days she's really quiet and I get worried. I was also told an ice cold water, a ice Lolly or fizzy drink should get some movement or I find a bit of her sticking up and tickle.

it's my first full week of mat leave and if I thought last week felt strange this week feels weirder still. At the moment I can tell myself I'm on holiday, but when I think more long term, eg the next few weeks I get a bit panicky! I have plenty to do at home to not get bored but so far I've not managed to organise coffee or lunch with any of the other sahm's I'm friends with so hoping I'm not going to get too lonely!

clops2000 · 08/09/2014 09:50

Hadn't checked messages this weekend (I have a crappy phone with no net!) and you guys sure make progress in a few days!

My sister's giving us a stretchy wrap sling for the early days and then i'm planning to go to a sling library to find out which one I prefer for the longer term investment. We've also bought our cloth nappies now, and with our hypnobirthing too I guess we'd be seen as on the hippy end of the parenting scale! We're in no way hippies though and I like what everyone's been saying about parenting styles/ just going with the flow. Co-sleeping scares the out of me, as we both move a lot in night and have quite vivid dreams so we've said no co-sleeping at all from the start. I'm also scared of falling asleep when bf'ing so need some box sets lined up to keep me awake.

Carpal tunnel is just getting worse every day now, its no longer just at night (fingers falling asleep and throbbing as i type now), but at night its at its worst and i'm awake every hour or two trying to wake them back up or find a different position. They burn with pain at times its horrible. Midwife's referring me to physio now but it seems pretty late in the day...anyone else had CT and found ways that help?

Plasterers in today so we'll hopefully have a room ready for homebirth in a week or so!

mrsb87 · 08/09/2014 10:01

I know what you mean binky, the idea of not going back to work in a weeks time or whatever is very strange. We have a Facebook page where we have all our communication between staff and if feels strange seeing plans for meetings etc going up and not being involved!
All my cooking is done and frozen, now the bathroom is all plumbed in I can start getting all the junk out of the nursery and start organising things in there!