Had a miscarriage and due in April 2015? shall we try not to scare the other ones?

[TinyTear]

Hello

Having had 5 mcs and 1 DD I am not feeling very hopeful (juest realistic) even though I am doing different things than before...

4w today and on cyclogest pessaries since CD21...

Maybe we could have a separate thread to the biiiig one so we don't scare the others with our (my) negativity...

Welcome

TinyTear, 40, 1 DD, 5mcs, due in April but don't want to know the exact day...

All in the right place and some googling of the measurements puts me in the correct dates...

Waiting to see a doctor to be prescribed the heparin, otherwise have to go to my GP

Will probably get another scan next week too...

That's good tinytear :)

Good luck teacher

I dreamt I mc'd last night - it's not done much for anxiety even though I know it's just because its on my mind so much.

4 boxes of cyclogest and 4 weeks' worth of Clexane in my grubby little mitts
Just gave myself the first injection (ouch)

Next scan 3rd September in 2 weeks...

Tiny, that's great news!
Oneday, I know exactly what you mean. I saw a heartbeat just about this time last year, during an emergency scan and then had my first miscarriage the following day. So, even thought I know it should be ok, it's very hard to believe it!

Great news tiny Glad all is on track and going very well for you.

fizzy I was thinking about this at lunch time today and found this on the miscarriage association wesbite "Research has shown that if you see a heartbeat at 6 weeks of pregnancy, the chances of the pregnancy continuing are 78%. A heartbeat at 8 weeks increases the chance of a continuing pregnancy to 98% and at 10 weeks that goes up to 99.4%."

I think we just have to keep positive and think that even though last time we were in that small %, that's not to say that'll be the case next time. Even with multiple mc's, there's always a good chance you won't fall in to that small % where it's bad news.

I've booked myself in for a private scan today, for a few weeks time when I'll be 8+1. Bean didn't make it that far last time so at least I'll know if I've got further than before.

Great news tiny

I've just booked a 'reassurance' scan for 7+5. Seems like AGES away... However we are back from Ireland now and I did POAS this morning and it was definitely a darker line than Friday's test. So today I am pregnant. I read the same stats as you oneday about heartbeats.

fizzy I was so worried about my scan. Today I have woken up and have had a positive day, the risk of mc now is really low, the odds are in my favour so heres hoping!!

tiny So glad you had a poitive resut, did you see a heartbeat?

Its so hard to trust that everythings going to be ok isn't it? I am still worried this won't make it to an actual baby. We just have to try and take it one day at a time, I am trying to make myself realise that its all already decided, its genetic this pregnancy will work or not and theres not a lot I can do about it. ( Sometimes I believe it!!)

Supposed to be having ham, egg and wedges for dinner but the thought of an egg is sitting to well with me at the mo.....

Loving the stats! Thank you.
You're all right, just have to try and think positive.
Have made myself keep busy today, and that's helped me to be more positive. I'm on holiday from school at the moment, and I think that's made it worse; little else to think about!

No heartbeat yet, it is too early...

Teacher I hope you are ok and the scan went well.

Great news tiny . That must be a bit of a relief for now anyway

Oneday - I had lots of people wonder if I was happy about being pg because I was so nonchalant for ages. I upset a girl at work who miscarried at the time by being so unbothered about being pg when she was desperate for a baby. I had to explain I was the way I was because I never thought it would actually happen. I am trying to be greatful I finally got pg again but it is a stressful time for us all.

Cannot believe I have only known I was pregnant for 2 weeks it seems like such a long road ahead. It feels like an eternity. I wish I could have accidentally found out I was 12 weeks. That would make life so much easier!!

I had a friend that found out at 14 weeks - I would love that

Congratulations for the positive scan Tiny

It's funny you should all says about wishing you could find out at 12+ weeks. I watched a programme called 'I didn't know I was pregnant' yesterday, and was thinking, if only!

So our scan went really well, thanks for all the well wishes. Saw a tiny little smudge with a hb. Measuring 11mm. Scanographer said that having seen the hb at 7 weeks it drops the risk m/c to 4%. Feel better, but still aware of the risks, so though trying to enjoy getting to this point after a long journey to get here, I'm still not ready to let my guard down just yet.

Hope everyone is feeling well today

Can I join please?

I am blessed with a perfect DS who is 16 months old, but prior to him had 2 Missed MC. I had my BFP last week and think I am due around 22nd April.

I am obsessed with symptom spotting, and am worried that the sore boobs I had last week seem to have gone. I am really hoping for morning sickness (I know, what a loon!) as had that with DS but not with my first two pregnancies.

I have said to myself, and DH agrees that if I get sickness we will hold out until the 12 week scan, and try and be like normal people but if I'm still symptomless by 8 weeks we will go to the EPU for an early scan. We went for an early scan too early with our second and had to go back the following week to check the heartbeat really wasn't there. I can't have another week like that one. Luckily they accept "maternal anxiety" as a reason to scan at our EPU!

I am terrified of the 12 week scan as that's when we found out we had lost our first baby and it was devastating.

Morning all :)

Welcome london - I too am terrified of the 12 week scan, I found out about both my losses then. I definitely won't be able to hold out until then to have a scan though, which is a bit daft really.

Teacher glad the scan went well.

Welcome London - I am another one that is terrified of scans. Even my 20 week scan with dd I still somehow built myself up that dd would have died despite Dopplering her before the scan. With my first scan with dd, dh saw a heartbeat and squeezed my hand and I thought it was all over as I couldn't see the heartbeat. (Now I am sitting at work just crying about the memories.) I know with dd I had really sore boobs around the time of a bfp and then that went within a week or so. I am also hanging onto the symptoms I had with a good pregnancy as my mmc was symptom free and I was just told I must be one of the lucky ones!

I have been feeling incredibly nauseous the last few days which is great although work has been suffering. That said if I wasn't feeling nauseous work would also suffer as I panic when the nausea goes. Also been eating for England to help the nausea so I hope that it does work out otherwise I will just be left with a fat belly!

I'm tying myself up in knots after doing a CB digi this morning. It gave 1-2 weeks when I should be getting 2-3 weeks. I know they aren't that accurate but then I convince myself that I don't feel pregnant enough. I know there's nothing I can do either way but it's the waiting isn't it? I haven't told my DH yet (only got my BFP yesterday) because the MMC was particularly hard on him and I don't want to bring back all those guilty feelings. I'm only 4+3 so it's going to be a long wait for the 12-week scan. Fingers and toes crossed for a sticky bean.

Hello stuntman. It could be many things that early - you could be out by your dates and not as far along as you thought you were (I temp and use opks and have still managed to be out on my dates). It could also be that your urine was weaker sending you just under the 2-3. It could also be that you are at the lower levels of normal hcg and so the cb digital measures lower. (The ranges of normal are huge.) Finally, it could be a chemical and it will go negative and you will start to bleed - FWIW when I had one it was very quick, pain free and my body recovered immediately. Hopefully it isn't the last option.

Hi all

teacher glad your scan was also ok!

Stunt and that is why I don't use the digis, once I did and was annoyed as after a while it goes blank when the battery runs out... i opened one up and basically it is just two strips and a scanner which reads to give the options... i don't think it is that reliable...

I would test again when you should be 5w and then do tell your DH... if things go wrong you might need support...

and let's think positive

today we are pregnant!

LIG it's a very strange feeling isn't it. After my MMC all I wanted was to be pregnant again, and I kept thinking how happy it would make me. But now I'm here, it's very different and the worry about not being able to conceive again has transferred to worry about things going wrong. It's like I can't win!

fizzy I'm glad the stats helped. I like to see stats/numbers, I think it's just how my brain works to rationalise things.

Lovely to hear your scan went well teacher great news

stunt try not to panic about the digi's. They can be so unreliable

BTW, what does everyone think of only doing a list of stats when we get to the 12 weeks? I would be afraid to jinx it by putting my name on a list before hand... so by mid october-ish it should hopefully be ok...

Oh, and is anyone else still POAS? I'm finding myself doing it every day (sometimes more than once!) It's costing me a small fortune and DH thinks I'm bonkers ...

not me... but i am weird... i did 2 tests and that is it...

I don't think you're weird at all tiny, infact - very sensible in my opinion. Saves the fretting about the lines not getting darker/looking different each time etc. It's driving me potty! I need another hobby - POAS is quite a weird hobby to have anyway right?

yes, and blooming expensive
hope you are at least using internet cheapies