Had a miscarriage and due in April 2015? shall we try not to scare the other ones?

[TinyTear]

Hello

Having had 5 mcs and 1 DD I am not feeling very hopeful (juest realistic) even though I am doing different things than before...

4w today and on cyclogest pessaries since CD21...

Maybe we could have a separate thread to the biiiig one so we don't scare the others with our (my) negativity...

Welcome

TinyTear, 40, 1 DD, 5mcs, due in April but don't want to know the exact day...

oneday POASing is a hobby isn’t it? I have managed to stop now that they are quite dark and 3+ but I have one CB digi left so I will do that one at the weekend to check it is still 3+. I feel a little lost now I can no longer see it getting darker but I still have a big pack of internet cheapies to get through. My dh also thinks I am mad but then again after my panic earlier in the week, I left him a pot to do a test himself and send me the results at work as we ran out of CB digital tests and needed to wait for them to be delivered. I have him very well trained!!

tiny I am all for a list once/if we reach 12 weeks. I stupidly looked at a due date calculator yesterday. Now trying to get that date out of my head!! (Not sure it will work though....)

That sounds like a good plan tiny

I thought it might be a little early Tiny I have read about people seeing heartbeats that early but I thought it was quite rare.

Teacher Great news, we are measuring the same

I stopped testing 2 weeks ago after I had done 9, the reality is I knew I could test positive even if there was nothing there so it was a very short lived spell of reassurance. But if it helps then why should you stop

Happy to not have a stats list till we are all ready, I prefer this thread as theres far less people on it. Everyone seems really lovely over there but I just can't keep up with who everyone is.

I had a frustrating experience with my gp today, went to pick up what i thought would be the last of my cyclogest but she's only given me 2 weeks worth when I actually need 3 weeks or 4 I'm not exactly sure. Will the midwife give me a prescriptioon for the last box or two do you think? I am seeing her next week so will ask her then its just a little annoying.

My nausea has changed, its unnerving, i feel better during the mornings and most of the day it tends to come on from about 2 now and last into the evening. And my boobs are still tender but not AS sore as they were. That and I am struggling to get to sleep at night now, although still waking up 3 times in the night. Anyone else's symptoms changing??

lila I am currently panicking about not having enough symptoms full stop! I have no nausea at all, is this normal for 5 weeks?

It seems like a good sign that you're still nauseous though

My symptoms have changed lila - my dizziness has all but gone, though I have been drinking loads so that's probably why, but still unnerving. Nausea seems a bit less too - which is a lot unnerving, though in all my other pregnancies I had no nausea at all at this stage (5+0) - didn't start til 7 weeks or so.

I didn't have an awful lot going on at 5 weeks either, I don't think it really kicks in till 6 weeks at the earliest but you may well be lucky and not have any. I definitely have moments where I feel absolutely terrible and other times nothing at all. I'm trying to relax and enjoy the feeling OK but can't help but worry....

Managed not to bruise as much with yesterday s clexane... Still hanging here...
Boobs still painful so embracing that...

I feel your pain tiny, I had 2 weeks off double injections everyday, its such an achievement if you don't bruise or it doesn't hurt.

Right, I need some sense talking into me. I have done another test this morning, not done one since Monday. The line is still very, very faint. It doesn't seem to have got any darker since the last test. I know a line is a line but I'm getting myself in a right state about it and am convinced that I'm going to have another mc. How do I stop myself panicking??!!!

Can I come and join you ladies? I'm going to be due on 5th May but had an early miscarriage in January this year and I'm struggling a bit. Only found out that we are pregnant yesterday and my mind is churning! We've been ttc #2 for over a year now so I feel like I should be really excited but I just can't relax and enjoy it. I didn't have any pregnancy symptoms when I miscarried and I was suspicious because my digi reading stayed at 1-2 weeks so I knew my hcg levels weren't rising. I'm already feeling a bit nauseous intermittently which is reassuring but my boobs aren't remotely sore. I'm going to be a little crazy for the next few weeks aren't I?!

Congratulations to you all and I hope we all have sticky beans

Fizzy, I'm going with the CB digitalis to reassure me because the number of weeks you are should increase bases on hcg. I did an internet cheapie yesterday morning and was more than a bit scared that it wasn't a strong line. Did a digi yesterday afternoon though and it's saying 2-3 weeks which is higher than I thought it would read so reassured me quite a bit. Planning to do another in a week and hoping for the 3+ reading. I hope that helps

fizzy stop testing might be the best way forward for you. It's fine if it's being reassuring but in your case you are just giving yourself ammunition to worry.
How far along are you? Any chance of an early scan?

Welcome incacola :)

Thanks ladies. I did a digital last weekend, which came up as pregnant 1-2 weeks, about right I think. I'm just about 5/6 weeks now.
I think you're right about stopping testing. It is making me feel so anxious, I just want to cry this morning.
We've got a private scan booked for the 7th sept., I'll be just under 8 weeks. I hope I can wait that long!

Its so easy to work yourself up isn't fizzy I think shetland is right, stop testing as its not making you feel any better. At this point any symptoms may be very mild. Unless you have cramps or bleeding you should carry on as if you are pregnant. I spent the 3.5 weeks between the positive test and my scan worrying constantly and everything was fine, I am now trying ( and sometimes I succeed!) to be positive, although I think as your symptoms become more obvious it gets a little easier to believe that this might actually be a successful pregnancy....maybe.

I've heard that the digis arent always the most reliable for measuring hcg levels, and that you can have two vastly different readings on the same day. I didn't use a digi at all.

Hello incacola

Hi All,

I haven't been on for a couple of days as have been curled up in bed with ms...I keep trying to remind myself to embrace it, as it's a "good sign" but not always feeling that way. TBH if I had to deal with this for the full 40 weeks to get a baby at the end then I would, but feeling pretty sorry for myself. I'm just thanking my lucky stars that I am off work atm. I'll be 9 week at the start of the new term, so hoping it has calmed down a little by then. I had HG with my DD and lost a stone in weight and ended up unable to keep anything down, hoping it doesn't go down that route again.

Anyways that's enough moaning

I understand how difficult it is to stop POAS, but I agree that if it is just causing you to worry, then probably best to stop. I only say this as after my m/cs I was still testing +ve for a week, and it really isn't a sure way to measure out HCG levels as they can vary from person to person. I know its really hard when you have had a m/c previously, as you just want to find a way to keep checking that all is ok, we all can sympathize with that, but there really is no way do that unfortunately. I still argue that it is an evolutionary fault that we haven't yet developed the ability to change the colour of our feet or something when we are pregnant.

Has everyone informed their GPs now? I haven't yet. I told myself that after the scan on Wed I would, but I've chicken out again!

Hope everyone is plodding along nicely, and I think by 12 weeks I'd be happy to add details to a stats list. After the scan though

Evening all.....hope everyone is having a good weekend. I am tucked up in bed so I can get to sleep before I feel too sick and then can't sleep.

Bristolian - I think morning sickness can hit at very different times and to different levels and it varies between people and pregnancies. 5 weeks is early and there is nothing to say that in 2 weeks time you could be very ill with it or have nothing at all and just be a lucky one. One of my friends got nothing till 8 weeks and then was hospitalised shortly after and off work till 26 weeks.

Teachers - sorry you are feeling crap. I am also feeling crap but sort of enjoying it - although I wouldn't have said that this morning whilst dh had a lie in and I am trying to look after dd with what felt like the worst hangover ever. I haven't told my gp but I have booked a booking in appointment after what I hope is a good scan next week. From seeing the Dr before I cannot see the benefit of seeing one (unless I wanted an early scan) as all she will do is play with her due date thing (which I don't want to remember), tell me to not drink, smoke, eat pate etc. And then say have a booking in appt.

Lila- from my previous sucessful pregnancy I remember symptoms changing and sometimes just disappearing all together some days just to panic me. My nausea went from morning, to all day and then to evening. Mine at the moment is different to last time, it just stops sometime in the early afternoon as if someone switches it off. It is very odd. Frustrating about the docs not giving enough drugs.

Tiny, what is clexane and why do you take it? Hope you are having a good weekend.Â

Hello incacola - welcome to the group.

Fizzy - sorry you are panicking. There is lots of good rational advice from the others already here. I know my rational head wasn't listening last weekend and I think it is normal to panic when we have had bad experiences. I think with my mc the most awful thing was the shock and I like to think that if it goes wrong this time mentally I am in a better prepared state as I am not thinking baby yet but more focusing on whether the ball of cells is still alive. It will be very upsetting but I have not made it into a baby yet.

Anyone doing anything good over the weekend? Dh is working lots so I am on my own with dd. Could really do with some sleep to help with the nausea but doubt it will happen. Out for lunch tomorrow and I have made sure they sell chips!!! If this pregnancy doesn't work out I will have a white/yellow food baby instead to loose. My belly is already looking quite round from my constant eating.

I don't have any nausea this pregnancy which is bugging me because I don't know whether it means something. In my successful pregnancies the nausea started within a week of conception so I knew I was pregnant even before I could do a pregnancy test. When I miscarried the nausea started a bit later but it was still there from early on and stopped suddenly at eight weeks which must have been the end of the pregnancy although I didn't find out until my 12-week scan. But this pregnancy I don't have any symptoms apart from a few abdominal twinges, I don't feel pregnant. I have changed my diet since my DC3 was born and I'm wondering whether eating very low carb is making a difference. It certainly stopped me having any PMT or period pains since going low carb so I'm wondering whether there could have been a beneficial effect on my body's reaction to pregnancy hormones as well. Sorry for the rambly post but I've been going round in circles. I know there's nothing I can do but wait and time will tell.

Stuntman there could be something in the carb diet theory of yours. I normally have a very low carb diet, but have craved carbs massivley. Infact I'd say I'm eating more carbs than anything else, and I am suffering terribly with ms. I don't remember having ms at all with the mcs, and that would co-inside with the low carb diet. Hmm.

Also I think it's good to remember that each pregnancy is different and our bodies react different to hormones different each time. Although of course that won't stop me or any of us obsessing and comparing because of our past experiences

good morning ladies, can I join you please?

my stats are:

34, ttc #1, ttc since November 2013.
BFP 06/01/14 MMC and ERPC 07/03/14
BFP 17/07/14 Chemical Pregnancy
BFP 22/08/14 (3 tests) all positive

and slightly darker today (2 tests so far and heading to tesco at 1pm for a digital)!

so I'm only a little bit pregnant - but its been lovely reading your thread and seeing that anxiety is a common symptom! :-)

if all goes to plan, due 29/04/15 - this will be my nephew's 7th birthday - he's the light of my life - fx that's a good omen

Hello JB!

Thanks lig for the encouragement

Stuntman, I feel exactly the same as you! It's so hard not to read into every little difference isn't it? I am trying (!) to be positive about the relative lack of ms as it is very early days, and hopefully we'll be eating our words in a couple of weeks when we have horrible ms and loads of symptoms!

teachers those are very wise words about each pregnancy being different, and I will try to keep them in mind! Sorry to hear that you are feeling so poorly - if it's any consolation, beige food always makes me feel better too!

Hello all.

Just wanted to share that I'm sp grateful for this thread despite not posting much.

When so many people seem to start decorating the nursery as soon as they get a positive test, it's really comforting to know it's not just me feeling anxious all the time!

Thinking of you all lots.

Can I join in please? I'm 7+5 today and really struggling with the lack of symptoms. Only real things are occasional sore boobs and some tiredness. Had a MMC at 11 weeks last May, it had stopped growing around 8+4 so we're coming up to the same time and I didn't have many symptoms last time but have even less now. Was supposed to be having an early scan through my consultant but that hasn't materialised so think I'll phone midwife on Tues as she also offered to arrange one. Don't really want to have to shell out for one if we can get it through NHS but I know I won't stop thinking about possible mc until we have a scan. This is so hard!

Welcome jbee and zebra

My lack of symptoms are bothering me too, but I'm at least 3 weeks away from a scan which seems like aaages away - and it'll be an 8 week one and have good ones of those before and then gone on to lose it anyway. I'm still going to have one though, it'll put my mind at rest for an hour or two!

Hi all. Been away a bit as it was my birthday (41 Eeek) on Friday and yesterday had friends round and today took my dd to pick blackberries and to the fair...

Can't remember who asked but clexane is a blood thinner but it is also said to help the placenta form. At the Coventry implantation clinic they gave me this and also progesterone.

Fingers crossed that is what will work...

Welcome all the newbies, shall try and catch up soon