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Had a miscarriage and due in April 2015? shall we try not to scare the other ones?

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TinyTear · 07/08/2014 16:15

Hello

Having had 5 mcs and 1 DD I am not feeling very hopeful (juest realistic) even though I am doing different things than before...

4w today and on cyclogest pessaries since CD21...

Maybe we could have a separate thread to the biiiig one so we don't scare the others with our (my) negativity...

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TinyTear, 40, 1 DD, 5mcs, due in April but don't want to know the exact day...

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LIG1979 · 19/08/2014 06:43

Hello allthefours and welcome to thread.

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TinyTear · 19/08/2014 08:35

Hi all, still here, still pg... (5+5 so still very early days)

Realised I don't really knicker check anymore... none of my last mcs had bleeding as it was all discovered on 'reassurance' scans
my body like to hold on to things

(mc1 and 3 had bleeding then... no early scans then...)

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lila35 · 19/08/2014 08:54

Ahhhhh I am terrified!!! What if there's nothing there? I have had a terrible nights sleep to so that's going to help with feeling calm and rational!!

Thanks for the support lig

I'm still knicker checking going although being on the cyclogest I wonder if there's any point?

Your scan is tomorrow isn't it tiny???

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TinyTear · 19/08/2014 08:55

Yep tomorrow at 10am

What time is your scan lila?

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Shetland · 19/08/2014 09:09

Good luck with the scan lila

Welcome allthefours

I have vague low level nausea for a lot of the day, but especially in the morning, which is great.

Those with early scans - is that because of previous history or have you booked them privately?

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TinyTear · 19/08/2014 09:14

For me it is previous history (this is my 7th pregnancy not counting my chemical. I only have one DD)

Also I need a really early scan to check all is in the right place as I am supposed to start heparin

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lila35 · 19/08/2014 09:45

1040...not long to wait now!!!

I've had ivf treatment so this is the scan to check there's something going on and OK.

LIG1979 · 19/08/2014 12:32

Any news lila?

Shetland - mine has been booked privately but they do sometimes do reassurance scans on the NHS. With dd the gave me one at 6 weeks just because I was in a bit of a state when I saw the dr. (I also then paid for two more private scans just to keep me going.) It is at their discretion as to whether they do it on the nhs but they often do it if you have had multiple miscarriages and have to do it after an ectopic to check it hasn't happened again. The private ones are quite nice as they stick to appointment times well and you don't have to sit with lots of obviously pregnant people as there is usually only one scanner.

lila35 · 19/08/2014 12:46

Theres a little squidge in there!! with a heartbeat, I can't actually believe it, she didnt even have to hunt around for it it was right there. Such a wave of relief and tears and snot I can't tell you. So I think my risk of mc has gone right down now and I'm going to see how my anxiety goes as to whether I pay for a scan at 10 weeksish. Now I have to go back to my gp to get the extra cyclogest I need and then I guess get on to the midwife.

thanks for being so lovely xx

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TinyTear · 19/08/2014 12:46

at my EPU you only go there is something is worrying you, so no proper naive happy pregnant women... although the proper 12ew scans are on the same floor...

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LIG1979 · 19/08/2014 13:00

Brilliant news lila

tiny your set up sounds better than both the hospitals I have been at. Both had me sitting for scans in the same area as 12 week and 20 week scans and even some heavily pg people. They did at one point scan me in the general ultrasound which was better.

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TinyTear · 19/08/2014 13:12

it is better than many places but the EPU is on the same floor as the 12w scans AND the blooming labour and post natal wards!!! so you get women in labour and brand new babies going home on the lifts (and you try not to cry)

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lila35 · 19/08/2014 16:03

How fabulous is my local childrens centre, just called to make my booking in appointment and she couldnt be more apologetic that its not till next week, I was expecting to wait a good 2 weeks at least...

When I miscarried last time the epu was on the same level as mat wards, cue lots of very pregnant ladies wandering around whilst I was the wreck just trying to get out of there!

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TinyTear · 19/08/2014 17:53

That is great. I think I will wait to a good 8w scan before trying to get a booking appointment

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Shetland · 19/08/2014 19:09

Yay lila Great news.

When I found out there was something wrong with the baby in my first pregnancy I was referred to the consultant at the maternity hospital and I had to have another scan with him to confirm the problem. I spent one hour (sobbing) surrounded by very pregnant smiley happy people whilst waiting for the scan to confirm that my baby had a condition that was 'incompatible with life' - it was awful :(

I did have a very nice midwife with my next 3 pregnancies who always sent me for an 8 week reassurance scan - she got it past EPU on account of me being consultant led but I didn't really need it. She was lovely, but she's left so I think I'll have to get a private one this time.

I'm going to wait until after my 8 week scan til I book in with the midwife.

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TinyTear · 19/08/2014 19:55

Goodness Lila, we cross posted so I had missed your update. Hooray!!

How many weeks are you today?

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FizzyPinkWine · 19/08/2014 20:29

Great news Lila!

lila35 · 19/08/2014 22:07

Thank you lovely people!! 7+4 today....that's nearly 8!!!!!

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TinyTear · 20/08/2014 06:47

Hooray! Just asking as I am not expecting to see anything today... I am 5+6 only

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LIG1979 · 20/08/2014 08:04

Good luck today Tiny and Teacher I hope it all goes well.
Tiny - Yes 5+6 is a bit borderline to see a heartbeat isn't it.....I guess if there is one it is a bonus but not to worry if it isn't. Will you have more scans later on just to see it is moving forward?

I have a booking in appointment for 5 days after a scan at what I think will be 6.5-7 weeks. So then if there isn't a heartbeat, I don't need to go through the booking in appointment. Last time, my booking in was before a reassurance scan and she was asking about where I wanted to give birth and silly questions like that. I just wanted it to be alive nothing more!

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TinyTear · 20/08/2014 08:32

yes, I am hoping to have another one in 2 weeks (ish)
I shall see what they tell me..

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Bristolian1 · 20/08/2014 09:38

Great news lila and good luck for the scans today tiny and teachers

FizzyPinkWine · 20/08/2014 09:40

Good luck today tiny and teachers.
I am going to book a private scan, for when I'm about 7 weeks, this afternoon. The thought of going for a scan is terrifying though. I'm just so negative about it all at the moment.

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TinyTear · 20/08/2014 09:56

I think I just passed the doctor who did my section with my DD.
Hope it is a good omen for this pregnancy

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OneDayLikeThis2013 · 20/08/2014 10:00

Good luck to everyone having scans today and congrats lila on your scan too

I had my 'confirmation' appointment with the nurse this morning. All fine and a slight waste of time as I knew it would be. Although she kept asking if I was happy to be pg. I said yes but I don't think my face was saying the same as she kept asking. She also booked me in with the mw at 7 weeks and gave me a bounty pack - cue me completely freaking out. It's crazy, and I keep telling myself what will be will be, there's nothing I can do to stop myself having another MC but I feel like I'm jinxing this pg by making the appointment and being given the bounty pack etc. Poor DH got the brunt of my horrible mood this morning when he asked me how things went.

I just feel like I should be so happy and grateful that I'm pg again but instead I'm grumpy, worried and so so scared.

fizzy I completely sympathise re the fear of a scan. I've been thinking this morning about booking a private scan for 8 weeks but I just don't know. I had one at 6+1, saw a hb and the bean must have died the same day as at 10 weeks I measured 6+1. I know this is of course, complete bad luck and once you've seen a hb, your risk of MC drops hugely but I'm not very good at rationalising with myself right now.

Gosh, sorry ladies for the rant...

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