Had a miscarriage and due in April 2015? shall we try not to scare the other ones?

[TinyTear]

Hello

Having had 5 mcs and 1 DD I am not feeling very hopeful (juest realistic) even though I am doing different things than before...

4w today and on cyclogest pessaries since CD21...

Maybe we could have a separate thread to the biiiig one so we don't scare the others with our (my) negativity...

Welcome

TinyTear, 40, 1 DD, 5mcs, due in April but don't want to know the exact day...

Hello, could I join too?

Am on the main thread, but don't want to post there in case it all goes pear shaped. I have secondary infertility and had 2 mcs btw DCs 1 & 2. Spent the last 30 months trying to get pregnant and am now 5 weeks. But at 41 I'm trying not to get too excited, though it's hard not to plan ahead.

Does anyone else have pain in their lower abdomen? I'm desperately hoping it's wind. Or perhaps my womb stretching. Though I did an awful lot of cleaning at work yesterday, maybe that is the cause.

Hi all.
I am still here

Today I am pregnant
TIAP

Feeling very tired and not enjoying breastfeeding as much ( my 2.5 yo still has mummy milk first thing and to sleep) which I am taking as positive signs...

One day at the time...

Morning all,

I'm getting a lot of nausea, which I didn't get with my MMC, so I'm slightly reassured.

We go on holiday 2 weeks on Saturday, and I'm thinking I might book an early private scan before we go, but then I'm scared to.

ifits I have had a lot of 'twinges' in my lower abdomen, but they are different to the period pain type ones I had to start with. When I saw the midwife last week for the scan, she said that it would be stretching pains. I am in agony if I sneeze though!

ifits I also have some twinges and also feel like I have done a few too many sit ups. Congratulations! 30 months ttc must have been very tough - I found 9 hard enough.

Also, still pg today . Been feeling quite nauseous which is reassuring although earlier than I got it with dd so hope it doesn't get too bad. I didn't get any symptoms with my mmc so I am happy to feel a bit rubbish. River with my mmc the midwife told me I was lucky to have no symptoms. I also wanted a private scan before holiday just to reassure me, although one thing I thought of was what if it is bad news?

Has anyone told anyone yet? I haven't told anyone except for dh and some MN friends from my mmc. With dd, I told my boss at 6 weeks as I was quite ill but would also keep going into panic mode and then have to go and have a last minute private scan - I was more likely to have a day off work on the days I felt well as the lack of symptoms got me panicked. He was also aware of the mmc so already suspected I was pregnant. It was however, very difficult to tell him about the mmc so I sort of wished he had known I was pregnant before. My ideal plan is to wait for a private scan at 7 weeks and then tell my new boss so he knows if it goes wrong or I am not 100%.

hi everyone, just popping in to say I also had 5 MCs prior to conceiving DD (also on progesterone pessaries, and I went to acupuncture throughout my pregnancy as well). My beautiful girl is 4 and a half and starting school this September!

Best of luck to you all!

Thanks for popping by Tam but we do know of success stories. I had my DD after 3 mcs, but doesn't mean we aren't scared shitless as since her I have had 2 more mcs and a chemical...

I don't think we need unicorns and rainbows in this thread... a bit of (hopeful) realism

Sorry everyone, feeling a bit negative today...

I'm not feeling pregnant but I'm 4+2 and the test line is now slightly darker than the control line. LIG I told the rota co-ordinator at work but she knew about the previous IVF attempts. Going to tell my sister soon because she's also pregnant and I know she dreaded telling me because this is her second and she knows how we've struggled to just have one.

Hey ladies can I join you?
I've had a read of the main thread but I'm not brave enough to join yet.

I'm 4 weeks with #3 - I have 2 dcs and had a mmc and TFMR previously.

I have gone through 10 tests since getting my bfp on Saturday.

I was feeling cautiously optimistic but it's fading by the day.

Hello Shetland. Welcome.

Stop testing!!
I only did the one a week ago...

And can't remember who asked but I told my boss straight away. If I mc again I will need time off work and wanted him to know also because of doctors appointments and early scans and so on

I can't seem to help myself tinytear :)

I haven't told anyone yet - I might tell my sister this weekend but no one else until I've had a scan at 10 weeks.

I'm going to book private scans for 8 and 10 weeks which will hopefully help with the stress levels unlikely

I have done 9 tests Shetland over a period of 2 weeks, today I'm 6+4, only a week till my scan, I just want it to be here now!

How are you feeling today tinytear?

Glad it's not just me lila35 :)

I am looking forward to my counselling later...

I had it booked before finding out i was pregnant, to help deal with the miscarriages and so on as I had been feeling a bit depressed... at least hope it will help me with my feelings of dread towards this pregnancy...

dread is too strong, but fear and aprehension and wonder and this is my last attempt ever so if it goes wrong i will have to deal with other issues

Morning all,

Tiny I hope your counselling goes well today. It sounds like it will be helpful. I am not sure about what we will do if it goes wrong as I find the whole ttc ordeal so stressful and I know I am very lucky to have dd and feel bad when she is impacted by us ttc #2. (It was such a relief when dd was born to have a break from getting pg and staying pg and being me again!) Well done on only having done one test. I think having had a chemical, it has been reassuring to know that the tests are getting darker and the cb digital is getting darker. It also means that once I get to 5+ on the digital, there is only 2 weeks till my first scan.

Lady I think with dd I didn’t feel anything till 5 weeks and that was early. This time I have been feeling quite nauseous already but not sure exactly how far along I am as my temping and positive opk make me about 4 weeks and yet I got a good progesterone result at 3 dpo and a BFP at 8 dpo so think I could be a bit further on that.

Shetland welcome. Any reason why your optimism is fading? Mine comes and goes and there are times that I get a bit ahead of myself and have to reign myself in, other times when I think it is already over.

Counselling was ok...

As it was the first session there was a bit of form filling and she asked me to do one thing I am a bit sceptical about - watch some relaxation videos on youtube before bed

i might give it a go, but not sure it will help...

so tears and talk and hopefully things will be better...

next session will be the day before the scan so let's see how it goes...

Glad it was ok tinytears - I imagine you need a few sessions before you can tell how useful it will be?

LIG1979 No particular reason - just that I had a loss before each of my successful pregnancies so it just seems inevitable that I will again. I know it's daft, but I can't get it out of my head.

yes, they are offering me at least 10 sessions...

should at least help to calm me down once in a while, even though i tend to cry a lot there...

Awww Tiny, sending you hugs xx I hope that as the days go on you find the session helpful, and the relaxation part before bed should set you up positively for the following day. You have a scan soon don't you?

Shetland I feel your ups and downs, its only now that I am getting more obvious symptoms that I am thinking this might just work out, I'd say I am nearer 50/50 now. Till I have my first scan next week and they confirm somethings there I can't quite believe I am going to have a baby.

ifits I have had pretty constant abdo pain since the embie went back in, its only this week it's calmed down but I have also had ovary pain, well I think thats what it is, hoping to. Because of the IVF my ovaries are likely to still be enlarged, I guess my scan will confirm that or that its another mc, I am hoping its the first...

Yes, scan is a week tomorrow

I've just counted them, I have done 27 tests . Most of them cheapies, I bought 50 IC pregnancy tests and 50 ovulation tests, thinking I was still in for the long haul.

Lady - I have so far got through 8 internet cheap ones and 2 digital ones in less than a week.

Tiny - do you think you will watch the relaxation videos tonight? I may consider something like that as I have not been sleeping well. How far along will you be at the scan?

Shetland - realised my question sounded quite accusatory rather than nosy. Just a bit tired and stressed and not wording things right. I hope this time you don't have to go through another mc to get another dc.

I have been a bit down today as I realised that I am now probably into mc stage rather than a chemical pregnancy if it goes wrong. My chemical pg was very easy and over in a few days early on and then I could crack on with trying again. My mc whilst painless (which was good I know) dragged on for 6 weeks from finding out to getting an erpc.

It didn't sound accusatory to me LIG1979 :)
Sorry you're feeling down.

27 tests and lady That is impressive. Good job they were cheapies :)
I've stocked up on another frer for tomorrow and a CB digital for Friday. And then I'll stop. Hopefully.

welcome babiecakes

hooray for strong heartbeats!

last night i got a bit of a worry, it was a bit pink when i wiped... but since then nothing happened, nothing on the pad and no more pink... nothing i can do... even if i went for a scan today it's still too early (4+6) so I shall wait for my booked scan in a week and continue my cyclogest...

Welcome babiecakes and great news on a strong heart beat.

tinytear roll on scan - we all know a bit of pink should be nothing to worry about, but easier said than done.

My frer was still positive this morning, so that's good.