Just Shagging Grads Thread 10 - Roll Up, Roll Up all you graduated Viroids!!!

[cookielove]

Welcome, welcome, welcome to the 10th grads thread...celebrating the success of Just Shagging in getting us viroids upduffed

For those that don't know, a 'viroid' is from the original JSing thread 1, where someone was trying to type ladies (in reference to all the JSing ladies), but their phone decided to call us all viroids instead!

The name stuck and we've been the JSing viroids ever since.

There is a stats thread here but its a zombie thread so enter at your own risk....... eeeeek

The thread we have graduated from is here in its 26th outing!

There is also a Just Mumming thread in postnatal here once your babies come along, or to keep up with the graduated graduates!

There is also a secret facebook group, if you want to join, Pm me!


So, roll call below please, viroids!

[wilmabedrock]

Love a snowsuit juni, they look so damn cute in them!

Are you planning to breastfeed? Bfing can be a lot more demanding than you think it will be. Some days in the early stages, it can pretty much feel as if you're feeding all day. If you express it just means you can go somewhere by yourself for a few hours without having to worry that the baby will be hungry. Also gives the other parent a chance to get involved with the feeding - which is especially useful if you want to go to bed early and then sleep through until a night feed - dad can then do a feed before he goes to bed. Saying that, lots of people don't bother expressing so it's totally up to you. I found bf quite hard going so was glad of the occasional rest, although pumping can mess with your supply.

[wilmabedrock]

It depends zyla. Babies can be tricksy wee monsters. MiniWil would take a bottle in the day or evening no problem but point blank refused to take one in the middle of the night so unfortunately that never worked for me!

[RPopz]

What a story Cookie! Glad wee man is ok, what a gorgeous name

I think I'm going to wait til minipopz is born before I get a breast pump. I like the idea of dh being able to feed breast milk but don't want to fork out if we struggle with bf ing x

[Minion]

Sorry, just re read my post and realised the auto incorrects! Got a tenner in points, not lost, that would be useless, and meant baby monitor, not monster, though some days it's probably debatable ha!

[JuniDD]

Think we'll so the same with the pump then, rpopz.

So...is it me that starts the new thread?

[wilmabedrock]

Go for it juni!

[JuniDD]

OK...I'll try not to procrastinate too much...

Why do I always get stressed about labour/birth on Saturday nights?! Do you think this means the baby will come on a Saturday? It's so weird.

[wilmabedrock]

You need to start making plans for saturday nights! What is it you're stressed about, is there a specific part?

[JuniDD]

Think you might be on to something there wil...

Mainly worried about going to hospital and the midwives being horrible and interventions & things. It freaks me out it'll be a load of people I've never met before. And, y'know, the pain, injuries etc etc. I'm a bit of a catastrophiser, particularly after the molar pregnancy. MrJuni keeps telling me it will be ok and he will look after me but he's not the most assertive of men, that's usually my job! It'll be what it'll be, just wish I could stay in a more positive mindset.

[wilmabedrock]

Have you discussed any of this with the midwife? Would you feel more comfortable hiring a private midwife or a doula?

I'm not going to lie and say it doesn't hurt but if you do happen to need any interventions, you won't be worried about them at the time, you'll just want to do whatever is necessary. Do you think it's the lack of control you're worried about?

Found this old thread which may be good for a read: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/childbirth/1007770-Any-positive-birth-stories-I-m-a-bit-terrified/AllOnOnePage sorry don't know how to do a link on the app.

[JuniDD]

There isn't much point discussing with the midwife as it's a different one each time and they don't read the notes. (This really pisses me off tbh, as when I see clients at work I always say "I'm just going to read your paperwork" and get familiar with their situation. They don't mind and I'd prefer it. Maybe I'll start suggesting it... teehee!)

DP not so keen on a doula but am thinking about emailing a few to see if they have availability. And then it's the issue of "clicking" with someone...Guess I've got time now to investigate it all!

Yeah, I'm not keen on the idea of it all really and HCPs trying to make you do X or Y and you're not really sure what's what. My ideal would be to just have it at home with as little fuss as possible! Who knows, maybe that will happen, I've got this far after all and that seems like a miracle! Thanks wil

[JuniDD]

[[http://www.mumsnet.com/Talk/antenatal_clubs/2160935-Just-Shagging-Thread-11-for-Graduated-Viroids NEW THREAD KLAXON].

Fill 'er up, viroids!

Up early due to hunger issues...Lazy Daisy Couples workshop today so will report back later on.

[JuniDD]

Sigh, try again

NEW THREAD KLAXON

[wilmabedrock]

Good work, enjoy your class. I cba to get up.

[laurenamium]

Hi viroids! How pregnant do I need to be to join this thread?

[Minion]

You can be as pregnant as you like lauren so, a very hearty welcome to you!
Now, tell us about yourself and let us re live the early days through you.

Has anyone seen django unchained? We bought it yonks ago and for some reason just put off watching it, until last night.
Brilliant movie! But very awful if all that stuff did actually happen like that to the African slaves. Terrifying.
With, sorry, bit heavy for a Sunday morning, any who.. Watch it, so good.

[Nessalina]

A freshly peed on faint line is about a pregnant as we demand lauren!
Congratulations! We needed another JSer to join us after Cookie joined the mums club this week
Tell us all about it!!

I'm not sure when the birth panic is going to hit me Juni... I should be worrying because I'm a massive weed, I hate injections, blood tests, anything painful or tiring, so birth should be freaking me out... But so far - it hasn't yet! I need to try and keep hold of this zen feeling, lol. I'll send you some zen vibes

I am worrying about BFing though - I know that can be painful and stressful, and I really want to be good at it! I've been pondering pumps, deffo will go electric I think, but going to wait til baby arrives first I think. I think a night feed by DH is also the dream here!!

[RPopz]

Know exactly what you mean Ness - I have more of a fear of bf ing not working out than labour at the mo too! I desperately want to bf and it sounds so bloody difficult to get right... maybe books are not a good thing in this instance!

I'm awake! Waiting for Mr Rpopz to stop snoring so we can go and have hotel breakfast! At a wedding yesterday and somehow have a "hangover" this morning... Wedding was awesome but I had a few bits of contraband food and a glass of wine... Bad pregnant lady!

Not seen the film Min but my sister loves it. She's really into Tarantino.

Def report back Juni - could be tempted to book one if Lazy Daisy works out for me! Hope this helps to appease some of your fears a bit xxx

[wilmabedrock]

ness just put no pressure on yourself about bf - if you get all worried and stressed, baby picks up on it and it can make things worse. My advice would be to find a good bf group. Ours was run by 2 very good HVs, full of great advice and you could get baby weighed each week if you wanted to keep track of things. Saying that, some people find it easy from the start.

Apparently the medela freestyle is amazing. It is really expensive but if you plan on expressing every day, probably worth it. Maybe not if you're just going to do it occasionally.

[laurenamium]

Thanks for the welcome! I wasn't sure if I had to be booked in with a midwife or something first

I'm not actually due AF until tomorrow. But I've had positive tests since Thursday (and Ive POAS every day to be sure )

I have a 3 year old DD from a previous relationship, DP has no children yet but treats DD as his own- she doesn't see her father (his choice). I had my mirena out 28th July, bled the day after and haven't had an AF since so I think I did a kitten!

I haven't seen that django but ill put it on my list congratulations cookie, Elijah is a gorgeous name

[wilmabedrock]

Sorry Lauren, forgot to say welcome and congratulations!

Popz, it's not really that it's difficult to get it right - in most cases you pop baby on the boob and away they go. It's more that noone tells you anything about it beforehand and so you end up feeling like you're not doing it right or there's something wrong with the baby when in fact everything is normal. If you were better prepared going into it and knew things such as: cluster feeding is normal, the effect growth spurts etc can have on feeding, you're nipples may be screaming in pain for a few weeks but it will pass etc then you wouldn't panic every time something new happened. On top of this, if people around you don't really 'get' bf, this adds to your insecurity as they will also be convinced you're doing it wrong. Proper support really is the key I think which can be difficult to find as society is pretty pro ff.

Fuck I need to stop writing essays. Don't mean to sound like a patronising cow, it's just I wish someone had told me all this stuff last time.

[Nessalina]

Wowsers Lauren - that's a serious kitten-like effort!! Awesome.

Wil - I know I know, I figure I'll get the worry out now, then try to be zen with the baby! I've heard lots of good things about the Medela wotsits - I might ask for one as a really cool Xmas present, lol!

Ah good work Popz - we all need a wee bit of food contraband every now and again! Although when I let myself have a half of lager the other week I felt like I had a hangover the next day!

Today I am officially unimpressed with DH. My parents are visiting later, and the house needs a top to toe tidy and clean. The cupboards are bare, the last shop was over a week ago when we went together, and I've just done two loads of laundry. It's my one day off this week and he's been off work since April, so I'm kind of peeved that he hasn't got into a proper routine of regular cleaning He's been really engrossed in his programming project this week (which is work really, and should lead to some cash at some point...) and has been stuck into it til all hours, but AIBU to think he could try and put aside some time to be a domestic god whilst I'm still working full time?!

[JuniDD]

will I love your essays, don't stop! It's lovely to have second timers to encourage and support us noobs!

ness YANBU! Sounds like MrJuni. Shouting and crying helps .. Or just guilt-tripping.

Mentioned a doula to MrJuni cue massive sulk about not trusting him to look after me. But gonna email some people, see if they've got availiability and they can tell him themselves! Feeling calmer today

[JuniDD]

Oh yes, welcome Lauren and congrats.

[HungryHorace]

Hi Lauren! Congrats on your kitten-like efforts. :-)

Wil has given good advice so I won't repeat it / add to it.

RPopz, good on you re contraband food and wine!