October 2014 #9 - Into the home straight we go, 3rd trimester here we come!

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Keep up the chitter chatter ladies!

Thanks pony I think that's they way I'm thinking
Oh no bump fingers crosse for you

I'd probably find out too although be prepared for the fact they might not be able to tell you as I think it gets harder later in pregnancy. At my growth scan the other day I asked if they'd confirm he's a boy but they couldn't get a good enough view.

Just checking in, super sleepy this eve, 28 week appt was fine today unless bloods show anything.

Pregnant I wanted to know the sex and partly that was because I had an inclination of which it was and was becoming quite attached to the idea. So if that was wrong I wanted to know to give myself time to get used to that. My dp didn't want to find out so he didn't. It's been my secret for 2 months now and no slip ups yet

Bump hope it's not what you think

Ooh I didn't think of that captain if that's the case then maybe I'm just not meant to find out!
jen that's exactly how I feel I've convinced myself it's what I'm hoping for I'm even imagining them as part of the family which is why I'm leaning towards trying to find out.

Bump good luck. Actually being preggers may well work in your favour as most companies are terrified of being seen to make a pregnant woman redundancy.

Mums who've had both boys and girls, would anyone mind telling me what, if any gender you 'prefer' (prefer seems the wrong word!)? I know its a sensitive topic. I adore my wee boy because he's just so cuddly and affectionate and for his sake I'd love another boy (because to me same sex siblings seem closer) but selfishly I'd like a girl to find out what raising a girl is like!

I had two girls first who I adore and couldn't imagine not having them, I love their independence and feistiness. I watch them and am amazed at how I created these confident little women. I admire the way my eldest is so kind and patient with her younger sister and brother much more than I am sometimes. I really am in awe of how they know their own minds already and have such a strong sense of their own identity.
Then I had my son who is only 10 months so I'm probably not that qualified yet but I am the centre of his world, he always wants cuddles and kisses, he is always smiling and every time I look at him I just melt. I never ever expected to have such a strong bond with him, I'm very very close with my girls but in a different way.
I don't prefer raising one sex over another but I've found them quite different so far but that could be put down to different personalities. I love the idea of having a brother for my ds they would be close in age and I think it would be lovely for them to grow up together. But if it's a girl Im Sure they will be close too.

Pregnant awww that's lovely! Its not a bad reason at all for a preference. I too have a Mummy's boy and I love it. To make someone's face light up so much just by being boring old me - just blows me away. I love the idea of a feisty wee lass too though!

Ah pregnant - I feel the same about my boy. He really is so affectionate and gives the best cuddles, I just don't know if I will get that from a girl. So although we don't know the sex, I feel slightly odd that of its a girl - will I have the same bond I have with my son? Or is it personality based?

Anyone see the news yesterday about the declining birth rate? Really? I think it's baby boom round here. Although I'm now very average - had my first child when I was just 30!

pregnant we found out as we were convinced we were having a boy and I actually really wanted a boy. I'm so glad we did as when we found out ots a girl it took me a good few days to adjust. Now I'm just as excited at having a girl!

Bump I thought it was really difficult for a company to make a pregnant woman redundant? I'm sure theres something that says they have to make other people redundant first or something. Anyway keeping fx for you today. Definitely not what you need at the moment.

I had a bit of an OMG wobble about giving up work and salary yesterday. I love what I do but have been really excited about being a SAHM (and student as I'll be studying too) but with only a few weeks left now its all seeming v real!

Thanks guys, will let you know later. Yes they would be brave to make me redundant but I don't put anything past them, it's just scary not knowing at moment.

In other news we caught the mouse, almost a week after it appeared, rank! Please god that's it now for a while anyway.

Interesting convo about sex preference, I really wanted a boy and wasn't shy about admitting that to everyone so I wanted to find out so if was girl I got used to it. Finding out it was a girl I wasn't disappointed like I thought I was just shocked but quickly got very excited. Main reason for wanting boy is like you have all said apparently they love you more unconditionally where as girls lay down the law a bit more and just generally I get on better with boys than girls.

I am just pleased to have a healthy baby anyway after what's happening to sis :(

Ps - this heat is gonna near kill me, I'm exhausted!

Are you in work today bump? London will be 29 today and 32 tomorrow - hotter than Ibiza and Mallorca apparently. Stay at home if you can. I only had one mtg today so I have requested another wfh day as been feeling ill and think the tube would really kill me off. Plus current office has no air con.

I guess with threat of redundancy you will want to be on work to hear the news / show your face too so I hope it's not that bad news for you today.

And hurrah for catching the mouse!

Talking of boys - when I dropped my 2.5 yr old off this morn I got a 'I love you mummy'. It made me cry!!! I will add this was after insisting that he wanted to go to work with daddy today as daddy works with big trucks, diggers and cranes. Much more exciting than mummy!!
I feel as this pregnancy progresses the love for my son is getting more intense (didn't know it could to be honest) and am a bit worried I haven't got enough love for another one!! But I know this is a very normal reaction for a second time mum. Don't get me wrong - I love my unborn baby, I do. But until I meet them and know its personality it's hard to imagine feeling the same way about it. I know I will though.
Right - better do some work!

Another one here who is working from home rather than facing the trains into London!

Interesting to think about preferences. If I am honest with myself I would prefer a Boy, just because the thought of a girl scares me. None of these thoughts are particularly powerful for me and we are just hoping for a healthy one and we'll see what we get . We are thinking of Schrodenberg as a Boy (whilst in bump state) but that this has no bearing upon what sex the 'baby' will be.

fedup we don't have other children yet but both mrsthedog and I have noticed our love for each other growing and feeling more tangeble as time goes on. We have wondered if that is hormonal, circumstances, just that we are an amazing couple or all of the above.

fedup I wouldn't worry you really will have an amazing bond with your daughter. I think it's hard to imagine loving another child as much as the one you have now I know I really struggled with it when i was pregnant with my second but found it such made everything stronger when dd2 arrived. I get loads of cuddles from both my girls and my 3 year old daughter often tells me how much she loves me or how I make the best dinners in the hold wild world!
In the area I live in people seem to be having more children! Families of 5 children are reasonable common.

binky that's how I feel I would just need a few days to get my head around it then would be fine, and I would rather do that now than after the birth.

bump good luck for today hope everything goes ok

puppy I think pregnancy brings you closer together especially the first one I know we were just in awe of what we creating together.
Plus of course I'm sure you're an amazing couple too!! :)

Hope everyone is coping in the heat of to a soft play cafe today as it has air con! Feel like a vampire hiding from the sun at every chance. :)

I was convinced DS was a girl all through my pregnancy, even brought a little pink dress to take them home in! When he was born & the paramedic told us he was a boy, DH said i was visibly disappointed. I admit i was a bit but i don't think it affected our bond. Despite that DH still insisted on another surprise this time . I would definitely have found out if it was just my decision!

I have it in my head that this one is a girl too but not putting too much faith in that! Would love a girl so i know what its like but would equally love a little brother for DS

fedup think I am in a similar place (mentally!) to you - I have a son (just 4) and I love him so much he is like a little piece of my heart walking around independently (vomit if you like). But it's so intense I do worry - can I feel like that again? Will it affect my love for my DS?

But as I've been told before your heart just expands.

We decided to find out gender for a number of reasons - impatience, lots of DS's baby clothes around, helping with the name list.

I think, because I hate it that people assume you need one of each, I got very defensive about having a boy and thought I'd probably have one. So when we had the scan and it was a girl, it actually took some getting used to! I didn't have a preference, but I was surprised that it took me some time to get my head around the having a girl thing. Maybe it's extra weird as I was never a girly girl. I was kind of used to being outnumbered at home!

I was convinced i was having a boy this time and when i found out it was another girl i couldnt beleive how happy/excited i felt so maybe i secretly wanted another girl?im not sure as i would have probz been chuffed with having one of each aswell ? I think im more excited for my dd to have a sister as i always wanted a sister and think she will have best friend for life. In my experience girls always stay close to their mums and i feel boys when they get married or settle down maybe dont need their mums as much? I feel i would stuggle with this and hear stories from friends/collegues etc who dont seem to get on with MIL ?? If i had a son i wouldnt want to be the difficult MIL !! But i suppose guys probably feel the same about their partners mothers?? This is the crazy things i think about when i think about gender preference !!!

I really wanted a boy so finding out it was a girl was quite shocking. I'm really looking forward to meeting her now but still a bit terrified that she'll turn out like me I was a bit of a horror at times!

Sorry to hear about redundancy worries. Employment legislation is the only place where positive discrimination still exists. Your work will have to match you before non pregnant employees so likelihood is that you'd still have a job even if it's not your current one. When I was under treat, I spoke to hr about mat pay and they said they would pay it in full even if made redundant. I'm assuming that wasn't through kindness! Fx you don't have to worry about this but take advice if you do and go to all meetings with a union rep if you're a member.

Had my gtt this morning, not as bad as I remember. The plebotomist had loads of trouble getting me to give up any blood but we got there in the end.

In other news my 2.5 year old ds told me I looked beautiful this morning... I melted in a million different ways. How I can make another one as good as him I don't know

I've already got two older girls and I really expected this one to be another girl. I wanted a surprise but my husband wanted to find out and as it is his first baby I let him.

I'm so glad we found out he's a boy, after a few days of surprise I got my head around it and now I can't wait to meet him, maybe I needed to know as I was so convinced he would be a she! Plus I still can't decide on a boy name so it's a good job we get time to think xx

Interesting!

We're convinced it's a girl, to the point that we have no boys' names at all. If it's a boy it'll be a shock.

I think it's only natural to have a preference for the sex of baby. I have one of each and they both have their idiosyncrasies I don't think you can group one sex into a certain personality eg boys being mummy boys my Ds loves us equally but has a special bond with his dad as he was a stay at home dad with him from 7 months to 2.5 years while I worked full time. We are having a girl again and that is what I had hoped for as my girl is now 9 and I wanted to experience having a baby girl again.

Have booked my whooping cough vaccine for next week.

I don't really have a preference for a girl or a boy. I've always thought I'd have a boy and a girl but I can't help but think it will be a girl this time just because I had a girl last time! Totally logical, I know!

So I've noticed baby doesn't seem to be as active since Tuesday...I can still feel . movement but is not the crazy alien ninja movements I had been getting last week...is it normal to see a reduction in movement around this point? Every time I think maybe I should call the midwife baby will suddenly burst into action and move quite a lot but the kicks still feel very light...

Mum2 I found movement slowed down around this point last time as they are starting to run out of space a wee bit and don't have the 'run up' for big belting kicks and somersaults anymore.

I have to say one reason I'd like a girl this time is because I lost my Mum when young and I'd love to be around for a DD in pregnancy and labour. You really do miss your Mum when you start to have kids. As a MIL I wouldn't be as involved... I mean you don't go and support your DIL in labour do you? Another me, me, me reason...

Puppy its because you and Mrs Puppy is totes amazeballs innit. And the hormones are good shit too.

'Me' interested that you give everyone a mini GTT, I asked my midwife about GTT as both of us had grandmothers with late onset diabetes (after pregnancy) and she said that isn't considered a risk factor so I won't have one, despite the fact I apparently handle sugar in an 'unusual manner'.