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Dec 2014 Thread #5 - Battered and bruised we limp through the second trimester

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SassehMonsta · 01/07/2014 13:43

Here we go again, the thrills & spills of leaky boobs, and feeling baby move for the first time - Lets go!

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htbftm · 31/07/2014 21:28

Really thinking of you Miraculous! Thoughts n prayers are with you all! xx

miraculous2 · 31/07/2014 21:29

I asked Prof. Kilby about the sex breezily at the end (because he had to concentrate so hard on the Dopplers and finding an angle to reach the placenta tomorrow) and he said he hadn't seen anything that would tell him they were boys but he'll have a proper look tomorrow. Ha! Whatever that means!

I had so many girl names at the start and now I can't think of any/ don't like the ones I had. And in the last 24 hours I properly fell in love with two boy names - bit of a Eureka moment. Errrp... I guess we'll just be calling them Mana and 'Uhila for a while longer. Getting used to the idea of girls, though Smile

Turns out they're not planning to give me an epidural, just locals and a morphine based drip 'to take the edge off' (stop me from freaking out). If that doesn't deaden everything they might knock me out so I'm busy stuffing my face before the fasting begins.

DH and I have kept each other laughing all day and I'm missing him now (he's at the hotel). I'm so grateful to have him through all this. Our relationship is still young so I'm glad we're as strong and loving as this in a really shitty time.

Anyway, you're all fab and thanks for the virtual hand-holding Grin

nickyjlees · 31/07/2014 21:36

Thinking of you miraculous, am sure all will go perfectly tomorrow. You are being so very brave, no wonder you're little ones are such tough little cookies.. Taking after their mum!
Lots of love x

Littlebear81 · 31/07/2014 21:58

Good luck for tomorrow Miraculous; will be thinking of you. You're being super strong and I can't imagine how you're feeling. Glad you've got great support from your DH. x

hanniebabes3 · 31/07/2014 22:00

Thinking of you for tomorrow miraculous, always drop in to see how everyone is getting on xx

littlepickly · 31/07/2014 22:18

All the best for tomorrow miraculous -- you sound amazing and I'm sure you're positivity will transfer to your little bubbas Smile

I've just been to my first lazy daisy antenatal class and really enjoyed it, thought I should make the effort to do something like this which may help in my efforts for a home birth and it was lovely just to be around other preggers ladies and to just have a bit of me time and relaxation!

SassehMonsta · 31/07/2014 22:22

good luck for tomorrow miraculous!

Had a shit day after all, despite waking up positive. DH was told by work that the week after his birthday (in Sept) that his contract is up, as hes covering maternity leave, and that the best they can offer him is his previous 20hr a week job with as much overtime as he likes. Great, but the old job is shite, and we would loose out on about 3k of income even if he worked the same hours (ie, 20 + another 20 overtime). Bearing in mind we earn below 26k between us, its a huge financial blow, and hes so upset because he trys hishardest to please and help other people and feels that they are just throwing it back in his face nd trying to get him to do the same job with the same level of input for less money. He knows its not his superiors fault but a few levels higher thats the problem, but its heartwrenching. Thought we were stable moneywise and could scrape through, but not so sure anymore. Just tried to promise him that no matter what we wouldn't have to move, but he told me not to make promises I couldn't keep. I have 2k of savings, but also 2k of overdraft that Im using,and Im limited as to how many hours I can work in a week (small business, not enough work).

Waaaah, just want to bawl all evening. Im off to try and get some sleep as my dy off tomrrow was cancelled this evening as well (something completely different)

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Ladylel · 31/07/2014 22:58

sasseh you'll get there, things might seem bleak but there are always better days ahead.
miraculous please keep us updated, as you know we are all virtually here for you - positivity is a wonderful thing.

So glad it's Friday tomorrow! Weekend wooo :)

LotsaTuddles · 01/08/2014 05:56

Lady, I've got 2 love eggs. One in DS' bedroom and one in living room. (Disclaimer: I'm not insane, I didn't buy both of them, not sure if I even bought one of them).

I'm not insane with it though,I just like to know what the temperature is, it doesn't make a difference to me though, because DS kicks any covers off the second they're on him.

We're going to my mum's today. I'mmeeting Her at work because before I went on mat leave I worked there for years, so will show DS off a bit too. Then we'll have to get the tube, which I have to admit, I'm dreading, I've turned soft from moving out of London!

Good luck today miraculous, will be thinking of you all day.

PresidentSpreadable · 01/08/2014 07:29

Good luck for today miraculous, will be keeping you and your babies in my thoughts.

toriaplum · 01/08/2014 08:12

Good luck for today Miraculous. Thinking of you.
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Peaceloveandbiscuits · 01/08/2014 10:04

Good luck Miraculous.

I'm really uncomfortable today, and I've suddenly got a massive undisguisable (not a word, I know) bump! It's photobombing all my photos!

Ladylel · 01/08/2014 10:29

My stomach was a lot harder this morning. Can't disguise it no matter what I do. Baggy clothes make me look and feel rubbish. My colleague said to me today that I'm starting to look proper pregnant now lol!
Tummy gone back to squashy tho, they can't make their minds up!

We're going to need a new thread soon!!!!

CatFaceCrayola · 01/08/2014 11:15

New thread time already! What are we going to call this one?

My bump is very much not hideable anymore.

sadly this weekends Edinburgh trip is cancelled. After yesterday's brief bus ride travel sickness I spent the evening having panic attacks and now feel like I have the worst hangover/like i've been hit by a bus.

DH decided we shouldn't go as I'm just going to panic all today, andif I'm horribly ill on tge train there then I'll still likely feel rubbish tomorrow so there's very little point.

feeling like I've failed and completely wussed out

meh

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oohdaddypig · 01/08/2014 14:51

Sorry about your trip catface - but maybe for best if you feel so rough? If it cheers you up, my nausea is back....

Names for next thread - with chins held high, we battle on?!

Of course, that's cos I personally feel sick and crap still. But others feeling better may want a more blooming title Grin

Peaceloveandbiscuits · 01/08/2014 15:08

I told my manager at last, and she wasn't happy and pretty much told me not to come back after maternity, but in a flowerier, less illegal way. But at least it's out in the open now. I'm not in the mood for anything this afternoon, just want to go home. I keep being grumpy to customers, doh.

PresidentSpreadable · 01/08/2014 16:11

It might be nice to have a slightly more upbeat thread title, ours looks quite gloomy next to January's 'Glowing and Growing'!

That's a bit shit Peace, I saw your thread about it, she sounds like a charmer, still at least it's done. I hope you have a lovely relaxing evening to make up for it.

SassehMonsta · 01/08/2014 17:07

Yes, think we need more positivity in the thread title! Can't think of any suggestions as really in a crap mood. DH is super upset about work screwing him over and hasn't gone in today as hes seething. Basically with a management change they forgot to factor in his contract being a maternity cover and have ended up with no work for him in his current role as they over-filled jobs. Arrrrgh.

Pregnancy-wise, Just ticking along. Tesco have a baby event on, so bought the stairgate I was looking at for 16 rather than 20 quid.

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BigHairyLeggedSpider · 01/08/2014 17:09

Peace, sorry to hear about your megasupportive manager, she sounds horrible. Maybe best out of that job because if she's going to be like this when you are pregnant, imagine what she'd be like if you had to take time off for an ill child!

It's a special type of cowbag who doesn't at least pretend to be pleased at someone elses pregnancy.

BigHairyLeggedSpider · 01/08/2014 17:16

Maybe

"Large Ladylumps and unmissible bumps, we're taking it in our stride..."

Only we know we're not... lol!

I'm ok today. Feeling a bit odd as my Dad who I haven't seen in a year has decided he wants to come and see me and involve me in the family he's not involved me in for years. This will be his first bloodgrand child, although as he has a stepson and a stepdaugher and they both have small children. When I first told him he wasn't very supportive and now he's all "want an update every day".
Likewise my mum is calling me every day to ask what sort of toiletries I'm going to use on the baby, Johnsons or organic?And have I decided on a nappy strategy.

As I'm just in the throws of starting up ADs again, I really don't feel like that level of interaction at the moment, and to be fair, even my normal chipper self is a fairly private person who doesn't like people to be knowing every single thing I decide on a daily basis...

Ladylel · 01/08/2014 17:21

Growing and glowing sounds like an peaceful place where nothing bad happens and storks deliver the babies ha! Maybe something like onwards and bumpwards or mamas in charge of Santas little helpers. I don't know my creativity is zapped.

Meant to be out tonight for a friends birthday to an Indian but I am feeling fat. Not pregnant just fat. I have nothing to wear. I look crap. I feel crap and miserable. More so having spent the best part of my afternoon text arguing with my OH.

I just feel so stressed and fed up and I cannot be bothered. Best part of going out was dressin up now I feel like I have to make an effort just to feel Comfortable in myself.

Maybe we should call the next thread Hormone hangovers or how to keep a pregnant woman happy or pregzillas about roar!

Hugmonster82 · 01/08/2014 18:07

Doesn't sound like you've wussed out to me Catface. I'm getting horrible sickness on trains and am absolutely dreading a 3 hour trip to see MIL tomorrow. Unfortunately DH knows how much I hate going there so thinks I'm exaggerating to try and get out of it. He just can't face the huge guilt trip that she'll give him and would rather upset her than me because he knows she holds grudges a lot longer. Ahhhhhh!
Sorry for the rant. I feel better now Smile

Hugmonster82 · 01/08/2014 18:12

Also while I'm ranting that's so rubbish about your manager Peace. It makes me so cross that in this age of so called equality workplaces can't be more supportive. Especially a female manager, as she should really know better!

Peaceloveandbiscuits · 01/08/2014 18:30

It's alright guys, little does she know I wasn't gonna go back anyway.

miraculous2 · 01/08/2014 19:27

Heaving massive sighs and sobs of relief - our darling babies made it through the surgery and the first few hours. Prof Kilby took 3.3 litres of fluid off Mana and by the time of the scan about five hours later, little 'Uhila had made enough to almost even out the pools. This is a very good sign, I think.

The next few days will be critical, and I'm a little bit raw and having palpitations so nothing but rest for me. Scan on Tuesday to see if they've pulled through yet again and if it's looking like the procedure was a success.

All your kind words really helped me get through those long hours of waiting today. Thank you.

My bump is a far more comfortable size now - I didn't realise how distended I'd got. It's so nice to eat a meal and not spend the next two hours bending backwards to make room for it. I'll post the before and after pics when I get home tomorrow.

I am WELL up for a more upbeat thread title! We're fucking warriors! Grin