Dec 2014 Thread #5 - Battered and bruised we limp through the second trimester

[SassehMonsta]

Here we go again, the thrills & spills of leaky boobs, and feeling baby move for the first time - Lets go!

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I've thought of two more.

Negative: a new volunteer came in for an induction and turns out his mother was my horrible MH social worker a few years ago. I had to write to the manager of the CMHT to change her, she was awful.

Positive: I had a Magnum for lunch.

miraculous it sounds like you are in good hands - so many positive vibes are coming your way! X
My B is still there but it keeps having it's D moments.
Feeling like I'm bring dug in the ribs ATM tho. Like stitch almost comes and goes thing someone is playing hide and seek...

Wide awake

bighairy if we have a headache, we take paracetomols; if we are ill, we take medicine; if we are depressed, we take anti-depressants. Mental health is as important as your kidneys, liver, etc etc. If you're leg is broken, it's not failure to have plaster put on in the same way that we sometimes need antidepressants to rebalance things.
All your worries and anxieties are reasonable and there's nothing wrong with saying I need a bit of assistance because they are a bit overwhelming at the mo. It's not your fault.
Take care now.

Everything you lovely people are telling me is the stuff I would have told other people had this be happening to them. I dont feel massivly real at the minute though. Going for repeat scan today so will talk to the consultant. I am reluctant to take the ADs as they make you feel worse before you feel better, and I don't think I can take feeling much worse.

I relocated to the midlands 6 years ago and although my best friend lives 40 miles away, I haven't got a lot of support around me. When we moved here, our priority was my partners kids, and making a normal home for them at the weekends, so it's pretty much been work in the week, kids at weekends, and I haven't got a lot of friends here. Mine are all 300 miles away. I've been a bit crap at keeping in touch with people too.
My mum lives 300 miles away in a different direction and can't offer a lot of help, my dad is the same. We lost my parters' mum 4 years ago, and his Dad is not well and cant do the supportive thing either. I#d like to move back to the west counrty to be around a better support network, but we just cant

Is anyone getting major acid reflux/ indigestion ? This is annoying! Everything I eat gives me a level of burn urgh

BigHairy I'm in the same situation re location and lack of RL support. It's going to be scary but hopefully we'll manage!

Lady, Gaviscon advance is your friend. You can get it on prescription. Just make sure you ask for the mint one as the aniseed one tastes like Berty Bassetts spunk.

Peace its rubbish isnt it. I have no idea how we will cope.

In waiting room waiting for scan. They are only running an hour late.

Hey, only an hour late? Result

We moved to Surrey from Hampshire for DH's work (he was fed up of commuting), but now we're trapped because he can't walk away from a stable job. I'm fine without my parents being nearby, but I miss my brother and sister terribly, and it means I've lost touch with all my friends so I'm really isolated. Getting a job helped, but obviously that isn't going to be around for much longer. Hope the school mums are nice and friendly!

I know what you mean about isolation ladies. I moved here (Netherlands) from the UK 7 years ago to be with DH. Have had to start again from scratch and really miss my friends and family, particularly my DM and my DSis's. I have a few good friends who I've made either through my job (though it seems to take a long time to move from the colleague zone to the friend zone) or through the language classes I took the first few years I've been here. MN was a lifesaver during my last pg. Even though my Dutch is pretty good now, I still find it hard to make friends in the language.

Just out! We're having a girl!
I have suspected as much since the beginning.

Congrats BigHairy!! Hope that brightened your mood

I think yes it has!

Delighted for you, spider!

I think I am happy for two reasons; I have been thinking of this baby as female from the beginning so I am glad that I don't have to change my perception, and also my partner has two boys already and whilst this is the first time I have gone through this, it's not new to him so having a girl will be a first for him too. His boys will be happy too as they requested a sister. :)

How are you doing Miraculous?

Does anyone have any thoughts on this?

DH and I had always said we wanted the sex of our babies to be a surprise. Since TTTS diagnosis we've discussed (at least the idea of) finding out. I'm finding it hard to articulate why that might be a good thing (although I do accept that it really could be) but DH is a bit more certain than me. He thinks that with the surgery this week and therefore the high chance of losing one or both of them soon, we'd be better off knowing first.

Part of it is possibly naming the babies before they are born, so they have an identity even if they don't make it. Some of it is surely about bonding with them too, though how much of that helps us to continue the positive track we're on and how much potentially makes everything harder when it doesn't go right, I do not know. But to find out while there's still hope for them both or to have to find out under such awful circumstances?

Under a little bit of pressure to decide, probably by the scan on Thursday, as the surgery is on Friday and the time immediately after it is crucial.

Open to opinions/ reasonings either way...

Woops! Hi spider. I'm okay - doing well mentally but the body's a bit tired today so I'm taking it really easy and I've called off a day out with a friend and her son. DH woke me up before 8am - thrashing around in the kitchen, and then phoned just as I was dozing off for a nap so he's just made up for it by making a lovely lunch and being a sweetie (goddamn it I can never stay mad at him). Very active babies today and I definitely felt the little dude moving, which makes me so happy!

Re the isolation stuff - people keep telling me you make lots of new friends through ante-natal and mum-and-baby stuff like bounce and rhyme classes, etc. Is it true?! Just hoping that would help some of you...

Miraculous I think in your shoes I would find out, but I'm also struggling to articulate why exactly.

bighairy congrats on team pink. I was starting I feel down about my pregnancy as I hate uncertainty and when I didn't know what they were I was having a bit of a downer about everything as I felt out of control. The moment I knew they were boys the happier I felt instantly like it was real. miraculous personally I would find out. You can look at it on whatever way you want bit it may help you bond and become more positive in a way. I happily talk about the boys now rather than twins, gives them more of an identity I feel.

Support wise I am very lucky to have moved home with my parents (financially this was the best way forward) and since finding out we were having a BOGOF emotionally I/we will have the support plus OH family is a stone throw away. I don't know how id cope to without family and friends close by. It really does make me admire you guys moving away I don't think I could do it x

Miraculous I think in your shoes I would want to find out simply because if the worst happened, I'd hate to have not given them that extra bit of identity, regardless of whether it hurt me more to know if that makes sense?

God sorry, that was negative - I'd also want to know in order to help me bond with both of them individually, instead of just thinking of them collectively as "the babies".

Had my 20w scan today. All fine, apart from baby wouldn't flip over to show the nice sonographer its* spine (and was hiding its face in the placenta) so we need to go back next Tues to have another go at checking for spina bifida and cleft palate. I even ate chocolate to encourage it to dance!
*You'll notice that we have decided not to find out the gender :)

Sad story for the young lady in front of me though. She was there with her partner and mum for her 13w scan and came out (late) crying. My heart goes out to her and hope that whatever was the problem is something fixable.

I agree with bighairy. It feels so much more real knowing and I'm feeling that I can bond with my baby more knowing it's a she rather than an it. The surprise will still be there-just a little earlier than expected!

Ooofff. How do you ladieswith other children.do it?! Just took two 6yr olds.and a 7yr old (all girls) on the trains to London Natrual History Museum, as part of a larger group outing. Absolutley knackered doesnt even begin to cover it! 1 overground & 2 underground trains, and a minibus each way. All they wanted to do really was draw pictures, so lots of peacocks, spiders and t-rexs were drawn - didnt get to see much else!! Far too warm, dont do it!

Baby kicks more in the afternoon & evening. Currently having a roll around as im just getting settled on the sofa. Thank goodness I can give them back at the end of the day & that I have time to grow into my parent role before they turn 6!!

Not much else to add, except I was also torn about finding babys sex, but DH was quite.adamant not to. We're leaning towards team pink though!

Im usually an accountant, not childcare but my mum runs a holiday playscheme and.needed a hand. I orginally only agreed tocferry kids to the train station!