Dec 2014 Thread #5 - Battered and bruised we limp through the second trimester

[SassehMonsta]

Here we go again, the thrills & spills of leaky boobs, and feeling baby move for the first time - Lets go!

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My sister is getting married first week of August and I'm skint so I got a £29 dress from Bon Marche. It's very pink

Oh no! Stretchmarks appeared on my right boob overnight! They certainly were NOT there yesterday :-( wheres the damn stretchmark cream that came free in the bounty pack......

I've got a wedding next weekend, bought a cheap but colourful shift dress from H&M in one size up and hoping to wear some decent shoes even though heels are exacerbating my clumsiness at the moment!

Morning!

Yay - so nice to hear from so many of you in the last couple of days.
I picked this up from a mat-wear thread www.everything5pounds.com/ that someone had posted on because so many of the dress styles have gathers at the front even if they're not mat dresses. Plus, at 5 quid you could get a few and take your pick! I also have a colleague who says her sister always buys really nice stuff off that website. I'd watch out for the ones that are already cut higher at the front though! Depends how big your bump is. I wore a maxi dress my sis gave me last night (went to watch the Commie Games opening ceremony dress rehearsal) and it was so comfy and looked so nice I now want to live in it.

So, yesterday's scan was epic. Doctors all on holiday so my Ob had a long chat last Friday with the one covering the hol - it seems they had expected my twins to take a turn for the worse over the weekend and probably be at least at Stage 2 by Monday. Not so. My little miracles are actually showing some very positive signs - healthy bladders, hearts, brains, good Doppler studies, and the wee one has an INCREASED amniotic pool, after being almost stuck to the side on Friday. She spent absolutely ages going through as much detail as she could and made the point that, looking at my little one, "you just wouldn't see a sick baby moving like that". And they're growing at the same rate!!! So, like absolutely nobody predicted, we're still in the relative safety of Stage 1 two weeks on from a TTTS diagnosis with no traceable signs of suffering/ developmental damage. Now, obviously it could still change very rapidly and I'd have to have the emergency surgery but right now these amazing little people are making the very best of what they've got and I've got excellent care. Feeling so, so lucky and full of hope right now.

Today is fun - I'm going to see a friend's outdoor theatre piece nearby and then spending the day out of town with my oldest, bestest friend who I hardly ever see and her ten yr old son. Beach or lido I hope!

Epic update as usual - I never knew I had so much to say...

20+2 and still can't feel a thing!

That's amazing news miraculous - big well done to you and your little fighters!!

I managed to get a lacy next mat dress for 25 quid in the sale for a wedding - not arrived yet but hoping it flatters and not frumps!

That's amazing news miraculous, so pleased for you.

Bought some cullots for work. They frumped.

Miraculous you and your little people are amazing. xx

miraculous that is amazing news!! you must be delighted. Fingers crossed for you that all continues well.

cuppa I had the same dilemma as you a few weeks back and put a post on the general pg page about recommendations as I felt I was too small for maternity and too big for normal clothes. Based on the recommendations I got a fantastic dress off Great Plains - its non-maternity. I was 19 weeks when I wore it.
www.greatplains.co.uk/product/Woman+Sale+Dresses/J1BBB/Gracie+Garland+Tunic+Dress.htm
i got it in the cream colour. Don't mind the model. Im 5ft 6 and it came to my knees so a good length. It also had loads of room in it. I bought it at £30 and its now down to £18! Got lots of compliments on it too. It's perfect as the flowers down the edges give that slimming effect.
I also ordered a load of stuff of asos, both non-mat and mat and some of the stuff was gorge, although i plumped for the great plains dress.
Also, another girl at the wedding was wearing a gorgeous navy lace dress from next maternity. Really beautiful and elegant so I would check out their stuff too.

Have a good day peeps xx

20+1

Also ladies, I purchased some maternity spanx. They are so comfortable, way better than the normal ones and definitely made me feel more glam.

Amazing news miraculous!! It must be a very worrying situation to be in but at least you get to see your little ones every few days!

Loving everyone's bumps! Mine seems to get progressively bigger throughout the day.

I'm not officially not working I was in a probation period at work and 2 people complained about me (both times were shortly before being sick at work so will put my "shortness" with them down to that!) so I decided to leave rather than fight to stay on at a job that I hate that makes me so tired and grumpy when I want to be enjoying the sun and growing my bubba

Fab news miraculous. They really are little fighters!!

Had our scan and yet again we had a very uncooperative little bean! When we got there s/he was lying with legs over its head. Have now got to go back for another scan in 2 weeks so they can fully check out the heart and spine as they couldn't get clear enough shots.

Placenta is also still very low and blocking the exit so another scan booked for 32 weeks and if it hasn't moved it's a sunroof exit for me

Somerset sorry to hear that! It must have been really stressful for you :( did you tell them you're pregnant? I've decided to stop working after maternity (I think) but my friend keeps trying to talk me out of it she's annoying me by talking down all the decisions I settle on (like my dream pram). Bah!

It's amazing how many opinions people have about your own choices when pregnant. Me and DH have worked out that I need to go back to work full time after maternity which will mean baba is in nursery full time and the amount of people who have frowned on that is really irritating. Ironically I would love to be a stay at home mum but if I mention that other people take issue with that too and say how 'unfeminist' it is grrrrrrr.

I'm also stressing out a bit today as I had a uti diagnosed on Friday and the nurse practitioner that I saw prescribed me some antibiotics (she even went and checked with another doctor that they were fine to give me) so I trusted her and dutifully started taking them twice a day. Read the literature this morning (not really sure what prompted me to do so) and it clearly states not to be given to pregnant women. Cue me panicking and googling it, it even says on the nhs website it should not be prescribed. Phoned my GPs and spoke to a doctor who told me that it can cause neural development defects so to stop taking it. I should be fine supposedly because I'm in the second trimester and the main concerns are if it is taken in early pregnancy so got told not to worry but I can't help thinking that some harm might have been done

Mrs w how awful. I hate having to see the nurse practitioner at my surgery. The one time I saw them she had to keep going to see the dr to see what could be prescribed. But you would think the dr could get it right! I have refused since to see them and insisted I see the dr because if being pregnant.

I'm sure everything will be fine as we are in our second tri and everything has developed. Try not to worry too much (so much easier said than done I know).

Sending you hugs.

Thanks Lisa, I am trying to think rationally about it but I'm a natural born worrier.

I have my 20week scan on Friday so I'm just hoping that everything is fine and developed as normal

Anyone else turning into a werewolf or just me? I've never really bothered removing the hair on my thighs because I don't wear revealing clothes and, basically, I don't give a shit about it. It was always soft and short and blonde. Now, though? It's thick and dark and about an inch long I feel like a furry animal, and this bothers me because I'm not the sort of person to care whether I have hairy legs or not, usually :(
So what evolutionary purpose does this sudden hairiness serve?

Lisa, what was the antibiotic?

I too was given the wrong one by my GP for a UTI and my midwife told me if it came back, to phone triage !

oh daddy I wasn't given any antibiotic it was MrsW who was given the wrong one. Mine was to do with antihistamines as I was struggling with hayfever

Peace I didn't go back to work after having DS, and it's the best decision we ever made (obviously aside from having DC and getting married), it wouldn't have been financially beneficial for me to work as DR would need to be in nursery in central London (that's where I worked) as neither DH or myself work locally to where we live and I would have to pay my (very high) train fare so would probably have cost is more.

Ignore your friend, if it's financially possible for you to stay at home and it's what you want, you should definitely do it

I would love to not back to work after this baby.

I went back to work after 7 months with DD and found it really hard, I was doing 3 days a week in the office and extra hours from home and it was just too much - just felt like I wasn't doing my job very well or being a mum very well and housework etc didn't even come into the equation!

I've changed my job now for less hours and something closer to home but I would still rather not have to work at all!

If we can afford it or find a way then I will stay at home

Oohdaddy it was trimethoprim. I've had subsequent phone calls from the GP who have assured me that no harm will have been done as it was 2nd trimester. however they have admitted that there are alternatives that are always preferred to this so I'm still annoyed that it was prescribed in the first place and caused me to worry.

We can just about afford to live without me working, but we wouldn't be able to save at all. But I earn so little that it would be swallowed up by childcare costs, which would make everyone miserable, I think. My friend seems to think that I will need respite from the baby and that work will provide that. I'm not going to pretend that I won't find it extremely difficult staying at home with a baby, but I think going to work as well is going to tip me over the edge. She goes on about how I need to consider MY health, but I think with how unstable I am anyway, trying to fit too much in would be unhealthy for me. She is in the same industry and knows how stressful and consuming it can be.

I had a massive wobble today and am so weepy. Stupid things are tipping me over (DH forgot he promised to take me swimming last night, my mum and my sister sent anniversary cards to the wrong address, I'm a hairy beast, I have to go to work tomorrow, etc) and I feel pathetic but everything spirals out of all proportion in my head. I had a psychotic five minutes at lunch time where I was convinced I'd kill the baby giving birth to it so I might as well kill myself now. I'm calm now, but my god, it would be so nice to just not be a loon for a day and have normal thoughts!

Pregnancy doesn't suit me :(

Oh peace, please don't worry. You seem to be doing amazingly so far! I guess we never know how we are going to cope when the baby arrives but as long as you have the support you need and you do what you feel is best for you and your baby in your situation I'm sure you will be an fantastic mum

MrsW Im really cross on behalf that the nurse and GP made you worry so unnecessarily. But it's great you get see your little one on the scan really soon. that will put your mind at rest.

Sorry you're feeling so up and down Peace. you know that these thoughts are irrational though, you wont harm your baby giving birth. pregnancy takes a huge toll on our bodies AND minds. and if you are already feeling fragile then it can be very difficult. please be kind to yourself x

Miraculous2 this is such amazing news that your twinnies are fighting so hard. they are determined little things aren't they! is the next scan on Wednesday? fingers crossed little one has even more fluid :)

I had one of those annoying moments today where I wish I could just tell people to stop poking their noses in my business. I know that pregnancy is fascinating and people like to chat about how it's going etc but just now in the office this lady who I don't really know very well came over with wide eyes and said "wow look how big you're getting, what are you eating?!?!?!?!?!??!". I was quite shocked!!!! I'm a size 8-10 who happens to grow preggo bellies that look like a beachball up my top. I get big very quickly and look much further along than I am. BIG DEAL!!! STOP BEING SO RUDE!!!! I should have said I'm glad I'm getting bigger because it means the baby is growing. I just ended up saying something lame about hoping it doesn't get too big in there. bla bla bla.

Baby's been doing a merry jig in there today. A couple of times I've had to get up from my desk and go for a walk to try and get it back to sleep. Funny, being a mum before it's even arrived. Ofcourse we are all mummies to our beans :)

I went back to work full time after DD. I had to financially, we need the money. She goes to nursery 2 days a week and then 2 days with my parents. Me and DH work condensed hours so that 1 of us is off with her on a Friday. This is how we've made it financially viable. If she was in nursery 5 days a week it could be a very different story. I'm hoping to take 10 months again with DS but we're literally in the process of moving house (bigger mortgage, ouch) so we'll have to see how far the money goes. I think I'd ideally like to go part time. As much as I adore being with DD as much as I can, I think she really benefits so much from going to nursery and I do also benefit from having some adult time at work. Hopefully if we can have DC3 some time fairly soon after this one then part time may be an option.

right, it's home time for me, can't wait to go and see my crazy little toddler!

sorry you're having a day peace! Damon hormones Ready great to hear about your 2 little fighters miraculous! how amazing! I've got everything crossed for you! MesA I was given trimethoprim about 14wks. Came home, read the sheet, phoned the chemist cause the docs was shut, and she told me not to take it and phone the docs on Monday. my gp however was quite indignant that in the second trimester it was safe! left me in a real quandry, cause I felt clearing the infection was really iimportant as I've had a prem before. wasn't sure how I could go back to the doctors and ask for something else, so I took it. doesn't seem to have done any harm, but have my full 20 wk scan on Thursday, so Xx!!