November 2014- Thread 6- Pink, blue or yellow? 20 week scans coming up for the rainbow collective

[Alita7]

Wow this makes me feel so far along! Nearly halfway!

Well it turns out my stretchmarks were just bad scratches that I must've done myself without knowing, as this morning they've all disappeared! How embarressing!

But maybe no harm to get a fright - snapped me out of my smugness that I wouldn't get any. Now I feel like I got my wobble out of the way for later on!

I'm married but I didn't change my name. But am giving baby DH's name just cos double-barrelled doesn't appeal and it'd be quite an ugly mouthful. So my name will be different to baby's and DH's but I don't find I care, tbh. Neither does DH. Its not as if it'll make me any less wife & mum. I doubt it'll ever even come up!

I'm not married to DP either. We're going to use both our surnames as baby's surnames (not double barrelled), but just use hers for day to day use. So the baby will be Firstname Middlename MYSURNAME HERSURNAME, but known as Firstname HERSURNAME.

Hopefully this should be enough for going abroad, I've heard horror stories from mothers who don't share a surname with their child!

Hi, had my scan and having another boy!! Boy number 3 for us. He wasn't shy either haha! Happy that everything appears healthy with him and will need to buy some winter newborn clothes for him as my other boys are summer born. Glad everyone else seems to have positive scans too.

I got married last year when dd was 16 months and didn't change my name. Dd has her father's name as it's much nicer sounding that way :) have had zero admin or airport problems since, happily.

oh groan, my bellybutton has been an outie since about 16 weeks this time around. Hate it, but still no stretchmarks to report either, I wonder could I possibly be so lucky again - I doubt it!

Congrats to all with happy scan and engagement news! And very sorry about your grandad pink.

Lovely evening here at the blustery beach followed by dinner with dd and dh at the local italian. I'm off to buy some sneaky icecream while he does bedtime...

Congratulations 2boys ....or should I say 3boys ????

Thank you Amylou! Was a complete surprise as i felt like it was a girl. Be nice to see them playing together. Was a definate boy though as would be a funny girl from what i saw!??

We want to get married but it's not financially possible for now. I'm also bothered about not having the same surname and I'm very interested In the statutory name change thing so I'll pm you on fb posy! Would it be weird to have a mini name changing party like a mini wedding and then properly get married when we could afford it?

And congrats on scans!

Morning ladies.
Getting bigger again here which are is reassuring. Regular movement too so feel properly pregnant. I've got my childhood best friend coming for dinner with her DH tonight and she's about 8 weeks ahead of me (so 30 weeks). I've not seen her since we got pregnant so that'll be exciting. She's generally a bit bigger than me so I reckon we'll look completely different.

Morning ladies! Just having a quick catch up, not been on this thread for a week or so as we went to France for a long weekend - heavenly but saying no to all that wine was torture! - and busy work week, plus been laid low with a horrendous cough and cold so am feeling quite sorry for myself!

Congratulations on all the happy scan news, and Ellie great news on the engagement

Am feeling rather whale-like at the moment - my bump popped a couple of weeks ago and has been rapidly expanding since! Am down to one yoga session a week and a bit of walking/the very occasional run so being quite lazy too compared to usual - just been too tired to be arsed!

With surnames I'm using my ex husband's name, which is very weird. But for as long as DD has his name I'm keeping it and any subsequent children will have the same name too. I'm not having a different name to my children and if the ex doesn't like it (he won't, nor will his family or girlfriend) then he needs to agree to change my daughter's name and I'll change with her and change any other children quite gladly. Till that day I have the same name as my kids, non negotiable.

I've got a stinking cold too :-( feeling really miserable. Started out as white patches on tonsils, horrendously sore throat all last weekend, now blocked sinuses, runny nose and continual sneezing and coughing, especially at night so not sleeping well :-( my pelvic floor is being tested to its limits!!

Had an antenatal class today at the hospital, it was by the women's health physio team and covered stuff like back and pelvic problems, pelvic floor exercises, relaxation techniques. Was really helpful! It was reassuring to hear them talking about the things I've started reading in my natal hypnotherapy and birth skills books. Good to hear we are all on the same page. Almost looking forward to labour...

Hi folks. Another beaut day up here in Scotland!! Sooooo nice!

Envious of your holiday tales but appeased by fact the we are Spain bound in 2 weeks!

All the name chat is interesting to me. I am happy enough for the DC to have my surnames in their double barreled names. Mrs Downey - your exdh would a problem with your 2nd DD having your name?? If it is still your surname then surely you are more than entitled to put it down for DD2??

Mogglr - love that you are looking forward to labour! :-)
Me too!

Had 2 of lazydaisy classes - really like them but as the only 2nd timer - some of others think I know what to do / expect. Hmmm no!
Finding the focus on posture / breathing etc useful.

DP took cramp in his leg last night. I was sympathetic but felt it was a good time to tell him that he was to imagine that in his abdomen for a few hours to understand labour. He was pale at the thought!

Mrs Dj in your circumstances what other name could you be expected to use if you haven't changed your own name already.... logically you would call your child by your surname If there no Dad!

DP agrees we can change my name so quite excited to do that :)

Stupidly traditional in our house, I even checked that my change of name for marriage would reflect on all my abtena

...antenatal stuff before I went ahead and booked midwife. Silly really cos we'd owned a house together for 6 or 7 yrs before we got married!

As all my parents' other grandchildren are girls though I thought it might be nice to incorporate their names into name of child. So if boy first name, dad's unusual middle name, my married name. If girl first name, mum's unusual unused (goes by middle name) first name, my married name.

...antenatal stuff before I went ahead and booked midwife. Silly really cos we'd owned a house together for 6 or 7 yrs before we got married!

As all my parents' other grandchildren are girls though I thought it might be nice to incorporate their names into name of child. So if boy first name, dad's unusual middle name, my married name. If girl first name, mum's unusual unused (goes by middle name) first name, my married name.

When we got married I kept my surname to save all the formalities and also thinking about carrier related issues like asking ex-employers for references with a surname they dont recognise me (I have been living/working in 3 diff.countries altogether). Also DH has so very English surname that me being a foreigner, I would feel like a fraud wearing such a surname, while it was also important to keep a link to my own roots.
Now that the baby is on its way, initially I thought it would be DH surname only, but then I've started to consider both surnames even though in day-to-day life it would probably be only DH surname used. Thought it would give DD option in the future to use both surnames and be more distinguished amount thousands of people with the same surname. Also I can see having probs in airports. Imagine a foreigner with a foreigner passport (at least it is EU one for goodness sake!!) in Heathrow trying to take abroad a baby with a British passport and British surname. I will be constantly visiting airport police offices trying to prove that it is MY baby and I am not part of infant trafficking or something.

moggle I attended an antenatal class today too, and from your description it was the same one!

It was very good although I'm beginning to get worried that I might not actually have a pelvic floor... I think I'll have to ask my midwife for help with the exercises

Haha bunnykitten really?! I did wonder if anyone from this thread was there as I know there are a few from the area on here :-) it was stuffy in there wasn't it!! I was on the front row and said i had the iphone app for pelvic floor exercises (swot that I am!). And kept coughing / blowing my nose...

Alita in all honesty whether I had a partner or not this would be non negotiable for me. I have the same name as my children, no arguments, no double barrels, unless DD changes hers we all stay with ex husband's. My ex boyf last year was in a right tizz about it (not that I would ever have had a baby with him!) but tough luck. I'm doing the pg, birth, breastfeeding, nappies, care etc, it's 2014, he can change his name if he wants to be the same but I'm not budging on this one. I don't particularly want my married name, I hate the name and I hate being connected to him, but I will be connected with my children.

weeonion he's already kicked up a stick that apparently I contrived this pg just to cause him trouble and upset, ruin his reputation and make him look like a bad father, he's humiliated that people will assume this one is his and embarrassed that he will have to explain forever that the 2 siblings are not both his. He's also taken it to mean that I'm still hooked on him and living in a dream world that this is his. Erm... no.

moggle I was in the second row by the windows that only opened an inch, so I was just behind you! Small world!

I feel a bit boring now being married and having the same surname compared to you lot!! :-p

Emotional/hormonal day today.
Had just finished hanging up the washing outside and the metal pole in the centre snapped. Actually snapped, which made the washing line fall into me. Had no clue what to do, no other adults to help me, stood in the garden crying my eyes out :-(
Managed to get it all off, went to playgroup with DD who wouldn't play, kept crying and clinging to me, so i sat there crying as well with friends coming over and giving me tissues all the time, lovely morning!!
Went into school to help with sports day this afternoon so that made me feel a bit better! Hope i'm a bit stronger tomorrow!