November 2014- Thread 6- Pink, blue or yellow? 20 week scans coming up for the rainbow collective

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Wow this makes me feel so far along! Nearly halfway!

Just catching up with you all- sorry been AWOL for the past week. I met up with my first mumsnetter today which was lovely

Barmy we aren't finding out, although hubby is really keen to. Hoping I don't give in to temptation at the scan....

Good luck for your exam crazybit!

That's it Tigsy, we have supposedly decided not to find out so I need to just avoid temptation . I am impressed some of you are finding out but not telling anyone, I wouldn't be much good at keeping it quiet!

I have had my Mum on the phone tonight saying we must hurry and choose a cot and they will buy a pram for their house... And they will take the baby overnight the odd night in the first few weeks to give us a break... I know she is trying to help, but there is no way anyone, grandparents included, will be taking my baby to sleep in another house overnight when he/she a week or so old!! I am not really sure why she thinks they need a pram either, but I will put that down to excitement and hope she forgets about it!

Anyone else finding themselves reacting irrationally to things more than usual? I seem to be absolutely seething about one thing or another every day at work at the moment when I would usually let it wash over me and keep quiet. I will be glad to get to the summer holidays!

We're not finding out (although I don't have my scan until I'm 21+4!) and we've chosen names for either. They're being kept secret though so we have something that's just for us.

Barmy your comment about your mum had me lol. First grandchild?

Hello!

18+1 today and exactly two weeks to our scan. I don't want to know the sex but DP and DS do. I'm afraid I over rule them. My compromise is that we find out and not tell ANYONE but I don't think the secret will be kept somehow and I don't mean DS.

Hello ladies, I've finally caught a thread early enough, normally I arrive too late and there are hundreds of posts (let's hope the baby doesn't take after me!) We're had decided we weren't finding out, but the temptation is beginning to make me twitch...!

We did with ds but aren't with this one.. Part of me would like to know just because I think it helped bonding last time but dh is keen for a surprise this time..

20 weeks today!!

We are finding out. We weren't going to but it has been so miserable so far with the sickness that we thought it would be something nice for a change.

Plus hoping it will help with the bonding. Scan not until next week though.

We're not finding out but I currently need some reminding of why exactly we've chosen to do that!! scan is 1 week tomorrow and I'm starting to waver...

I decided I have to tell everyone, we couldn't find out and not tell the kids and dsd would accidentally tell people if we told her not to. She is surprisingly good with secrets BUT she will looking at dresses in shops in front of people or accidentally saying he.
We then thought about telling only close friends and family but I decided that I couldn't be bothered to hide it and gender guessers drive me mad if I don't ask them what they think, so I think I just need to nip all that in the bud!!!!

We're finding out, mainly because DP can't stand the anticipation but I'm really looking forward to finding out too. We're convinced it's a girl and only have a girls name. We've tried for a boys name but we can't even get close to agreeing!

I'm away with work, Dubai, Prague, Munich, all in 5 days and one of the hotels treated me to a pregnancy massage last night - amazing! My arse is killing me though, she said it needed the attention at this stage and got stuck right into my cheeks with her elbow! Feel like I fell down the stairs :) Definitely feel less tense though. Home tomorrow, cannot bloody wait. This baby is making me a homebody!

Morning all!

We aren't finding out gender either, though this was DP's choice not mine! I'm thinking I might have a sneaky peek during the scan at the end of the month though and try to discern it for myself. We have also picked names for both, though we may change our minds of course! We like either Jasmine or Evie for a girl and Harry or Archie for a boy. I also really like Aoife for a girl, but DP is not as keen (yet!).

barmy, I am in that boat. I had a fit of rage followed by hysterical tears last night because DP couldn't decide if he wanted mash or new potatoes with his fishcakes .

and got stuck right into my cheeks with her elbow!

Oh my God, I just choked on my smoothie and now the whole office know I'm clearly not doing anything productive. Darn you, lady!

found you! !

Had a 2 hour exam to invigilate yesterday. Was awful, ended up in pain by the end of it.

Work are making life hell atm. I've gone from being one of the team, with responsibilities and being kept in the loop to being excluded, made to feel I do a shit job, and crap hoyrs all sunce I told them I was pregnant I wish I could leave but don't think that's possible

hours since

stupid phone

I already know its a boy and its really helped me bond with the baby. There have been all these complications, so was too scared to feel too close, but now I know it's a little person, a little boy in there I'm feeling much better. I know we're going to be ok now!

We also told everyone. Bit disappointed with oh's dad's response who is pleased it's a boy because he didnt want another girl in the family. Say what?? Who cares what it is a long as its healthy!

Winter, I'm sorry work is being so crap after you told them your pregnant. It's really unfair.

wombat that's the very reason we aren't finding out. I tried to find some compromise and agreed we could find out if we then kept it to ourselves but DH wasn't willing to do this so we aren't finding out at all! Scan next friday- coming around quickly now as been busy so lots of distractions to stop me thinking about it!

Barmy haha love the sentiment but totally with you on not wanting anyone to have your baby so early on- well meaning behind the thought but seems like a ridiculous idea to me!

At the moment I am thinking we won't find out, but a little part of me would like to :-) that part might win out, who knows! We have been offered lots of clothes, so would be convenient to find out beforehand, but as we are moving in a couple of months we wouldn't really want to get the clothes before then anyway, so perhaps better to wait!

I would love the surprise to be at the birth- more for telling other people than for myself. I don't think we would be able to keep it to ourselves so that's not an option!

moggle that's exactly how I feel :/
I think I might just want to not find out to be "different" which is really wanky.

Haha miskate me too, a bit! I just always thought I would never find out, and now it is more common to find out, part of me is even more determined to be different!
One thing I have been thinking is that to me it makes a lot of sense to find out for DC2- for planning what to get down from the loft, future bedroom purposes etc. so if I would find out for DC2 (should we be lucky enough to have another), perhaps good to experience both options and NOT find out for this one!

PLAN!

Is anyone not really feeling that pregnant still? I have put on 2lbs and my tummy is bigger but as in I've had a lot of food rather than there is a baby in there. My boobs are sore and it feels like there is more blood in me (sounds weird but I can feel my heartbeat more than normal). All was fine w heartbeat etc at 16 week midwife appt.
I was a size 16 to start off with so there is some chub to hide the baby but I really want to look pregnant!

Ahhh so exciting all these scans fast approaching! Mine feels ages away as only 16 weeks today...MW app tomorrow morn. Will be finding out tho, did with DD...although they got it wrong so thought it was a boy for most of pregnancy until had a 4d scan near end and they told me 'no it's definitely a girl'!!! good job we hadn't painted nursery blue or anything!!!

I am a maternity night nanny and have had babies overnight from a few days old just a couple nights a week sometimes a single baby generally multiples. I stay at their home and parents sleep whilst I attend to babies overnight usually 9/10pm-6/7am I doze when babies sleep. I also offer advice n support on baby care n routines. Some I am booked before baby born more often it's after 3/4wks when parents are so exhausted and want some sleep.

I understand u not wanting your mum to have baby overnight at hers but u may compromise n have her at yours??? I wouldn't but then will be exclusively breast feeding n for first 4wks know this can be every 2hrs n feeds lasting an hr.