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December 2014 Thread #4

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miraculous2 · 02/06/2014 23:01

Stats anyone?! Grin

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CatFaceCrayola · 23/06/2014 11:08

Thanks for the advice/support ladies. Am very scared but am going to make sure something gets done on Wed.
it's good to know it's not just me and that there are other people struggling and that maybe it's not "normal/just hormones"

LisaC2611 · 23/06/2014 11:29

Hoping everything is ok for Emily, hope to hear from her soon.

I had the weirdest dream last night, can't remember all the details of it, just remember that me and DH had a real humdinger of a row (which we never do) and when I woke up this morning I had the raging hump with him, and he hadn't even done anything (other than been in my dream), poor man, I was so humpy with him, that I didn't even want to kiss him goodbye (which of course I did as I managed to pull myself out of the mood and realise it was just a dream)!

Got our scan on Thursday to find out whether there are any markers for the high risk result we got back last week, am feeling a bit anxious about that so wonder if the dream was a reflection of that?

16+2 today

PresidentSpreadable · 23/06/2014 12:37

Oh Lisa, it certainly sounds like it, stress always makes my dreams go a bit wonky. I do hope that you get a clearer view on Thursday, the odds are in your favour.

Thanks Peace. I'm up and down really, last week was particularly grim though, I felt quite murderous! Bloody hormones.

Peaceloveandbiscuits · 23/06/2014 14:56

Went to the doctor and told her I was struggling and going downhill, told her about the flashback I'd had and that I couldn't stop crying most days. She said, oh well moving is stressful. Now you need to lose weight because the risks are terrible and you have a good reason to lose it now, don't you? I started crying and told her I'd always had a good reason but it's hard and doctors don't believe my lifestyle and diet. She said, well, you need to be honest with yourself. I walked out.
Now I'm in the chemist crying.

CoddledAsAMommet · 23/06/2014 14:57

I'm an end-of-the-monther, too. Due Boxing Day.
I saw the Consultant today. It turns out a huge ovarian cyst I had removed 3 years ago was actually cancer, and no-one thought to tell me! Well, maybe they thought they'd said it but it certainly wasn't what I heard. I had to have a scan on my remaining ovary and thankfully all looks normal there though the Consultant will keep a close eye on it over the next 6 months and beyond.
My eldest Dd (12) is being lovely, really taken with the idea of a new baby. The 7 year old on the other hand......!!

Peaceloveandbiscuits · 23/06/2014 14:58

I feel impulsive and suicidal. I was banking on this appointment helping me to feel better. Blah.

PresidentSpreadable · 23/06/2014 15:01

That doctor sounds like an unsupportive arsehole Peace, I swear if anyone mentions my weight I will do some shouting.

Did she actually advocate dieting whilst pregnant? My midwife was horrified by the idea. I do know someone who lost weight whilst pregnant thanks to following a special diet to control GD, but otherwise it's not advised.

Oh I'm furious on your behalf!

Peaceloveandbiscuits · 23/06/2014 15:05

She said I need to be honest with myself and eat less of everything. I'm sitting outside just crying and crying, I don't know what to do.

Peaceloveandbiscuits · 23/06/2014 15:06

I tried to be assertive but I just started wailing.

CallingAllEngels · 23/06/2014 15:09

Oh peace what a complete cow.

PolytheneGirl · 23/06/2014 15:17

Peace I'm so sorry your feel so down, these people really don't help. I've come across doctors like this in the past. I think that when you are feeling up to it you should call the practice and speak to the manager, explain why you visit and how the doc made you feel and ask to be seen by another doctor.

I took ADs right through my 1st pg and honestly don't know how if have got through without it. I also went to an A/N support group for expectant mothers with anxiety or depression which I was refered to by my mw which was really helpful.

Please don't lose hope. We've just got to get you talking to the right person. The help is out there I promise.

CoddledAsAMommet · 23/06/2014 15:31

Peace- I'd agree with going back to the doctor and seeing someone different. Nobody should talk to you that way, especially as you're there BECAUSE you're feeling low. Pregnancy can be a really lonely time- please go back and see someone else.

CatFaceCrayola · 23/06/2014 15:47

Oh peace poor you. That dr sounds like an absolute knobhead. I agree you should ring and ask to see someone else.

I treated myself to some sushi for lunch (was very good and avoided any raw fish, stuck mostly to veggy stuff) and I have just spent the last half hour being violently sick. Seems to have passed now but yuck :(

16+1

PresidentSpreadable · 23/06/2014 15:51

I think Polythene's suggestion is a great one. If you don't feel that you can manage a phonecall, would your partner or a friend be able to do it for you. I may talk the talk on here, but I have a habit of dissolving into tears at everything at the moment, so would probably be in the same boat as you.

You are going to be fine, and your baby is going to be fine. Yes, being overweight is not ideal, but neither is it the worst crime in the world. You're hardly puffing on a crack pipe and chugging vodka are you? As long as you doing your best to eat healthily and not mainlining sugar and rubbishy carbs, then you have nothing to worry about.

Some healthcare professionals really need to get to grips with the fact that not everyone with a higher BMIs are doughnut scoffing couch potatoes, it's such an ignorant and outdated view. My midwife looked really sceptical when I told her how much exercise I did and what I ate, I felt like showing her my cycle computer, my fitness pal, and pedometer app. Actually, maybe I will next time.

htbftm · 23/06/2014 15:54

agreed peace go back to the doctors and tell them you need to see someone else. or go back into the chemist and get them to ring for you!! big hugs coming your way! x

Peaceloveandbiscuits · 23/06/2014 16:31

I phoned DH and then my data ran out so couldn't write on here anymore! So I went to the shop and bought a scratch card and some houmous to cheer myself up (I know, I know how to live) and walked back home.
I released all my impulsivity into a strongly-worded letter, which I wrote in my head on the way home! Now going to play a video game until DH comes home.
I thought about going back to the doctors and asking to see someone else, I was feeling that desperate (and I know what I do when I'm desperate), but I couldn't face it. It was my very first visit to that surgery and I didn't want the reception staff blacklisting me already! I will phone them or book another appointment online, though. I made an appointment with the midwife too, which is just under a month away. Weirdly the doctor told me the midwife will adjust my medication. Really? I'd rather someone with slightly more specialist training did it, tbh! The same way I wouldn't really feel comfortable having a dentist delivering my baby.

Thank you guys for being here for me today. I needed you.

Peaceloveandbiscuits · 23/06/2014 16:31

Forgot to add that I won £5 on the scratch card, so that did cheer me up a bit!!!

Bettycakes80 · 23/06/2014 16:32

Peace go back to the doctor and ask to see someone else. They're meant to be supporting you not making you cry!

DrewsWife · 23/06/2014 17:01

been out in Glasgow today. feeling full of energy. finally.

hubby bought a little nutbrown hare today.

sadly my.boobs have become super sensitive and agony so had to buy breast pads today. :( eeeek

htbftm · 23/06/2014 17:23

agreed peace go back to the doctors and tell them you need to see someone else. or go back into the chemist and get them to ring for you!! big hugs coming your way! x

Somersetgirl1990 · 23/06/2014 18:37

Peace you're doctor sounds like an absolute cow! Hope you manage to get something sorted so that you feel better soon!!

oohdaddypig · 23/06/2014 18:47

peace that is horrendous and I'm cross on your behalf. Time for a different doctor? Out of interest, is your thyroid ok?

lisa that's exactly what I do when worried. Scans are always stressful. Hopefully it reassures you.

coddled I can't believe they didnt tell you! Did they apologise? Would it change the monitoring?

Feel bad even slightly whinging given the hard time everyone is having. Still sick!

Peaceloveandbiscuits · 23/06/2014 20:56

Oohdaddypig she did ask who I'm under for my thyroid issues and was cross with me when I said no one Confused she gave me a blood test form to have done before my consultant appointment because "he will be upset if there's no recent data to work with" Confused Just generally felt like I had a massive telling off for all sorts of reasons that are out of my control. My TSH levels were good when I had them tested at 5 weeks. Thanks for asking!

Thanks again for all your support today. I haven't felt that low or out of control for months and it's terrifying.

Peaceloveandbiscuits · 23/06/2014 20:58

I completely missed Coddled's post about the cyst. That's horrendous!

miraculous2 · 23/06/2014 21:18

Hi,

Really hope those of you struggling with MH can get some proper help soon. It's really not acceptable for you not to be taken seriously so I hope it gets dealt with and you feel better cared for soon.

I feel like I'm bragging or something here but I just wanted to share that things went well at the hospital today and mum was able to make it after all. We even went to look for some big baggy trousers afterwards because all of a sudden I have nothing that fits my bottom half. I ended up buying 2XL pyjama bottoms with drawstrings. Beautiful soft cotton and very comfy - plain black so I am totally going to get away with dressing them up for going out!

Anyway, here are the twins at 16+1, today.

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