October 2014 - thread 7: blooming or just blooming hot?

[YellowWellies]

Hello all new thread!

We are dtd less but still usually at least once a week...It has certainly lost its spark though with limited positions and seems to have moved to more of a wham bam thank you mam type thing! I was explaining to dp that I could bleed for up to 6 weeks post birth and he didn't look to impressed! I'm also thinking that it will be nigh on impossible to dtd deed successfully once baby is here in our room! I think we'll have to try and sneak them in during nap times or something!

Is anyone thinking about contraception post birth Other than expecting a drought?!

Do you think it's OK to use a second hand carrycot? I'm buying a second hand off road buggy to use for longer walks and it comes with a free carrycot attachment. Might be quite handy for the newborn stage, but I feel funny about the baby sleeping in a second hand carrycot. Is it a SIDS risk? I'm reusing DD's cot and Moses basket but buying new mattresses for both. I could buy a new mattress for the carrycot too, but I think I might still feel uneasy. Am I being silly? I managed fine without a carrycot last time so I could just give it away.

Would you lot be happy using a secondhand carrycot? Talk some sense into me!

We used to have so much nookie - 5-7 times a week however it has literally fallen off the radar for both of us but we are talking about it and being caring towards each other but it's not the same...Just found out we are going to have a little girl today during the scan - DP is one of four boys, only has uncles and nephews so we were 99% sure we would follow in the family tradition with a boy, DP is in complete shock but delighted

mum2kiss I started the mini pill when DD was about 5 weeks (after a pregnancy scare ) and will probably do the same this time, except hopefully without the scare! They give you a contraception talk before you leave hospital, even though it's the last thing on your mind at that point!

Sazzle yes, those travel high chairs are great! We had one that broke in our transatlantic move but used it for travel and was handy having it at home when friends with babies came over. Definitely recommend.

I'm glad we're not the only ones with a 'quiet' sex life. Ours is a combo of pregnancy (I kind of go off sex) and bad timing - between my insomnia and his leaving for work at 5am, it honestly feels like we're not awake at the same time to shag! Also I've been moving to the spare room a lot, as when I can't sleep I hate hearing dh snore. So we actually do kind of plan it, eg make time on a Friday night. Not quite romantic but just as fun once we get started .

In other news, I finally weaned DD off the boob at nap time. She was sad and cried a bit, but it's worked! I can stop worrying about tandem feeding now and enjoy a few months before the nursing starts again.

Mum2kiss I'm thinking coil post birth. This is a new one for me, as we had IVF for DS after years of no contraception. Dd was a miracle (with plenty of shagging). And then no 3 happened when we shagged once. I'll discuss with my midwife at an appointment at some point (they do well woman checks too so i can go to them for my smears and contraception etc). Pill seems off putting as I'm rubbish at remembering to take it, and after years of pregnancy and bfing I'd quite like to have just 'normal' hormones if that makes sense.

Sex wise, we shagged 2 weeks post c-section but it was much longer post vbac (with episiotomy) - maybe 6 or 7 weeks?

We've half discussed it, I'm thinking of working on Mr Handles to go for the snip as, providing everything goes well with this baby, this will definitely be our last! I'd also quite like not to have to be the one thinking about contraception for once!

I will be going back onto the pill I think. Had implant after ds and put on a ton of weight. Also blame that for ectopic preg last year. We haven't ruled out baby number 4 so no snip for DH yet. There will be a 6 year age gap between ds and this baby and may want another sibling close in age. Haven't decided yet tho.

I was on the combined pill before this pregnancy...I've Tried The mini pill and coil in the past and have no plans of using either again...was thinking maybe the injection, or implant but a bit concerned that once they are in they're in so if they don't agree with me I'll have to live with the side effects until I can get them out of my system!

Hefner I'm using a second hand bassinet from eBay for the buggy and baby will be the fourth kid in our crib. With fresh bedding and a new mattress the SIDS risk is arguably lower as there'll be less chemical offgassing from older material / plastic than from new.

Is it considered a risk to use second hand Moses baskets? I intended to buy a new mattress for one we'd been given but never considered other risks... so much to think about, aargh!

With regards to DTD, we've been on 'pelvic rest' since week 8, which has not only meant no sex AT ALL, but no other 'activity' either. I can't decide what's been harder, lack of wine or that. We've had a few lapses on the 'activity' ban, and I definitely feel it after!

I can't use any hormonal contraception due to my blood problem - which means coil only. I'm more worried about having another coil put in than I am about labour/childbirth. It's flippin' miserable. Great once it's in though.

Both my pram and moses basket are second hand, I'll just be buying new mattress for the carrycot section of the pram and new mattress and bedding obv for moses basket too. The pram is barely 2 years old so that should be OK eh?
My libido comes and goes but is always badly timed so not much dtd at all either here, I reckon DH just doesn't want to hurt us hehe, he's still affectionate though which is nice. I need to take a mirror in the shower to deal with my bikini line region these days tho as I can't see there anymore! Doesn't make me feel that sexy these days tbh!!

Haha kirsti know what you mean. DH pointed out at scan that there was a sign up for us ladies saying not to shave but use other methods like plucking or waxing incase of c section and infection.

Reading all your posts does make me feel better was feeling like it's was only us not having sex! But it sounds like it's pretty common I can't wait for things to get back to normal (without sounding like the sex starved hussy I obviously am )
This is our last baby too so I need a super reliable method of contraception dp not prepared to have the snip (grr) and I don't feel ready to be sterilised so I'm thinking maybe the coil but don't know much about it how does it actually work if it's not hormonal? Has anyone had one? I've one friend who had it but not a good experience but I suppose everyone is different.

My waxing lady is ace and I just tell her I can't see a damn thing and can she deal with it please! She's a no holds barred kinda girl and I'm so thankful it's not an embarrassing situ. She even convinced me to wax a little lower below knicker line than I normally do near the end of my last pregnancy as she said other clients said that in the case of a emcs they will shave the area they need to cut if it's hairy! I really didn't want a scar and itchy bikini line growing back! In the end I did have an emcs and even in my trauma at the birth I was shouting "I've waxed lower don't you dare shave me!" God knows what they thought of me!

Haha Loulou I wouldn't risk a razor down there anyway, even with a mirror, Veet it is for me! I'm too shy/prudish to even have my bikini line done at a salon, medical purposes are the only times I'll be whipping my undercrackers off for a stranger!
God I hadn't even thought about postnatal contraception, probably just back on Cerazette for me.

God ladies please be so careful with veet even if you've used it for years. Last time I was pregnant about two weeks before my due dat I decided to veet the forest and managed to give myself a chemical burn even though I followed the direction and had used it a million times before. I had to go to the out of hours doctors while they peered at my fanjo! Have. Never. Been. So. Embarrassed !
The pain was excruciating this time I will be going for a wax

I don't ever want to experience the insertion of a coil again! Lol! It's not the end of the world but it's pretty unpleasant! At least with labour you get a baby at the end...With the coil I had constant cramping for days after, then spotting for anything up to a month at a time and I piled on pounds...

I was too worried about pooing whilst pushing to care about my bikini line. If you go into prem labour (I was 5 weeks early) just be Zen about your lady garden. I wasn't going to try to defuzz in early labour.

pregnant heres the link I mentioned this morning about dads to be and sex

www.babycentre.co.uk/a1005112/how-your-sex-life-will-change-as-a-dad-to-be?ModPagespeed=noscript

God I hadnt even thought about post birth contraception. I guess I'll go back on Cerazette as it seems the only thing that agrees with me.

Having sworn we're only having 1 child I'm already thinking about maybe having another 1 or 2 dont think DH is overly keen but we'll leave that decision until after the first one is born!

I've had two coils - one for 5 years, another for 2 years. First one was great - no pain on insertion, no complications. Second one was AWFUL. Part of the reason I ended up pregnant now is because it had given me period type pains permanently since I'd had it put in. They told me all was fine, was in the right place etc, but it hurt - I swear I could feel it. I just had to have it out.. and ta da, pregnant. Not unplanned, but sooner than planned. It's an unnatural pain - metal bits going into your cervix - no wonder your body protests.

I'm trying to work out whether or not it would be OK to just eat a whole cake for dinner instead of anything 'sensible'. I just want cake. All. The. Time.

Jeez Pregnant again duly noted! The girl who does my brow threading lives near me and came to my house to do my pre-wedding pampering, maybe I'll get her to come sort my fanjita and give me a pedicure and manicure or something too so it's a bit more pleasurable visit! I love having my eyelashes tinted, bet that's a no-no as well tho

kirsti that def sounds like a better plan I always go and have a bit of a pamper session before my due date some people think it's a bit crazy but it makes me feel better
yellow totally understand where you're coming from with the poo! Never understood people having a hot curry to try and start labour, what if it works? Surely it's a recipe for disaster on the pooing front
Listening to you guys I'm starting to think maybe the coil isn't the best idea haven't used contraception for so long feel like a bit of a novice!
bimky thanks for the link will have a read now :)