Pop pop pop We're all about to POP! - July 2014 thread

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Hope you like the title - like inside us, there was no room on the other thread!

Coco I'm glad you asked those questions as I've been thinking the same!! I'm also really nervous now about Tuesday! Can't believe we are having our babies on the same day! (p.s I've sent you a msg on fb)

Awake

Good luck for Tuesday coco and MrsB - will be thinking of you both!

Survived weekend with my mum, feel like I need another weekend now to get over this one and do all the things I haven't had chance to do as I've been keeping mum entertained.

Instead I have growth scan followed by day-from-hell at work. I'm ready for mat leave now - 8 days to go...

Hi Plate - also awake
To be honest I prefer being awake at this kinda time than waking at 4-5 it gives me more time to go back to sleep before waking up for the day.

Good luck to Tuesday ladies let is know how it all goes.

With regards to breastfeeding the MW will get your babies all latched on so don't worry about that. Also with DS I had no signs of milk and was worried I wouldn't produce anything but I was fine. Assume I had something in there the first day then the following I woke up and had a pain in my chest - not pain as such wrong word just felt sore and heavy. I thought the MWs had put baby on my chest in the night without me knowing I sat up to find the 2 massive hard and strangely square boobs I had ever seen i saware I had a few pints of milk in each boob lol. Apparently as soon as you deliver the placenta the hormones kick in & start getting your milk ready.

DP is back in the country didn't see him today he'l be home Friday but good to know he's 2 hours away so if things start happening I can call him and he can start driving! He quite seriously asked if we could have the baby first week of July as work wise that will be a slow week I actually worry about him sometimes lol. My reply 'of course babes any particular day or time suit'

Who asked about neighbours noise and home birth?
Well I live in a semi the room I plan to birth in isn't directly attached to anyone so not sure if they will hear me. However neighbours that are attached have recently bought their teenage son a drum kit - I'm calling labour pay back
Neighbour on the other side but not attached is super lovely. Iv told her I'm planning for a homebirth so if she hears screaming not to worry. She is German and believes in everything natural she said home births are quite common where she's from so she won't bat an eye lid if she hears anything.with DS I moaned and growled the while way through and screamed very loudly whilst pushing. MW kept telling me it was a waste if energy etc but for me it was my outlet I think, I don't know, but I was like a banshe. Hoping to not scream this time as DS will most likely be in the house and it is a waste if time but only time will tell.
Something worth adding to your bags thinking about it - throat sweets. Sounds odd but due to the screaming I had the worst sore throat the following day - lost my voice totally, these would have come in handy, few friends have said the same.

Why are my posts so long in the middle of he night - sorry lol.

Going to attempt sleep again now.

Night night are you in a few hours

coco completely understand your nervousness about breastfeeding- it's one of the most natural things in the world but also most scary! One of the reasons the mws advised us to expect to stay for 24 hours/one night after birth and to not rush home is so that as first timers we will have plenty of support for breastfeeding on the ward and they like to make sure we're completely comfortable before letting you go. I assume you'll be in longer than that for csection anyway so will have opportunity to make the most of their experience. I'll be taking their advice as I can't imagine anything worse than suddenly being at home on your own in the middle of the night struggling to feed a baby. We also have a breastfeeding support worker in our area from Banardos who will come to your home which may be worth seeing if you have one. And there are various support groups. I think the other good piece of advice I was given was that it's not easy especially in the first few weeks but it's so worth it if you stick with it. I know it's personal preference but I don't know why some are so against it especially after seeing how tiny the babies stomach is and how much formula you need to feed a newborn (stretching their stomach) to get the same benefit. That, the benefits and the amazing way the mothers milk adapts to baby's needs sold it for me.

Anyway I'll stop rambling now and try to get some more sleep!

justhayley glad your dp is back in the country - mine gets in tomorrow night. He's made similar comments about when baby is going to arrive not understanding that I actually have no control over it and that the due date is a given!

Yay for dh being back Hayley my dh has a similar opinion on due date (11th) would suit work well before is not an option- after Thu shock hes stopped commenting though!!!

As for breastfeeding in hospital one of my nct friends went to active birth workshop at hospital and they said some midwives can be a bit too efficient at processing to send home but not too be afraid to ask for help!

Basically they will encourage you to get home and comfortable ASAP unless you shout up that you want help with feeding bathing nappie changing clothing etc etc in which case really happy to help or might get student midwives to help you out if you are ok with that..

I'm currently researching pregnancy reflexology as a couple of friends approaching due date had it and because they relaxed baby came on time...for £40 seems good to me!

coco and MrsB hope all goes well for tomorrow! In terms of feeding, a piece of advice I found useful is to remember that in the womb your baby has been constantly fed so it is understandable they will want to eat just a little bit and often at first. If you have some time today, like I said before, look at the Kellymom website. Here is the page on what to expect with feeding a newborn.

kellymom.com/bf/normal/newborn-nursing/

We've just had a massive thunder storm. Got to get DS up now.

Some insect has bitten me twice next to my belly button.

Think that was possibly a contender for the worst night's sleep ever. Went to bed with back ache so took paracetamol - did nothing. Then an hour of mild period pain plus Braxton Hicks (which I kept trying to sleep through and failing in a 'it's not the real thing and even if it is the real thing you'll need sleep' stubbornness). Then I woke up every 1-2 hours with no pain (apart from the original back ache) but unable to get c

... Sorry for accidental posting!

In summary, I'm fed up of this pregnancy lark. At least only 5 more days of work, but can't believe there could be another 5-6 weeks of being pregnant.

Will stop moaning now.

Morning

Still feeling absolutely shattered and been in stupid tears most of the weekend. Try and hide it from DS but when trying to explain to DH how I feel (exhausted from not having a full nights sleep now for 8 months, running round after a scrumptious toddler all day every day, uncomfortable, heavily pregnant - the list goes on - whilst he is sleeping, doing plenty of exercise (!), meeting new people and generally having all sorts of freedom) I do get upset and it makes me feel so bad having DS come up and give me a cuddle asking why mummy's sad. Feel bad for being miserable in front of DH too. I just feel like such a dull, negative zombie at the moment and just want to start feeling like myself again.

Good luck to those who get to meet their babies tomorrow!! How incredibly exciting. Hope it all goes smoothly and don't worry about feeling worried or nervous. Whichever way baby decides to come out is something everyone will feel worried and nervous!

Hayley and Maggie. So pleased your DHs are either back or should be back very soon. Hope your DH is ok Maggie but as you say it is going to hit home at some stage, especially when all the rushing about getting things organised is sorted.

And well done plate for surviving the weekend. 8 more days of work?! You crazy lady!!!

Inca - that summarised how I felt for lots of this weekend. Felt bad for being such a grumpy so and so, and DH is sympathetic but obviously can't quite get it and why I can only manage a couple of activities a day before needing to lie down! Kudos to you and all the other second(seven!) timers for dealing with late pregnancy woes and looking after toddlers! :)

I'm not the only one who had a pretty much sleepless night then! Can't sleep comfy on either side at the moment cos my hips are so achey and even wedging them between legs with pillow doesn't help. Tried sleeping sitting up but back starts to ache and just when I was close to dropping off at 5am, got those period like aches down below coupled with spikeyness prodding!!

All in all, makes me such a grumpy person and when DP arrives Thursday he's in for a shock as I'm normally really placid. I'm even getting annoyed with the fan in my room, it's great for cooling me down but when it flicks my hair and tickles face I get so annoyed. I don't really like myself at the moment :(

Not a lot of sleep here either- dh then made a comment about how he was now having to go to work to earn for us both and all the jobs he expected me to do. I actually cried, see lack of sleep note! I did make the point that actually giving up my job for 9 months isn't actually all good for me. ..certainly career wise... anyway generally annoyed that he played football last night and now there are little rubber pellets all over dining room, bathroom AND bedroom! Why not strip off in one room so I only have to clean there!!! Urgh!

Sorry moan over- thanks for breastfeeding link foxtrot one to read and save for later me thinks. ..

its know the feeling I've only got 3-5 weeks but still seems like a long time to fill. Half of me thinks just make the most of it the other half would like this pregnancy lark to be done and to enjoy some new born cuddles making no sleep have a purpose!

Oh yeah ickle I've had a few semi-jokey 'I hope the nesting thing kicks in so we get a spotless house' comments from DH, which a) isn't really like him as we split boring housework fairly equally and b) I have pointed out isn't all that amusing, especially when I'm going out of my way to avoid bending down when I can help it. Naps are the priority for my maternity leave!

I'm also (although looking forward to some time off) feeling nervous about the career gap/identity change this week signifies. I'm relatively new to freelancing (2 years with one gap already where I did a related MSc) and worried that I won't be able to make a real go of my business. Just have to see what happens when the baby arrives!

Morning all- loving how we're all having similar lack of sleep woes, tired emotional rants at our DHs about things and generally having a mix of 'I want this baby here now' vs 'help I'm about to have a baby what do I do?!'

My sleep not too bad last night from a heartburn perspective but was still up every hour to wee!

Had a spectacular rant polite and quiet word at DH on Saturday about some work I want done in the garden, not helped by him saying that particular job is at the bottom of his list-But it's at the TOP of mine I screamed he did later apologise and say he'd try to get it done but couldn't understand why I was so upset - d'oh I'm pregnant, overtired, hormonal and nesting :)

auntie and Hayley glad DHs back v soon. auntie have been wondering if yours might need to have a chance to chat to a professional at some point-PND is v common in the guys too and with everything that's happened so close to the birth he could be susceptible. Just a thought.

Inca I could also have written your post! DM and DSD coming to stay for a few days this week to help with DS and whilst I'm v grateful I can't really cope with thought of anyone staying and lack of spare room means they'll be in the living room thus v limiting my sleep options and middle of the night snacking (you have to walk through living room to get to kitchen). So am a bit grrr about the whole thing.

Right, must actually start the day

Auntie and Hayley glad your dh's are back soon.

Auntie I'm so sorry for everything you're going through at the moment.

I need to rant a little bit, sorry. I too haven't been sleeping' mainly due to the heat, spd, indigestion, and eczema which is itching like mad. I'm supposed to have an exam on Wednesday, when I'll be 37 weeks. The exam is linked to my job - you get two chances, and if you fail both, you lose the job. My revision has gone v badly - I can't concentrate on anything not baby related for longer than about 20 minutes, which for a 2h40m exam isn't going to be great. DH wants me to tell work I just can't do it, and that I'll do it when I return from maternity leave. To all the second (or seventh!) timers - am I likely to find it easier to concentrate when I have a 8/9 month old baby than I am now? I can't help but feel that I just need to man up and get on with it, but the stress and worry is driving me crazy! What would you guys do?

Sorry so many of you are also struggling with sleep/discomfort.

How exciting that more babies will be arriving very soon!

Sorry for the ridiculously long post.

Regarding feeding and making sure it goes well: our NCT teacher suggested we ask when the baby is checked over before you go home that they also check for tongue tie. She'd planned on breastfeeding all three of her kids but only really managed it with the last one. First time was because of a proper crash section but the second one was because nobody spotted the baby had tongue tie. By the time they figured it out, she was too frustrated and gave up.

In theory, this is the last week I will ever be pregnant - which is a strange thought! At this point I feel like I've always been pregnant!
Although this is our first bean, she's also on theory our only bean. Until/unless we love being parents SO much and feel we can cope with another one AND manage to get knocked up in a timely fashion.

Morning ladies. Rubbish night here too.

Thanks for the link foxtrot will save it when I get on the computer.

blue thank you I had thought that about professional help myself and luckily both our companies have good counselling support. I did suggest to him last night he needs to not rush back to work this week as once he gets home I think he might struggle but he's worried what people think especially as he's coming back with a tan.

I feel a bit guilty as I haven't got as much done as I hoped I would whilst he was away but one thing a day has been my limit before needing to nap! And I haven't really let onto him but spd and carpal tunnel have been worse as well as having doubled in size I think he's in for a shock there too!

Before the nightmare I had bought dp a fathers day card but I never wrote it as he was away and now I don't know what to do with it... any ideas?

Just had a growth scan - 36 weeks on the nose and baby is estimated at nearly 7 and half pounds already. And still breech. And endometrioma/cysts seem to have migrated into a less helpful position. So all signs pointing to c-section at present.

With a week and a half at work to go, I'm mostly worried about losing out on my nesting/relaxing time! I don't want this baby before 40 weeks!

Two babies tomorrow, how exciting!

Becky, I would sit the exam- you might do better than you expect and if not then you might have grounds for appealing for another chance?

Auntie Maggie, I think I would probably shelve the Father's Day card for this year and make a big fuss of him next year when the baby is here.

Sorry Plate, cross posts. Is there any chance of finishing up a bit earlier? Have they said when they would schedule a section for?

becky I started an OU course when DS was around 9 months old, they're generally quite settled at that point. He slept through the night and had long afternoon naps so I had plenty of time to study.

Now with DS being 3 and heavily pregnant I've had to put my course on hold as I can't sleep, can't concentrate etc. hoping to pick it up again in September.

becky I'm only on number 1 so I don't know what you'll feel like at 9 months but I think I'd be inclined to postpone if that's an option, sounds like there is a lot riding on the result . My brain is mush today and I can't imagine focusing on an exam.

casa - no chance of finishing earlier, that would just be more stressful! It might not go to a c-section, still time for the baby to turn, but I'm trying to psych myself up for the fact it looks like a fair chance that will be the outcome.

AuntieMAggie definitely keep the card for next year but maybe buy him a little treat as a welcome home present from baby. I also did a card for my DH and I got him a baby reading book called 'Hello Daddy' from the supermarket.

I thought I was having a contraction earlier. Turned out I needed a poo