Pop pop pop We're all about to POP! - July 2014 thread

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Hope you like the title - like inside us, there was no room on the other thread!

so much posting, impossible to respond to all of you, you chatterboxes!

but that's what I love about us, nice & busy, providing proper support.
Group hug!

I had a rubbish night again, fell asleep in awkward position & now my left butt cheek/lower back is in pain. going to osteopath on Wed, hopefully.

coco

nappy - the "flat" bit goes on the front, the underneath part has to folded in flaps, these you need to "open" and like velcro it will stick to the front.

bf - request to feed baby asap and they will help you with this.
typically within an 1 hr after birth bf is possible, but it really depends on so many things, even if it takes a couple of hours to put baby to breast your bonding, bf and baby will not suffer.

(bear with me, on phone, have to read back...)

mixi
glad I could make it a bit clearer.

Just a quick question on baby sleeping in this heat..... at my mums she only has a travel cot but it has like a basinet thing in it so baby will be higher. I've put a fitted sheet down but I'm not sure whether I should get a flat sheet for tucking baby in at night or will it be too hot at this time of year?? I was thinking for baby sleeping at night, just vest and sleep suit? Or is that too little?? I have no idea and don't want baby too overheat or be too cold

coco

black poo & cream - plack poo is stubbornly sticky, so after cleaning baby's bottom apply Vaseline, it will stop the next black poo from sticking so much!!!
I don't use any cream as a rule, only if there's a problem (thrush, nappy rash...)

boobs not leaking - you can check if you have milk by gently squeezing the areola (dark area around nipple).
do not squeeze your nipple, but about and inch away from it, use thumb above and index& middle finger underneath nipple.
squeeze a few times and you should see a few droplets of opaque, yellowish or whitish liquid - that's your milk!

(I haven't leaked so just checked, it's there)

if your nipples are hard it might not work, so try when you are warm, bath time is good.
try both breasts, one will typically be your better feeding side.

if nothing you should not worry though, the milk will be produced on stimulation from baby suckling.
it will be ok!

(back to read your last q)

mixi

you can get free room thermometers that gives a guide to clothing, but if weather is hot a vest might be enough.

if feeding in bed, I just have them in a nappy and a light sheet shared, or maybe not even that.
It's hard to say, as temp can drop in the middle of the night, and airflow, use of fan etc can all make a difference.

check back of baby's neck always, it gives the best indication of their core temperature - hands and feet can be cold or head and chest a bit warm,yet baby is being just fine!

coco

re shitting yourself about C-section - yep, that's correct!

they told me I can bring my favourite CD to listen to while in theatre.
it was fab.
so take some and ask beforehand if it's ok.

and it's unlikely you can bf while in theatre.
in recovery - maybe.
it's up to you and the circumstances.

good luck to both of you with the C-sections - soooo excited for you!

That's great, thanks again zing!! Thought I'd have everything covered and go with the flow of things but now finding myself asking so many question now I've only got 4 days left!!!

I was also thinking, as DP will be coming down from Thursday, I was going to get him to share the bed with me for the few days we're here with baby. Thinking about it now , I think I'll be waaaaaay too hot and waking up to give baby feeds will be frustrating with his additional body heat in this stinking hot weather!! So I was going to put him in the spare room downstairs, or is that a bit cruel as he won't have any baby contact during the night especially if he hears baby crying and things??

I do love how we are all here for eachother and so relieved that others are emotional wrecks like me too (sorry!!).

Coco if you haven't got any milk lurking don't panic. I didn't until I gave birth which produced colostrum and then within 2 days I woke up with 2 mahoosive, cubed boobs which drenched me and the baby and pretty much everything in sight!

Re sleeping and clothes don't panic. It soon becomes quite clear what they need to wear and what blankets/sheets etc.

Becky. I personally am in no fit state to sit an exam at the moment. When DS was 9 months I felt like myself and had a baby who slept through most nights and had a decent nap during the day. So I would delay rather than put additional pressure on yourself at a fragile time.

Hope I got the right people!!

Hi all,
Well day 1 of maternity leave and have just stopped after job after job after job! Think I need to slow down but not really used to that! It's my cousins hen do this weekend and I'm a bridesmaid but not able to go as is 4h drive away which is just not manageable at the moment just been putting together some photo pages for a scrapbook they will be doing at the weekend... need to send it off so go to post office but its just started raining...

mixi I will also worry about what to sleep in- have some of the gro bag swaddling sheets for new borns but also some giant muslins which will probably use to start with. Possibly with just a vest under or just nappy if really hot.

zing heard before about putting vaseline on to make poos easier to clean so will definitely be taking that advice!

We really are flying through the threads will need a new one soon- if someone can come up with a name I can create one but brain has shut down!

I'm not sure about what to put on baby for sleeping either, since DD was born in winter. If it stays like it has been here in Scotland then it will be warm at night and I'm not used to that idea! Am thinking right now will use a sleep suit and sheet. Like Zing said, you check the back of baby's neck to see how warm they are. Probably also depends on how chubby your little ones are. DD always has more clothing on than her friends of similar age but she's a skinny wee thing and loses heat easily.

Agree re not worrying about milk. I didn't leak at all before DD was born but the colostrum came in straight away and then all the milk a couple of days later. There was plenty. Recommend having cabbage leaves in the fridge to stuff in your bra when the milk does come in properly because it can be painful if they become engorged (like mine did).

5 weeks to go today. Am so ready for this (emotionally), but have loads to do yet. Stupid SPD is making it all difficult, and we're going to get our living/dining room carpet removed and replaced with laminate sometime soon. Guy's supposed to ring today to let me know when their joiner can fit it in, but it's getting awfully close.

Baby is sitting very high again, so heartburn is making an unwelcome return. I remember with DD that she'd dropped by about 32 weeks, so this is such a new feeling.

Just so hot! Trying to nap while DS is but failing miserably - laid on bed in just underwear, fan on and window open and I'm still roasting and everytime I put my head on the pillow my heartburn kicks in again :(

Re the weather and newborns. When DS was born we were in the middle of a heatwave and couldn't get our flat below 30 degrees for his first 2-3 weeks! So, he lived in either just a nappy or nappy+short sleeved bodysuit when we were at home during the day and from memory a short sleeved bodysuit plus swaddled with a muslin, flat sheet or cotton cellular blanket at night. When he was about 6 weeks we started using 1 tog growbags and he just had a nappy underneath until it got a bit cooler.

The huge plus of this heat with a newborn is that you can get washing dry oh so quickly and they don't need to wear so many layers- I do think summer babies are easier in that respect, it's the latter bit of pregnancy in the heat which is a killer!

It's relatively cool here after the storm this morning and but over 26 deg in the house so I'm expecting to just have baby in a vest and maybe a light swaddle at night (we have a fan in the bedroom at night so want to protect from that).

Guess which idiot turned up to the wrong place to see the mw... luckily they all know me so saw me anyway!

Not sure it's actually that hot here at the moment-just the muggyness making the house feel v stuffy-have given up on having a nap and come into the garden and it's actually quite pleasant-think we're due a storm too though as it's gone v grey. Must get the washing in!

thread is busy! just catching up through it. tescos have ben&jerrys half price at mo if anyone is craving ice cream, ended up buying 3 tubs, oops. justified it & hidden away in depths of freezer for day time munching & watching box sets. have watched all the available episodes of Devious Maids, now onto Orange is the new black. does anyone have anymore reccommendations for boxsets on netflix/showbox?

Could somebody please add me to the Facebook page my email address is [email protected].
Also I had an EMCS last Tuesday and I promise it's not as bad as you imagine everybody was so kind and professional and you baby is placed on you as soon as possible please don't worry. X

Congrats Sparky! MrsB was dealing with the FB group, I believe so if you don't get added, DM her.

IABOH I'm in a similar situation to you regarding freelancing / working for myself except I finished my MA in December and knew I wasn't going to get a job in the industry at 4 months pregnant. So I have even more work to do in getting established once bean is old enough. Would love a support group duo of sorts for that too, even if it's likely to be different industries. No competition then at least

Auntie PND or just plain D does strike the blokes too. Biggest trigger by far is tiredness, then stress and previous D. Isolation is also a factor. If I played bingo, I'd just have won on that list, so I'll be trying to be proactive, personally. We'll see how well I do.

I didn't know you could swaddle babies whilst they slept, thought they could eventually wriggle free and covers may end up over head? To tell the truth I have no bloody idea, starting to think I'm going to be a hopeless new mummy :(

mixi

Night time is for sleeping, not bonding (boldly put)
My view is that as you are up bf Dad should get as good a night sleep as possible - so in the day he will have more energy to look after both of you.
Absolutely no point in both of you feeling exhausted!

obv if DH wants to sleep in our bed and put up with noise, light etc is his choice, but him sleeping as well as poss benefits all of us.
I fact at the weekends I always encourage him to have a lunchtime nap with the two younger ones.
maybe a very non-PC view, but I do need him to be strong, healthy and not sleep deprived!

Trust me, dads can do way more bonding through bathing baby or just settling them on their chests, cuddling and changing nappies then being up when they don't need to.
(Unless you need help or support in any way)

keep asking, any of you, as long as my answers are helpful I'm so very happy to share my knowledge & thoughts!

Sparky

congratulations! what did you have?
wishing you a quick recovery and well done you!

sparky have sent you an invite to join the FB group, check your email :)

Congrats sparky! Hope you're recovering well.

zing I totally agree re dads and sleeplessness would rather one of us feel vaguely human so dh can choose spare room if prefers...

I went to boots and picked up 3 free emma diary freebie bags www.emmasdiary.co.uk/faq/how-to-collect-your-pack.aspx have added a pic of the goodies - lots of wipes including water wipes, some nipple pads, a Johnsons essential pack. 2 50% off aldi nappy vouchers. Anyway I'm happy and worth random rubbish in the post!

just thinking of title for new thread, will link it in a few minutes.

Thanks zing :)

You're right, will let DP get his night sleeps and then he'll have much more beans during the day to help me out with other things. I'll deal with the night stuff. Feel a bit more reassured now and have watched a couple of videos on how to swaddle so practicing that on teddie at the moment haha!

Here's the brand new thread - please wadlle over when you finished you ice lollies!

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/antenatal_clubs/2114799-hey-Mummy-Ready-or-not-here-I-come-July-2014-thread

*waddle

• your ice lollies