Pop pop pop We're all about to POP! - July 2014 thread

[ismarah]

Hope you like the title - like inside us, there was no room on the other thread!

Auntie the only actual thing I know of (other than reducing salt and stress) that I know of that directly affects your BP is eating liquorice(sp?), which is very very bad for BP. I somehow doubt that you're doing that though so am useless :-(

Liquid One upside of a possible C-section: as you are likely to be in hospital for a few days (avg. is 4 I think) you can get lots of good BF advice if you are planning to BF because you'll be in the ward with BF consultants around you all day. It's also very different, I think, to have an ELCS than an EMCS. With the EMCS you'll have been in labour for ages, you're tired and depending on why you end up with one, you might be very scared. With an ELCS you can plan it in advance, decide your baby's birthday and you probably won't have laboured so you won't be so tired on top of having to recover from the section. But babies can and do turn until the very last minute so if you really want a VB it might happen. And your MW sounds a right miserable OC.

Lovely to be in the new thread- is it just me or did the last one fly by? Then again I keep realising how close I am to due date and being shocked so maybe this pregnancy is finally starting to fly right at the end!

blue and liquid hope babies start behaving and turn for you both. Rubbish to hear midwives haven't been supportive though.

I plan to sort birth plan out when get back from holiday -I'm sure I found an nhs website that talked you through it then you print so will be searching for that...sound familiar or have I made it up?

Went to primark today and got some pjs, a maxi drrss, cheap flip flops and lots of huge pants! Should now be able to pack hospital bag when I get home

ismarah mine is similar kicking away until dh looks or has a feel -sometimes I ask him to put his hand on bump just to give me a rest!

Funny how moods can change by a flick of a switch...... maybe it's a little sad but I didn't know where else to express my frustration.

DP is away on detachment, has been for the last 4 weeks, but is coming home on Saturday. In the past he's had a drinking problem and earlier this year we spent some time apart. Obviously with baby coming, he made a massive turn around, went t-total and I was really worried about his detachment. Anyway, I spoke to him a few nights ago and could tell he had a rough night. I shrugged it off and thought it wasn't that bad. But just now he called and was blind drunk on the phone, I didn't get angry, in fact I got so upset and then felt baby moving so it made me cry even more!!! I'm just so disappointed with him and I think of our future together and it's so hard. I didn't try to reason with him cos there was no point, he could barely speak. I know I'll get a call apologising tomorrow but it's always the same and it feels like he may never get out of this until he gets help.

I love him, I really do, which makes it so hard with baby coming too. I really don't need it this close to popping. Sorry for my drip session, I'm just sick of it and just want the best for my baby :(

ismarah I have been eating liquorice!!!

mixi sending you a hug in the absence of any advice.

liquid - let us know how the acupuncture goes. I saw a pregnancy acupuncturist at end of first tri for help with heavy sickness and bronchitis - it really helped. The moxi bustion (sp?) thing feels v powerful heat sensation next to yr skin, can imagine it may well help baby turn.

constipation cure - grim but helpful - sesame seeds. Homemade granola v easy to make and you can mix in sesame seeds / dates / prunes etc. add big dollop of pro biotic yog and wait for results

Mixi that's really tough. I don't really have any helpful advice, hopefully someone cleverer than me will be along soon, but am thinking of you. I guess you won't get a clear picture of how he's doing until the weekend; sorry that you have this hanging over you.

Ickle thanks re the work trip, made me feel better about saying no. Seems that as it happens I won't need to go now anyway (will find out more tomorrow) but it frustrated me that my boss didn't even consider that it might be a problem.

In other news I am getting very, very bored of everyone telling me how massive I am. Admittedly some then say it's because I'm all bump but that most definitely feels like a backwards compliment. It doesn't help that I now feel bloody massive too! I've measured spot on at each appointment, was size 10-12 before but I have definitely put on some extra weight as tried my pre-preg jeans and then were too tight over bum/thighs as well as obviously not doing up at the bump. I've only really gained (other than bump) in the last four weeks though, before then I was definitely just bump and boobs. Frankly I think I'm meant to look big at 35 weeks, particularly now I have ligament pain and so can't walk fast/far!

It's really irritating that people think they can comment on your weight just because you are pregnant. On the plus side my husband is wonderful and hasn't once made me feel like a whale. Sorry, I shouldn't moan as so many of you have genuine trials and challenges in your pregnancies but wow it is annoying.

mixi - Am so sorry to read about your situ. Some initial thoughts here, but if you want to talk privately then pls feel free to inbox me. My husband works in drug and alcohol rehab and we have many close friends who have come through addiction stuff.

First off - you may be feeling frightened and alone - we send you a hug through cyber space, you are not alone, you're note the first in this position and many people will understand where you're at right now.

Second - I was encouraged that your dp

MrsA DP has laughed at me, called me a penguin and sang a comical tune in relation to my waddling/size...

Second, I was encouraged you say your DP had a period of being dry and trying hard. That's a really good sign that he is willing to work at it.

Usually though, just will power alone doesn't work alone, because will power doesn't deal with whatever lies undere the surface that caused the coping mechanism (drinking) to start in the first place. Usually, we need to accept outside help from people trained in addiction recovery.

From your post did I understand right that he is in the army? If so, is there any connection with post traumatic stress or combat stress? If so, for sure there will be specialist help available through his work. And yes, it's hard to admit he needs help. This is where your actions and decisions now play a major role. I advise you when you see him to lay down an absolute boundary and tell him if he does not seek professional help within 24 hours, you will leave him and go somewhere safe. Try to stay as calm as you can, and explain to him you don't feel safe when he drinks and you have decided to put safety of yourself and baby first. Tell him how much you love him and will support him if he seeks help. But stick to your boundary, do not budge. It's completely possible for him to call a service and get an appointment lined up within 24 hours. If he refuses, carry through your boundary and leave him for the time being. He will then start to experience the consequences and pain of his choice, and if he starts to feel it and realise you have really stuck to your word and won't put up with the drinking anymore, he will be much more likely to seek help.

You need a lot of support right now. Don't be afraid to tell your friends and family what is happening and ask them to help you.

Lastly ... I hope this encourages you ... I have a dear friend whose husband used to be a heroin addict and then when he got clean of that, an alcoholic. He worked very hard to get dry, and he is a wonderful husband to my friend. However when she was pregnant with their first child, he went on two binges and got badly drunk. Becoming a father is a massive pressure and recovering addicts often slip up during this time. He went back to AA and got help, and he got through it. He is still a wonderful, devoted husband to my friend and a beautiful father of two children. People can get through these things and come out good the other side. May it be so for you and your family xxx God bless you

That sounds like some really excellent advice from Jasmine, hope it helps Mixi.

Auntie I suspect I resemble a penguin too! My husband has been laughing at my bump as it is ridiculously flat at the front.

thank you so much Jasmine very encouraging to read. Will PM you shortly....

Enjoy nct liquid I'm the same with sickness in the eve so sit near the door and have to excuse myself- still worth it as have found them really useful even if I haven't been 100% well

Just popping into the new thread to say hello!

I saw the midwife today. She confidently proclaimed that I wasn't going to have the baby today! Baby is head down at the moment so I will try now to better understand how baby is positioned if I get the sense it has moved again. I'm currently measuring 31cm at 35 weeks, so not that big (but feels big enough to me). I'm somewhat alarmed that I have put on 2kg in the last month but she said that was perfect.

I will be seeing the dr to talk about birth options at 39 weeks. Midwife said today that she will speak to the dr and emphasise that last EMCS was traumatic so hopefully the dr will be sympathetic. Since 39 weeks seems a little last minute for discussing VBAC or ELCS I asked what would happen if I go into labour before seeing the dr, and apparently we'll just have the discussion when I arrive at the hospital! Anyway, I don't suspect baby is imminent so shouldn't be a worry.

I'm hoping that baby isn't too early because I need some proper maternity leave before it arrives. I've got a secret chocolate stash to work through and need some serious time to sit watching daytime TV. I found a surprise bag of mini eggs at the weekend!

Oops, that was a long just popping in - off to bed now.

Hello.
Feel like a total newcomer to this thread it's been a lifetime since iv been on. Have been catching up with everyone who's on our Facebook page but have neglected MN -
Apart from the baby name thread which I seem to spend lots of time on hoping a Name will pop up and be 'The one'.

I'm almost 32 weeks.
For the list - I'm having a GIRL so excited about this and have been loving buying lots of pink and girlie clothes. (Totally overdone it & have more than I need but am struggling to resist lol)

Saw the consultant at 28 weeks & had a growth scan as DS 1 was low birth weight and ended up in special care when born. This one is on the smaller side as well so I have another scan on June 11th to see how she's doing.
Also found out she's breech I'm seeing the MW next week so hoping she's head down by then. I know I still have time for her to turn but DS was premature so If this one is as well she has less time to get herself sorted out.

Decided I'd like to try for a home birth (Although to have this agreed she has to be of "normal weight" at growth scan, & not breech by 36 weeks. I also have to make it to 37 weeks gestation - DS was born at 35). So lots of Ifs at the moment but we shall see.
BlueC2 I see you want one as well? Will have a million questions for you! Have you had one before?

Movement wise, I am feeling kicks and movements but they are not super strong as I have an anterior placenta which cushions most of the kicks. Would like to feel a little more. Only in the lat few days can I feel her when I'm up and about, so far it's only been when I'm laying down really still.

Health wise, I'm doing ok. The worst of the sickness went around 17 weeks, have had the odd random vomit session (1 massive one a few weeks back) but not much thankfully. My 28 week bloods came back that I'm anaemic so am taking liquid iron (I can't swallow tablets). Most days I feel totally exhausted and am in bed sleeping by 8.30pm. Today I actually feel human - hence why I thought is track down the MN thread and say hello. This is the first time iv been awake when it's dark outside for moths - literally, feels weird lol.
Am weeing every 10 minutes and am up weeing about 3 times during the night which is annoying as I can't always fall back to sleep straight away. Also getting heartburn most evenings. Got some homeopathic tablets which are helping but it's still there a bit most evenings. Probably doesn't help that dinner time and bed time are not that far apart due to my early nights.

Anyway need to get off here now - need to pee lol.

Think that's everything - hope I havnt bored you all silly!

Xxx

Hi justhayley yes I'm hoping for a home birth with hired pool. DS born in hospital though so this is a first for me. Must say I'm feeling a little disillusioned with everything at the moment though as have transverse little one and seem to be permanently exhausted so brain not really engaging with home birth prep-in fact currently hoping I go into labour anytime like now just so I can get on with the baby bit and stop being pregnant! Not that I am suffering anything like others as no sickness or spd just fed up of insomnia and the exhaustion!

Not yet been able to fall asleep yet this evening and DH has managed to stress me out (he didn't mean too). Can't get comfy in bed at all as baby wriggling and moving around loads so am trying out the sofa but am cold-where has the warm weather gone??

I'll send some Cali sun your way Blue. Sorry you're awake in the early hours. I seem to average a total of 6 hours a night and wake up every 2 hours to wee! Good practice I guess!

Hello hayley my lovely. Shopping for clothes is great fun, enjoy. Sorry you're having rubbish sleep too xx

I slept a lot better last night when I added a folded up throw on top of my sheet. I really need a more comfortable mattress but it'll do for now. DH is pretty much permanently in the spare room as I fidget and get up so often to wee.

At my yoga class today the teacher said in passing about second babies being earlier. This girl is not allowed to come early as my DM doesn't get here until the day before my due date. DD1 was 9 days late so I doubt I'll be early. We are putting back-up child care plans in place just in case though.

Shiny new thread!

Waves to hayley - good to see you again, sorry you're feeling so tired.

mixi - wish I had useful advice. Thinking of you and hope things improve.

I had a bit of a TMI scare yesterday. Got up to go to the printer at work and suddenly realised I was very wet below. Put on a pad to see if it got any worse/better but didn't seem to improve and couldn't tell if it was just increased discharge, so ended up in triage for monitoring and an exam. Baby was fine and thankfully they think it was just watery discharge, but my urine showed leukocytes so I have to keep an eye on whether there's any more possible leakage and phone back for the lab results to see if I have an infection. Bit embarrassed to not know the difference between discharge and waters but the midwives and doctors were lovely, looked after me really well and said I'd done the right thing by coming in

Hopefully no more scares. In happier news 2 of our best friends had their 2nd baby in the early hours of this morning, sounds like everything went smoothly and both are well. :)

mixi sorry hadn't seen your post when posted last one. It sounds like DH was on the right path then went away and surrounded by people who probably knew what he had been like and didn't know what he had been going through caused him to give in. I'm not excusing what he did but can see how it happened. When you can talk to him I would explain how he needs to either remove temptation when on detachment or explain to his mates there what he's going through and only spend time with those who will support him in the eves not those who will try and get him drunk. It does sound like he needs help though...hope your ok...

foxtrot at you for mini eggs- if I had a hidden chocolate stash it would be gone by now no chance of lasting until maternity leave!

I have accepted not a lot of sleep generally but feel amazing this morning as only woke once in night and slept until 6.30! Amazing! I was so shattered that fell asleep last night sitting up (couldn't get comfy) crying, having been very sick though!

Congratulations to your friends its I keep wonderwondering when someone on here will announce early arrival!

I also need to admit to buying a very cute baby grow with cars on even though we are having a surprise- I rarely see cute boys clothes I like though and it was only £2 in t k maxx sale! Worth a hunt for a bargain! If we have a girl will give it to friends who know are having a boy and due at same time as us!

Hello all

I'm rubbish at keeping up with these threads. Hope we are all well.

I'm swinging between sleeping loads and being unable to sleep at all now. It's half term but I'm up at the crack of dawn as my bladder is not allowing me to sleep. Up and down every five minutes!

I've still not managed to join the Facebook so if anyone can add me please PM and let me know what I need to do

nancy and other 2nd timers on the thread - this may or may not be what you want to hear but the 2nd baby I mentioned above was at least a week early...

ickle - hurray for some sleep for you!

I need to placemark on the new thread! Hello to newbies and those who haven't popped in for a while!

mixi sorry to hear what you're going through - Jasmine seems to have good advice for you so I'll just add

its (TMI!) I've also had some episodes of having loads of watery discharge, I hope it is normal!

Currently sat on train next to a couple of women yapping about toddler sleeping patterns incessantly - this is going to be my life isn't it?!

Hopefully my maternity cover at work should be able to start at a reasonable time which is a big weight off my mind - just hope she can do a reasonable job! At the moment I'm caught between feeling I need to work my socks off over next 4 weeks and being too tired to go the extra mile.

Morning all

mixi hope you're doing ok-thinking of you

As a second timer I would be quite happy for this baby to come early-DS was 3 days early so there is always the possibility. Plus I've heard second labours are supposed to be quicker which is no bad thing either.

Managed to sleep 3-6 and then 6.30-8.30 with small interlude around 7ish to wake DH who had overslept and has now had to take the car to work so DS and I stuck at home today unless I fancy venturing out with pushchair in the pouring rain!! think we've got a playdough, colouring, maybe painting sort of day ahead!

A rather sleepy hello to all of you. I ended up in hospital close to midnight last night with my lovely patient dh. The baby is usually so predictable with kicking patterns that I panicked after an hour and a half of nothing in the evening despite cold water etc. Predictably as soon as they strapped me to a monitor he started to do the cancan, almost kicking the monitor off (cue a raised eyebrow from the midwife). I didn't find the alarm that sounded every five minutes or so whenever it lost his heartbeat particularly reassuring though. Has anyone else had experience of that when they've had a monitor on their tummy? The midwife said it was him turning and his heart was fine (so the siren is presumably a claxon of ok?) but I'm seeing my consultant anyway tomorrow to double check. Lovely dh is such a star, didn't make me feel neurotic at all. I am very lucky!

itsalways and gin - well done for going in and getting waters / kicks checked. After reading about coco's trip to hospital which revealed the thing I can't spell (goes with itchy bump) , it made me realise it's much better to get checked out. When I went them in for monitoring a few weeks back with a lack of movements scare, the lovely MW said she would rather have someone in with 100 false alarms than miss the 1 genuine problem. And there's so much flipping pressure on us, as we're the only ones who can feel them and make the judgement call about whether something's changed!

Today I'm 33 weeks, got a MW appoint at lunch then a routine scan early eve. Am really hoping the scan shows a nice big baby, as my bump is a little bit on the small side.

Then finish work tomorrow, HOORAY HOORAY!