December 2006-3rd trimester!!!

[Calmriver]

Hi All, thought I would start a 3rd trimester thread, as most are past 23 weeks now!!!

Hey AQ, I had the same thing a with potty training ds too. Was dry O/N immediately, lulled me into a false sense of security and went through a stage of wetting the bed every night for a week. At that point I cracked and he's been back in nappies at night but has been dry every morning - typical!! I haven't bought the hippychick sheets yet - too broke this month! - but they are on the list for next month.

Was just having a little smile at all the name dilemmas, it reminded me of when I was pg with dd. We were both totally convinced I was having a boy, didn't find out but had the same hunch as I had with ds. So we spent all our time debating boys' names and eventually settled again on the alternative name we'd had for ds. We were so sure it wasn't a girl that we had no girls' names at all. Then out pops dd and we were absolutely stuck. I wanted my grandma's name but it rhymes with the shortened version of ds's name so we decided it could go in the middle. Neither of us liked the girls' names we'd chosen if ds was a girl so we just kept suggesting names until we found one we both liked and that suited her. This time I'm convinced I'm having another girl and we're generally decided for a girl but have no ideas for a boy!! So we'll just have to wait and see.

Oh, meant to ask, can anyone still see their feet? I'm sure I could still see mine at this point last time but I just seem to be shooting out at a ridiculous rate. Surely my muscle tone isn't THAT bad?!!!

Thanks Elibean, will look into Zantac then.

Hello AQ! Was wondering where you had got to. Yes I got lovely long tops from Mothercare, and my wardrobe has been transformed for £60 - four basic long and short sleeved Ts and a jumper. They seem to have a slightly longer front than back to account for the bump. Thanks for the tip! And you should relax and not do so much. A good night's sleep is more important than a bathroom cabinet, that's my motto.

I was thinking about the difficulty of changing bra sizes, too. Should get organised with a nursing bra, but how do you know what size you will be?

We're not decided on names at all. Not even the surname.

Can still see feet but having trouble cutting toenails.

sorry about my coffee comment. it was more the fact that I've being eating loads of rubbish,then had a "generous" glass of red on thurs night,wine with lunch on fri and a huge coffee (I like my coffee very strong). I have this weird thing that I should space out my "treats" when they're not on the good-for-bean list to give him a chance to process them!!!!!!!

I'm going to have to reduce my MNing. Went to see my GP yesterday(in total agony) with my neck and we decided it was linked to the two pillows I was slepping on (to reduce acid and congestion) and my sitting on the sofa with my laptop in my lap for hours! Who's being a naughty girl? So I'm sitting at table now and I promise to not spend the whole day on here

What coffee comment, spina? Am losing track...hope your neck gets better soon, I find laptop on my lap b*ers my neck too, am trying to stick to the PC at mo'. We are sad, techie couple with 2 laptops & pc...
Just had a major project at work delayed another month, I feel so stressed about it, if it's delayed any further it won't get done before I leave or I'm going to have to delay going on leave. I went on leave with ds at 33 weeks coz I was so exhausted, and starting to feel that way now but project has to be finished before I go. Am crying at my desk, just want to go home! All I want to do is spend quality time with ds & sit on sofa patting bean and I just don't feel I can. Feel work getting in the way of more important things, but I can't let my colleagues down. This is stupid, though, pg hormones must be affecting my brain if I'm crying over this lot. DS woke me at 3 with wet bed & then bean kept me awake until 5.30, lovely though it is I wish he would keep more sociable hours (bean that is!).

sorry loulou, glad you found some tops, think mcare prices are quite good aren't they?
I will stop whinging now, perhaps go home early instead!

how poo-y about the project. Sorry silly question, but does it HAVE to be finished by you before you go? (having said that I remember frantically trying to wrap everything up before I went on mat leave last time and my replacement started a week earlier than expected and I told him to experience what the dept was like by working in it instead of sitting in my office talking about his concept of management(!!!!) while I tried to finish off my work.Whoops must be those hormones! (I put it a bit more politely BTW.)
It's always difficult when you've had (or not had) undisturbed sleep. I'm also finding I have major control issues when I'm pg. Everything has to go to MY plan or else I get stroppy or start crying or both.
Hope Bean starts to allow you some sleep.Big Hug.

PS I think all you girls are a bad influence. I'm sure I wouldn't be eating so much ice cream or spending so much time on Maternity wear sites if I was doing all this alone.....

....(Yep,Spina you keep telling yourself that!!!!

Thanks, spina. Yes, I know what you mean about running around finishing everything, but this HAS to be done. I've spent all year on it, now it's running 2 months behind & I can't do anything about it (nor is the delay down to me). I'll leave the dept in a difficult position if I don't see it through before I leave as I don't think they're going to have any cover for me this time. I expect little sleep is making things worse, haven't slept well for a week or so as bean wakes me up a lot (esp when my bladder needs emptying!) & ds has been restless. But probably it's coz I'm anxious about stuff, so need to do some yoga!!
Quite pleased with myself this morning as I rode my bike into work, dp bought me 1 on w'end & haven't ridden in 10-12 years. Only round the corner, but nonethless impressed myself! Course once bean arrives, I can't use it much but easier than walking which hurts my hips at mo'. Ono a bit wobbly due to bump, and lucky it's v.flat where I live!!

Oh poor AQ, what a nightmare. It all seems harder when you haven't had enough sleep, too, so try not to let it get you down. I'd really ask myself if it has to be done before you go on leave, though. Your health is more important, and if you have done the best you can and it continues to be delayed you might just have to leave it to someone else to sort out. Are they getting a replacement for you? Anyway for now take some deep breaths and go out for a walk if you can. xx

Oh, forgot to say, I think I found out this morning what being kicked in the cervix was like! Didn't take to that one bit.

Can I ask how late you all plan to work? Maternity package with my company is rubbish so will have to work right up until the end (ideal scenario is to go into labour at my desk, might wangle a couple more days off them )
Although have heard that Tesco, M&S etc are VERY generous to people who go into labour while shopping in their stores!!!!!

& Mothercare, so I've heard, Gloria!
Sorry your maternity cover is so rubbish, hard to work right up to your due date as you get so tired in the 3rd trimester. I went off at 33 weeks last time, which was a mistake as I went 2 weeks over so 7 weeks at home waiting. Going to try to hang on until 36/37 weeks this time, but I don't want to be so exhausted I have no energy for DS1. I only work 3 days however, worked 4 days when pg last time.

Well, I'm an independent contractor, so essentially NO paid maternity leave. Last time I worked until 39 weeks, had ds at 40. This time I'm working until 38 having ds2 by section 3 days later - at least, that's the plan!

I'm going off at 34 weeks. I found it hard to decide on the date, as I didn't know how I'd be feeling by then, but I'm quite tired already, plus need to move house, sort out Christmas, buy all baby stuff, etc. so am going off a bit on the early side I think.

It is getting harder and harder to get out of bed that's for sure, and that's nothing to do with lack of stomach muscles! But i think i'd get bored at home for too long. This is my first baby so don't have any other children to look after, and am not good at doing nothing!

((AQ)) lack of sleep and third trimester: lethal combination for feeling overwhelmed. Big hugs from me too (literally big ) and I hope the frustrating work stuff somehow smooths itself out...and even more that you get a good night's kip tonight.

Loulou - good luck with the Zantac, hope it helps!

Maggie...I mean Castles...I'm with you on the waddle. Though please god I don't look too much like MT My dd's name is Elia - we had to find a name that worked well in French, and this one has the advantage of being shortenable to Eli, and being of Hebrew origin (dh's roots) to boot. We pronounce it 'Ellia' though, which confuses everyone

Now, we have a second name for dd2 but are utterly stuck for a first...

Had my mini diabetes test today (2 hours fasting, very manageable, followed by too much sandwich and cake) and OB visit, got told dd was transverse. No, really? I thought those feet kicking me in my side all night had something to do with that....just like her sister already: stayed there till 36 weeks, making me look and feel like I'd swallowed a large bone sideways....

I'm a SAHM (with a teeny bit of attempted WAHM, which tends to be one morning per week in reality) and am sweeping my imaginary hat off to all of you working as well as having kids already...I'm knackered as it is!

And Olihan, I can see my feet if I look to one side and down...but am sure I'm huger than last time, even though my weight is a bit less. Very odd, must be muscle tone in my case?!?

Love Elia, EBean! We like Agnes but the French pronunciation which is "An-yes" thought it would be too confusing over here though ...

Also a SAHM so no advice Gloria. Did work with DS1 until about 34 weeks though, when I went into labour (turned out to be a falsie).

No Olihan, can't see my feet and haven't for a while but that's not unusual due to large norks

This has probably been discussed already (sorry!) but is anyone else really emotional? Just been reading SN thread about a little girl's 1st day at school and couldn't stop blubbing!! Also, (quite cheesy really) wedding speeches at weekend and was in floods

Strangely, very emotional some days (think crying at tv adverts at the very least) and utterly callous others . Suspect my callous days are when I'm quite cross and stroppy really

Thanks Castles, yes, there are lots of names we love in one language and not in the other - tricky!

How was the wedding, by the way? And the travel?

I'm a self employed and although I am entitled to claim Maternity Allowance if I take time off, the companies that I do work for are under no obligation to employ me again after this time...

So am hoping to time baby between busy periods as best I can

As a Data Analyst January is my busiest Month of the year and we can't really afford for me to turn all the work down and if I did, they would probably find someone else to do it and then there is no reason they would take me back if they had gone to the trouble of finding someone else.

Am screwed really

So plan is, Baby will turn up about 10 Dec, and I will be able to get on with Year End and hubby will use a weeks holiday in Jan to look after Baby and I will just stop working to feed.....

Sadly this is my best plan to date

Wedding was lovely thanks. Stayed up until 4am dancing! Must have been a beautiful sight They do it so well in France don't they? Fantastic food, wine, surroundings, children running around and all so relaxed. I actually shed a little (another) tear on the flight back from Bordeaux.

Me too Weirdbird - am a graphic designer, one of two in a tiny company, and we're both pregnant! We are both planning to work from home and fit it around baby, but I am sure we'll struggle. We have to give it a go though, and keep our good clients happy so that they'll still be there if/when we're ready to go again. I would love to be a SAHM but we just can't afford it, which sucks. Sometimes think our feminist fore-sisters got it a bit wrong, wanting equality in work etc - I would just prefer to stay at home and bring up children well. Don't jump down my throat though, I appreciate being paid the same rate for doing the same job etc, but it's a shame that going back to work is not about choice but necessity. My parents and in-laws don't look like they understand but that's the way of the world today, you need two salaries to keep a mortgage going. Sorry for rant, will stop now!

(Except to say yes, very emotional - couldn't get a grip yesterday about Steve Irwin)

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