December 2006-3rd trimester!!!

[Calmriver]

Hi All, thought I would start a 3rd trimester thread, as most are past 23 weeks now!!!

AQ, my delivery with ds was quite traumatic to me. Different reasons than yours but the end result was the same. My ds is also 3 so we had ours about the same time. I'm still in therapy (CBT) to help me make it through this pg as well as on Zoloft. It's been going really well so far, but I totally get where you are coming from. This time around I actually feel so much calmer knowing that it's a scheduled section. I won't be worried about what's happening during labor, is baby ok, am I still okay...you know. As far as the reaction you had to the anesthesia, it sounds quite similar to what I had. If it is the same, adding demerol to your drip can fix/prevent the problem. Definitely talk to them about it. I actually sat down the other night and wrote a birth plan of sorts with things like that in it. THe other thing that I want this time is to have my catheter inserted after the epidural. I cannot see any reason that it has to be done before and I found that to be quite painful.

I've had quite an interesting day. I took my mother in this morning for cataract surgery, which went beautifully. Then decided after I got home to call my OB's office and chat with them about a sore spot on my calf. I was a little concerned that it might be a small blood clot, but didn't really think so. Anyway, they had me come in, so I had to cancel out patients at my office for the afternoon, then, fortunately, it turned out to be nothing but a muscle spasm I am glad they checked it out though as it really hurts and I would have just worried about until Monday. And she told me that I could cancel my appt for next Monday as everything looked good, so I'll go back in just under 3 weeks.

Goodness! Sorry to run on so.

Sorry to hear about your c-section experience AQ. I've had 2 electives (for medical reasons, not out of choice) and they were ok. My friend had a similar experience to you with her 1st DS - the shaking, bad reaction etc - after 3 days in labour and him being too big (11lbs) to come out. With her 2nd DS she had a really easy VBAC. Also, many years ago, my mum had a hideous emergency c-section with my brother and nearly died then the easiest, peasiest (naturellement!) VBAC with me and I was a whopping 9lb9oz! I do hope it goes well for you this time, there is every chance that it will and at least they are "on your case" this time.

Sorry you are feeling unwell E'bean. It's good that you have seen your OB. I had nasty pains with DS for a few days and ended up in "false labour" because I had thrush Think I've talked about this before. You obviously don't have this as they would have picked it up but now but I sympathise with you, any pain at this time is horrid and worrying.

Perhaps I'll have my baby over the weekend after this move. Maybe the Russian soothslayer was right about it being a Virgo after all

Thank you all, I think the biggest thing about birth in many ways is the support you get before, during & after & I find it very reassuring to hear about positive sections as well as successful vbacs! Cannot believe that ob's or midwives can't see how frightened we are, particularly with first babies, and that surgery is not a walk in the park or to suit their schedules! My midwife told me to sort myself out because I started crying when it all went wrong. And implied that I wasn't progressing very well etc when in fact my ob said I'd got to 10cms in 3 hours which was great! I think it's sad that women are still reliving bad birth experiences years after the fact and I hope we all get better births this time round. At the very least I think we are more assertive about what we want & don't put up with ob's and m/ws treating us like we have no say. Plus we're more informed through mumsnet (thanks for demorol tip, jabber, I think you're right). I found myself behaving like a little girl after a while, my spine disintegrated after 2 days in hospital with various people sticking things in me & up me!

I am becoming more reliant every day on the camaraderie and support from this group, look forward to logging on each day (ok, several times a day!) to see what's happening!

Me too AQ, I really missed having a Antenatal class to talk to/share with this time around, yes its my 2nd but my 1st was 5 years ago and lots seems to have changed since then.

This group has made me feel normal and that i can cope again.

My first was very traumatic, not so much the birth for me, but the following 24hrs in hospital, its one of the reasons I want a Home Birth this time as I don't want to be left at the mercy of understaffed / overworked MW's again.

Jabber, catheter before the epi? Definitely ask for it after, I never felt mine and actually loved it because I could rest for 24 hours without having to get up for a pee!

Agree about this group...not only got lots of tips and camaraderie, but also feel SO much more 'normal' when I read everyone else's experiences. Keeps my sense of perspective intact (or as intact as a pregnant woman's can be).

Thanks, Castles, and I'm relieved to say it was better last night - actually got about six hours sleep and feel much less anxious. The scan will help too. I did wonder if I might have an infection of some sort, but don't think so...not done any wee tests or swabs, but will ask for some if it comes back again. How're dd and ds this week?

Having my very first sick day of the pregnancy today to catch up on sleep and hopefully go back to work not feeling like death tomorrow, hurrah!

Sorry to hear all the bad experiences you've had in previous births, and here's hoping we all get lots of luck this time round!

Who is due first? I don't think I'll pop first unless anything goes horribly wrong, as not due until boxing day.

A woman on the bus the other day had a baby that she popped out at 25 weeks! Anything can happen. Her little girl was lovely and suffered nothing.

I am getting a lot of twinges and 'falsies' at the moment, especially since DD has become engaged.

My boobs are getting nice and round!and I am finally off sex. DH has been signed off it anyway with 2 disc problems in his back, so I can't hear any moaning yet.

It's interesting to hear everyone else's birth experiences. I am also hoping for a VBAC after an emergency CS under GA. I had no labour at all (30 seconds of 3rd stage according to the official record), went in for what I thought was going to be routine tests, ended up with ER type situation and baby!

It took about 9 months after the birth for me to feel as fit as I felt during pregnancy (I was pretty healthy during pregnancy, but obviously not 100%). 12 months to start feeling human again. Not really looking forward to going through that again (especially with older child to care for ) but at least now I know to count recovery in months rather than weeks/days (it's not like having a cold!). It didn't/doesn't help that nobody in my family (my side or dh's) had ever had a CS, so after having been too posh to push they all thought I was being a bit of a whinger to complain about feeling like sh*te afterwards.

AQ: you should have a pretty good chance of VBAC since you dilated to 10 cms last time .

Castles: good luck with move tomorrow. Hope all goes well.

Just noticed new emoticon for sceptical face. Will have to think of post to incorporate that...

Calmriver did you say your litte one has engaged? Already? - I thought you were only 28 weeks like me I didn't think they engaged for ages yet?

Hello all. I'm a new MNer and this is my first post.

I'm due on 14th December and it will be my third child. I've got two older daughters 13 and 15 from my marriage which ended in 1995 so I'm in for a big shock as I've forgotten how much hard work it really is!

I became pregnant after being in a relationship for only a few months. He didn't take the news too well (to put it mildly!) and has chosen not to be part of our lives. Things will be difficult but I am looking forward to it all the same.

I've loved reading this thread and look forward to sharing all our experiences. I love being pregnant but could do without the elephant ankles which have just recently appeared along with the chipolata fingers!

Hope you are all feeling well and putting your feet up at every opportunity!

Morning all and welcome Baconbaps,

Am feeling proud of myself as I walked my DD to school and back this morning (still trying to build up stamina after my 6 weeks of bed rest) if this is how long it takes to recover after a C-section I am glad I avoided one!

Started to make a friend of one of the mums at the school gate, only to find our she is emigrating to Australia in 3 weeks, so back to the beginning again, am so awful at idle conversation on these types of circs

Am hoping to start decorating the Nursery this weekend so my job for today while DD is at school is to start tidying the room up as it is currently used as spare room/dumping ground!

Morning all,

Missed you ysterday but could't get to the PC as men stil putting in winodws! All done now, pleased to report there has been no huge influx of spiders as I feared.

Is anyone else having problems walking? The bump is feeling so heavy and I am quite out of breath!

I have to go to MW today for the 28 wk anti-d which the blood bank forgot to send for Monday apopintment, although I am 29 wks on Saturday. I need to talk to her about aching forearms and get her to check BP and wee for protien as other MW has concenrs. Was against it at first but am now of mindset if they want to sign me off fo a couple fo weeks...good. It actually means I will be able to spend all of DD's b'day with her instead of just afternoon.

Anyway just thought I would say hi.

Morning!
Redbird, I just took delivery of a new fridge/freezer and after the most basic of cleaning and tidying up, am utterly totally puffed. Walking is still ok, but the last few days of not enough sleep have made me feel 40 wks pregnant. Wonder what not enough sleep at 40 wks will do?!
Weirdbird, I wish you were one of the Mums at my dd's nursery gates - I know exactly what you mean
Better go get ready for scan...

Bacon, sorry, meant to say a big welcome! And congratulations

Thanks Lubella for the re-direction.

Hi guys. I'm due dec 1st, my first child and a little boy to boot.

Welcome bacon! I had elephant ankles last time, they have yet to appear, but I am taking nothing for granted. Put your feet up as much as you can and try some peppermint foot lotion. I don't think it reduces swelling, but it sure feels good

elibean - glad to hear that it is more normal to have the catheter after the epi. I think at that point the midwife was enjoying putting me through agony as she was rather "put out" that it was taking so long

cr - with my experience only of breech babies I have no idea how early they can become engaged. What did your MW say about it?

hello girls and welcome to all our newbies!

i'm beginning to get very very tired again. told my boss I was plannig to stay as long as poss at work but couldn't guarantee my legs won't give up very soon. I'm lucky.my boss is very lovely and understanding.

not much to report. the family spin are all knackered and DS fell asleep on sofa again as soon as he got in yesterday evening (before dinner) and slept through til 6:45 this morning.Lucky he eats so well at nursery so not feeling too guilty. I almost fell asleep myself but pulled through to eat something DH popped out to Waitrose for!!!

Beginning to think that going to three yr old b'day parties is more exhausting than the clubbing/drinking/partying that I was doing 10years ago!

Aaargh, Spinamum, don't mention 3 yr old parties...have just taken head out of sand and started facing up to the fact that dd will be 3 exactly two weeks after my due date. Early, and very small, are my thoughts...
Welcome, Bewilderbeast, and congrats to you too - sounds like you have one of the earliest due dates around here!
I had my scan this afternoon, to check placenta position and fluid levels (OB thought they might be abnormally high) and all is fine much relieved, though slightly alarmed to hear scanning doctor say he thinks this might be a big baby. Feels like she weighs a ton already (or is that me?!).
Jabber, if a MW tries to catheterize me pre-epi, I won't be held responsible for the consequences...

Excellent news elibean. I'm losing track of the catheter discussion, can't remember it going in at any point just getting the dratted thing out again!
Funny I can remember being given a shave tho'...
My ds's 3rd birthday is 2 days before my due date & he's chosen the cake he wants me to make from a book I stupidly left lying around - will he forget by december??? I think it's the perfect excuse for family only really, I stayed up very late last year baking everything for his party. Made huge effort (for me) went to his friend's party a few days later and she had done chocolate-covered strawberries & just about everything from the Annabel Karmel party book. Is this the future? competitive children's parties? DS just invited this week to one held in the local village hall with a disco (he saw this child for one morning a week at nursery for 5 weeks, and can't remember her). You have got to be kidding me!?!

Hi All,

On phone to M-I-L groan

So sorry, welcome bewilderbeast and baconbaps! I'll update the due date list when I come back from centerparcs - off tomorrow morning, haven't packed a thing & had to leave work early as bp dropped so low I couldn't stand up. I think on balance I would prefer low bp than high though! Best go pack!

Hi All, Meant to say earlier - hello to bacon and bewilder (smile)

MIL is driving me nuts, all over SIL as her baby is due next week (but has been right through the PG) not offered us any help during that time, now all of sudden wants to be here for me around my due date.... as other baby will have arrived Now I know it's a case of cutting off my nose to spite my face but I have issued a v.strong 'I'll manage - thanks' honestly, I swear she justs wants to position herself to be first to see new baby - well I'm not falling for that - no siree!

As for DD's 3rd birthday - we're going for the cheaters way of a pizza hut party for friends, then travelling to see DH's family (as I have none) 2 days later when new baby wil be there and other relatives are back from holiday!

The cake...will be a large square afair from Costco which I'll let DD help decorate - next year I promise to make a bigger effort!

Not sure if it is the PG hormones, but all of a sudden the idea of emigrating to NZ seems really appealing.

Hmmmm

Could just be that I am already fed up of being pregnant and there are far too many weeks still to go!

Pizzahut sounds good redlorry (I lurrrve pizza hut, sorry I mean ds would love pizza hut!). I'm thinking nibbles from asda quite frankly. Will be trading on the she's just had a baby/she's 9 months pg as much as I can!!
No, really, I have to pack stuff now...

Evening ladies, welcome newbies

Too much to try and catch up arrrggghhhhh!!

I know the feeling of the breathlessness and also feel about 40 weeks pg

Had antenatal today and was told my midwife that the chances of the placenta moving was very unlikely as on the last scan it was completeley blocking the cervix

So 999 if any bleeding or spotting and to expect a c section by 36 weeks at the latest!!!!!! So a november baby for sure possibly end of October

Girls its September now, how can I have a baby next month!?!?!?
Shitting myself again now