December 2006-3rd trimester!!!

[Calmriver]

Hi All, thought I would start a 3rd trimester thread, as most are past 23 weeks now!!!

Ouch Lucy, don't they give you anything in Spain for the birth? Poor you

Oh yes, Stroppy Senorita moment: took DD to playgroup today and fellow mum-to-be had a go at me for drinking coffee Yes really! I just shrugged my shoulders and said "why should I stop?" then walked off muttering, "at least I'm not taking swigs from a hip flask". Not yet anyway!!

In fact, I'm getting seriously worried about my self-control at the moment. What has happened to my crazy pregnancy hormones? At the weekend the estate agent was unbelievably rude about DS to my face (admittedly she is probably one of the stupidest people in the world, but) and DH said from the look on my face he thought I was going to wallop her. Instead I just walked off Most disappointing

Now that is 4 posts in a row - do I get a gold star?

I can't believe someone would have a go at you for drinking coffee. I don't mean to be contentious, but all the advice I've seen says it's fine in moderation. Do some people just enjoy being judgemental?

Hehehehe, everyone has a view and they are not frightened to tell you!

I can have an epidural in the later stages. After the episotomy, enema and shaving, what century am I in again? I've been told I might have to have a c-section, might be the lesser of two evils. There again they might just knock me over the head with a brick

oh and in Spain I was told that as long as I didn't drink coffee to excess, it was ok anything over 5 cups a day is excessive so it's not all bad.

Castles, why shouldn't you drink coffee? Stupid woman. You have to drink something like 8 cups of strong coffee a day for it to have any impact at all, and even that's questionable. I'd have told her it was to get over the hangover from last night that you got from the red wine accompnying your rare steak and blue cheese!!!Interfering old moose .

Definitely a gold star for 4 posts in a row. That's a record for this thread I think!!

Lucy, you could be on that thread about our mother's experience of childbirth, just 35 years too late!! Seriously? They give you an enema and shave you? I think a caesarean could be a less stressful option .

Hehehehe, i've got to laugh or i'll cry. I'm hoping for a c-section

Brilliant Olihan , wish I'd thought of that at the time!
A pg friend I was also with said that when pg with her DD she didn't drink coffee and when she was b'feeding her and drinking coffee she screamed like mad, so she wants to make sure she gets enough of it down her neck during this pregnancy!

Poor you Lucy. It's like that in France, they strap you into the stirrups at the 1st contraction and then wonder why the baby can't get out and needs ventouse/forceps.

Hello! Its been AGES! I have officially moved house and bloody hell its exhausting! All the packing, the drive up here, the dizzy landlady telling us happily that she had just bought us a new king size bed coupled with my dear darling father realizing that the key to the roof box (with all the bedding in it) was back at his house, the first night spent in sleeping bags.......

Mind you my parents may be forgetful but they did then drive back to Hill, spend the next morning exchanging all my new double bedding for king size (once the roof box key was located!) and drive up again yesterday to bring us it!

So there we go I am installed in a new flat, of course when we arrived the dizzy landlady had people in doing the bathroom (we have been paying rent since July and she knew we were moving then why did she not do it sooner?) and we have attractive patches of unpainted wall in both kitchen and bathroom where new stuff has gone in and they haven't painted over where the old stuff was. Classy that is. Also having threats form electricity company to cut us off because old tennents have outstanding bills and a fetching £230 water bill that someone has tried to put into dps name and got it very wrong. Seriously, we have been here a few days we do not have a swimming pool it is not ours! So with that and a few bits of broken furniture the landlady is coming round tonight where i will either be calm and business like or hormonal and cry at her depending on my mood. Either way it is all going to get sorted because I want a nice pretty house with stuff that works and my ligaments hurt so there!

On the plus side my local swimming pool has free aqua natal classes so tomorrow I shall go check them out and hopefully meet some nice fellow pregnant ladies!

Apologies for the rant! byee!

Hi Everyone -

Olihan, MW said she would be there for a homebirth and it would be more relaxing all round. Because of swelling and protien I have a review meting with her next Monday, and we'll talk more about it then. Am having anti-D on Thursday but not same mw, although still a really nice one.

Jabber, DH either has enthusiasm or doesnt - not really opionated, but if I ever go ahead when he had no enthusiasm and what ever it is is not as I thought it would be I never, ever live it down.

Such as trying to get all Christmas shopping finished - although I only shop for 1 aunt in my famiy, but five adults and 2 children from his, he never appreciates that it's been done. I'm sure he belives Father Christmas sends an elf to do it.

Well I now have all my facias done, as wel as upstairs windows. All the curtains are washed and hanging again, and tomorrow we just have the downstairs. Spent from 8.30am - 3.30pm desperate for the loo, but would'nt go as dust sheets every where and with no lock on door (since DD started to walk) I did'nt want to risk it. I am so tired and just glad to have my house back to myself for the rest of the day - hope they're quick again tomorrow as it's all of the downstairs - luckily DD will be at pre-school for a few hours and out of the way!

Come on guys, lets all take a guess which of our babies will come first and when??? Been thinking how scary it's going to be when the first of us pop.

Im guessing 15 November,not sure who

Oooh spooky, Calmriver, I had a vision that I was having mine in November this morning

I have 10 weeks/ish to go. I'm 28 weeks today, so with my section it's about 10 weeks. I went into labour at 38 weeks with DD. I am really going to make the most of the time to go as I don't know if we will have any more. It's a sad and frightening feeling in a way, feels like if we decide NO MORE it's the end of my womanhood.

I think I will be a November one too. Don't think DD is going to stay put. I know I over do it, but how can you not with a 2 year old or any other child for that matter.?

I have 10 weeks/ish to go. I'm 28 weeks today, so with my section it's about 10 weeks. I went into labour at 38 weeks with DD. I am really going to make the most of the time to go as I don't know if we will have any more. It's a sad and frightening feeling in a way, feels like if we decide NO MORE it's the end of my womanhood.

I think I will be a November one too. Don't think DD is going to stay put. I know I over do it, but how can you not with a 2 year old or any other child for that matter.?

I know what you mean calmriver, just asked dp last night whether this was really our last? Are you having an elective section then, hadn't realised?

Yes, I chose to have one with DD1 and it turned out just as well as I wasn't dialating, and now I'm going to have another.

Sorry if being nosy, I had an emergency section & am hoping to avoid another (consultant quite positive about my chances) as I found it very traumatic. But have to face fact that I could very well have to have one so I find other people's positive attitudes towards it encouraging! Still reliving it after nearly 3 years, but I think I need a different mindset getting closer to due date etc. At least after seeing ob on Monday I know exactly how it's going to go & how much time I get to try for vbac.

Evening gang...very exciting to see the bets being placed on first babies, makes it seem so close
Calmriver, you just put me in touch with reality: I'm 28+4 and will decide at 34 weeks whether to have an elective or not - odds are I will, due to mix of bp issues, age, previous section, and dd2's current tendency to stick to transverse position just like her sister did. 10-11 weeks....
Its also definitely our last.
I've had a weird day, two nights running of bad gut pain when I lie down, lots of having to get up and walk about. Bit scary, though I'm pretty sure its just IBS with baby squishing sore guts...am going through another bout of constipation (and accompanying piles ) plus dd starting nursery definitely inreased my stress last week. I saw the OB today, who tends to agree, but she also thinks I'm producing a lot of fluid again, and combined with the pain, she wants to scan me sooner rather than later - which is good: she's rightly cautious. And yet I can't help feeling a bit down/anxious - not sleeping much for 2 nights probably contributing! Scan is on Thursday.
Hope all the colds are better, the house moves are progressing or progressed nicely, and that all purchases are going as desired....

Forgot - AQ, I had an emergency section last time (though it wasn't at all emergency-ish, in reality, just failure to progress). I had fought against it tooth and nail, but when it happened - it ended up being a calm and amazing experience anyway.
For me, the trauma was afterwards - some issues with dd, then me having bp that skyrocketed and being readmitted - but its been coming up as I prepare for this next birth. Its hard to trust that 'no two experiences are the same' thing, at least for me

Thanks Elibean. I actually heard for the 1st time this week what really happened with ds as it was all a blur really. He was born with cord round his neck & it's taken me nearly 3 years to be told that! I hadn't realise really that the section had been performed (after I'd got fully dilated) because he was in trouble - no-one explained that at the time, nor did the consultant I saw when ds was 8 or 9 weeks. I might have accepted it all a great deal more easily had I understood. The way they put it was that his heart rate had dropped a little & I wasn't progressing, not that they needed to get him out asap.
Just found it all overwhelming, scary & not what I wanted at all. Had bad reaction to anaesthetic (they're trying to sort that out so won't happen again) or something and shaking so much I couldn't hold ds when he was born. Had been in hospital 3 days before all of this with induction & just gradually beaten down by it all I guess. I don't think all sections have to be like this, I do think that I ought to have been warned that it could go wrong (m/w who had seen me for last antenatal later said she thought it would end in section) and then dp & I could have prepared ourselves. And I wouldn't have been so traumatised. My consultant was wonderful, she talked me right the way through the entire labour & then the options I have once I reach my due date. And I think I could cope a lot better with a section this time round.

Not told that for three years? no wonder you have had a hard time processing it all, AQ. I'm glad you know now, upsetting as it must have been to hear it.
I was induced two days before my section too, and had an OB who actually shouted at me because I refused to go ahead with section just because he had booked a theater time that suited him (I was starting cx and was still hoping to avoid one). Luckily for me, I had wonderful midwives who actually took him to one side and told him to calm down - was a bit scary knowing he was the one holding the knife later on, but he did do a good job of that part: just crap at human relations.
Your first section sounds scarier than mine though, and I'm really glad you have a good OB this time (me, too) who clearly can communicate!
Right...I'm off to bed, hope I can sleep this time, still have the belly pain