November 2014- thread 4- 12 week scans and blooming in the second trimester!

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Hi everyone, we have run out of posts on our last thread so hopefully we'll all find this one easily enough.

Here is to more positive 12 week scans and enjoying our second trimesters, all feeling more human hopefully!

in all honestly random I've never met a totally decent person Including myself! We're all fallible!

got a definite mini bump here :) and still feeling sick so I'm grumpy that 12 weeks didn't miraculously make the sickness go :p

I quite revel in my new fatness. I kinda like it and play up on it. I think because I know it's only temporary and for a good reason it's a novelty and a change and amusing. Plus I know a couple of bitches will love the chance to make nasty comments so it kind of takes the wind out of their sales if I walk in proud as punch saying "check out my fat arse isn't it awesome!" before they can bitch about how fat I am.

Oh god yes I agree alita but I like to think that t the majority of people for all their faults don't hit, cheat and steal which are the failings I am referring to, not just being imperfect.

If any part of me other than my belly had fattened up, I'd be glad. My legs are widely referred to as 'chicken legs' 'sparrow legs', 'Storky'... I also have tiny boobs. Sadly, these seem to be remaining stubbornly unaffected! At what stage has everyone started showing, if you don't mind me being nosy?

On the plus side, probably gaining weight because the vom-fest is FINALLY slowing down. Thank God!

Morning folks! It is a beaut sunny day up here - at long last!

Amy83 - and all others with ups and downs - hope it is better this week. The emotional roller coaster is hard to deal with. The slightest thing can send it off and i think the out-of-proportion unpredictability can be unnerving. DD is now used to me weeping at anything. The new digestives advert with grey kittens saw me in floods last night - and I am not even that keen on cats!

Good luck to all those with scans this week and hope the waiting isnt too hard for those with a while to go yet.

I am definetly feeling movement. I was lying in bed this morning and recognised the feelings. Has anyone else had theirs start yet? I know I may be one of the furtherest along on this thread and this is pg2 so it makes it different but keen to hear from others?

Annarose2014 - I dont have a bump yet but then i am not the flattest and toned. I was more with DD1. I am always really conscious as to what i say about "fat" at the best of times as it can be such a loaded term and I dont know what body issues / confidence others have and dont want to blithely say anything to a pg woman or indeed any women about appearance / weight etc. Have had eating disorders in the past and struggled to come to terms with fluctuating body sizes (i have been a sz 6 and a sz 24). I wonder if the no bump yet is because i kinda havent really connected with being pg as yet and maybe once that happens - I will bloom and blossom??

I was wondering how everyone's eating is going now that the nausea is beginning to settle down a bit? I am trying hard to eat well and, inspired by a recent MN thread, have a new mission to give up sugar or at least drastically cut down. I had three lovely healthy meals yesterday but then ruined it all by having crisps and chocolate with DH as we watched our show. I said to him last night that we need to STOP buying crisps. We are healthy eaters and keep to a mostly vegetarian diet but we do like our snacks. DH is often training for half marathons and during those times he'll be very good - but he's not training right now, and my downfall is always when HE suggests we get ourselves some snacks for Game of Thrones/Mad Men/The Good Wife whatever it is we're watching. Then I'm like oh well if he wants to indulge then it's OK!

It is not OK! I am already craving sugar this morning and I know there are 3 purple snack bars in the house. I had a virtuous breakfast of scrambled eggs and smoked salmon on toast which was delicious but now I keep thinking about sugar. Must...resist...

No movement here yet weeonion (13+2) but a definite poochy little roundedness appearing.

Well I was reading a thread over on The Bump or one of those American sites about when people got a bump and was v taken aback that 90% of the answers were around 18 weeks!

I thought, oh golly, no WAY will it be that long for me as I've put on a stone since Wk 6! Then I started worrying that I wasn't like everyone else!

But then I relised that its all down to so many things. Some people with hard bellies won't show for ages cos of their musculature, and some who might have a belly to begin with might not show cos the difference at this stage isn't noticeable.

Whereas I am one of those tall people who was always able to stick my belly out to an astonishing size - remember that game as kids where we stuck our tummies out to pretend to be pregnant? I always won at those! But even as an adult when I had a flat(ish) stomach I could play that game and win! Even last year (when imagining being pregnant) I remember sticking my belly out in the mirror and I could look about 5 months gone, no problem.

So I suspect my stomach is just one that was always able to show early, iykwim.

I think I have felt some movement although 12 weeks would be very early. I felt movement at 15 weeks last time

AnnaRose, giggling now! I was never any good at it as it made me feel sick (should have taken that as a warning sign!) but my sister, even now, can make herself look full-term pregnant with minimal effort. It's mind-boggling.

As for eating, to be honest I have no idea how healthily I'm eating or not. Drinking lots of fruit tea so well hydrated & eating a lot of fruit & salad, on the plus side. On the downside, also sat and ate SEVEN packets of NikNaks in a row yesterday. The thought of a NikNak now makes me cringe. So probably not doing that well on the healthy eating front!

I was always good at that game! And I'm huge now at 13+2.

I haven't felt any movements yet, not even little flutters but last time it was at 17 weeks. Hoping it'll be slightly earlier this time as it's number 2.

I'm not expecting to feel anything for another 4 weeks at least, though I'm desperate to!

I'm still feeling queasy though no where near as bad as before 10 weeks. I'd like to be able to eat healthily again but It seems my food is still very restricted -.- though I'm being adventurous and eating chicken and a few vegetables :O

I've 'only' gained about half a stone so far but it looks and feels like a lot more because I still feel really bloated.
By bedtime I look about 5 months pregnant, it's so weird.
It's presumably from eating all day and gravity affecting my complete lack of stomach muscle tone.
I was a size 10 ish and now my size 14 cheap and stretchy Matalan jeggings are getting quite tight already!
My stomach is much flatter in the morning but there's still a definitely pregnant paunchy bump too.

Can't wait to feel the flutterings of baby but really quite fearful of the sharp jabs and kicks to come later on..

We have a cleaner at the moment for 1.5-2 hours a week as we both work long hours and its amazing, so nice to come home to a clean house but sadly that luxury is probably for the chop.
Recent inspection of our finances has shown that they are in a right mess.
I am absolutely freaking out about how on earth we'll pay the (comparative to income) huge mortgage, our credit cards, house bills, vet bills for poorly beloved cat and run two cars on one salary in a few months time.
We both run out of money every month about a week before pay-day as it is and then live off what's in the bloody freezer and he is far worse than me at making sacrifices.
I'm spending what I would have spent on wine, cocktails, ciggies, and general fun nights out on acupuncture, which is far less fun.
He seems to be in denial and I don't quite know what to do.
I'm starting a spreadsheet!

How on earth do people manage?!

Random, I have been in so much pain with my back and pains radiating all down my legs that I was in tears loads last week. I saw the acupuncture lady I told you about on Friday morning and she did acupuncture and a special massage and by Saturday and Sunday I was almost completely pain free!
Bit sore and stiff and achey today though so seeing her for a follow-up on Wednesday but she really can work miracles.
I know your case is much more severe than mine but she says that the sooner you treat these things the better and more chance treatment will make a difference.
I find the idea of it sounds like complete bollocks but I can't deny that it really, really does work, even though I can't grasp the concept!

I've been such a mess with my emotions and the aches and pains, I really feel for you suffering as you are already.

Scan TOMORROW, really excited and utterly terrified at the same time, I feel like I have been holding my breath for days and starting to feel anxious as so so many people know already - I know everything will likely be fine, I certainly still feel pretty lousy but the nervous anticipation is getting the better of me, which means I reach for the chocolate digestives ...and bigger trousers

Sorry for MASSIVE post.

12w 1d!

My saving is cigarettes but then what I'm saving there I'm spending on food per week! Last night dinner was 3 sea bass, enough mash for 2, easily, and enough veg for at least 2. I'm a piggy!!

Nearly a week to go until my scan, and will be the magic 12 weeks on Wednesday.

I got the Doppler out today, and have managed to hear baby's heartbeat very clearly. Sounds like galloping horses! Sound quality wasn't very good though. Hope that's because baby is tiny and not because I got a cheap Doppler. Can't wait to show DP. He was so excited and surprised to hear the heartbeat at our early scan. Will work out a way to record it as well. I'm hoping the doppler will come in handy with DS so he can have a listen and do some bonding too.

My "bump" has definitely settled down, and disappeared a bit, but gets larger as the day goes on? I don't feel as sick as I have done, but the nausea hasn't gone yet. I haven't felt any movement yet but don't expect to for a long time. DP's cousin is expecting twins and is about three weeks ahead of me and seems to think she can feel them move.

Also started listening to my VBAC hypnotherapy CD. Hopefully it will help.

Elliekins - take a look at the moneysaving expert forums. You might pick up some tips on there? Things like switching to interest free payments on your mortgage while you are on maternity leave. For your credit cards, their debt free wannabe forum should be very helpful to you.

Interest only, not interest free. D'oh!

Elliekins - I could have written your last post word for word - I have the exact same anxieties. We have halved our grocery bill by not buying ahem 3-4 bottles of wine a week plus rolling baccy, but things keep mounting up - car insurance/ DIY etc. We won't be able to buy anything new for the baby, but I'm not bothered about that kind of thing anyway.

I've started a spreadsheet that shows my monthly salary deficit when on mat leave, and how much we need to save prior to me leaving for mat leave in order to cover the deficit. It's over £5k. LOVELY.

I was worried over the weekend as my nausea abated, but it's back full force today, hoorah. I'm not actually being sick, just feel rough.

Also - I had a very toned stomach with a mini sixpack (2pac?) prior to pregnancy and up to about week 6. I now ahve a delightful paunch that i am sure is 90% gas and 10% bebe.

Scan tomorrow morning at 8.30, so hopefully I'll be back on with good news...

12+1

Thanks Mrs Wombat, that is an incredibly good idea - I'll call the mortgage people today and see if it's possible, as that could make a really big difference.
Trying to do a 0% transfer thing too for my credit card today..

I have all the statements out and an .xls open, but it's still blank and have been looking up cheap accommodation for our holiday instead.
Need to stop being a twat and get on with it, the head in the sand approach clearly isn't going to work for this... or childbirth.

Hope the hypnotherapy works well for you, I'm listening to mine loads and it does relax me, if nothing else.

Really want a Doppler!

Glad I'm not alone Miskate, I've estimated that we need to find about an extra 4.5k for our living costs for while I'm not working and that only gives me about 5 months Mat leave, I want to stop work a month before ideally...
That means we need to save £700 a month from now on, which is impossible as we are always overdrawn by the 25th!
I'm now shopping at Asda not Waitrose and Sainsbury's and buying Asda basics where I can but still about £680 short of the monthly saving target.
Best sack the cleaner I suppose. ??
I work as a nanny so will hopefully be going back with my baby by February (preying they won't change their mind??) but my hours will be reduced from 58p/wk to 38p/wk so massive pay cut anyway.

My scan is at 12.00pm tomorrow, good luck!

Twiglet your post about the nic-narks made me laugh- that could easily be me!
I was very grumpy last night as put on at least 10 pounds and just feel huge (and unfortunately not just in the belly region). I keep reading that most women only put on a couple of pounds in the first tri so keep thinking 'what gave I done!?'
Now nausea had improved quite a bit, going to make a conscious effort to eat better, but not easy as need to get rid of all the Easter chocolate first!

Gah..... Nic-naks not nic-narks!!

Great news!
Barclaycard have just given me a balance transfer of 0% for 2 years!
Why didn't I do this months ago?...

Next for the mortgage people!
Thanks Mrs Wombat - huge relief already! X

Just lost the internet for 24hrs (grrr) and have just caught up.
Twiglet, I live in Surrey.
Thursday and Northern, I'm hoping the breathlessness eases soon like you both said as I didn't like googles answer that it stops when you have the baby.
Random, you have to kiss a lot of frogs...
Hopeful and Weeonion, did you guys book your Harmony tests after the 12 week scans?
Giraffe, Nessalina and Ellie, Good luck at the scans tomorrow. Looking forward to hearing your happy news :)
In regards to guessing the sex, I think that over 90% of the Nov thread think they are having girls. Hmm...

If I missed anyone else who is having a scan tomorrow, nothing personal and best of luck to you too

I think I'm having a boy, but going to wait till the bitter end to find out...
My theory is based purely on the fact that there are a lot of boys in my husband's family and I have become rather hairy. Scientific!