November 2014- thread 4- 12 week scans and blooming in the second trimester!

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Hi everyone, we have run out of posts on our last thread so hopefully we'll all find this one easily enough.

Here is to more positive 12 week scans and enjoying our second trimesters, all feeling more human hopefully!

Hello lovely ladies, I think I missed the whole last thread as it's been a hectice few weeks, but I had a free hour this afternoon so thought I'd track you all down.

Great to see the positive scan news! Mine is on Thursday afternoon when I'll be 11+6. Really not as nervous as I was with DD 2 years ago as I have a pretty sizable bump so I'm sure something is growing in there. Breaking the news to friends and family next week isn't going to be much of a shock I think!

I'm another one who doesn't want to know the gender. I'm imagining a boy as having had DD I can imagine another girl quite easily, and I want to try and picture life with one of each. Love the surprise!

Hi venus 2 - good to see you. I have always wanted a harmony but have been mucked about a bit with appts. My new appt is now saturday with around 2 weeks after that for results..... seems so long On another thread someone said they had the "nifty" test which apparently very similar but alot cheaper. I cant find anywhere to do it in Scotland but there are places in England / Wales (not sure where you are)

I think i am having a boy - purely because this pg feels so much different to my last so not scientific at all . The harmony test will tell us the sex if we want (which we do) so should find out about 17 weeks. I know which sex DP would quietly prefer but we havent really talked about it ... I know DD would LOVE a sister. She is thankfully not a very "girly" girl and it is more the idea of her getting her own mei tai that makes her excited about having a baby around . she still doesnt know yet about this pg though i did find a doodle she had done with dp, herself, me and a baby (well i presume that is what it was - it actually looked more like a maggot) inside a big love heart with 'what i wish for' written on it....

My DH has an important work do coming up in a few weeks which has been totally stressing me out as none of my wardrobe fits anymore. Solved that problem today, bought a slim all white dress which definitely makes my tummy look pregnant. Love it. Much safer accentuating the bump than hiding it.

I thought it was a boy but every thing indicates girl :p we will see!

my doppler will be here soon, hoping I don't freak out if I can't find the heart beat. but I'm hoping that it will stop me worrying so much I need a private scan befoee 20 weeks :p

has anyone had chats about names (I don't want to talk about them just yet, shall we save that til later? ) dp and I aren't doing great tbh, it doesn't help that he refuses to settle on a name until their born which I agree with in principle but I know I will start calling them a name as soon as I find out gender, and will be pretty set on it by birth :p
But Yeh having to agree with someone has reduced my significantly :p

Weeonion, I'm going to get the Harmony test as DH wants to. Did you book it whilst at the 12 week scan or independently? If they can check the sex at the Harmony test, what week is it best to do the test? I thought it needed to be 16 weeks to find out the sex.

Oh gosh, please nobody talk about finances .

My OH broke the news to me LAST WEEK that he's put in an offer on a new business premise that comes with a house, so if it goes through we'll be moving my whale-sized butt into new accommodation mere weeks before I'm due to give birth. Not only that, but the house is twice the size of the bungalow we live in now & has ancient heating/boiler systems, so probably going to cost a fortune. Which means all my budgeting is screwed. And I can't redo it because nobody knows what the costs in the house will be. Oh, and we might not be moving there at all so "don't worry about it!".

And yet, he doesn't understand why the red mist descended...

Oh, and definitely calling them Nik Narks from now on. Narky sums up how I'm feeling today pretty well!

Hi venus - as far as i know there is no time restrictions on the test - you can do it at any stage. It is independent from the NHS - private and ours is costing £650. Gulp. I want it as I am older and classed as much higher risk. There is a bit of a waiting list up here but manged to get one this weekend. I havent heard that the sex can only be told from 16 weeks - I know the sex can be determined much earlier in other forms of blood tests ( i know someone who is a carrier of a genetic disorder and found out v v early what sex she was carrying).

Let me know how you get on and your new dress sounds beaut...

MrsWombat we must be due dates buddies, I'm 12 weeks on Wednesday but have to wait another week before my scan too. Also, I just lolled on the train at the interest free mortgage, I'd love one of those!!

I look fairly normal in the morning (although my boobs have grown and don't fit in lots of my clothes, argh!) but have a bit of a belly by the evening. I'm sure it's just bloating which I'm prone to anyway, but I keep getting concerned that someone at work is going to notice.

All this talk of nik naks is making me hungry. Again. Only 24 minutes after I stuffed a cereal bar in my cake hole. I'm going to be the size of a whale if I'm not careful!

Venus think they can only clearly differentiate gender on scan from 16 weeks, but the blood tests can pick it up earlier

LOL at cake hole! I am also having feeding issues. As in, I'm feeding myself too much, too often & with the wrong things!

And now I quite fancy another packet of Nik Naks. Darn it!

Venus - I had my harmony test the day after my 12 week NHS scan. I booked the appointment at about 7/8 weeks though. I think there's a wait for appointments but I guess it depends how flexible you can be about dates and times. I needed after school and there was only one time left on the day I requested. I had it after so I could cancel it if I got bad news on my nhs scan. I would definitely recommend it (not got my harmony results yet as I have to wait 2 weeks but I got the NT results at the same appointment). They can't tell gender from scans before 16 weeks but the harmony uses your blood test to get a gender (not sure how!). It's 99% accurate apparently. I'll be hoping what I'm told at my 20 week scan matches my Harmony results. I had mine at the fetal medicine centre

P.S. It cost £500

Weeonion, yes I knew it wasn't cheap but we want to be sure. I think they should tell us the sex at that cost. Maybe 16 weeks is just when most people have a sex testing scan. I don't know. I'm a beginner with all this. Is this your first?

Hopeful and TeaNCakes thanks for confirming that I'm not imagining the 16 weeks info. I better get booking the Harmony test in asap if it's that busy. Luckily I don't have a job to juggle around so I can take whatever is on offer.

venus - this is my 2nd DC but first harmony test

I know they will tell me the sex from harmony - when i called to reconfirm appt I checked.

This aint a cheap pg - between private scans, harmony tests, doula and birthing pool - we are talking near a grand and half. thats a whack of my mat savings gone...

wow people are spending tonnes so far my pregnancy has cost £15 in fertility lube, £30- 40 in clothes, £10 in scan pics, around £15 in vitamins and I think that's it and I thought that was lots :p

oh and £20 on a doppler!

I've spent 20 on a doppler and I think about 17.99 on those bump bands in New Look.

I didn't even fork out for pregnancy tests - just nicked some from my ward in the hospital!

No Harmony for me - we need to buy carpets!

alita we sorted names for all three of our prospective children while ds was in the oven. Now needless to say both of us are going through the names again and there are more in the mix! I love our ds's names and we picked his first name years before his conception but sadly it's now one of the most common in the last few years which irritates me mightily.

Financially we're okay having been through the adjustments first time around Ironically my ex-employers 'interesting' attitude to pregnant staff rather offset any issues with mat pay, ha and have so far spent about £60 on this pregnancy. Am definitely forking out for acupuncture again though, so that's a few hundred. Also thinking of putting down for a private room if we can at the hospital, dh being dispatched 4 hours afterwards last time while they kept me overnight was Not Cool.

I know we are spending alot at this stage, more than I budgeted for but as I am so worried and not really feeling pg (nor indeed imagining having a baby at this stage, I want all the reassurance I can get.

Haven't spent anything on mat clothes and hoping everything I had from last time will do. As for baby stuff - hoping we get most of our stuff back and can borrow / get the rest 2nd hand.

Hi there. I'm due November 24th I think. Booking in this week and hope to get a scan confirmed then. Won't feel properly pregnant till then or until I get a decent bump. Just look permanently like had too much dinner at the mo!

I've spent about £500 plus £200 in vouchers but I've got everything I need now except baby clothes which I'll leave till I know the sex and how big this one is likely to be. I've got the travel system, changing bag, cloth nappies, bath & accessories, side cot, monitor, bouncer, playmat, bottles, breast pump, maternity clothes, doppler and maternity pillow. That's me done now. My parents can pitch in clothes as pressies but that's me totally done till munchkin is about 5 or 6 months.

Hi Sleepy. Congratulations and welcome

I hope I'm not ruining anyone's fun, but the bicarbonate soda and red cabbage test only measures how acid your urine is, which depends on what you've eaten/drunk! I did try and do the position of the placenta test while I had a scan, but couldn't figure out where it would be (there was just a yolk sac) and if the scan was a mirror image or not. We should do a google spreadsheet of everyone's guesses though and then see if we were right!

I haven't spent any money yet, but was going to order some wool to knit a baby cardi soon. Never knitted more than simple stuff like socks, but if I can manage it, it should look really cute!

I haven't gained any weight and am not showing yet, only when I suck my belly in I can see it's a bit rounder and firmer than it was. I have to commute 75 minutes each way now on public transport and am looking forward to having a bump as I can then claim a seat... and I will!

I wish I could go back and test the bicarbonate of soda before I was pregnant. but each time it doesn't fizz but will try again and see :p