TTC 10+++ Months Grads Thread

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Decided to start the new thread seeing as the old one is filling up.

Buzzz hope nursery is going ok.

Sea glad to read things are improving. So sorry about mastitis

Sweet any idea what is causibgvhe diaheera?

All is well with minifree. She's lovely. I am unfortunately unwell with a suspected slipped disc and on heavy drugs so have had to stop .bf all together which is a shame as mixed feeding was working well for us. But as I can't move, pick up or feed mini or change her, I'm not too concerned as long as she gets fed. I've got a home help coming tomorrow as Mrfree has to goto work after a week of essentially beingmy carer. I've got a scan booked for next Friday to see the level of damage andif I have to have an operation

sweet everyone comments on her cheeks! She is a gorgeously fat baby now - such a change from her incubator days when her ribs were sticking through her skin. I love seeing her chubby rolls. :)

How old was mini when she went to nursery?

free I don't like the pump much either. But in the early days it was the only thing I could do for my poorly baby when I couldn't even hold her, so that helped me to get going. I was hanging around the neonatal unit all day and she slept for much of it. Going to the pumping room every couple of hours gave me a purpose. And now it is just habit. Part of me wishes I had managed to get her bfing. I think I could have if I had persevered and got the advice of a lactation consultant when she came out of hospital. But it's ok. And she is 4 months old now, and will be weaning soon and I will be going back to work, so we will be moving to mix feeding.

Ouch to the slipped disc. What terrible timing, but it's great that mr free has been able to care for you both for a while. I hope you can get it sorted soon.

buzz I love how direct you were with NCT lady!

I'm having a similar childcare wobble as we are starting to look for a nanny. Being at home full time doesn't suit me as I knew it wouldn't but I am going to hate leaving her. I enjoy interacting with centime, but don't enjoy the domesticity or lack of intellectual challenge. And I see mr euro managing to work full time and still have a great bond with her, which is encouraging. I'm sure Bee will have a lovely time at nursery, and I am sure centime will be fine too when her time comes.

skeleton thank you and sorry for the hard times you have experienced.

free - the disk sounds very painful! Poor you. So glad to hear miniFree is doing well.

euro - Mini was two days shy of being 10 months. He really enjoys the interaction with other children, which is great. Keep in mind buzzy's advice - Happy mum, happy baby. I have to say there is nothing better than hearing "mum!" at the end of a long day and getting an enthusiastic cuddle. I'm sure you'll find someone you, Mr and centime all like.

We were in the hospital yesterday with mini because his diarrhea was making him very dehydrated. After a few hours we got sent home with rehydration instructions. We're on day 9 of diarrhea probably if 14 days total and it is likely a rotavirus infection. Luckily the little guy was vaccinated, because it would have been much worse without it.

Sweet poor mini! Hope he's on the mend now.

I've been in bed for over a week now. We've got a part time nanny who is great. And my parents in law are here now. I can't get down the stairs to where we've set up everything really and listening to mini scream is really hard. MIL is doing her best but obviously doesn't know mini's routine and tired, hungry, wind, nappy change and hold me cues like I do. I am resisting trying to start hobbling downstairs or shouting instructions over the monitor. MRT scan tomorrow.

sweet sorry to hear about about mini sweet, hope he is on the mend

free sorry about the back,its hard watching others trying but not quite getting it right, I hope the scan gives you some answers

euro I agree with you, its domesticity of it that I find boring, I need a bit of stimulation, but hate the thought of leaving her, its just the guilt, I am sure she will be happy as she can play by herself, I think I am the one who will struggle with the change still not heard back from my boss

For those who know I have been in touch with my parents, so far so good, we have skyped a couple of times and feel I made the right decision, they have so much to offer BB already, they are now both retired and are off travelling and doing adventurous things, they are coming over here next year to see my niece graduate so we will see them then, I am aware that there are things we will need to sort out but I just got freaked out that if anything happened to me or Barry it would just be his family involved in her life, they are so limited, they also know nothing about me despite over 6 years of being with their son, they would not be able to tell BB anything about who I was

Buzz - I'm so happy things are working positively with your parents. I really admire your courage to reconnect after all this time. Any news from the nursery or your boss?

free - How are you feeling? I hope your back is getting better and that you have some great meds.

AFM - mini is better and has gained back the weight he lost when ill. I hope I never have to experience that again. He is back at the nursery and has made friends. He no longer fusses when we drop him off, he waves bye bye and gets on with the playing.

We've been busy with family and job interviews.

sweet you give me hope on the nursery front with that story, I'm glad he is better, finally after much chasing, my boss has said yes to my hours and days but there is a 3 month probational period and then we shall see, there are lots of changes still to happen when the powers that be decide on what they should actually be so it might be that I don't fit into the service, so we shall see what happens, I'm going to start settling in at nursery around Christmas, not ideal but they are closed between Christmas and New Year. I imagine there are still going to be difficult conversations to be had with my parents but at the moment they are just thrilled to be grandparents again.

So are you or Mr S busy with job interviews :)

I took BB to see Santa today, I was prepared for how emotional I would feel, its like a dream come true

waves to everyone else

Hi. It's freedom2011 here in Christmas disguise.

BUZZ I didn't know you were out of touch with your parents. But good that you think it may be possible to get back in touch. Lovely read about the Santa visit.

SWEET so glad mini is better. And back at nursery. Aeuro have you found a nursery yet?

I'm unfortunately still flat on my back for the fourth week. I have only left the house for drs appointments and scans. I'm on opiate pain killers and diazepam. I can't do anything unaided. I can just about manage to get to the loo on crutches. Neurosurgeon is pushing for surgery asap - as in Tuesday to cut the disc that is irritating the nerve and causing pain. We're scraping through the days with help from a nanny, my inlaws and my mum had flown in. I can touch mini when she is next to me or hold her briefly when placed directly in my arms. That's it. I sing to her and talk to her and she does a lovely grin and gurgle and it's pretty hard to not cry in frustration but keep grateful for her being healthy and DH being such a good husband and other help we're getting.

buzz that all thoughts really positive about your parents. :)

free that sounds enormously tough. I hope you get the surgery and it brings you relief. x

AFM, we have had a lot of housemove stress. We still don't have a date but are hoping to move next week. Argh. We've been packing up all the stuff we don't use day to day but there will still be a huge amount to do if the move goes ahead.

thoughts=sounds. Not sure what happened there!

Hi ladies,

Sorry for the long silence. I have been settling into motherhood and spending less time online (apart from frantic googling of all things related to baby). I have missed you all!

Euro - Moving house is so stressful. Labelling boxes for unpacking the other end really helps I find. I hope it goes well.

Sweet - So sorry to hear about mini's illness. Must have been worrying. Glad she has recovered.

Buzz - Good on you for reconnecting with your parents. I also have a somewhat fractured relationship with my parents. I had hope having mini sea would somehow made things between us better but so far it doesn't really feel like there's an improvement. I often think problems with parents is down to expectations. Perhaps I wish they are like regular parents and that's asking too much of them. Your situation is probably completely different. Anyway, I have you reconnect with them. I am sure your babe will love nursery. I actually don't know anyone of them that don't.

Free - Ouch! Poor you being laid up like that. Glad you are getting help and support from family and nanny but still it must be frustrating. I hope you make a speedy recovery. Sounds v painful!

All okay here. Things improved a lot since I stop bfing but I still feel sad about it. Mini Sea is doing well and growing so fast. He's actually a really good sleeper. So much so I have been a bit worry that he sleep too much. I am sure it will all change now that I have said that.

sea I didn't really speak to my parents for about 15 years, there was a bit of a reconciliation about 8 years ago but didn't last, there are still difficult conversations to be had but they seem really pleased and excited to be grandparents, I think they have reached that stage in life where they have grabbed life with both hands and just want to make the most of it, my mum did say 'no matter what happens between us BB will always be our grandchild' it made me cry as it meant alot to hear that, one of my concerns was that they would be in and out of her life. I am sorry that your relationship is fractured with your parents, you are right alot is about managing expectations, things have deteriorated between myself and the inlaws, it might take time but I do hope things improve for you,

frosty oh no I can't believe you still have back problems, I hope they were able to operate on Tuesday

euro I have they sorted out house exchange ??

So I took BB to see Santa on Tuesday, I was unprepared for how emotional I would feel, I cried alot, I never though I would have a baby to do Christmasey things with we are putting up the Christmas tree this weekend

frosty - I hope you are at home recovering from your back surgery and that you are on the mend. The injury sounds incredibly frustrating.

sea - I'm glad you are settling into your routine with minisea.

euro - I hate moving, I find the whole thing very stressful. How are you managing it with centime? Has it been sorted yet?

buzz - I haven't been to santa yet with mini. I feel like I have cried at almost all his big firsts. I can relate to being unprepared for how emotional all the big firsts would make me feel. How did BB react to Santa? How many teeth does she have now? Is she walking?

All this talk about managing parental expectations has made me reflect that I should work harder at managing my own expectations of my mother. I have been perpetually frustrated, saddened and disappointed the last few months and I think it might be related to unrealistic expectations on my end. Other than that I am waiting nervously to find out if I have gotten a job I interviewed for. It would be a very exciting opportunity, so I hope I find out either way before Christmas.

sweet oooh very exciting about the job and fingers crossed, she liked that Santa talked to her and she tried to pull his beard but she wasn't scared at all. Still only 6 teeth but there are things going on as she is chewing everything again, she is cruising the furniture still and can stand unaided for a nano second every now and again.
I feel to some level that I have unrealistic expectations of my inlaws, I know from life coaching that they are 'limited' but I think some of it is just common sense/courtesy, good manners, I think its their level of surprise when things have been mentioned to them that annoys me most

Thanks ladies. Bit spaced out in drugs. Surgery on Tuesday this coming week.

frosty I hope it makes a big difference for you, fingers crossed :)

frosty - I'll be thinking of you tomorrow. I do hope this makes a huge difference for you.

Buzzy - sounds like BB and miniSweets are at about the same place, 6 teeth and trying to walk. I'm so happy to hear she liked santa. She sounds so cute.

Thanks! I'm out of surgery. Tomorrow I'll be allowed to get out if bed with physio and try walking. Not that I'm in bed with the physio

ooh frosty - I really hope it helps and you feel better, I am glad everything went well.

I just had the shock of my life. Mr asked me to take a test because I haven't really had periods since I stopped breastfeeding and got a bfp.

Fuck me sweetgrouch! Wow! What news! How are you processing? That's a huge joyful scary exciting rollercoaster piece of information there. Any idea how many weeks? I bet you get the job as well. Sending you a massive hug. It'll be all right.

sweet wow that is exciting news oooh how many weeks do you think you are

I am slowly processing meaning my mouth is no longer agape As best as we can guess between 5-8 weeks? I have a drs appointment on the 27th of January and am waiting for the hospital to call for a dating scan.

How is everyone else?

Well, I've been reading this thread for a while wondering if I'll ever feel ready to post as a grad. I haven't decided, but just stumbled across sweet's news .

That's so brilliant!!!! If, err, soon......!

Eh, what? Muddy - did you get a positive? Did you? Did you? Forgive me on opiatesandvalium post herniated disk op

Frosty, so sorry to hear about your back, it sounds agony.

Yes, we did donor egg ivf in November and I'm now just over 8 weeks. I'm mainly terrified but did have a good scan last week at 7+2. Having a private scan this Sunday which is my next focus.