September 2014 - where we enjoy happy scans and a healthy 2nd trimester

[TheOnlySeven]

Welcome all regulars, lurkers and anyone else who wants to enjoy a positive pregnancy :)

Blossom they are adorable arent they!!
Dh isnt very open about his feelings and all that. He har a tough upbringing and had to be head of family from when he was still a kid. We've not talked about much tbh I think hea scared of jinxing the pregnancy and hes worried about delivery which he has openly admitted once don't blame him!

surro another awkward question here if you don't mind answering
so is the baby your mums? tell me stfu if im being too nosey

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ds2 is ill and crying better get him before it turns into asthma attack again

I took surro to mean the m&d of the baby she is carrying, not her actual m&d......but I could be wrong!

isitme I suspect dh is more scared of after the baby being born, possible PND, lack of sleep, us falling out cos we are tired etc. I just hoping that once he sets eyes on his second born he'll fall in love.

Blossom it took dh a while to bond with ds2 he said to me after he was born and id stopped hemorrhaging that I came before everyone. It took him weeks to finally pick him up without me saying just hold him a minute.

It was bad. I was rushed from delivery to hdu where loads of drs were around me. Once the bleeding settleddh asked me how I was frfeeling and I was sweating at that time.
Then my dad came to see me (he rushed once he heard I was poorly again) amd I saw him and started crying I said you promised it wouldn't let it happen again and it did. Bloody hell its still so raw :(
dh ringing his family asking them to pray. Mum crying dh crying not getting ti give baby first feed etc. Fuck.

Hopefully a c section will be better

On a more positive note
happy birthday waffles

Ah Rockin good to see I won't be the only one not finding out the sex. Looking forward to the surprise
And, I also hate pink, why are all baby girls clothes pink? Hopefully, people know me well enough not to buy the pink tutu dresses if I have a girl! (Although each to their own, it would be a boring world if we all liked the same thing _

Oh, and Happy Birthday Waffles

isitme that's horrendous, the c section sounds a lot calmer! At least planned, the risk will be greatly reduced.

Blossom that's why ive been 'studying' obem.
I know its a lil different to real life but its still real life iyswim. Soooo much calmer even in emergency situation.

I guess being pg so close to last delivery is good in a way so I dont forget (if that's possible) what happened so we are all more aware this time.

Cumbrian thats what I like about this thread if we all liked the same it would be boring. A bit if difference is good!

Blossom that wasnt the full story either don't know if I can put the full story in writing and I don't want to scare anyone as this doesnt happen on a regular basis. Im aure clover agrees x

A dentist once said to me "whiteblossom you don't want to know" after I'd asked what the treatment entailed. I knew what he meant and was thankful. Sometimes you can know too much.

Definitely! !
That's 1 thing I hate
I know they have to discuss whats going on but when you can hear it you remember and that plays over and over in your head. I had a bad time with ds1 too and the mw was like 'blood is coming really fast from somewhere and I dont know where' 'her flesh is like cottage cheese' 'if I just sew this bit there'
I had tore really bad and needed corrective surgery.

Once I was home I would cry during sleep thinking I was back im hospital. I was living with parents at the time and I wondered into room middle of the night and woke mum up crying saying I could still hear what mw was saying and its giving me nightmares.

This time I was in and out of conciseness so all I remember was him telling me not to worry and he was sorry he was meeting me like this and what he had to do and why it would help.

Thankyou for the birthday wishes

Had my 16 week appointment today - weird being on the other side of it, as I normally do such clinics at work!! All was well.

Bought a little pink babygro too!

Re. knowing too much, ignorance is bliss I feel when it comes to medical stuff!

I feel down today for some reason and have felt stressed out at work. Bit early for baby blues though! Just ready for a break from work I think, it's so full on constantly :/

I bought some over the bump maternity trousers today (mothercare) and I love them! Sooo comfy! I'd never seen them before, so they did make me laugh when I first tried them on.
This is my first and felt so strange walking into mothercare for the first time not to get a gift for someone who has just given birth, but for myself, my pregnancy, my baby! My sister said I looked a bit scared walking into the shop and I guess it did feel surreal.
Had a semi-succesful shopping spree and managed to find a few things I might be able to hide the bump in when I start my new job Monday, but absolutely exhausted today and feel sick and feel really emotional and low too. I think I feel low as I've put on weight and feel really huge and uncomfortable this week, and I'm realising this is only going to get worse! I couldn't get comfortable in bed last night, so didn't sleep well. My tummy felt under pressure. Also, there's not going to be much more hiding it, as nearly everything I've tried on shows the bump - which I just feel so self-conscious of with starting new job. I've had funny sharp pains this week - like everything's stretching. They haven't lasted long enough for me to be worried, but it all feels uncomfortable. Does this just get worse? I'm 14+4.

In my experience, Missingcaffeine, it DOES gets better for a bit, where you have a bump but it's small and you're full of beans, and you get some energy back, and then you start to have a proper bump rather than just feeling too big for your clothes and you can flaunt it and love it, and also you start feeling movements which is wonderful and lovely... and then it gets into the third trimester and it's all shit again :)

Good luck with the new job. I think you will feel a lot better once you've got the initial few days over with. I am also starting a new job 2nd april and dreading it a bit. It's not a big change from what I'm doing currently but like you I just feel a bit vulnerable and stupid about the pregnancy. I'm not showing yet; but I suspect you'll find most other people (esp men) don't notice at all even though you think you are.

Missingcaffeine At 16+1 I don't think it really gets worse (based only on my own experience so far!), just some days you are more uncomfortable than others. I had some pains quite early on, quite like period pains which was apparently normal and growing uterus and have now had some twinges in the sides of my abdomen, which from what i've read is because of more growing. Maybe baby is having a growth spurt!

Congrats to those finding out who is pink or blue! In order to do our own research I think we should all say how spotty we have been when we find out if we are pink or blue. So far from what i've seen, despite the old wives tale of girls stealing looks, it appears that those that have been more spotty are having boys...

Had 16 week check up yesterday with a consultant. Was awful - got to listen to heartbeat for all of two seconds. Doctor says "Are you convinced?" [hmmm] then she goes on to lecture me about not missing GTT test next week (have never missed an appointment - perhaps people miss them because you just get sent an appt letter with no explanation as to what the test is for) and bluntly express the risks of untreated gestational diabetes - still birth. She said still birth no less than six times. Then when I asked about the heartbeat and whether everything seemed ok she looked at me like I was a crazy person for asking, and when I expressed worries about not being checked between 12 and 20 weeks she compared my unborn child to a plant by saying something along the lines of "leave it alone and will grow..." she was just so not bothered. Felt very emotional/angry/frustrated for the rest of the day (and still do) and it completely ruined being able to hear the heartbeat and did nothing to reassure my already high levels of anxiety. Ridiculous.

Am I just being emotional and over reacting, or is that a joke?!

I'm feeling really low today too.
My SPD has kicked in just over the last few days and I'm feeling really scared in case it continues to get worse at this rate. I've gone from feeling the odd twinge if I do something silly like trying to put my knickers on standing up (Friday) to struggling to walk at all yesterday and today. I've got an awful feeling I'm not going to get any real help before I go on holiday in a week and a half's time as the mws only suggestion today was to go to a class the physio runs which I've already been to.
Also, DH is being really rubbish about it. Instead of wanting to know what would help or what things are problematic, he just wants to take my dog to the pound.
Sorry for the winge, I'm just feeling at the end of my tether today.

Sounds like you had a crap experience with the doctor. Mine was the opposite, I couldn't believe how lovely and nice she was- I was expecting a lecture and totally didn't get one. Luck of the NHS draw I suppose, hopefully you'll see a kinder one next time.

fairypants request a physio who will manipulate you - I saw physios 5 times with SPD during and after pregnancy no1 and no-one ever touched me and it took me a year after birth to get better. I've been having physio since 9 weeks this pregnancy, been manipulated at each appointment (2) and I am SO improved. I walked into my first appointment thinking this is just a slippery slope to crutches and I walked out pain-free (which lasted the rest of the day!). I am hopeful now that I might avoid crutches this time round :) (my current physio said some are afraid to manipulate pregnant women, which is crazy! I have a discrepancy at the front of my pelvis, and one hip is out of alignment and clicky/crunchy - I never knew this before as no-one had ever checked, just given me a belt and basically told to get on with it). The best bit about seeing this physio is how different mentally I feel about SPD - it is now a condition that has treatment! Apparently an osteopath can give you similar treatment (if you can pay) if you need some help ASAP.
Hope you can get some treatment soon so you can enjoy your holiday x
(We haven't booked a holiday this year as I was afraid I would be on crutches / in a wheelchair, but we are discussing it now as things are so improved!)

yuk i have had diarrhea for the last few days. felt sick after lunch yesterday so skipped dinner last night, really hope that's the end of it.
Breakfast has stayed down and i don't feel sick, yet.

Rockin if youve had/got d+v have some ginger AlE
it works a treat.
Hope your breakie stays down!

Lilone
I totally agree! Boys do make you more spotty. It did with ds1 and a lil more than usual with ds2 and right now ive got nothing more than normal (which is the odd spot every few weeks or so)

I've finally given in an ordered some maternity trousers for work. Gonna have to give up my skyscraper heels a bit sooner than planned as can't get them long enough to wear with heels but am so uncomfortable now by late afternoon that it will be worth it.

My stomach is flat in the mornings, by the evening I'm so bloated I look about 6 months gone, is anyone else suffering with bloating on this level?

misog my bloating has been like that, but seems to have settled slightly in the last 2 weeks, although I do still have days like it. It depends how healthy I eat. The more carbs and rubbish I eat, the more bloated I am - which is why I think things have improved in this dept since the nausea has improved and I am able to eat more healthily.
fairy I agree - it's amazing what a good physio can do - but they do vary a lot, depending on their individual training and experience and some will be more comfortable doing manipulation in pregnancy, and others will be more fearful of this. If you're really suffering and can afford it, it might be worth calling round some private physios to see how experienced they are with helping SPD. I hope you find something to help you.

Thanks missing, while I'm not glad you are suffering too it's nice to know I'm not the only one

To those with spd, if you see. An oesteopath or a chiropractor, who deals/knows about spd, they will also manipulate you, I saw an oesteopath last time who was fab, and would help reduce my pain, it can be expensive but worth it IMO.
Just had my 16wk appt, she found the hb straight away which was great, not so great was the fact it was the second mw I had seen- 2nd appt, and last time I saw the same mw all throughout, which was great as I've had 2 complicated pregnancies and seeing the same person really helped as I didn't have to explain everything every time, she also really helped my anxiety, so just a bit miffed that it seems every time I see a mw it'll be someone different. Don't have another appt to see mw until 28wks now, although will see consultant and diabetic team inbetween