September 2014

[Normalisavariantofcrazy]

My verrrrrry faint line earlier gives me an edd of 27 august so I'm going to straddle the two threads providing I get a strong bfp tomorrow (which I should do!!)

Happy Christmas everyone!!!

Yes of course I will penny. Depending on what midwives say I will ring today. Do you want the number just in case? Xx

Oh white blossom, how difficult for you. I have to be honest, my DH has waves of excitement, but generally most of the time, he is not as excited as me but I've learnt over the years that that's just the way he is.

For my DH, he says he doesn't feel like he can get excited til 12 week scan - just in case. Could it be that with your DH? Xx

whiteblossom my OH usually talks non-stop about anything and everything but sive the bfp he has been very quiet. We had over two years of ttc to prepare for this but it is still a shock for him amd a woery too, I'm sure. Yesterday I sent him a photo of my cbd with 3+ and I got a really enthisiastic text back. He also admitted he doesn't quite believe it's real and will try to take it all in, especially once he sees the scan. He ks most honest and open by text, I'm trying to avoid putting too much pressure on him face to face.

Maybe your OH is just overwhelmed and unsure how to behave. Sorry it's such a worry for you.

DH says he's excited but where I want to talk about it all the time, he doesn't. It's not the same for him, he doesn't have a little miracle growing inside him, hasn't spent the last year reading everything about conception, pregnancy & birth, including all the things that can go wrong in the early days, doesn't understand my level of anxiousness about eating, drinking, moving or feeling, isn't absolutely desperate to hear another heartbeat just to take some pressure off. He just thinks 8 months from now he'll watch me squeeze a baby out & voila he's a dad, but for now it's business as usual, which is the regular work, gym every night & stare at his iPhone in between times! Lol our row the other day was because he wanted to go to the gym at the weekend (our only time together) & I wanted to go to mothercare to look at all the things! My hormones are hot wired right now & I blew up (not like me at all) he blew up back at me (not like him either) I think pregnancy can possibly take it's toll on relationships, emotions are high. The trick is trying to keep him involved without making it the be all & end all of life as we know it. Which is difficult right now as it's so new & exciting! He's just not that into it yet!

Perhaps it just hasn't sunk in for him yet blossom it is a lot to take in, and there is nothing for him to see/feel yet. You are having a few symptoms which make it seem like something is happening but he can't experience any of that. Plus it is so early, maybe he is reluctant to get excited until you are past 12 weeks?
My DH hasn't said too much yet, I keep asking him to suggest boys names, he finally came up with Simon last night

Men aren't all that good at expressing feelings when it comes to stuff like this.
Argghj both dc crying.
be back soon

whiteblossom horrible that it is making you feel that way.

I think men do definitely handle this stuff very differently to how a woman does. My DH pulls me back anytime I start talking about planning & chat other than is necessary baby related planning.

OK Stuff in His Eyes: Me: we probably won't be able to this concert if all is well with the baby. Him: Yes that's true, hadnt thought of that.

Not OK: Me: What do you think of this name, shall we a get crib blah blah. Him: Kmini, let's just get to the 12 weeks & then you can talk about that stuff till your blue in the face.

Men are more literal & simple in everyway. Maybe its just taking him a little time to adjust or he doesn't want to get too excited yet.

That said, my DH is super protective at the moment & is looking after me really well. Given what you are going through, he should be more supportive.

Maybe just tell him (in the most non-hormonal way possible, v tough at the mo, I know), that you need more support.

Men are indeed funny creatures, but so are we. :)

Right im back
as soon as a woman finds out shes pregnant in most cases she loves that little tiny ball of cells which will become the little baby with all her life.for a guy it doesnt really kick in until the baby is here. Sometimes they get a bit of a kick when they see baby on scan and can feel baby moving. Dont force it upon him. I would be inclined to not talk to him about it for a while and he willhhopefully come round

sorry for all those having a hard time right now.

how is everyone? Will you all update me on whats been happening? ? Taa very much

I may be due middle of Aug but if its ok can I stay here please :) then again I might be due beginning of sept.
Saw midwife yesterday they dont book until 6 weeks here. Shes done my referral for hospital and will hopefully get an appointment soon
x

Goo luck today Tutti- let us know how you get on. Will be thinking of you.

Welcome giraffe!

Blossom- with dd my dp didn't really show any enthusiasm until the 12 week scan. He wasn't negative, just a bit, detached I guess. Talking to him after, he was really worried and just didn't want me to know! Give him a bit of space and hopefully he'll come round.
Since we got this Bfp, dp's been a lot more excited. I think he 'gets it' this time!

Hope everyone's else is ok? Terrible nights sleep, just couldn't drop off. Cramps seem to be a lot better and have started with headaches. The start of swapping one symptom for another!

Did another test yesterday and it came up positive before the pee had totally crossed the test! Loads darker than 1st test. Hoping this is a good sign of sticking bean

OMG you lot are bloody lovely

Your all right- he's a bloke, he thinks like a bloke. Ill leave it for now as Ive already told him that I feel like pregnancy talk is taboo and I don't think he is best pleased/excited (all of which he denies). I think he's still coming to terms with it and I think he's scared shitless!

Im going to be happy, positive and Im going to try and not let his attitude affect me because if it does it makes me feel like a kid that's done something naughty! I want this to be a positive experience.

Im actually wondering if he'll even come to the 12 week scan (clearly not todays scan!) but if he won't then my nana will come with me, I want to take her anyway. So Im going down the route of stuff him. But it does hurt.

Thanks so much all of you for your kinds words, it has helped me see things more clearly for what they are. xxxxx

right I have to dash as I have my scan, so fingers crossed, Ill update you when I get back x

Thisisme totally agree with you there regarding 'he gets it this time'
dh wasnt with me 1st time round as he was abroad and I came back here. He received scan photos and all that but couldn't make out whats what lol. With no.2 he didn't know what to expect and now no.3 he is more laid back and more thoughtful.

Im also getting the bloody headaches!
I have loads of pressure turning into pain oj my kidneys which is 1 of the reasons Im under consultant care.

X

good luck today tutti & whiteblossom . agree with others, we can think of nothing else because we can feel our babies in our bodies, but it must be very different for the men. can imagine how hurt u must feel about his lack of support

With my first pregnancy that ended in MC DP was very detached from it all. Didn't want to talk about and was almost hurtful towards me and the pregnancy. Sadly I lost that one, he was so supportive with the mc. Then DD1 DP was understandably cautious because of our earlier experience but he suddenly understood that although I didn't want to go shopping or start planning which school she would go to, I did need support from him. He was fab and from 12 weeks onwards he was fully on board with the excitement. With this pregnancy he has been much more giddy about becoming a dad again. He's still said from the start that we have to keep a lid on our expectations because it's such early days but he knows that I need support again and he's doing little things like nipping downstairs to get me a yoghurt in the night (without me asking him to do it!).
I think we're all saying the same thing here aren't we... This pregnancy and symptoms and love for our little miracles growing fast inside us is happening to US. for the men it's a strange time when they can't really do anything, see anything or feel anything. But he will come round and realise that all you need is his love and reassurance. Give him some space and just talk to him about needing his support (not about naming the baby and which buggy you're hoping to buy etc - I know you're not btw!). He'll get to the place you're at soon

Still got the yucky feeling in the back of my throat, I hope this is as bad as my nausea gets! When I got dd up onto my back and tied into the wrap this morning, the knot was digging into my boob a bit and it huuuurt! That's all the symptoms though. Going to the GP tomorrow

Hello, Im back!

Thank you again for all your support I get more on here than in RL [SMILE]

Ive had the scan and everything is as it should be for my dates and hcg levels. I was warned I might not see anything at all but we did, the sac, yolk which I saw on screen, it was confirmed that I had ovulated on the left, which is amazing that can tell that after the fact! I have corpus leitum which is possibly causing some pain but its a very good sign and its that, that feeds the sack until the placenter takes over. So all very positive.

I noticed that the three women in front of me got scan pics, the last lady having the same dates as me 5-6 weeks...did I get a picture no totally gutted, I wanted to show DH tonight. oh well will have to wait until 12 weeks

Tuttui any update? fingers crossed for you x

Aww thats brilliant! !
Really happy everything is ok!

X

That's great news blossom!
Did you ask/pay for pics? I remember you only got them if you paid. Or maybe they just didn't get anything very clear?

I am waiting for my results... they were 74 the other day apparently not 64...

but I think I have started bleeding ...it just seems a bit more pink on wiping..and more runny....phoned hospital still no results but midwife said it sounded like the preganancy would not continue but to wait for results

so I am sat waiting...and crying..

thanks isitme1

I didn't like to ask noitsachicken I kinda hesitated so ended up leaving. The sonographer didn't mention anything about pics/paying Im pretty sure that they didn't want paying. I remember paying at the 12/20 week scan last time.

One of the nurses came over saying oh whiteblossom, did they tell you they had taken a pic for you, then the nurse realised she had the wrong person! This was before my scan so I knew it couldn't have been mine. I should have asked but I felt a bit cheeky

no news from tutti yet....? thinking of you tutti big hug x

oh tutti sorry crossed posts. I would ring the hospital again in a few hours, chase them up. You don't know whats going on and being in limbo can be so emotionally draining, hang in there. Just wait and see.

Oh no Tutti... that's horrible. Stay positive. Sending you hugs. Is your DH/dp with you?

its ok whiteblossom.....they said should know by 2...

nope on my own...dh had to work ..but he keeps ringing me...he as upset as me...on the plus side we have said we will try again...who would have thought?

I hope against everything that it will be fine but I fear not

Oh tutti :(
I hope it is a sticky bean...
Sometimes you subconsciously know.
x

Got everything crossed for you Tutti :( xx

you are all so kind ..thank you for the cups of tea,flowers and wishes...

I hate waiting..isitme ..you are right ..I think you do 'know' but I just praying for a miracle and won't accept it's over til results confirm...at least it's a chink of hope...

ii just feel soo sad for my ds, for all of us..

Sorry tutti
Hope they don't keep you waiting too long for the results. Must be frustrating being in limbo.