July 2014!!! PART 2!! Growing those summer babies!!

[MrsB2013]

July Due Dates

Pencilsandprams - (26th June)
Rainbowweaver - (27th June)
LadyGoneGaga - (29th June)
MrsB2013 - 1st
AhoyMcCoy - 2nd
Liquidstate - 2nd
Roozocheeks - 2nd
deeda811 - 2nd
Mrsc020987 - 3rd
Taranta - 3rd
Fiveleaves 3rd
MrsA2 - 3rd
Moochie01 - 4th
SomeDizzyWhore1804 - 4th
Jbiscuits - 4th - 6th??
Ismarah - 5th
Jaykay - 5th
Lemonpoppyseed - 6th
Frostina - 6th
AuntieMaggie - 6th
MargeryDaw- 6th
OttersPocket - 7th
Blueberry234- 7th
FoxtrotOscarBackToEconomy - 1st - 8th???
Boboli - 8th
Lauranne - 8th
Doodlequackquack - 9th
xjulesx - 9th
Pigsinparis - 9th
mummyzoe2012 - 9th
grobagsforever - 11th
Ipsumlorem - 11th
elliejjtiny - 11th
SmallOlympianbear - 11th
Umanayana - 12th
LemonLovely - 12th
coco808 - 12th
Ladybunnikins - 14th
englishteacher78 - 14th
Sparky321 - 14th
HomeIsWhereTheGinIs- 14th
kim2783 - 14th
Dollydaydream2 - 15th
DoesZingBumpLookBigInThis - 15th
MGJoey - 15th
SuzB83 - 15th
Incapinka - 15th
BlueC2 - 16th
Charotte31 - 16th
It'sAlwaysBetterOnHoliday - 17th
Littleangel21 - 17th
LazyDogJumpedOver - 17th
StrawberryNesquik - 17th
Sparklesandfizz - 18th
PicnicPie - 18th
MoreSnowPlease - 18th
turnwest - 20th
BringOn2014 - 22nd
baggyoldcow - 24th
Froglet88 - 24th
funkymonk- 25th
Babymamatobe- 26th
talulahbelle- 26th
Howly - 26th
Hollyjokes- 27th
AnyFuckingClue - ???
JuiceInAWineGlass - ???
tannyLoo72 - ???
TheBookofRuth - ???
DinkyMole - (1st August)

Pint - I am hoping that thats ok. I am 9+4 by my scan (LMP - 11+2, Ov prediction using temps - 10+5).

This week I have definitely lost the super crazy tiredness I had previously.

coco I had my booking in almost two weeks ago and I haven't heard anything at all. I think no news is good news.

So my mother is here now for a few days. At DH's request, we're waiting for scans to tell people so I'm being v v v v good. Especially as I was nearly in tears this morning at the airport picking her up!

But here's my problem - I need to snack. Lots. No idea how to hide that! I refuse to eat hobnobs while having a wee! Sigh.

coco and jaykay thanks - esp. with the HCG explanation. Before last pregnancy i wldn't have worried about no symptoms as long as no pain and bleeding... but that was before i had a missed miscarriage. Now i'm thinking every day, this could be the day that it just stops, and i won't even know.

Dinner with in-laws, will try and be normal and excited as opposed to mental and crying.

you mean "mental and crying" isn't a normal way to act?

Got my 12 week scan.... 27th December, was hoping to sneak in before Christmas as DP has a big get together with all his friends Christmas Eve and he is a saint and has only told his closest family.

coco

the blood tests - they are checking you red blood & white cell count (infections can be detected), iron levels (if you are anaemic), immunity against viruses such as rubella or measels, and also your blood group - amongst other things.
not to worry, if anything is alarming they will let you know, no news is good news!

the one thing I recommend to all of you to check - if you have thick, whiteish-yellowish, sticky vaginal discharge get a smear test and ask them to check for Group Strep B infection.
If you have it baby will need treatment to avoid the infection affecting him/her.
(treatment is antibiotics either during labour as an IV drip or after the birth plus baby needs a 12 or 24 hrs postnatal observation ).
not a problem if C-section birth though.
it's nothing to worry about, but it's something that you and MW need to be aware of!

pint

I totally understand your worries, went through it myself.
had a MC and when with the next pg mt symptoms simply disappeared for a few days I got worried.
I panicked that I'm loosing the baby and went to see MW(or GP?) who arranged a scan for the next day to check baby.
all was fine and within a few days the symptoms returned with a vengeance!

no idea why that happened.
my nausea & sickness peeks between 8-11 weeks, and finish by 13 weeks, but for example with DS3 it lasted for 16 weeks and returned at 6.6 months till the end of the pg!
I was so so sick with him...

He is 9 tomorrow, so I've just been telling him all about it - we have a tradition that the night before their birthdays I tell them their birth stories! they love it!
he is my Rocket Boy - born in 35 mins from entering the hospital. 3 pushes. so much adrenalin so quickly I was shaking for 2 days.
ah, I love giving birth though, can't wait for this one!

zing i cant think of anything worse than giving birth!

thanks jaykay and zing. I'll try to relax about it but I just hate waiting for results and always imagine the worse.

I hope your meal goes ok pint

I felt v dizzy all day today. The midwife took my blood pressure which was 85/60 and very low according to me but she seemed to think it was "normal".

Doctor- all the best of luck for your scan in the morning!

I had my first scan tonight and was so relieved to see some confirmation of what's going on inside me. I really am an I'll believe it when I see it kind of a girl!

zing it's my DS's birthday tomorrow! He'll be 3. I think his birth story would give him nightmares....

9 weeks tomorrow and still getting light-headed, tingly nose and the worlds biggest appetite. Nothing seems to be enough!

Well that went well.

Mum's been quite keen we have children, for a few years now. We've had some heated discussions about it in the past as I feel very uncomfortable with the pressure and in any case all I can say is that we've been trying, for about 1.5yrs now. Not particularly scientifically or rigorously but enough so that I've POS a few times. Now, I don't discuss that with her as it's non-news until the BFP but it's been status quo 'working on it' for a while now.

So tonight we had the same discussion we've had several times and she got quite het up, as usual. She's going on about how my late grandmother really wanted to see my children and how I'd be having children also for the family(!) and not just for us or the bean. My gran died before my health problems were mostly resolved and having biological children was suddenly back on the table. Admittedly, that was about 5 years ago but by the time I was sorted I was firmly into my educational path and being given bursaries and opportunities that one doesn't easily say no to.

And during this whole discussion I'm trying to stay calm (fucking repeat- again! 'But no pressure!' Yeah right.), not say anything I'd regret and yet not tell her about bean.

I feel like I've lied to her. I feel uncomfortable with the pressure - I always have. Hate the 'talk' which we've had repeatedly. And now with bean at 9+4, I'd hope to be telling her the news in a few weeks. I think she's going to feel lied to and manipulated, while I feel so uncomfortable and now almost don't want to tell her because it will just complicate everything. Not my favourite evening.

On the plus side I didn't get weepy and I didn't say anything awful.

Almost wish I'd told her this morning, against DH's wishes.

aghh isarah. That sounds like such a difficult situation.

I have a very difficult relationship with my mother. I am dreading tellit her - not because I have pressure like you - but as we have a very awkward relationship which only survives by is spending very little time together during which I swep everything under the carpet and pretend everything is ok. I am terrified to tell her as I don't want her to assume any responsibility for my child, and fear she will want to become more heavily involved in my life.

The advise I would like to give myself - and I appreciate this is easier said than done but might help you as I know I'd listen to a sensible stranger over and above my own advice! - stick to your guns. Do what you want to do and don't feel like you compromised for her.

Good luck and don't feel guilty at all. Don't crack and tell her - only tell her when you and DH are happy to do so.

apologies for the large number of spelling errors!

Ismarah, that sounds really difficult. Your mum I'd putting so much pressure on you, I think you handled it really well. Personally I'm not sure she hss any right to feel angry with you when she finds out. You've made a decision to wait to tell people (a very normal decision now, I've only told 1 person and no family) and she should respect that. The only thing she should be is happy for you! If not, please don't worry about her reaction, it is out if your control, but repeat, you've done nothing to feel guilty about.

Had to work an evening event yesterday, standing for 4 hrs after full day at work. Was so hungry and hardly any canapes. Grabbed what looked like really well cooked bit of steak, once in mouth realised it was raw in middle but couldn't do anything but eat it. Avoided anything with cheese (almost everything) but there were a few things waiter didn't know what they were and I had to just eat them as so hungry. FX nothing nasty consumed.

Brighton, with dd went back to work at 4 months. Unplanned pregnancy, no mat pay and smp was only 16 weeks then. Luckily DD slept through night from 12 weeks. Could only afford 3 days childcare, so did 3 days in office, 2 days with DD from home. Those 2 days were really stressful! DD was fully breastfed too so expressed
inin office.
(ex-)OH was useless too. If you have a supportive partner that'll make a massive difference, share childcare, cooking, cleaning. Ask for and accept help when offered. The biggest difference for me was I had an amazing childminder so I knew DD was happy, and if I was late she was really flexible. Get the childcare right and it'll all fit into place.

Please don't worry too much now, once you're in the situation you'll find so much more strength to cope than you realised you had. Enjoy each stage as much as you can.

Happy birthday to FifiBoy!

ismarah
can you just strangle her?
my mum and I don't always get along.
our personalities clash enormously - if she wasn't my mother I'd never talk to her for the ways she behaves.

don't feel you've lied.
of course she won't get why you kept quiet - a lot of people don't understand that there are very valid reasons not to shout it from the rooftops at least until the scan shows everything is ok.

maybe don't tell her face to face but send her a sonogram photo with a lovely letter written from baby.
then she can digest the news on her own.
what do you think?

I can't believe DS3 is 9!

So, one more day to go until scan. The dry-retching has stopped but not the nausea (so maybe I'm managing nausea better). Got a little angry with a colleague yesterday. I 'be already told him that I can't sit next to someone with loads of vinegar on their food (not a pregnancy thing it just makes me feel sick normally) to excuse my rudeness in leaving the moment he sat down. He drowned his food in vinegar yesterday and with a choice of 5 possible places to sit, sat next to me. Resulting in me leaving my lunch unfinished. Grrrrrr.
My boobs are ridiculously sore today, had a bath this morning and the water hurt them. Exhaustion still ticking along nicely which all fits in with me being 6+4 (according to early scan last week). So all I can do now is cross my fingers and pray until 9:50 tomorrow. If they are running late I may go mental!

Donna

poor you.
swap his vinegar with window cleaning liquid!
(I'm not vindictive at all! )

it's so encouraging that you have all these signs, positive thinking ok?
fx of course and I'm praying for you two everyday!

ismarah goodness me you have a lot of patience! I would have been so cross with my mum if she ever thought to discuss something so personal with me. You definitely have no reason to feel bad!

doctor I was checking in to wish you luck, but see your scan is tomorrow! I'm thinking of you and sending lots of healthy happy baby vibes your way!

My news, had booking in and got scan date before Xmas. Am feeling huge, look about the same I did when I was around 14-16 weeks with ds! Am managing to disguise it ok so far I hope!

Pearls

I'm jealous...

I want my dates. I'm going to call the hospital today if no mail - I saw GP 2 weeks ago, that's plenty of time to send 2 appointments

ismarah what everyone else has already said. I haven't told anyone although its killing - I will be blaming the possible medical complications if anyone gets arsy. I would just hate it if I then had to tell them if something went wrong. I'm a bit apprehensive as the only evidence that I am pregnant is a few bfps I did at home which I find a bit strange. It makes me worry about how many people get to the scan and they aren't'!

Donna I have a real thing for salt and vinegar at the moment so I would drive you mad anything 'saucy' I usually like (stews, bolognaise, etc) I can't smell without retching!

I'm wondering whether I should get my ankle checked out but worried they may want to do an xray. What do you think?

zing i havent had my scan date yet either but the mw referred me on monday... i gather they do it at the booking appt here as thats when you tell them if you want the extra screening.

Auntiemaggie I had xray when chance was pregnant before, they put lead around my womb to block the xrays. HTH.