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October 2013: Newborn snuggles and waddles to the finish line

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FeministInTraining · 15/10/2013 21:45

Stats sheet here

New arrivals here

Key:
SC - still cooking (pre EDD)
SFW - still f*ing waiting (post EDD)
OWT - on way to theatre (CS)
IP - induction in progress
SWIL - somewhere in labour
LIT - lost in transition

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Pinkforboys · 26/10/2013 14:00

Lol Roof- I've been there too, at least had hands free with T in a sling!

Sanji my sympathies go out to you. I hope kicking up a stink works for you.

GT- I'm glad the multi-mam worked for you too. Unfortunately Boots have now sold out Angry!! I found some thru eBay tho!

I've lost my marbles, but to whoever had those annoying visitors laughing at their contractions surely there's some consolation in that they were female and will, at some point in their lives get their come-uppance when they have kids of their own!

Sending speedy labour wishes to get those babies out before the storm hits xx

GTbaby · 26/10/2013 14:22

I also laboured on the antenatal ward. Didn't get moved until I was 4cm. I was given gas n air tho. I wasn't noisy but was aware of ppl in the room and being able to hear me as I used the GnA constantly.

However next day on post natal bumped into a lady nxt to me on ante and she commented that she couldn't believe how calm I was! N they didn't really realise I was in labour until I moved to labour ward.

GTbaby · 26/10/2013 14:23

Flyer. FYI. U will look back at this time wearing your rose tinted glasses! Wink

legallyblond · 26/10/2013 15:00

Ha ha Roofio! The feats of human engineering!!! Amazing what you can do with one hand! Wet to the museum withDD yesterday... V was randomly hungry after 59 mins do fed her in the cafe... And DD needed to poo! So wheeled H to the toilets with DD in buggy board and sorted DD and wiped her bum, then went to the loo myself, all while bf V and joggling the buggy with my foot to keep H asleep!!!

Flyer, Soup etc... Whether bf or not, I felt a bit like this with DD... Overwhelmed by the sheer selflessness and time required. What really, really helped me was to change my view of it all... I worked v v hard in my job and I came to see that this, caring for DD and in my case bf her, was all I needed to do. This was my one and only task / job for a few weeks... Instead of thinking of myself as chained up the sofa feeding, I tried to remember that sitting there, I was doing the one thing that I really needed to be doing - caring for the baby. I bought all the box sets, magazines, books and treat foods I fancied and had "me" time - a bonus as I was also caring for the baby. I also tried to do one social thing a day, like coffee in the local costs... Bf and ff totally do able there and most places! This reminded me I still could get of and about! Honestly... This phase lasts 8 weeks max. Once they're 2 months plus, the feeding routine (bf or ff!) becomes predictable, you sort of know when they'll nap and they poo max once a day. Life returns! But for now, you are all doing the one most amazing job... Nurturing the baby. Yes, just for now it's 24/7, but you are actually doing it! Your babies are well and growing. That's it, A*!!!

legallyblond · 26/10/2013 15:01

59 minutes! Very precise! I meant to type 40!

thethreeblondies · 26/10/2013 15:27

Glad u have ur own room now Sanji fingers crossed things calm down and u get the space for things to progress the way u want xx

Saw MW, declined the sweep as I'm having fairly painful BH and think things will happen on their own, also had some bloody discharge so fingers crossed Smile Got some people round to watch fireworks later (we live next to a venue so watch for free!) Joked with MW that it will either happen tonight or mon in the midst of the storm Grin (just hoping not haloween!)

Bronzemoth · 26/10/2013 16:13

I think that is great advice legally the same thing has been slowly dawning on me about all I have to do is look after Noah. It's just been quite a change of pace and I've spent afternoons feeling like I should be doing more.

Can I ask if anyone has any tips re mobyslings. We got given one and I tried putting in on yesterday and just got in mess. I didn't feel I could hold N safely while dealing with the sling

roofio87 · 26/10/2013 16:35

yikes, just seen on the news that a worker in sainsburys told a woman that it was no place for such a young baby and she should be at home when she took her six WEEK old baby into the shop!!!! I took H to asda on day 3!! Some people are crazy!

takingachance · 26/10/2013 16:59

legally your advice is spot on. I also think you are super human! Even though I have been through this early 'mad' phase with dd1, it is still massively hard work and the fact that you are doing it with twins and dd and often on your own is amazing!

I am gobsmacked at your treatment sanj what has happened to maternity services on the mainland? I am feeling very lucky as up here I had the whole maternity ward to myself from arriving to leaving! With the personal attention of 3 midwives at any one time and my fab fab midwife who was there for my sweep, labour and afterwards. No, this is not private care! Just one of the benefits of living on a remote island! But Hugs to those having a s**t time Sad xx

Flyer747 · 26/10/2013 16:59

Alexandra now refuses to feed she was due a feed at 345pm wouldn't take the breast so we tried a bottle and she just screams the house down and point blank will not feed .
I don't know what to do I feel so down with all this feeding rigmarole HmmConfused

Shootingstarsandcomets · 26/10/2013 17:18

flyer is she still dropping weight? If she is gaining weight and lots of wet and dirty nappies maybe just feed on demand rather than sticking to times? Sorry if that's not helpful was just thinking that it might ease the stress for you.
sanji can't believe what an awful time you are having. Just goes to show how terribly understaffed and overworked the nhs is. I hope things get better for you now and it won't be long until you have a gorgeous baby to cuddle.
Good luck to those SFW.

Flyer747 · 26/10/2013 17:24

They last weighed her on Wednesday and she hadn't gained enough weight for their guidelines. I have no hv or mw appointments booked that I can see in my notes. There is a drop in centre on Monday where I can get her weighed so I intend to go there.

chickieno1 · 26/10/2013 18:12

So sorry things are difficult flyer. Can you try getting into bed and doing some skin to skin and then see if she feeds on her own then? As others have said it does get better xx

Have had two terrible nights here. Had to go downstairs and sit on sofa so dh and ds could get some sleep. M windy and wide a awake from two till about four. Poo nappy change feed wind cycle....... Going to try and sleep now but wired

sanji soooo angry on your behalf. Staff are just trying to cover themselves, they should have spoken to you much earlier even though I know they must be swamped and down about the situation themselves. The managers of the hospital need to apologise, not the clinical staff!

chickieno1 · 26/10/2013 18:22

Congrats neeni sorry labour was traumatic. A debrief might be helpful? They need at least to realise that at busy times they should restrict visitors especially if they can't respect other labouring women!!

clapham :( :( :(. Thinking of you and sending you positive vibes! Please try and look after yourself these few days. Try and organise something nice for yourself. Get dp and ex to look after ds for you? Xxx

slippy, smitten, three and all SFW Flowers and Wine for you. It ll happen soon xx

Hi kiwee your walk sounds lovely! even with the muslin sun hat :)

feminist have had those hysterical times too! Dummies are/can be very useful. I think a lot depends on baby.

Hats off to you legally

bowlful I can't leave ds and M in room alone as he's very fond of giving her hugs....

Sanjifair · 26/10/2013 19:02

Good news! I have a room! We are off!

Smitten1981 · 26/10/2013 19:07

Finally Sanji! Keep us updated.

Shirehobbit · 26/10/2013 19:09

Good luck, Sanji x

chickieno1 · 26/10/2013 19:28

Phew finally sanji!! Good luck xx

Soupqueen · 26/10/2013 19:42

Good luck sanji!

Thank you for your kind words, legally. You're right, I've always worked very hard, so this is my new job. I'd feel better if I knew I was doing a good job but I suppose the first few weeks in any job are bewildering. Her weigh in tomorrow already feels like an appraisal....

MrsO27 · 26/10/2013 19:52

Hi all, been trying to keep up but not had chance to post. Finding it easier to keep up with the Facebook chat. Just want to wish all those SC/SFW the best and congrats to all those who've had their babies. Our little boy was born on the 15th October at 38+6.
He's currently cluster feeding (I think) so a bit of a nightmare and barely getting any time to myself in the evenings but good to know I'm not alone. Really dreading dh going back to work on Tuesday though. I really need him when I'm tied to the sofa!

JellyCurls · 26/10/2013 20:18

Day from hell here with toddler tantrums from DS, autistic style and force tantrums from DD and a windy baby so can't remember who said what but here goes for a try

Sanj(?)!good luck with labour hope they let you progress at your own pace and you avoid EMCS

Good luck to all those waiting, in labour

Who asked about Moby wraps maybe bronze we bought one for DD and although a bit of a faff to start off with they are super once you get the hang of it. I used to high kneel on my bed at first when putting DD in it as was scared I would drop her but now on DC3 and can put baby in wrap while I walk.

Off for a much needed beer now happy feeding ladies x

Pinkforboys · 26/10/2013 20:31

Sanji- like everyone else I'm so pleased that you've finally got a room xx

MrsO- good to have you back! I'm sorry you're nervous about DH going back to work. Thanks
Guiltily I'm actually feeling the opposite- I'm about to have DH around this week supposedly paternity leave and looking after DS (half-term) and I'm dreading it! He's going to end up working from home several hours a day, which will be in our kitchen/living area or repairing bits of the house and his idea of paternity leave is holding Thea whilst I clear up/cook/do the washing. I'm hoping he'll surprise me but I fear I'll end up in tears or shouting before the week is out. I like my own space too much.

xuntitledx · 26/10/2013 20:53

legally - thank you...it made me cry but you're absolutely right xx

sanj - whoop! Good luck!!

Mnippy · 26/10/2013 20:59

legally, great post, thank you.

Our baby is back to birth weight 17 days on (snap Shire!) and we are v v happy. Feeding is exhausting, am holding onto hope it gets better (can't wait for baby's mouth to get bigger so the latch possibly improves!).

DP and I are trying to keep hold of loving each other through the sleep deprivation. So easy to resent each other for random shit when you are both concentrating on the little baby and things are going wrong (vomits, projectile pees, spills, mess, etc). I know he's doing a lot in his own way while on pat leave, but still find myself nagging,grouching and feeling frustrated. Anyone else finding it difficult?

roxvox · 27/10/2013 01:18

A is cluster feeding again. I am so friggin tired I don't know what to do to stay awake with her, plus the dreaded restless legs (and arms?!) are back. I feel like she's constantly having a 'growth spurt' and that it's usually between the hours of 10pm and 3am which is convenient.

Hoping the forum is quiet tonight because the other new mummy's are getting some sleep, and those who are SC/SFW are progressing towards SWIL!