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October 2013: Newborn snuggles and waddles to the finish line

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FeministInTraining · 15/10/2013 21:45

Stats sheet here

New arrivals here

Key:
SC - still cooking (pre EDD)
SFW - still f*ing waiting (post EDD)
OWT - on way to theatre (CS)
IP - induction in progress
SWIL - somewhere in labour
LIT - lost in transition

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doobeedee · 18/10/2013 13:58

Roxvox my birthday is the 4th so I can be Ailla's twin!

roofio87 · 18/10/2013 14:15

Been to register Hunter's birth. sligtly embarrassing moment when the registrar asked me if he was a boy or girl and I answered 'girl'.......I blame lack of sleep!!

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FeministInTraining · 18/10/2013 14:22

Sorry that so many of you are having to deal with difficult men, I hope they are just taking a while to get used to things and will improve quickly!

So I had lots of BH last night and this morning, went in for my sweep (40+4 today). Wasn't sure what to expect in terms of pain but it was ok, no where near as bad as having coil put in! She put her fingers in (sorry crude!) and then said I'm touching your baby's head Shock. I'm "a good 1cm" and cervix is forward and soft. And then she 'swept' for a few mins but it was manageable. Since then I've been getting tightenings and fairly strong cramps. V similar to when I had a MC. just had lunch, bouncing on ball and then going for a walk. A slow one I think.

Booked in for second sweep on Monday and induction next Friday but she doesn't expect me to get that far- apparently it would be v easy for them to break my waters, she had to stop the sweep while I was getting tightenings as they were bulging so it seems like we're moving in the right direction at least...

DP finished work early- all the other teachers and the kids were wishing him luck! I really hope he doesn't end up having to go back in on Monday still baby-less Blush

Keep sending dilating vibes, hope the full moon helps all the ladies SWIL SFC and SC!

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ImpOfDarkness · 18/10/2013 14:30

Roxvox my birthday is the 4th so I can be Ailla's twin!

Me too, we can be triplets!
I had a four or five contractions overnight and this morning, but they seem to have subsided. Shame, it's my dad's 70th birthday today, would have been a cool day for the baby to arrive.

Flyer747 · 18/10/2013 14:51

Stuck in here until Monday soooo not impressed.

DP turned up at 1pm with some measly bunch of flowers, told him to take them home and fuck off go away, not at all hormonal on day 3

Shootingstarsandcomets · 18/10/2013 15:51

Albert Henry born today at 12.35pm by c section. Think he's been attached to my boob ever since!

Readyasilleverbe · 18/10/2013 16:06

Huge congrats shooting. X

OrangeBlossom2 · 18/10/2013 16:23

Hello all, no time to catch up at the moment but just to let you know that baby Thomas arrived yesterday morning at 1.56 weighing 7lb 1oz.

Quite speedy for a first labour, contractions started on the way home from the hospital to check it was waters that had broken at about 4pm. All well but we needed to stay in hospital for a while to get feeding started and MLU was full so we had him on delivery suite. We had a lovely midwife who stayed with us all the way through though and lots of help afterwards. We are just about there but hand expressing and topping him up with a syringe. Hope all is well and I will find some time to catch up over the next few days. Xx

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FeministInTraining · 18/10/2013 16:27

Congratulations Shooting and Orange!

Think I'm contracting... Trying not to get hopes up...

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MrsHoratioNelson · 18/10/2013 16:39

Congratulations shooting and orange!

dontworryjustpanic · 18/10/2013 17:06

falcon was sad to hear you're feeling so low. Keep reminding yourself that for both your DC you are the very best mummy in the world because you are their mummy - no one else will ever compare. When DS was tiny he always settled better for DH & I was convinced he didn't love me. In hindsight, I see that I used to get upset/stressed when he wouldn't settle so bit of a vicious circle. Hope GP can help. Flowers

claphammama · 18/10/2013 17:17

congrats orange and shooting!

tucking hope you got to the hospital in time and feminist hope this is it for you! sending you contracting vibes!

thank you so much for asking about me everyone Flowers have been really down but feeling better today and things are looking up. xx

SC here at 39+3... with no obvious twinges, other than BHs getting stronger and more frequent... sigh. Desperately hoping the full moon will work some wonders on me tonight. I bet I will have the last baby on the bus...

flyer so sorry you are still stuck in the hospital... do you know if DP can abstain from work at least this weekend? You need him so much right now. Hope day 3 is not too hard... is your CS pain better now?

falcon hope you will get the support you need. PND happens to so many women and I believe they take it very seriously these days. Don't beat yourself up and, hard as it is, try to remember that it's mainly hormonal and temporary. There is no better mummy for Willow than you and you need to get better for her and the rest of your family. Please get help.

MrsH glad you are home with Conrad now - yes, I still remember this feeling when you bring your new baby home. It's hard to describe it in words...

caz your DH sounds amazing... do we really need to push out 4 babies for them to "get it"? Smile

imp very impressed at you on the dance floor, showing everyone that we, geriatric mums, can still rock Grin... less impressed with you trying to jump the queue again... Angry. Kindly please go back to your place...

sorry if I'm forgetting anyone - tried to catch up on everything but there is so much happening! Please send dilating thoughts my way too... getting fed up now...

where is pinkforboys by the way?? can't remember reading any posts from her...

dontworryjustpanic · 18/10/2013 17:36

Congratulations to shooting & orange.

clapham I am 39+2 with no signs or twinges of imminent labour - I'm not even getting any BH - so looks like I'll be keeping you company on the backseat!

ImpOfDarkness · 18/10/2013 17:55

Clapham I am 39+5, I'm a row ahead of you on the bus, DD would be this Sunday if I were in the UK. Do we have a tongue-sticky-outy face? Grin
No more twinges since this morning anyway. I've had my hair done just in case things do kick off this weekend, I plan to give Kate Middleton a run for her money in my photos Wink

cazboldy · 18/10/2013 17:58

congratulations shooting and orange

fx for you feminist

clapham - lol, I don't know if it's necessary in every case, but thats how it was with him! Grin

Smitten1981 · 18/10/2013 18:06

Clapham I'm a day behind you too. No signs of anything here either. I haven't had a single BH through the whole thing.

Thought it might kick off today as DH was at a meeting in London all day and that would be the most inconvenient time for it to happen but he's home now and still nothing.

I can't take another 3 weeks of being this uncomfortable. I know the baby can't get comfy either cause he's run out of room. He's squirming constantly. Just come out!!!!

claphammama · 18/10/2013 18:17

dontworry and smitten good to be reminded I still have some lovely company at the back!

imp a massive virtual spitball in your direction... Grin

ImpOfDarkness · 18/10/2013 18:19

Oi, mind my hair!

Readyasilleverbe · 18/10/2013 18:25

Smitten I think I'm a day behind you. Really cloudy here, worried moon won't be able to shine down on me!! Getting a bit travel sick at the back, wish this bus would hurry up!

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FeministInTraining · 18/10/2013 18:25

Contractions coming every 4-6 mins for the past 2 hours. MLU say call when you have 3 in 10 mins. Or can't cope with the pain or not sure. Hopefully they get closer, getting dizzy bouncing on my ball! Had bloody show so really hoping this is it.

Clapham I'm glad things are looking up- and I hope the full moon does something for you and the other ladies getting fed up at the back of the bus. I'm still half in my seat, don't think I want to believe it's really happening!

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Oddlife · 18/10/2013 18:55

Falcon so sorry to hear that you are struggling but all Willow needs right now is your love and care. She can't show you her love back just yet as she can only focus on growing. A nurse told me that babies often settle more easily for someone other than their mums cos they don't smell of milk. But that can make you feel rubbish on top of everything else.

As everyone has said you are already doing all the right things by verbalising how you feel here- even better to talk to someone in RL too so you can get the support you need.

I suffer from anxiety/depression and found CBT helpful but with all those hrmones running amok along with sleep deprivation itis easy to lose perspective and to forget using techniques to help. Talk to your HV and GP don't struggle bravely on alone. Xxx

dontworryjustpanic · 18/10/2013 18:55

Feeling like I've been pregnant for so long that my brain has given up believing that I'm going to have a baby! Hmm

Pinkforboys · 18/10/2013 19:21

I'm still here clapham SFW @ 40w today.
I've been stalking but feeling too glum to post. Congratulating & seeing the newborns on FB is lovely but feeling decidedly stuck at the back of that bus with not much to contribute. Good to hear that there are some others still there too, even if a few of you are about to get off Hmm

I need a moan to some empathetic ears feel free to skip.... I thought I'd woken to contractions last night and Madam was going to arrive in same way as DS, but must have just been intense BH Sad
I'm booked in for induction tomorrow 10am. Feeling rather depressed by the idea as I'd assumed this delivery would be same as DS, all natural but this time I'd make it to the Birth Centre. Being 41 they don't want me to go far beyond due date for risk of still birth (boy is this one alive & kicking) but being induced so early increases chances of C-Section (which terrifies me). So peppermint oil capsules bought. I could force them to delay, but I'm so fed up of feeling in pain and like a geriatric cripple and feel everyone's expectations on me to get this baby out so they can get on with stuff.
I've not had an internal so no idea how 'ripe' I am.
What's more my hip is so painful in so many positions that I don't think I can get thru labour without pain relief which (sad as it sounds) was quite important to me.
I've also got some mild form of flu in response to the jab 2 weeks ago so feel crap from that (and also seize up in pain at every cough & sneeze)
On the positive side my Mum has been with me most days this week and between us we've cleaned just about every hidden surface in the kitchen and got Madam's clothes sorted and ready.

I'm really really sorry for such a self-indulgent moany post (especially when some of you have been through some really tough days these last two weeks) but if there's anyone who will understand how I feel it's someone on this thread. I'm ridiculously on the verge of tears 24/7!

ok- as you were. Here's to some full-moon beam luck our way xx

Bronzemoth · 18/10/2013 19:40

Congratulations orange and shooting and sending thoughts to those still waiting.

For those struggling with bf I'd recommend seeing if there are any local drop in clinics. I went to one at our local children's centre in crouch end today and found it really helpful. It was a bit odd lots of bf ladies but the advice was helpful and the atmosphere a lot more relaxed than the midwife visits.

Natalieand · 18/10/2013 20:00

I have been keeping up following the thread just about but not really finding time too post but just wanted to ask those one dc2 how r u emotionally?
Harrison is 2 days old now but I feel like in struggling to come to terms with having another baby, comparing him to dd and crying all the time, I keep asking myself why I wanted another child? How the hell am I gunna do this when dh goes back to work? I wish I could rewind the clock and still be pregnant. Normal feelings? Pleas tell me I'm not on my own x