October 2013: Newborn snuggles and waddles to the finish line

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Stats sheet here

New arrivals here

Key:
SC - still cooking (pre EDD)
SFW - still f*ing waiting (post EDD)
OWT - on way to theatre (CS)
IP - induction in progress
SWIL - somewhere in labour
LIT - lost in transition

Nat - normal normal normal. Remember what we all said about baby blues?!?! Day 2/3 is exactly when it hits. I had some dark "what have I done? I'm not sure I wanted this.." moments and (negative) comparisons to the instant overwhelming love I felt for DD. I shared this with my mum in RL and she aid she felt the same. It's probably because you've never felt those emotions before with child 1, but feel like that 24/7 (about child 1) when the new baby arrives, so the brain just doesn't register it as new and overwhelming. It will pass and you'll be head over heels. I would say I felt the amazing love by day 5....

I have a not strictly preg related question... Beware, any remaining untrue supermum reputation about to be dashed... Actually it would have been dashed anyway today as I bought me and DD Burger King for lunch as a take away and ate it at home!!!!! I was just totally out of steam after a dog walk then play group... Was starving, walked past BK and, well.... Became a crap parent!

But seriously... At the mo, DD does 4 mornings a week at pre school (the nursery of her "proper" school - you can start at rising three). Until now, DD has had me full time for a year, then DH full time for a year, then mostly DH with 2.5 days a week of a nanny coming to out house mixed up with going to my mum's house... She loves loves loves pre school so far. I've decided this week that she will increase to 4 full days after half term... I am really torn and feel really guilty... I am of course at home FULL TIME and haven't had had that long with DD in her life as a result of bring the breadwinner (the only answer given what DH and I earn). I've always wanted to spend more time with her.... But I am finding that I literally don't have a fee hand to even turn the pages of a story with her in the afternoons or stick stickers, let alone anything really lovely like baking of trips out. It's impossible with the twins. So the reality has been a LOT of cbeebies and DD getting rather "cabin fever - ish" with me. I've acknowledged, I think, that she'd actually have more fun at pre school than with me at the moment. She'd finish at 3.15, so only 2.5 hours longer, but I feel like a bit of a failure...

Posted too soon.... The question is, what do you think? Will she feel pushed out (she says she wants to stay every day when I pick her up at lunchtime)? Is this a bad idea? An I being lazy?

Legally nursery was saviour for us when DS1 came along, it gave me a break from DD so I could recharge my batteries and as a result we actually spent more time together that was productive. I am now trying desperately to get DS1 into a nursery, even 2 afternoons a week, to stop the "cabin fever" feeling as I am not getting out and about fully yet.

Your DD will have lived her BK lunch so no guilty feelings please happy kids are good. As for nursery can she start by doing a couple of full days to see how she settles?

Meant to say thanks for section advice yesterday, think my baby blues just hit a bit late. That and I (TMI) couldn't get off toilet pan as was bleeding so heavily so felt a bit out of sorts. All back to "normal" today as we made a family outing down town and I can fit into my jeans again

legally it sounds like it is the best solution for all of you, and I really wouldn't feel guilty. As you say she will be back with you by 3.15, so there will still be a good few hours left in the day to spend together.

Congratulations to the new mums and babies.

Today was DH's first day back at work. Everything went ok, although I didn't get half the things done that I intended to do. I had to take the baby to the Dr as she has conjunctivitis, so we have eye drops for her.

So far I have been really lucky with the baby she is generally a good sleeper and feeder. She has nights where she will only sleep on my chest, which, as others have said, is not great. She is quite hiccupy though, so I am really hoping she doesn't get colic. We had a dreadful time with DD1 and colic.

We have decided to call her Madeleine. Reaction has been positive aside from MIL, whose reaction was on the same scale as if we had announced we were calling her adolf. "WHAT!? Your calling her Madeleine. Even after all the bad things that happen to Madeleines".

Erm...one bad thing happened to one Madeleine, I don't think that means the name is cursed...

"But she'll get called Mad Maddie" etc etc. when she had left DH said to me "I don't think my mum likes the name very much"

Anyway we like it, and as my sister said it is a beautiful name and it is nice to have something positive to associate the name with.

Apologies for the awful punctuation in that post. I will blame the iPad.

Hi all!!!
I posted on Facebook but thought I might post here as well???
My elcs was today and baby Joseph is here with a head full of hair, 51cms and 7lb11oz...
I am having a lttle prpblem witj a oozing wound and baby Joe needs topping up with ff because his sugar are low.

Congrats to all new arrivals!!!

Hi all - late night feeding with the C Monster... Bugger me it hurts. I'm seeing MW at hosp today for heel prick check so will use the opportunity to get some help with the latch. I think my new giganto-boobs are making it difficult for him get enough in his mouth and then I have these tiny nipples on top.

legally I think you're doing the right thing. It must be so hard being torn all ways at once but if DD loves preschool so much, it'll be fine. She'll get the benefit of all those friends and all that fun and you get to concentrate on multi-tasking the twins. It's not like you haven't hmgot enough to do just with them! I can understand your feelings though - and dare I suggest you might feel just a smidge rejected if DD so clearly wants to spend time at preschool. It would be only natural.

BTW new mat pads are a vast improvement, thanks. And the local BK is very classy, I'll have you know

I keep forgetting to post here instead of on the book of face! oops!

Did any of you ladies who have given birth check your ass-line to see if it was purple when you were in labour (i know it'll have been the last thing on your mind, just wondering..) Or, anyone in labour just now fancy seeing if your dilation is in-sync with your purple ass-line? hah! sorry, just asking because i caught sight of it in the mirror whilst applying sudocrem to a haemorrhoid that i cut when shaving, woah TMI!! i don't care about dignity anymore, obviously! Anyway, mine has been confirmed by my OH to be longer and darker, hooooorah! that means over 72 hours of contracting might actually be doing something to my cheeky cervix! wa-hey!

Congrats to all those with new babies orange, shooting, tucking, notso

Hope feminist ok. And anyone else SWIL if I've missed you. karma?

Hope all new mums are getting on ok with feeding and sleeping.

roofio and rox my little one was 2weeks today too (4th oct). She's still really sleepy although she's feeding quite well and her cheeks are filling out :)

flyer sorry you have to stay in til Monday. Crap but take advantage of regular pain killers given to you and "meals" put in front of you. I forgot to take my painkillers when got home so was sore and I don't think dh understood how hungry I was . Hope A is doing well.

mrshn was very emotional bringing ds home for the first time. This time was just happy to be home with my little family. Also felt like pregnancy lasted forever and wanted to get on with net stage.

nat it is different for me this time. I felt the love and protectiveness for dd but I was more worried about how ds was coping without me at home . I've put him to bed a few nights(although with dd attached to boob) and it felt great to spend that special time with him! Hope you feel better soon.

clapham sorry you've been feeling down. You've always been very good and encouraging to all of us on this thread. Sending you hugs and hope the full moon kicks off something for you xx

legally I think dd will love more preschool time and it will be a huge help with the twins. This in no way makes you less of a supermum in my eyes!

falcon how was the gp today? I hope he/she was supportive? Do they have you on meds? What about CBT referral? I'm sure you and they realise that you need some more help. Willow has the best mum in the world and her and your ds love you very much. You have had a tough pregnancy and labour so that probably has an effect too. Good that your OH is supportive. Thinking of you xx

Ok I think I've written enough of an essay for one night!

Thanks all for the kind words and hand holding two nights ago xx

for those that need it!!

karma yes I did Nd it gave me similar hope!

Anymore full moon babies? Bertie slept like a dream for his first night, fed at 8pm for an hour and then 3am for an hour. I know it'll change once his newborn sleepiness wears off but it was good to get some sleep.
It's my due date today so I pushed in by one day- apologies for my rudeness!!

Morning all.

After a very crazy 48 hours, Baby xuntitledx born at 8.12pm last night by emergency c-section.

Will update in full later today but feeling ropey still this morning!

massive congrats on all the new babies

feel bad for complaining about dp yesterday. he did all the night time get ups last night leaving me to get so much sleep. H only woke twice for feeds so getting better, didn't settle for nearly 2 hours after one but finally did after an explosive poo!!

Total full moon fail here! Know I shouldn't really moan as not even got to due date (39+2) but getting impatient and already getting edgy about number of texts and calls wondering if baby's here! I know they're only excited but feel I have to apologise for keeping it in me. Hope everyone has a good day and that things are moving along for you karma. Congratulations untitled hope you feel well soon and that you're enjoying lovely new baby. X

Congrats untitled sorry it was an ecs xxx

I'm completely lost between FB and here- but wishing baby-get-well wishes to the bub rushed to NICU last night.

I'm off to hospital for induction. Wearing my scussiest don't-want-to-see-again but comfiest maternity clothes.

To those of us still on the bus- From all the newborn dramas others are having to go through, let's enjoy our heavy, wriggling bumps for the last few days/hours. At least we know where they are and that we have full care of them. Not long to go!!

Good luck pink! You're right, we should make the most of these last few days. X

Congratulations to all the new mummies! Fingers crossed for good feeding and sleeping babies, too many are being little monkeys in and out of the womb!

I'm another full moon labour fail Ready 40ws today! if I go past midnight I will be most pregnant I've ever been! Girls had a school "spooky disco" last night and the music, ghosts and gouls didn't even tempt baby out I'm also getting fed up of all the messages and queries from friends and family, I'm not too uncomfortable apart from a crap night sleep last night, but the constant nagging from people is dampening my enjoyment of pregnancy now!

Echoing pink's sentiments about the LO under further investigation. Thinking of you. Totally unable to match up the names.

Full moon did not bring our baby, so SFW @ 40+3. Good luck to those of us still in the bus.

And I'm so happy for those of you who have your babies! I know it's not always plain sailing, and the hormones can flip up upside down from one day to the next, but it's lovely to have somewhere to share all our various experiences of "normal".

Here's hoping some false labour turns into actual labour today ...

No full moon baby here either. Another uncomfortable day awaits!

Good luck Pink xx

good luck pink! thinking of you today. x

congrats to our new babies and hope the baby tucking is back with his mummy soon.

untitled Oscar is my favorite boy's name but DP's vetoed it...!

SC here at 39+4. Thought was getting some twinges and mild cramps last night but all gone now...

Chickie xx

techincally the full moon is until just after 4pm today.. so keep your fingers crossed and your legs akimbo!

Congratulations to all the births. Amazing work ladies
Feminist I can't wait too hear your update, I'm thinking it'll be a girl.

To those SFW get doing some more full moon hippy esque ritual dancing. Sending you purple arse crack, and cervix dilating vibes.

So day 4 and I feel all my motherly instincts are coming together. I look at my baby and literally well up (probably 3-5 day blues) I just love this little person so much I could eat her. I still find it amazing that I'm capable of growing and nurturing something so perfect and wonderful. I look at her sleeping and I think how all I want is to make her the happiest little girl ever. God this is so unlike me

I managed to express 40ml of milk today i am chuffed I think my milk is starting to come in. They said it would take longer due to my blood loss and the fact that we were separated for the first 36 hrs.

Does anyone else have a really hiccupy baby? Alex has hiccup sessions a few times a day, Is this normal?