October 2013: no pushing in from the back of the bus, please

[MrsHoratioNelson]

Stats sheet here

https://docs.google.com/spreadsheet/lv?pli=1&key=0AidVHHwJSwC3dDU2VzFhWWt1ckg4dW84WkdCNzhOaFE&f=true&noheader=true&gid=1 New arrivals here

Key:
SC - still cooking (pre EDD)
SFW - still f*ing waiting (post EDD)
OWT - on way to theatre (CS)
IP - induction in progress
SWIL - somewhere in labour
LIT - lost in transition

Morning all SFW 39+2....... no baby here mrsHN

mon sorry things are so tough for you atm xxx thinking of you lots

No baby here mrshn

SFC (still f-in cooking) @ 39+2

Severe back ache. Absolutely starving

Nothing else to report

40+2....... my brain is f**ked! ........

mon its tough, when I had cancer a few years ago I wanted dp to see the psychologist but he wouldn't. men don't deal with their feelings like that, even though they should. I'm sure he'll find his own (healthy) coping mechanism in time.

rox thanks for sharing that, nice to know you feel the same. I know, I never knew it was possible to love someone like this. I just feel so protective of him. did manage another 1.5 hours while he was asleep so thats improvement.

think baby might be a bit constipated, seems uncomfortable and his poos have been a bit pellety. now I just feel even worse about giving up bf, , which is stupid. will ask mw later when she visits. his cord fell off this morning so going to have a bath soon to get belly button nice and clean!! mw and heal prick later and then my mum and sis are coming over so should be a good day.

MrsHN - I completely agree with you about the turning! Getting harder and harder to simply roll over - can't wait to be able to sleep on my back again..

40 + 4 and trying to stay positive. For last ten days have gone to bed thinking "this could be the night!". Now struggling to believe it will ever happen!

Just really really want to avoid induction (hoping to get through most of it with hypnobirthing, feel like that will be much more difficult if if it all gets started artificially)

Roofio - thank you for your post, I hadn't heard much about baby blues, so has been really helpful to read all the responses and see all the reassurances from everyone else. Really glad you got some sleep, hope next few days go well.

Oh yes I remember baby blues and crying for no reason a few days after ds was born. Totally totally normal.
roofio sometimes switching to formula can constipated them or maybe it's wind? Ds was such a windy baby and he was breastfed, I think ff babies can be worse. I used to bicycle his legs until he did a big trump and he was always more settled after that .
Terrible night here. Ds screamed from 7-8.30 even with me holding him, finally got him to sleep in our bed and then he woke at 12 rolled over and dived over the side- had to catch him by his legs before he crashed to the floor! More screaming until calpol locked in then up at 3 until 4.30 then up for the day at 6. I think he is trying to finish me off!!! Please someone tell me he won't do this when I have a newborn to look after as well!

MrsH - that was me crying to DH that they'll have to cut arm and leg holes in my tummy as this baby clearly doesn't want to leave!

Scheduled for a sweep on Friday where they'll also give me a date for induction next week if that doesn't work.

Amazingly, it's chilled me out a little bit. I'm a control freak and it's the not knowing that's killing me so at least I have (or will have) definitive dates to work towards now!

Doing some cleaning and cooking today to keep me busy

MoN sending you and your family big hugs, its horrid feeling so helpless towards your little one. We refused psychology help when DD was in special care and I regret it so much. Talking about how your feeling clarifies and organises everything. My DH really struggles with the talking side too and resorts to slamming doors and being moody which helps nobody.

Rox have you tried putting your top in the cot beside baby so she can still smell you? Also swaddle tightly babies are used to being all hugged up tight in womb so when they come out it can all seem scary to them. Where does baby sleep during the day? Could she sleep here at night?

Baby J is sound asleep and I need him to wake for a feed but hate waking a baby that's not even stirring.

Oh and big C section plaster removal today - am more than a little scared, does it hurt?

Roofio sorry forgot you in last post. Formula fed babies need to drink some water as well as formula bungs them up. Add some boiled water to a baby bottle and leave to cool, offer baby a few sips and his (sorry if you had a girl) stools will soften. Don't need to drink a lot but they do need some

Hi all, not checked in for a while. Am 38+3 and getting mkre and more fed up by the minute. Have been getting moreandmore painful contractions since Thursday but still no sign of a baby! Have a midwife appointment soon so I am hoping a sweep is suggested. Like you untitled I am a control freak and not being able to control when this happens is driving me crazy!!

Congratulations to all the new mummies and sending positive baby thoughts to all of you still waiting

Morning ladies,
No baby here Im afraid mrsH but have now given her permission to jump the queue, so well see if shes just following rules

Georgie think I must have missed your first post but think were due date buddies... fingers crossed babies arrive soon!

nat sorry to hear about your back, do you think its babys position. I ended up on al fours in the night trying to get her to wriggle off a nerve.

MoN sorry to hear DH isnt coping to well, and frustrating je wont see the psychologist, is there anyway you could go together? sounds like you are still doing amazingly and am glad you DCs are more understanding now xx

Good Luck to all babies being weighed today jelly and hayle

and hope your feeling a bit better today roofio am glad to have a reminder about the baby blues actually. My mum came over on day 4 last time found me crying and said "there we go thats much more normal" apparently id been far too perky on day 3 and she was concerned something was wrong because I wasnt getting baby blues.

shooting sorry to hear DS is ill really hope hes better quickly. we had a night at the start of the week where my DS only slept whilst cuddling me because he was poorly and its the only 24 hrs ive wished for baby to stay in. sending sympathetic hugs x

40+4 SFW...
Have midwife tomorrow so going to ask for a sweep and will discuss induction and reflexology which the MLU offer. Think DH is fed up of waiting too although hes being much more attentive than he ever was with DS. Think the waiting is making him more anxious as well as me.

Also good to hear from falcon and MrsO glad all is ok.

xuntitledx I completely agree - if I knew it was going to be another week, that would be absolutely fine. I'm uncomfortable, but not massively so, it's just the constant knicker-checking, twinge analysing high alert state of affairs that's doing my head in. It's a bit like at the beginning - I just knew I was pregnant, but I kept getting BFNs!

Mon as someone else said wouldn't it be good if we lived near one another that way we could all rally around and help you. I think speaking to a professional is a really good idea. I hope dp will as well it may be very beneficial for his emotional well being.

Roofio also I hope that the blues pass asap. I'm glad someone has bought this up as I warned dp about it last night after reading your post and hearing feedback from mummies.

Shooting for you and I hope poorly DS is feeling better soon so you can rest.

MrsH, untitled, pinkbuttons, and anyone else sfw I feel your pain but I'm only 39+3 so well behind you. I hope and have everything x 'd you'll pop one out today

Happy Birthday Falcon enjoy your day being truly spoilt by dp/ds/dd

Jelly for big plaster removal my midwife told me to soak in a bath in the morning before she was due to remove it. I also peeled around the edges whilst soaking - it didn't hurt at all when she took it off

40 weeks today and feeling sad that this baby still hasn't arrived. Off to see the midwife later where I may be offered a sweep but I've never had one before and don't know if I want one today.

Dh is also getting fed up of waiting and keeps telling the baby to hurry up (in a nice way).

I've had SPD since 17 weeks and the pain is really getting to me. I was hoping it would all be over by now and I would be able to start walking again and being able to leave the house without being in pain all if the time. Night times are hell. insomnia, reflux, Brixton hicks or baby moving all mean that I get about 4 hours sleep a night so that certainly isn't making me feel any better.

Sorry for the moan, to all of you who are struggling with something too.

Roofio - what Jelly said! Formula doesn't contain a certain natural laxative that, apparently, breast milk does, so I understand that most ff babies need a little water to help them along. Please don't feel bad!!! It's just a question if giving her done extra water!!

To those who are SFW... Please don't worry about bring induced. I was induced with DD at 40+12 and she arrived at 40+14 and I would def be induced again. It was a calm, good, natural labour with gas and air only...

Nat...I hope things are progressing for you..xxx

MoN it is distressing to see dps in such a state and please look after yourself. My dcs seems to be getting stressed ( more than us actually) about lo's arrival.... Ds arrives home and instead of letting himself in , stands by the front door calling "mum,mum"....I panic thinking that something happens and come running( waddling) downstairs. Yesterday I was dyeing my hair and was quite annoyed with it all. I do think at some level they are at loss :(
My thoughts are with you...xxxx

MrsH.... Dh does the same!!:)

MrsH Orange you describe the nighttime manoeuvres perfectly. This must be our body's way of making us really want this baby out of us now even if it means a different kind of sleepless night...

Wicked I admire you for putting up with so much for so long

And I'm another grateful for the reminders of the rollercoaster reality of the first six weeks. I remember losing it with DH in the street for taking control of the pram when we went out for the first time I was still so attached to DS, DH felt like a stranger not a father. It was hard for him the first few months as there's so little for a father to do (when bf) apart from the messy jobs.

MoN I hope your DP will see the lady with you- it sounds like he needs it, even if he just listens to what you and she say and doesn't contribute. xx

& to all in need.

thanks for the advice on water ladies, I'll offer him some sips. although since writing that he did a big poo on his bath towel when cleaning him so hopefully that's helped!! he is quite trumpy too so could just be that.

yeah my sister had warned me about the baby blues since she burst into tears in the middle of mothercare a few days after her ds was born so I knew what it could be like as that is so so unlike her!! last night I burst into tears for literally no reason, nothing had been said, I hadn't seen anything to upset me (purposely avoided watching diy sos as that sets me off at the best of times!!) it was mad. but feeling brighter today so I'm sure it will pass!!

Survived our first night at home

But, there is a small panic on here...I'm home, I'm on the sofa, it's 10am.....where's Homes Under the Hammer?

Shire I just came on to ask the exact same question!!!! Real rescues?!??!!! I don't know about this!!!!!

Well done shire! Hope you are enjoying having Alastair home.

Hello ladies, checking in to the new thread.

Wicked - not sure that I want a sweep today either. Probably being a bit bonkers but I can't let go of the idea of baby coming when it's ready. I'm only 40+2 and think I want to give it a little longer without any intervention at all.

Glad to hear you are feeling brighter today roofio.

I was thinking back to what helped me when I became a new mum and I loved the book "What mothers do: especially when it looks like nothing". It isn't a typically baby routine book; more a collection of thoughts and snippets of conversations from new mothers. I found it wonderfully comforting to dip into and helped me to make sense of all my new and overwhelming emotions.

It was recommended by my NCT teacher and I was so grateful she suggested it.

Oh happy birthday Falcon x

shooting really hope DS gets better soon - what a hellish night you had!