SHB here @ 5 days (I like it Roofio!)
Congratulations Warlin! So pleased my due date buddy has had her baby now. He looks gorgeous.
MoN I really feel for your DP, bless him. And the fact that he mentioned to someone that he had concerns about you is so sweet considering how he is clearly taking it very hard too. I hope Eliana makes good progress soon so you can both start to relax a bit.
Flyer at my midwife appointment last Wednesday the midwife wrote down in my notes that baby was still just 1/5 engaged, and I gave birth 2 days later! So I don't think there is an exact science to it all.
roofio I know how you feel. It took me about a day to completely fall for my little baby, and in those few hours I kept getting quite mentally stressed about the fact that I didn't have the gushing love for her yet or panicking that I couldn't cope, and I was utterly convinced it was the start of pnd, but I didn't want to talk to anyone about it because I felt so guilty for feeling it. Now I am the complete opposite (which is similar to how you are feeling I think) where I just look at her at times and it makes me cry seeing how perfect she is! Last night she started breathing a bit funny (she was having cuddles with FIL and we now think she got a bit hot), it took a matter of minutes to resolve, but the turmoil I felt in my head in that time was unbearable worrying about her and what we would do if the breathing didn't resolve etc. I said to DP that I didn't realise my heart/heads potential to love and worry about a person as much as I do now. It's like I have unlocked a new level, and to be honest it scares me a bit because I don't know what I would do if something happened to my little girly. I haven't really had a 'day of blues' (was told by friends to expect one on day 3), but I have cried at least once every day because I am so gushing with love for Ailla, and at least once a day with the stress of it all. Tiredness definitely doesn't help!
Speaking of which, Ailla was totally zonked last night after a good feed and a relatively active day where she was awake quite a lot, so we decided to try putting her in the bedside cot. She lasted all of about 10 minutes before waking up and getting herself all worked up and stressed. Popped her on my chest and she was wide-eyed but completely calm within seconds. So yet again another night where my bedside cot is being used to hold things to keep me entertained/awake, and my chest is being used as a mattress for Ailla. DH and I swap over every couple of hours (although I try to let him get the lions share of sleep because he doesn't seem to be able to cope with it as well) so so far tonight I have had 2 hours sleep. After Ailla's next feed (in about 1-2 hours I expect) I will wake DH again and he'll have some quality father-daughter time whilst I sleep 
... We've got the midwife coming over today so I think I'll need to ask her if she has any advice for us about if all. Hoping it might just get better by itself very soon and she'll start to use the crib. I can't remember who the other mum was who has the same issue? Chickienio was if? How are you coping now/what are you doing to get through the night?