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ThePFJ · 07/10/2013 21:49

New Thread!!!!

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Settle down for cake, sympathy and lots of laughs! xxx

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Squiffie · 18/10/2013 21:08

I was 10+2 by LMP. My edd is now 31st May so only just in the Maybies and could get changed again at NHS dating scan as apparently you shouldn't date a pregnancy from a scan before 8 weeks!

It's hard because I feel like I'm back in the risky period plus I was all geared up to start telling people but don't feel I can now.

It does explain why I feel more crap now though - didn't have any early sickness but last week or so has been horrendous.

Spirael · 18/10/2013 21:21

31st May isn't so bad, Squiffie. :) We can be due date twins and drag our heels at the back of the month together.

Seeing a heartbeat is good. I think at this point that a heartbeat means that 93% of the time everything will be fine. Will you get another scan in a few weeks?

dobedobedo · 18/10/2013 21:24

Aww squiffy, I know it's so disappointing. Trust me, you'll feel better about it in a week. You've seen a heartbeat now though. That's a brilliant sign. Xxx

Squiffie · 18/10/2013 21:43

I know I should feel more positive and I will in about 4 weeks Smile

thistlelicker · 18/10/2013 22:06

Feeling a bitmHmm today!! Can't explain why!

moominleigh94 · 18/10/2013 22:08

Just sobbed my way through the memorial episode of Glee. Wish I could blame pesky hormones but nope... it was just so so emotional Sad

bushprincess · 18/10/2013 22:09

Great news about the heartbeat squiffe but sorry you're not as far along as you thought. This waiting business is hard so i know you must feel rather flat to know you have to live through these weeks 'again' so to speak. But it's a healthy little bean and 3wks will be nothing in the grand scheme even if it feels forever now.

Sleep well and hope you're feeling more positive tomorrow. And if not we're all here to moan too!

Night all !!

bluestone85 · 18/10/2013 22:16

congratulations on seeing your little bean squiffie. That must be hard to go back in time, but just think you have more time with your little bean growing in you :-) from LMP in 10 + 1, but I highly doubt I am that far as my period were 40 days apart roughly, so I think im more likely to be 8 - 9 weeks xx

moominleigh94 · 18/10/2013 22:22

Just had a message off my dad, apparently my sister hasn't put the scan picture down... she's falling asleep holding it Grin

rebeccax2 · 18/10/2013 22:34

Well that must have been a surprise Squiffie!
Great news that everything is looking good, but I totally understand that you would feel bummed. I haven't enjoyed the last few weeks...Thanks
Hopefully it will go by much quicker this time.

Just popped in after a big day at work. Night ladies x

bluestone85 · 18/10/2013 22:36

Awwww bless. That's lovely moomin :) x

ThePFJ · 18/10/2013 22:38

Hi girls.... I have been in hospital again.. sorry I wasn't able to say hi.... I am about to post the whole story for you if you are up for it. If anyone is feeling really hormonal and sensitive tonight... don't read it until tomorrow. Love you all and miss you loads xxxx Love and Cake xxx ThePFJ

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ThePFJ · 18/10/2013 22:45

Hi All, I am going to update you all as much as I can on what has happened in the last few days. It has been very crazy and shocking.....

So I had pain, a week after my surgery on the 9th and ended up in A&E on Weds evening this week, they took bloods and found an infection and asked me to go for an ultrasound the next day at 11:45 to check there was anything left inside me, since my whole lower abdomen was inflamed and very sore. DH came with me on Thurs morning, and when we did the scan, to our horror and the sonographer's too, the entire foetus still in its sac, and all the contents were all still there!
We were in total shock, since last week we had an evac as there was no heartbeat on our reassure scan at 9 weeks. Sooooooooo.... after they double checked that all was ok (still no heartbeat or movement etc - just in case - it was a bit surreal) and took loads of photos to show the consultant we were admitted back into the ward and the Doc come to see us. The Doc spoke to the consultant surgeon who did the surgery last week and he saw the scan photos and was baffled. (He didn't see us though - this was relayed to us) They did remove a good amount of content last week, and it was tested positive for being pregnancy tissue. So he and all the staff on the ward were completely shocked and upset for us...

So... they insisted I do another surgery since things were definately not going to move on their own and the infection would be dangerous to leave inside me much longer. I was put on the emergency surgery list at around noon and DH stayed with me until 4pm and then went home to be with DS. I could not believe I had to go through this all over again......
I insisted on morphine for my pain and horrah they gave me some every 2 hours very apologetically... All the nurses were teary and sympathetic for me and so treated me very well. However my surgery didn't happen until they woke me at 2:40am to take me down. I became terrified right out of the blue, but the anesthetist was really funny and lovely so I got myself together. They gave me a huge dose of morphine when I woke up.. I was really tipsy and made all the staff laugh with my jokes... well you know me.....Wink
They told me they got lots out this time (they did say that last time though!!) and it tested positive for pregnancy material and infection etc etc.....I am at home now, struggling to get my appetite back but I am making myself eat when I can, and I am on strong antibiotics. Still in loads of pain and feeling very tender, but I think its getting a bit better.
The worst part is, I have to wait a week and a half now for it to be over. They are doing a follow up scan then to make sure all the content is out on the 28th. I feel as though maybe its gone... but my body is crazy from the hormones so I really have no clue until then. I am crazy scared - but I will pull myself and cover DS in kisses and hugs to keep me going.
Doctor today did say there is still a very good chance I can carry to term, but I have insisted on a referral to my Gyno to do tests in case they can help me.

We are doing ok, so don't be worried - me and DH are supporting each other brilliantly. It's good to have little DS and the kitties here as well to lavish all our love on!
BTW - on the release form for the first surgery one of the very very rare complications mention on it was failure to remove content.... and I had to sign it before the surgery. My Dad wants to su their asses for putting us though this, but I just want this over with.

Love to you all.... I thought you'd all want to know whats been happening to me..... sorry it was a long post. Love xxxxxx

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ThePFJ · 18/10/2013 22:53

Erm I don't know whether to put this on the PosiFrickinivity Thread - I don't want to upset anyone - but if anyone there still knows me any girls from there on this thread are welcome to point them here for the update etc. Only if you feel you want to though..... I can't seem to decide, I can't think straight tonight!!!!

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bluestone85 · 18/10/2013 23:00

Omg! That sounds absolutely terrifying, and completely shocking! I do hope they got everything this tone and that you recover fast. You sound amazingly strong and so glad DH is being so supportive.
I hope everything settles down soon and that you have a little healthy bean soon xxx

loopylou52 · 18/10/2013 23:03

Gosh pfj, I don't know what to say. What a horrendous ordeal you've been through. The fact that you are still managing to keep positive is truly inspiring. Do feel free to come back here whenever you feel the need to vent. We miss you. Take care Thanks Huge hugs

moominleigh94 · 18/10/2013 23:03

Oh bloody hell PFJ, you've been through the mill Shock I would agree, if you felt in the right mindset, to sue - but at the same time, it's understandable that you just want it over and done with. You're an absolute hero getting through all that and still staying positive.

Have they given you any kind of explanation? It's shocking that this has happened to you. I'm so sorry you've had to go through all that - as I said before, you're a wonderful person and I wish there was more I could say or do for you to make this any better, but I'm always here for a hand to hold or a few bad jokes to make you groan, or whatever I can do :) xxxx

ThePFJ · 18/10/2013 23:21

There is no real explanation.... in very very rare cases even though they er.. hoover out loads.. the important content just stays put.... they could not say anything more than that. It's insane I know - isn't it?..... Maybe I have a stubborn uterus.... Confused
I am a bit emotionally numb and feeling really weird at this moment right now... DH is telling me I need to go and sleep soon... so I'll check in tomorrow if thats ok girls..... hugs xxxxxx

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moominleigh94 · 18/10/2013 23:22

Big hugs PFJ, hope you get a good night's sleep xx

dobedobedo · 19/10/2013 06:00

Wow pfj you've been through a lot, I'm so sorry that's terrible! Fingers crossed it's all over now. I can't even imagine how you must be feeling. Have a stupid Internet hug and please keep in touch. Xxx Thanks

Minions · 19/10/2013 07:54

Sorry PFG to hear a sad situation turn even worse, really hope you've time now to recover physically and emotionally and have all the support you need.

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mumof2aimingfor4 · 19/10/2013 08:14

PFJ Firstly im sorry your still going through shit. I have to agree with your dad. I may not go as far as suing but I would definitely complain through the correct channels and advise them that if you are not given a full explanation and a written apology from person responsible for the first time then you will take matters further.
You are an extraordinarily strong person and will get through this with time, but not all women would be as strong as you, so something needs to be done for the people responsible to make sure things are done properly.
I wish I could take your pain away.

wm3010 · 19/10/2013 08:54

PFJ that is awful, I am so sorry. For me personally I think taking further action would be dragging things out but I would totally understand that some people feel differently. Do what you need to do to make you feel better, don't be too influenced by others. I am glad you have ds and kitties to give you some love and cuddles. Look after yourself x

Squiffie · 19/10/2013 09:18

So sorry to hear this pfj that's some serious shit to deal with! I'm glad you have a supportive dh to help you through, help each other through. You sound like a strong person in a home full of love, I hope you get your sticky bean soon! Huge hugs X x X x

impatientlywaiting · 19/10/2013 09:30

Just read your update PFJ. I can't believe that happened! You really sound incredibly brave.

So pleased you have support of your DH, DS and the kitties. Thank you for popping by to let us know how you are. Please keep coming back as this thread isn't the same without you. Xx