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Settle down for cake, sympathy and lots of laughs! xxx

That's great dobe i hope she takes heed and banks off now. Well done! Happy Friday. X

I'm in the situation where I get 90% of my salary for the first 6 weeks, then peanuts the basic maternity rate after that.

These numbers aren't exact or true, but say my salary is £23k and that's reduced to £20k to take into consideration the fact I get childcare vouchers.

Means that during my 6 weeks of 90% maternity pay I'll only get the pro rata of £18k rather than £20.7k like I would have done if I'd stopped my childcare vouchers and not had any salary sacrifice, which would raise my average earnings. So over that 6 week period, I lose just under £200.

However, if I stop the childcare vouchers I won't then be able to restart them before maternity leave. Not messing with them more than once a year seems to be a pretty standard rule for the companies I've worked at. Over 9 months maternity (what I'm planning to take) I'd get approximately £2.25k of vouchers.

Given the choice between just under £200 in my salary during those 6 weeks or £2.25k of childcare vouchers over 9 months of maternity leave, I know which one I'd rather have.

However if you have an employer who is going to pay 90% for six months, or you earn a huge salary, or you're only taking a very short maternity leave, then it may well be worthwhile to stop the vouchers.

I'm just saying that you need to make sure you check out your own circumstances and the fine print in your contract. Don't just cancel any childcare vouchers without doing all the maths very carefully. :)

I'm sitting here pondering that exact same thing dobe and I've realised the exhaustion is down to the anti nausea pills I'm on. So I can choose between feeling like I'm about to puke and feeling like I'm about to pass out. FUN!

I actually hate hate hate being pregnant. Love the getting the baby bit and don't mind labour but can't stand pregnancy. I want several labours instead of pregnancy please.

DON'T MIND LABOUR?!?!? I am very and also

I quite enjoyed my labour. Was high on the g&a for most of it!

Wow!, great to hear something other than horror stories about labour! .FX I join your enjoying labour club!!

I didn't mind labour either it was over in a couple of hours much much better than pregnancy and the agony of SPD for months on end!

Yes I have to agree, I didnt mind either of my labours. 2nd was quicker and easier as I was so relaxed about it.

Although I love the pregnant bit too, nothing beats laying in the bath and see your baby doing somersaults in your belly. I would be in the bath for hours of an evening and even now both my dd's are water babies!

Today I have mostly been vomiting! God knows how I'm going to keep a pint of water down.

Know how you feel squiffy. I just puked up something blue! Fuck knows what that is. I haven't eaten anything blue.

Let us see scan pics when you're done!

Squiffie Good luck with the scan neighbour! You’ll have to let me know where you went and if you rate it, I've been looking for a private scan clinic. We want to have a 4D and a gender scan. Hopefully before Christmas for the gender scan so we can tell the grandparents on Christmas Day. Hope you feel better soon. x

cbeebies & Dobe I’m really sorry to hear of the problems you've been facing. I don’t really have anything to add that hasn't been said already. I think the support on here is wonderful and we have some very clever ladies with brilliant advice. Take care x x

I’m really envious of you ladies that didn't mind the birth. I think my birth plan will just say epidural this time! I was induced at 42 weeks with my DS and had 23 hours of just about every intervention there was, I think my birth plan got thrown out the window. I am very nervous about doing it again. But they say the second is easier……..FX

I'd take labour over pregnancy too.

The only part of pregnancy that i enjoy are the kicks and flutters of the baby inside.

Dobe on the flutters you felt, I would say that was the baby. I felt them early with dc2 and everybody was telling me that I couldn't, around week 14. But the fluttery feelings never differed by the time I reached 20 weeks so I knew then that it was the baby I was feeling all along. It just isn't the same as belly gurgles.

Scan had today, and all well! :)
Well, we assume so, as strong heartbeat and growth is bang on for dates (put me forward by one day which matches up better with my conception dates), but the awkward little thing wouldn't shift into the correct position, so they couldn't check the nuchal translucency (or whatever it is).
I tried going for a pee and jigging around, but nope, TinyTit just would not oblige, he/she stayed too upright for both attempts!
I need to have further blood tests in 3-4 weeks time instead.

11+6, now due on the 3rd of May

Scan pic now up on profile, TinyTit is saluting. :)

Another one who loved Gas and Air I'm quite looking forward to another go on it. in all seriousness its pretty good because the moment you need to be back to thinking straight it ca be done very quickly.

I won't be getting Maternity pay because my job (was a nanny for 12 years) came to an end just as I got pregant. I knew it would be (kids all now in school and commute too long just for school hours) so I was very organised and bought almost all baby things I will need while I had the money so I didn't have to worry.
I currently have an Amby Hammock set up in my sitting room. Partly because I can't be arsed to take it down again.

Congrats on the scan longtailedtit. Hope squiffy is feeling better and had a good scan.

Cbeebies - so sorry to hear you've been having a hard time. Hope you get more luck with the GP and they get you sorted out.

Dobe - hope the continued battles with work get sorted out.

Hope everyone else is feeling OK. Finally the weekend is here!

longtail l had the same issue with DS twice we tried to have nucal scans done and twice he was awkward no matter how much I peed or we jiggled him around he wasn't budging.

Does anyone else feel like they 'know' the sex?
My first pregancy I was absolutely certain DS was a boy it was a really odd feeling of just feeling like I knew him. I almost wondered if it was a gift in a way since I had so little time with him.
This time I don't have that same feeling but this pregancy is so different symptoms wise I'm wondering if it might be a Girl.

Hello all - been a bit absent, busy week but hooray for Friday night! Glad to hear scans have gone well. Ceebies hope you're getting the support you need.

We've told our friends and work this week following our scan on Tues. It's been great fun and a relief not to suck my tummy in! One thing I've found weird is that people I don't know very well ask quite personal questions. Like, have you been trying long and was it planned? I don't take offence but I wouldn't ask someone that unless they were a close friend! Maybe just me. Anyone been asked anything weird?

On the carbon monoxide testing, I'm a non smoker and took it - my result was 1. The midwife told me of a girl who lives near by and swore she did not smoke but got a high rating of 17. They believed her when she said she didn't smoke and they tested her non-smoker husband - same result! Turned out that their boiler was leaking carbon monoxide - scary! Needless to say, we've got the alarms fitted to double make sure we're ok....

Littlebairn I have been looking at maternity pay and you need to have been employed for 26 weeks in the 66 weeks before the baby is born. It's worth looking in to as you get £137 for 39 weeks so much better than nothing.

Told my brother and sister this evening - they were shocked but thrilled and kept laughing at my parents, calling them Nan and Grandad. They love their pictures :)

Parents have invited OH over for dinner tomorrow so things are getting back to the good times on that front :) Telling a few more people tomorrow and Sunday, then we're going facebook official

My dates are totally fucked up ('scuse the language) but I'm only 7+6 so don't really have a photo to put on. Did see a heartbeat though so that's a positive. Just feeling a bit meh about it.

Ooh blimey Squiffie how far along did you think you were? What does it do to your EDD?

Oh dear squiffie sorry to hear that (but glad to hear there's presumably a healthy baby in there). How far along did you think you were? It must be awful to feel like time is going backwards!

Squiffy that happened me! I thought I was 13 weeks but I was just 7+4 at the scan!
Though now my midwife thinks that is wrong and I'm further ahead. Will find out in a week I guess!

At least you had longer taking folic acid and not drinking and all that stuff!