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I'm really sorry that things have been so horrible PFJ and I really hope that you are now able to recover and get your strength back.

Unfortunately as you have said a failure to completely empty the uterus/need to have a follow up procedure is a recognised complication of the operation that you had. It is rare but sadly will happen to a certain proportion of people not because of ineptitude on the part of the surgeon but because of the difficulty of the procedure. If you feel that some part of your care was lacking then I would definitely recommend talking to the patient advice and liaison service at your hospital as they can often get you more information and talk you through what happened (you can do this without making a formal complaint). When it comes to suing unfortunately if the complication was mentioned on the consent form (which they are meant to do for all common or serious complications) then it does become more difficult.

I really hope that whatever you choose to do that things start to get better. I am glad that you have what sounds like a good support network.

Take care

thePFJ that sounds awful I'm so sorry.
Hospitals make patients sign many things they don't always hold up in court especially being pressurised to sign after something traumatic.
But I know how difficult it can be to kick up a fuss when your grieving.
I hope your recovery is peaceful as possible.

Morning everyone. thePFJ - I'm so sorry for what you've been through.
x

I'm so sorry thePFJ, you've really been through the mill. I feel very inept, all I can do is offer and hope for the future. xx

minion ah yes the lovely personal questions, its amazing the type of questions people feel the right to ask 'was it planned' or 'how long did it take for you to fall pregnant' I got this a lot due to being married for 4 years before BFP.
I'm pretty sure no one believed me when I said 3 months apparently my entire family I thought I was secretly trying for years.
I actually felt a lot of pressure this time because everyone knew we were TTC and it took much longer.

Then post birth everyone wants to the gory details...

I've started telling people. I know I'm only 10 weeks but I'm feeling confident and excited and I just can't wait any longer :-)

LittleBairn the questions I had when I told people in my class included "Was it planned?", "What did your parents say?", "Were you trying for a baby?" and one delightful individual started questioning the lecturer. He asked "Is moomin pregnant", lecturer said yes, so he asked "Is she getting rid of it?". lecturer said of course not, so he asked hopefully, "Is she dropping out of uni now then?".

We're both playing the plant in Little Shop (I'm the sweet sultry conniving side, he's the big growly angry side) and everyone reckons he was hoping he'd get the full part to himself.

Hi girls, thank you so much for your kind kind words.... It meant a lot to me to be able to 'spill' on here and tell you all what has happened. So my DH is making me stay in bed at the moment... let's see how long I can stay here without thinking about housework.... hmmm....
Still painful in my abdomen and I am still numb emotionally today... but I am sure it will get better.
moomin kick that arrogant boy in the crotch for me.
I hope you girls are all ok, and your bumps are happy. Blergh.. I haven't really got anything else to say here I am afraid... ThePFJ is lost for words.... shocker huh?
Love you all xxxxxxxx

rebecca there is certainly no reason to wait of you don't want to I didn't in my first pregancy. I had hypermisser so it was fairly obvious I was still pregant.
My sonograher told me recently that once you get to 9 weeks and a heartbeat has been found that the chances of loosing the baby is only 1%.

moomin what nasty interfering questions! I do think being younger means you are open to a lot more judgement (unfairly!) I know my mum and sister both went thought it being pregnant at 17 & 19.

PFJ its totally normal to feel numb, its the minds way of protecting you a little while it sinks in and you have the strength to deal with it.
It was actually easier in the beginning, partly because i was dealing with all the physical stuff happening, than it was a few months later. But 10 months on althought it still hurts a lot I'm sort of used to that pain being part of my life so I can cope better.

PFJ - so sorry to hear about what you've been through. Just horrific.
So glad your DH is looking after you so well. Really hope you're feeling brighter soon. Just take it really easy and give yourself time to heal. Sending huge hugs xxxxxxx

Told my granddad today - he had a double heart bypass Tuesday and they've said his heart is stronger than ever which is probably a good thing he's happy though

How 'bad' does ms have to be to get medication?! I just feel constantly nauseous and struggle to eat as a result and struggle to keep food down. I feel so sorry for myself right now

PFJ I can't believe what you have had to go through. Thinking of you and your family

Squiffie Are you keeping anything down? I'd make an appointment and ask the question. There are anti sickness drugs available I'm not sure how they deem whether or not you are bad enough to be prescribed them. x

Squiffie- When I went to the doctors I was keeping down minimal food and only occasionally clear fluids. My pulse was a bit higher than it should have been and she generally assessed me. I think that if you feel you need something then going to see your GP is a good idea.

I asked about this squiffy. I am sick on average 3 times a day. It's exhausting. I've lost a stone or more in weight. The midwife wasn't concerned as she said it's keeping hydrated that matters, food, not so much. I drink about 2 litres of water a day and have no signs of dehydration. Mind you, I went into this pregnancy with a high bmi so I can afford to lose weight. She did prescribe me extra vitamins to ensure I get the important stuff. I think if I'm still this sick in another month, I'll ask for the drugs. Make an appointment with your gp or obstetrician as I hear they're more likely to prescribe anti sickness meds. X

I don't know much about it squiffie but I'd have thought if you can't keep much down and it's affecting your ability to function then I think seeing your GP would definitely be worthwhile.

Thanks ladies, I think I'll try and get to see my GP on Monday if tomorrow's the same. I've done nothing today - the house is upside down and the kids have watched tv all day. I feel like such a bad mummy right now

I don't remember being this sick with the others, perhaps its because I'm practically a pensioner now! I don't even want to eat sweets or cake, not even chocolate

Hope tomorrow is better day for you. FX

I feel the same about this PG, I’m sure I didn't feel this bad with DS and I think it’s my age (36) (or a girl). I don’t have MS as bad as you but I've had enough and I’m definitely ready for the ‘blooming’ stage! I always fancied 3 children but I’m not sure about doing this again when I’m getting closer to 40. That could go out the window when I’m having my new born snuggles……can’t wait!

Well, after a 5 day reprise from MS, it's back. Erghhh. Yuk. I seem to be lucky though I'm not suffering as bad as some of you poor ladies!

Have a good night everyone! x

Argh ds's friend's mum just asked me if I was pregnant! She guessed by looking at me.

I don't have a discernable bump and I've not put weight on so god knows how she knew. (ds definitely didn't say owt)
I'm all paranoid other people can tell now!

dobe it's hard when others start guessing - quite brave of her to come out and ask! A girl at work guessed before I let the cat out the bag. She didn't ask me but someone else who then asked my manager (who knew the truth but didn't let on). The tangled webs we weave!

What did you say? Hope you've not long til the scan and you can tell the world :)

squiffie my doctor was prepared to prescribe meds for my nausea even though I wasn't vomiting and could eat and drink. I was too ill to go to work for nearly a month though! I wavered about the meds and decided to give rest a bit more of a chance - at 13+4 the nausea has lessened and is more manageable (back at work tomorrow, argh!) so I don't feel I need medication. Ime midwives are very opposed to it and a sympathetic doctor is luck of the draw.

I am dreading being back at work as am still so utterly exhausted! Also, new symptom this week is acid reflux so I will need to crack out the gaviscon! I didn't get this until the very end with DS so am really surprised to develop it so early on.

PFJ I am so sorry to hear your news

Minions, I just admitted I was pregnant. Better than making an awkward situation by saying, "No, just fat!" hahaha!
Scan is in 9 days!

Telling the rest of family today, and then going Facebook public tomorrow it's official once it goes Facebook public, right?

The only reason it's going up there is because there's friends and family I don't have contact numbers for, and it's easier to spread the news that way than try and find numbers or send messages to each person.

Moomin, fb makes it official!
I'm really looking forward to being able to announce it on twitter and Facebook... It won't be a secret anymore!