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June 2014 Bus for those with RMC issues

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NorahVanstone · 04/10/2013 09:58

Hello everyone, welcome to our new hopeful but slightly paranoid bus!

NorahVanstone edd 6th June, 4 previous MC

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TinyTear · 18/10/2013 08:48

Countdown until my scan... it's at midday.
I am so scared...

Embracing the nausea...

tigsnchar1 · 18/10/2013 09:34

Good luck Tiny.

My bleeding is getting worse so I think that's it for me. Got another scan Monday to confirm. Sad

TinyTear · 18/10/2013 10:04

so sorry Tigs... fingers crossed for Monday

PJen · 18/10/2013 12:02

So sorry tigs this is nerve racking.

Thanks to all the ladies thinking about me.

I am still bleeding too. Not heavy but it is not spotting. I am not going to hospital since DH is on work trip and I don't want to spend 4-5 hours in waiting room there with a 3 year old. I don't have family here to help. I am convicted that it is gone and really there is nothing they can do to stop a miscarriage so not worth going.

I'm excited and waiting for your scan Tiny. Please don't leave us here in suspense :) good luck!

The best news is that today is Friday. :)

PJen · 18/10/2013 12:03

Convinced not convicted. Stupid auto correct.

LondonSuperTrooper · 18/10/2013 12:20

Best of luck with your scan Tiny

Tigs I am so sorry to hear that :( Is it very heavy bleeding?

Jen what an utter nightmare! When is your husband back from his trip? I am really sorry that you are going through this alone. Big hugs.

TinyTear · 18/10/2013 12:46

I'm out
Measuring 5 weeks
I'll give my daughter an extra cuddle.
They will rescan in a week but I know my dates

tannyLoo72 · 18/10/2013 13:18

Tiny, Tigs, Jen - oh my word, we're all going through it! Really big hugs.

So so sorry to hear all the news from you. I really wanted everyone to be ok.

Thank you all for your kindness. I couldn't bring myself to tell my mum until this morning, so having support here really helped.

I'm still bleeding, though not as heavily as yesterday, but in lots of pain with cramps and back ache and more nauseous than whilst I was pregnant Sad

Stupidly I have been holding off taking any painkillers until an hour ago and then took some cocodamol. I wasn't quite ready to give up I suppose..

Sorry. I'm feeling very flat.

I'll keep checking in if that's okay. T x

TinyTear · 18/10/2013 14:12

i wish i was bleeding as it would be more final, this way my stupid body is hanging on to this unviable fetus...

tannyLoo72 · 18/10/2013 14:19

I really understand, Tiny, and the only way I could deal with my mmc was by thinking about how hard my body had worked to keep me pregnant and keep my unviable bean safe.
Good luck with the scan next week.

TinyTear · 18/10/2013 14:34

Thanks...

the way I see it now there are two options

  1. i will start bleeding and miscarry naturally this week
  2. scan next week will show no changes so I will ask to have an ERPC as I want a clear end to it and don't want it to happen naturally.

I really can't see an option where things are magically ok...

In a way i am glad I asked for the scan today. If I had gone all the way to 12 weeks I would have really been even more devastated

tigsnchar1 · 18/10/2013 17:19

Tiny, so sorry. My body is also clinging on. Bleeding worse but only on wiping, but lots of clots. Another scan on Monday to see what is going on / what is left.

I'm glad to know now. Just a bit fed up as the first few weeks are such hard work and were for nothing.

Now I want it resolved so we can try again. Whole thing seems to take forever and midwife has terrified me by talking about when to call doctor and when to call 999!

Ugh.

lucyfluff · 18/10/2013 19:07

Im so sorry to you ladies on here who are going through mc again. Hugs to you all. Im popping in now and again to see how you are. I hope to see you again on the conception threads and take care xx

PJen · 18/10/2013 20:33

Oh I am devastated to hear your news Tiny. Why the hell is it so difficult to hold on to pregnancies for us?

tigs and tanny, I am sorry you ladies are struggling too. I am in no better situation as you girls.

Unfortunately, I know I can't get pregnant easily. We tried for 2 years and had an IVF for this one. This was our third IVF try and here IVF is not covered so we have paid around 50 USD so far for IVF. Unfortunately, I can't just get back to trying and I am not sure if I have the emotional strength to go through yet another heartrending IVF cycle. :(

LondonSuperTrooper · 18/10/2013 21:18

Oh Tigs I'm so sorry :( I think it's great that you want to try again. Keep strong.

Jen it's horrid cards that you've been dealt. We were saving up for IVF before I fell pregnant on my 13th cycle of TTC.

Tiny it's funny how we are relieved to find out the pregnancy is not viable now as opposed to finding at 12 weeks. It's crazy what we are willing to put up just to have a baby. I think you are being very sensible in asking for ERPC.

Tanny how are you bearing up?

I sincerely hope that all of us will have a successful and viable pregnancy. I keep panicking that I'll be turning 40 next month and still no baby...... And time is not on our side :(

Hey Lucy I think it's lovely how you are keeping an eye out over all of us.

Penguinita · 18/10/2013 21:58

Oh girls, I'm so gutted for you all. I've been away for three days and I can't believe things have gone so wrong for so many of you in that time. Tanny, PJen, tiny and tigs I'm shedding a tear for you and your pain. How can life be so cruel to the same people again and again? So unfair Sad Sad Sad

tannyLoo72 · 19/10/2013 19:46

A bit fed up to be honest. After 2 days of bleeding everything has stopped. I don't think I have passed everything, so I think it's off to EPU on Monday to see what's going on.

I know it's a mc, as test lines are faint now, but not sure about anything else...

I can't stop thinking about it all. Its been miserable going through it again. DH has been a brick, but mum and friends who knew I was pregnant have been distant. I'm not surprised, just feeling a bit lonely. Sad

Sorry for the sob story.

How's everyone else doing?

tigsnchar1 · 19/10/2013 20:22

Lonely here too. Bleeding is increasing. OH won't let me tell anyone in case baby survives and we have to wait till 12 week scan. I think that is most unlikely but he won't give up on this one. Quite sweet really I suppose.

No pain yet and I'm very scared of it kicking in.

How is everyone else?

TinyTear · 19/10/2013 21:05

Waiting to bleed still...

But I have no hope...

allegedly 8w tomorrow... this was when bleeding started with number 3

been chatting to a friend who was one of the only who knew and she is a good help... just trying to be realistic

won;t be trying actively again so soon... will 'not try not prevent' for a bit...

KatAndKit · 19/10/2013 21:14

Hi there id like to join you. So sorry to read that some of you are having to go through another miscarriage.

currently a bit over five weeks with number two. First pg was missed miscarriage and erpc at 11 weeks. Second pregnancy no heartbeat at private early scan, medical management at 9 weeks. Testing revealed antiphospholipid syndrome. Third pregnancy i was on clexane and thankfully it ended in the birth of my lovely DS, now 18 months.

first month of trying this time, seems to good to be true. Waiting for my first appointment and hoping i can get a scan before 8 weeks. Already covered in clexane bruises.

Penguinita · 20/10/2013 08:38

Hi kat and welcome to our rather sad bus. Lets hope that your arrival marks a turning point in our fortunes!

I hope the scan tomorrow gives you the answers you need tigs. Am I right in thinking you have a scan tomorrow too london? Wishing you lots of good luck.

My scan is on Tuesday evening, I'm preparing for the worst whilst hoping for the best. I don't have very strong symptoms, same as last time.

CarrotCakeMuffins · 20/10/2013 13:33

This thread makes heartbreaking reading! I am so very very sorry for all of you who are having a mc. Big hugs to you all.

I was feeling positive ish that there were lots of ladies in the same situation as me until I caught up with both threads today....

I have a scan on Wednesday at 7+2 so will find out if I am still in or out then. After 3 mcs and feeling crap now, and being the oldest here (just), I have decided that whatever happens this is my last try as I cannot keep putting myself through this.

On the plus side, I have sore boobs, have been very tired, am very thirsty and also very nauseous. However, I know from previous experience that all this is no guarantee of success.

Roll on Wednesday...

tannyLoo72 · 20/10/2013 13:57

Sorry that it's been so sad on here.

I'm going to stop posting about my stuff, but will check in now and then to see how everyone is doing.

I'm not going to give up. I have no problem conceiving, and now I've reached the magic number I can push for some rmc testing.

My aunt is an obs/gyne consultant so I will call her and get some advice.

Good luck with scans, symptoms and beans, and good luck with next time round.Thanks

PJen · 20/10/2013 16:34

tiny do you still have MS or sore boobs? Praying that the ultrasound tech was wrong. Those machines are not all accurate. :(

Tanny don't say that. If you can't talk among us then where? We are here together as we all understand that this road is not all excitement and rosy.

Tanny and Tigs I have high hopes that yours is just a synchronic hematoma. I am in a Canadian thread too and four ladies went down with bleedings and had ultrasound to only find SCH and perfect babies. They are very common. Good luck!

Welcome Kat. I sorry we have been a bit grim here.

I am hanging in there. Bleeding. Lack of nausea for two days. Boobs less sore. I am trying to not make anything out of it.

PJen · 20/10/2013 17:17

Subchronic not synchronic. Damn auto correct