January 2014(Thread 10) - Getting out of breath!Don't forget to squeeze when you sneeze laydeez!

[Toothfairy78]

Diddle-leee-deeeee. Diddle-lid-did-deee! It's the finaaaal countdown!

Oh yeah third trimester!

Hoping we bring space and idris with us....

space your MIL sounds dreadful and ridiculously childish, you are being incredibly strong!
I was having a look at my maternity policy, trying to work out some holiday stuff, and it looks like it all continues to apply to you for the full 52 weeks. I'm sure you know all of that, but just wanted to let you know in case.

Hope all others are well... On my phone at my parents and can't see the old posts for some reason. Off to my MIL today to help clear some of my FIL's stuff. He had 2 sheds and a garage... Think we may be doing lots of tip trips!

enjoying hope you are ok. Must be an incredibly difficult time. Massive hugs.

nature fingers crossed for monday. HTH.

Hope you all manage to enjoy your weekends.

alice Lol! The number of times I have started to freak out about lack of movement and then an hour later he has started to wriggle! They like to keep us on our toes!

Good luck with the tip trips mac!

Must have slept awkwardly last night as my shoulder is killing me. How annoying! Oh well, it will sort itself out no doubt.

Well me and my clown hands and clown feet that seem to swell up just looking at them and itch like made are off in the rain in flip flops due to clown feet to meet mates for brekkie and then NCT bargain hunting! Woop woop!

Whoever was looking at the mothercare expeditor - I randomly spoke to a few mums about it and they all loved it. Only issues were something to do with the strap in the carrycot and folding it down at the start was stiff. Maybe have a google about the straps bit and see if anyone else mentions it.

I would have gone for it if I'd liked the colour options!

I finished another blanket last night. Think ill wait a bit before starting another as it was getting annoying at the end! Maybe stick to clothes which I can finish in a day or two!

DP taking me to see one of my favourite comedians tonight, but is away at the family home (few hours away) today so it feels a bit like a date! I'm gonna try to get dolled up a bit for him though ill not hold my breath he will make any effort :(

humpty you probably all ready know but mothercare have 15% off online at the moment so if you like that system you could get a bargain. I'm starting to wonder if we should have looked for longer before deciding on the uppababy.

I wasn't sure whether to post this or not as didn't want to bring the group down but I'm not doing so well. Was in tears for quite a while last night. I know there is no point worrying until Monday but I can't help it. I'd started to feel hopefully before our rescan that everything would be ok and to find out it was even worse and there was more wrong was such a shock as we hadn't been warned that it could result in additional issues. The two may be unrelated but I doubt it. A lot of people we know who we don't see often don't even know I'm pg as we hadn't put anything on facebook yet but were planning to after the scan but now I can't because I wouldn't be able to cope with the congratulations because I feel like a failure and that I've let Dh down because I couldn't provide the baby with a safe place to grow. Logically I know there is nothing I could have done but logic isn't playing a big part at the moment. I've convinced myself that these things are going to be symptoms of a much bigger problem. I'm all ready stressing about going into work and seeing the colleague I don't like who will be back off parental leave as I'm not going to be able to talk to him about their child but I don't want any more complaints going in about me. Can't take the day off either as I've deadlines this week (which are going to be tough to meet as it is) and a whole load of issues to sort sitting in my inbox. Just feeling utterly overwhelmed at the moment. I've spoken to dh but don't want to let him know just how bad I'm feeling as don't want to stress him out anymore. My fb wall is full of people really excited about their pregnancies as well and I just don't feel like that at all. I was just starting to get excited and now I just feel that has all been taken away from me again and then I feel really bad everytime the baby moves Sorry for the complete pity party, especially at the weekend.

Going to keep myself busy sorting the house today I think, hopefully it will look less like a tip by the end!

Sorry for the mammoth post!

Oh, nature, you poor thing

I know it must be impossible not to worry. And it must be really hard not to think the worst. Nothing you tell yourself, and nothing we tell you, will stop you doing that. Just know that we are all behind you, sending you our strongest positive thoughts for everything to be fine.

And your Parental Leave colleague is a dick. Tell him to go fuck himself when he comes back -- give him something to really complain about :o

Nature it must be so so hard not to worry constantly - I'm sure Monday feels like a long way away. Just take things an hour at a time, be kind to yourself and know we're all thinking of you. Me

Not sure why "Me" appeared at the end there - was supposed to be "Hugs"!?

Sorry everyone's having a tough time

I'm off to baby show today, hopefully pick up some bargains!

I'm trying to decide whether to go with DH to his uni friends' cocktail party thing tonight. They're very nice, but I've only met them once (at our wedding). I can't drink cocktails. I won't know anyone else there. And it's in Stratford, which means a half-hour train ride. Driving would take much longer.

He says he's happy to go by himself, but I know he'd really like it if I went too. He'd go with me if it were the other way around.

Gah! Stupid being supportive!

blue thanks for that - we thought the catch was a bit stiff, but if that's the only issue, we may well go for it, I think. nature thanks - we do def want the 15% off!
alice and sultana now don't forget, back in the day babies only had a lump of coal and a clip around the ear, and they all turned out fine.

nature you poor love. Of course you're worried - it's natural. Your DH can help, if you tell him - even if he is already stressed, this is his baby too, and he will not want you to worry alone, I am sure of it. If you keep trying to hold it all in, the worry will magnify itself - I speak from experience! Let it out - to us, to your DH, your Mum, whoever you want. It will help, and you'll get some perspective and start thinking of how to get through the next day and a half, rather than panicking.

As for being a failure - BOLLOCKS. You aren't. That's all I'm going to say about that.

Try to go easy on yourself - who gives a STUFF about work deadlines, cockwomble colleagues (who, by the way is massively precious sounding, and needs to man the fuck up) - this is about you, your DH and your baby. Cry as much as you need to to show them how crap life is for you right now - you deserve support and care, not stress. Don't make life harder for yourself by trying to get through this alone, my love.

Hopefully on Monday you can get all excited again.

toby surely the 'I am PREGNANT' card should be played at this point; he will see you a nice takeaway, some chocolates and ensuring you have your feet up before he leaves (alone) to go out to his party...

Also, there's a storm warning, isn't there? I'm pretty sure our midwives would want us to stay in. Even my massively selfish and spoiled DM is starting to suggest maybe I shouldn't go and see her tomorrow as planned, and she never lets a chance to guilt trip see me go by.

It's elf and safety, innit?

But I'll feel baaaaad if I don't go. DH wouldn't try to make me. Which makes me feel worse!

You're right about the storm, though. I'd be raging if we couldn't get home again...

Hi all,

nature so sorry you are having a hard time. I can't imagine how hard this is for you. I just wanted to say the most important priority is you and your baby. Work and that dickhead colleague of yours are not of importance right now. Work is only work. You have extenuating circumstances and you are ENTITLED to look after your health and your baby. And you deserve better.

You have every RIGHT to tell people to fuck off if they are making unreasonable demands.

Y'know, just in case you'd forgot.

Sorry for being preachy at you.

Sending hugs too.

toby how bad will you feel, with your feet up, tucking into a nice box of choccies? I would find it reasonably easy to get over feeling that bad...

:o

nature I really feel for you. I can just imagine you feeling so hopeful before the scan and then getting such a shock. This weekend must be going so slowly for you too. However, dont you ever feel like a failure! None of this could have been prevented and you are providing such a snuggly warm home for your LO right now! You are amazing!!! If you need to pour your heart out to us you go ahead - we are here to listen, empathise and support you through this.

Toby thats such a tricky decision, but I would be tempted to stay behind, with the dodgy weather approaching. Your DH would be gutted if u guys got stranded.

Well got some major bargains! A jumper and a baby grow from a charity shop and then 20 bodysuits, 8 blankets, a hat and mittens with ears humpty, and 6 sleepsuits for £19 from the nct sale!

I'm going. I am the best wife ever. The storm isn't due til tomorrow night. I will make him buy me a takeaway tomorrow to make up for it.

Humph. Flounce.

Yay for NCT bargains!

Hope you're having a good day at the show, MrsV.

You ARE the best wife ever Toby! He definitely owes you takeaway tomorrow!

Nature, it's nothing you have done. You, like all of us, are doing the best job ever growing our babies. Remember, that if you're struggling go to your GP and get signed off work.... you'll probably someone who never does that and just continues to cope but your physical and mental health and that of the baby is more important than work... A week off might just get you through the worst of it. And it might shut those annoying people at work up for good. Take care x

Nature good luck for monday, hope your scan can give you some reassurance and any concerns are lessened

Alice i was also concerned the wee guy was quiet today. I did my nails and suddenly he came to life..... Must have been having another lazy day and he doesnt like my UV lamp!

Sultana ive to take a sample in when getting scan on monday and if theres still glucose i will get sent for the gtt.
Im suprised it wasnt arranged as routine as im very high bmi with diabetes in the family

Good to hear loads of you are getting bargains, mine have just been clothes from asda.... An awesome wee ramones vest was my best buy :D but im still to get basics of pram, cot, bedding oops

Space hope your family have wound their necks in and started being more supportive hugs

Cant remember any more posts-my brain is rotting im sure

sultana #ears

toby

percy good advice.

Am KNACKERED today. Packed up the last of my clothes at the flat, put on a load of washing, went to the new house, sanded down and painted the interior of a big storage cupboard and now home, have dinner in the oven (semi-ready meal). DH is being a cuntpuffin and being all floppy and pathetic about how he 'didn't sleep v well last night'.
I haven't slept through the night since about 22 weeks, dickbrain.
Gah.
And to cap it all, I'm up at 8 tomorrow to see my 'D'M (takes 2.5 hours to get to her, she gets all sulky if she doesn't get 'enough' time.

I want a rest

Thanks everyone for your lovely words. Had a good day so feeling a bit better. lovely potter round the shops this morning and then a productive afternoon sorting the house so it looks less like a tip. Having a takeaway and night in front of the tv.

Well done toby for going out with Dh.

humpty love that your dh is tired after one nights poor sleep. I honestly don't think they realise how disruptive being pg is to sleep!

Meant to ask is anyone having a second GTT? I had an early one done which was normal but midwife mentioned on Thursday booking in for a second one soon.