January 2014(Thread 10) - Getting out of breath!Don't forget to squeeze when you sneeze laydeez!

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Diddle-leee-deeeee. Diddle-lid-did-deee! It's the finaaaal countdown!

Oh yeah third trimester!

Hoping we bring space and idris with us....

space I agree with the rest of the ladies. Your MIL sounds awful and should be putting you and dh before herself after what you have been through.
None of this situation is about her so I am not surprised how mad you are!
It takes no effort at all to wish a happy birthday to someone and especially your own son! I think I would have blown a fuse.

Sorry that you are having to wait so long for the PM so you can finalise everything. The wait must be really hard, but I hope that it will give you peace of mind for the future and that all the other plans have gone well.

I am sure I speak for everyone when I say that we are always thinking of you, your DH and Idris.

Its nice that you clearly have some great bosses who are allowing you this time. It would be awful to be having to deal with work related issues (such a meaningless thing compared to everything else)

Rant away at us whenever you feel the need as we are always here.

Massive hugs being sent your way

space sounds like your MIL needs it to be ALL ABOUT HER . Hope you can manage to tune her nonsense out at the moment.

Oh space, this is the last thing you and DH need. Make sure you do whatever it is you feel is right, and you can worry about her some other time if at all. Sending lots of hugs and

space you are being so strong and brave! I'm full of admiration. And please do post here whenever you want to. Hope you managed to get some sleep and you and DH have a better day today.
Thank crunchie it's Friday; was running an event yesterday eve and it was exhausting. Although it was fine in the end, just about everything went wrong that could've done, including a random invasion of pensioners at one point; not really something you plan for! I think I'm going to take a leaf from the rest of you with cockwomble bosses and start saying no to evening events unless I can combine them with a late start...
Have a good day everyone.

Oh space, just what you don't need at the moment. Your poor DH :(

Glad that your respective bosses are being supportive.

Maybe you could introduce your DH to the MN stately homes threads (in Relationships I think), lots of people with toxic family on there who could relate and support.

I hope that the PM process happens as quickly as possible so that you can lay Idris to rest, the waiting must be very difficult for you.

, birthday wishes and for you and DH x

oh space, that's the last thing you need. I'm so sorry for your poor DH on his birthday. The last thing you need is someone so self centered and negative around at the moment.

Being in limbo must be horrific, fingers crossed they sort things out so you can make plans very soon. Feel free to rant away whenever you need!

All a bit shit here, my poor DB has just been diagnosed with MS at 26. No symptoms yet - it was found by chance. Not really sure what to make of it.

space you are doing amazingly well to keep your cool in RL with a MIL who acts like that! Your poor DH! Rant away whenever you need to....

You guys are going thru so much right now, especially with the PM stage keeping u guys in limbo. Hope you hear back soon.

enjoying that must have been a shock for you DB and for you. What have they told him so far?

Goodness enjoying that must have been a shock for you all. Will it help him in the long run being diagnosed early?

Just had a pregnancy massage. Probably just what I needed after yesterday and last night's poor sleep. Feel a bit more relaxed now. Going to just potter around the house trying to tidy for the rest of the day.

enjoying so sorry about your news.
Have they given DB much info? I have heard that it is good when they catch it early as it can delay the progression of the symptoms etc.
Sending lots of hugs!

Hi all, enjoying that is terrible news I am so sorry to hear about your brother. Does he know which type of MS he has? All in know is that some are slower to progress than others.

space you are brilliantly strong, your MIL is slightly beyond belief. I hope the PM sheds some light for you.

Well my work trip was all good, definitely needed to be there, but pretty tiring with 14 hour days and a five am start this morning to get back home. Picked my kids up from playgroup and very nearly blacked out. Now home and central heating still not working so just been out t the shed in pouring rain to gather some logs for the fire. Am running on empty so plan to veg in front of tv all afternoon. At least my boys will be happy!

Space so sorry your MIL is making things harder for you and DH when she should be your best support. Happy birthday to your DH and I hope the PM limbo ends soon.

FWIW I also have culturally and religiously conservative PIL from a completely different culture, where incidentally they don't really celebrate birthdays, but this clearly falls into the category of MIL being selfish and self centred and so the cultural differences argument really doesn't excuse her.

Thinking of you all the time.

enjoying so sorry to hear the bad news about your DB. It must be such a shock for him, and at a very difficult age when he shouldn't have to worry about things like that. Like others said, I hope early diagnosis helps with treatment options.

enjoying sorry to hear about your DB's diagnosis, that must have been a shock for all of you. I hope that his consultant will be able to provide more information and provide treatment plans to help manage his condition. x

Mythree glad your trip went well, take it easy, sounds like you over did it a bit and need to rest. Enjoy your afternoon in front of the tv.

Nature glad the massage helped relax you a bit, if you are tired have a lie down for half an hour, even if you don't sleep it still helps.

Dd2 is asleep, got a few bits of cleaning to do then I will be putting my feet up before the school run myself.

Struggling to catch up, but hugs and to space, nature and enjoying. My uncle has MS, he's found oxygen therapy really helps. He was telling me about some new treatment trials they're doing so fingers crossed there's some some developments soon.

thanks all

We're not sure what type/prognosis is, because of the unusual way it was diagnosed, but I'm hoping it can be managed well, given how early it's been caught. He's so young and strong, it just doesn't seem fair. He see's the consultant again soon so hopefully will have a plan to follow then.

Huge hugs enjoying. MS can be an evil, evil thing but it can also be nothing more than a label for some irritating symptoms (have experience with both family & colleagues). I hope things work out OK for you & your family. Once you've got your heads around what is going on I would thoroughly recommend leaning on some of the excellent MS charities. They can provide the whole family with emotional & practical support if it is required. There are some amazing drugs & therapies available. Really hope everything works out well for you all.

Hi Space, this is exactly the right place to vent/rant - we all come on here for just that purpose so we don't mind at all. Sorry your MIL is being a nightmare, you're having a hard enough time at the moment without all that. I hope that when you have the funeral it goes as well as it can do and you feel some peace afterwards and you are able to say goodbye to Idris and have time to cherish those memories. Good that your bosses are being so understanding. I recently went to my niece's funeral, (died inutero) and was dreading it and it felt so sad (and guilty for being pregnant when my sister no longer is) but actually having that service and being given that opportunity to say goodbye, although painful and upsetting, was something I would never have missed and I am glad now looking back that we were given the opportunity to attend.

Enjoying - hope it's not as bad as it seems. Nature - hope it works out okay and good luck for Monday.

All -have a fab weekend and have a rest, we need it and deserve it!!

enjoying sorry to hear about DB'S diagnosis.He is the same age as my DH and I cant imagine having to go through that at a young age (or any age).Really sorry

space I hope the funeral goes well when you do get the chance to say goodbye to your brave little man. You seem so strong too

Anyone else feeling totally exhausted? I feel like i'm back in first trimester again. I feel guilty for moaning considering what others are/have been going through but i'm just bloody shattered.

Amen percy amen!

(I am bushed)

Hugs to all!

space jeeeeeeez your MIL is very very immature, isn't she? I'm so sorry she's doing this at a time when you need support and love around you. Happy Birthday to your DH from me, anyway, FWIW!
I hope the PM happens soon and you get the answers you need so you can progress with little Idris's funeral and get some closure.
PLEASE don't think you're 'derailing' the thread, you're not. You're one of us, and we all get to talk about whatever we need/want to talk about.

enjoying oh that's horrid, your poor DB. If it's any consolation (which it may not be), I had a good friend at my first ever job who had to stop being an airline pilot because of MS, but his only (ever) symptom was reduced vision in one eye.

nature how's the weekend going? Hope you're managing to take your mind off your worries.

So, today we bought a new mattress for our shiny new bed - Warren Evans is truly a place of wonder and joy. I v nearly fell asleep on 'our' mattress...

We also think we might go for the Mothercare Xpedior pushchair - tried it out (popped in on a whim) and love it! Anyone have any experience of it? I'm off to read Which about it, but first hand experience always welcome. I also like the £250 price tag a LOT.

Spoke to my DM (space, mine's a lot like your DH's - ) who said she 'didn't understand why I was in such a rush to get things sorted'. I pointed out that I was 30 weeks today and she advised waiting until 'the January sales' to get a pushchair, cot, car seat etc. I hung up on her. FFS. We have so far bought: monitor, nursing chair, assorted clothes, Baby Bjorn (2nd hand), door bouncer. That's IT. Stupid cah.

Oh, and got another eBay bargain, a changing table (Mothercare, plain pine, but we'll strip and paint it) to be delivered tomorrow morning (the nice chap is passing our area and will drop off) - £50. I am LOVING the bargain hunting! I probably shouldn't even be looking for that until the baby's at university though

Lol humpty! A changing table! Now that really is going a step too far! Won't be needing that for years surely? What a shame she has to take the wind out of your sales....I am with you and will be hopefully finding more bargains at an NCT sale tomorrow!

It's starting to feel really real now isn't it? Today I realised my due date is just two months on Sunday! Omg!

Enjoying that's tough news for your DB. My little DS was diagnosed with MS at age 22 a few years ago. It's true it can hit people in very different ways and a younger diagnosis is a good thing in terms of controlling it long term. DS has bad weeks - I'm not going to lie - but the rest of the time you really wouldn't know. She's a trainee lawyer and works ridiculously hard, but her company have no idea about the MS. Hope your DB has similar experience.

humpty mums are just like that aren't they though? mine thinks I don't have to buy anything really because the baby being the first grandchild and great grandchild it will get a lot of presents.. which I'm pretty certain will just be baby clothes and toys. (Is it bad that I haven't brought any baby toys and just expect them as presents?!)
Ebay is certainly awesome for getting stuff though! :)

sarahleanne you're not alone in feeling exhausted again. I am too! I want to sleep all the time. I just got a taxi for what would be a 5 minute walk (but up hill...)

I'm feeling really uncomfortable/almost to the in pain side of things tonight :( My back is killing, baby's foot is in my rib, have the constant feeling I need to pee.
&& How long (like, in hours) do you leave it before starting to get concerned that baby hasn't kicked? He probably kicked mid afternoon. He's moved a little bit since, but not kicked.. and he's normally his most active in the evenings.. I know if he's not kicking when I wake tomorrow I'll defo be concerned.. but surely I'm just over thinking right now?
Idk.. I'm just thinking allowed as DP is still out with friends..

Actuallyyyyy, he's moving now. Just me being paranoid and bored!