January 2014(Thread 10) - Getting out of breath!Don't forget to squeeze when you sneeze laydeez!

[Toothfairy78]

Diddle-leee-deeeee. Diddle-lid-did-deee! It's the finaaaal countdown!

Oh yeah third trimester!

Hoping we bring space and idris with us....

Oh, and as we haven't had it in a while:

PELVIC FLOORS

Shouldn't have googled enlarged bladder. I knew I shouldn't but I still did

nature sorry to hear you didn'ppooit

Oh, nature. Step away from google!

I'm always big spoon :o DH likes it because he can feel the baby wriggling and kicking against his back. And I can twiddle his hair, which helps me get to sleep

Sorry you have to wait to find out what is going on nature, it must be such a worry. And DON'T GOOGLE

sultanta, SIDS is the new thing I am worrying myself about because I'm not constantly panicking anyway, oh no I've read lots about the movement sensors causing more anxiety though, and I'm not even sure that the one I was looking at would fit in the crib so I've decided against it. DP already thinks I've gone totally mad whilst pregnant, so buying a movement monitor would only confirm his theory in his eyes I fear :)

Yet again baby has decided to have a quiet day after a couple of days of constant movement. It is driving me a bit insane I think. She does move occasionally so I think she might just be tired. I massively overdid it with the shopping/walking about yesterday and today, so perhaps she's as knackered as me!

I enjoyed reading these messages of how all your days are going. It kept my mind of the fact that I was desperate for the loo but had both the plumber and electrician in the bathroom examining the broken boiler (that's my drama of the day: DP turning the heating on an 5 minutes later I smelt burning and we could see smoke.. ). We now have no hot water or heating for tonight. :(

& it's good to hear you're not all organised :) it reassures me that I have a half packed bag. Do I really need a bag for baby and a bag for me? The bag is half full but I have no baby toiletries or nappies or blanket yet. And what on earth to I wear for leaving the hospital?! Surely it should be something nice, but comfortable.. And also... is it rather silly to be wandering about whether or not I need a mini hairdryer with me? :/ My hair looks awful if it dries naturally and there shall obviously be lots of photos... :S

nature so sorry the scan didnt go as well as hoped. I hope that the next few days go quickly as i am sure you will get some reassurance from the consultant.
I will have my fx that its all v simple to fix.

sultana i have to call on monday if i havent heard anything but at least my mind will be at rest.

Omg pelvic floors these have not gone well this week

Oops alice you should def have some to take your mind off no heat or water.

humpty perhaps u can have a sneaky word with your NCT teacher and ask her to bring it up?

Frick! Pelvic floors! I have probably only done them max 20 times in the whole pregnancy! Shite!

book arghhhh! Wish I could just chill out and not worry so much, but when you actually know people who have lost babies it rams it home how real it can be. Finding it hard to bury my head in the sand like I normally would!

Alice what a pain in the bum! Hope it gets fixed soon!

frizz thats good you dont need to wait too long for your results! Phew!

Well have just discovered DH has dyed my last white bra and bunch of white (patterned) pants an attractive shade of grey! He has managed to do this with every white item of clothing I own, so I normally make sure I do all the washing myself. I deliberately told him before I went away for the weekend that the only washing left in the basket were white items (mostly my underwear) but there wasnt enough for a full wash, but once he had finished with his work shirts he could stick it in the washing machine. Sooooo he has obviously also put in his BLACK work undershirts too! Fecks sake! He wont even have noticed he has dyed them!

Hey nature sorry to hear little bean's bladder is too big. Fx it's nothing too major.

TMI but...Funny story about looking up ailments on google...

I went on holiday once and had some kind of GI problem. Had explosive diarrhea. For a few says after I had pale almost white poo! And top Google results pointed at bowel or liver cancer. You could say it scared me shitless.

Saw a nurse who told me to go eat Activia yoghurt. The yoghurt worked.

DO NOT LISTEN TO GOOGLE

sultana have you tried colour run remover?

Hi organised people and people like me . I've got my house move in two weeks and then will definitely think about getting organised not just getting all my stuff out of boxes and leaving it around to sort on matty leave
MrsVDB - the heartburn sicky stuff is reflux - progesterone has relaxed the muscle at the top of the gullet so tummy acid's getting up the gullet when you lie flat. Try the patented puggle technique of shoving a book or thick magazine under the legs of your bed at the head end so you're on a wee slope.
Anti heartburn medication ROCKS doesn't it toby - far better than carrying manky old gaviscon about all the time I've found and no need to find bland stuff to eat.
Good luck nature with your next scan
Fingers crossed and pelvi floors engaged for good vibes for tomorrow - have an epic day at work mainly will be standing from 9 to 5 and have a bit of SPD just grumbling. Hoping to get through with no disasters, no fainting, no complications and still able to walk by the end.....

nature hugs. Must be really stressful waiting til Monday to learn more. Hopefully the consultant will be able to reassure you. Step away from google!

Really feel for all you heartburn sufferers. I haven't had any yet but did get it in the last few weeks with dd. Will have to buy some rennie in preparation.

Sorry, DD got hold of the tablet at the wrong moment, didn't realise my half written message had been posted.

Was just going to say, step away from dr google nature and we're all here in the meantime. Waiting is the worst part. It's hard to think of anything but the worst case scenario. Lots of reassurance and hugs!

As far as organisation goes, I have now washed the baby clothes and have decided which ines ti take in the hospital bag, but still haven't got any of my stuff. I am never organised and so I'm not sure how I managed to get this far. The car seat, moses basket etc all need a good wash. DH is convinced this will not happen before the birth and has told me as much.

alice no heating or hot water totally sucks. Our hit water was off for over a week this month and it was rubbish, esoecially because DD looked such a mess I was embarrassed to take her to school.

mythree I hope your trip is going well and DS is feeling better.

With the movement sensor thing, for me it would increase not dcrease the anxiety by making me more constantly aware of the possibility of something being wrong, IYSWIM. Same reason I would never let myself get a doppler. Normal people however, might be more rational.

I am now officially on a diet, It is very boring, but dietician was pretty clear that things couldn't continue as they were. I am hoping I don't gain any more weight before the birth because I feel massive and can no longer keep up with DD when she runs off.

tooth no I havent. Only discovered it this evening.... Will definitely check that out! Cant make them any worse right?

Sorry not caught up completely.

mythree hope your trip has gone more smoothly now you are on your way and that your ds is feeling better.

Space nice to hear from you, been thinking about you

Nature sorry to hear the scan wasn't as positive as you hoped. Really hope the consultant can reassure you at your appointment x

alice hope your heating gets fixed quickly.

Hi to everyone else, hope you are all okay x

Dd2 been ill and teething, very clingy so not getting much time to MN atm. Managed to pick up a Chicco Mia bouncer chair today while DH looked after the kids, as he had a day off work. He did look a bit frazzled when I got back, he is not used to juggling two kids, one climbing and clingy whilst cooking dinner.

nature keep thinking positive, It must be scary though. Stay away from google!It's evil!

sultanajo your post made me laugh.DH used to do the same thing. I have banned him from washing my decent clothes!!

RE SIDS god I was so paranoid with my first and second . I used to check they were breathing amillion times a night. I still check on both of them before I go to bed each night.DH gets pissed off as DD always stirs and sometimes wakes up (shes a seriously light sleeper, i've never known a 2 yr old like it).

I have had pains tonight for a few hours, more like painful/uncomfortable BH rather than contractions .Luckily they've tailed off for now. I was in boots today though and felt really dizzy and sick so hoping i'm not coming down with anything.

I'm annoyed I have no contact with DH apart from 10 minutes a day at 5:30pm when he can ring me ( no wifi or internet so cannot email or text). I asked him if there is an emergency number just incase anything happens with me or the kids but so far he's come up with nothing.He's working away and on nights 7pm until 7am so basically when i'm getting up for the day, he is going to bed. It's going to be a very lonely and boring couple of weeks.

sorry to rant, can you tell I have no one else to talk to?

oh and i'm shattered and DD keeps waking in the night and DS keeps trying to get into bed with me at about 2am every night!!
Oh and I have finally got to the 'sleeping with pillow inbetween legs' stage!

Hugs to sarah & nature (& anyone else who needs them).

I'm so angry right now (hence being awake at silly o'clock) so please excuse the rant but I need to vent.

DH has always had a rocky relationship with his mother but tries so hard to accommodate her despite her being very religious & incredibly selfish. She is not the same religious background as me which means planning any sort of event is always trying. She threatened to commit suicide (just attention seeking) during the planning of our wedding. We've done everything we can to accomodate as much of what she wants during the funeral planning but she still insists on getting all melodramatic over it.

Today was DHs birthday. Apparently she was "too upset to call". We know this because she spent an hour on the phone to DHs brother & asked him to pass on the message. Not even a card or an email. How the hell can she be so feckin selfish as to not contact her eldest son on his birthday. Especially considering what the poor guy is going through right now. I'm so angry with her that I don't actually know what to do with myself. She genuinely appears to have absolutely no idea how continually hurtful she is to him. I have no idea why he keeps going back, it's like watching a puppy being kicked but she's his mother & I guess that bond is too strong. Doesn't stop me wanting to kick her even though I just have to politely swallow it for DHs sake.

Stupid cuntpuffin MIL

& breathe

Hi space sorry about your MIL. Doesn't sound very helpful at all. You would think she would be able to see past anything and support your Dh especially given what you both have been through. I hope your plans for idris' s funeral are going ok apart from this and you'll be able to celebrate the brave little man he was.

And if you need to vent space I've woken up and can't get back to sleep so will be loitering around for a while!

Thanks nature

She is just that unbelievably selfish sometimes that she has no concept of how her actions or words could possibly offend & yet at other times she's lovely. I just feel so bad for DH. He was nearly in tears at bedtime, it doesn't matter how big you are, sometimes you just want your mummy.

Plans are on hiatus at the mo. We've pretty much organised everything we can but can't finalise anything until the PM is complete and the hospital release the body. Getting to be frustrating now, I just want it done.

Thanks for all your kind messages, it really helps & sorry to hijack the thread but it really helps to get it out there but without having to worry about RL repercussions!

I really don't think it matters how old you are, not having your mum wish you happy birthday always hurts.

Have you been given a date for the PM or are you just in limbo at the moment? I imagine that must be very hard.

We're hoping we might hear something tomorrow, but the funeral directors have advised that it will take 7 days from releasing the body to the funeral so we're now looking at early Nov .

We asked for the post mortem so we knew it would delay things a bit but I don't think I quite appreciated how much the wait would affect things. Just feel like everything is on hold until we can get the funeral done. Luckily both DH & I have amazing bosses so no pressure there. DH is working from home when he feels like it & I have until mid Nov before I even have to talk to them about going back which is a massive relief. No way could I handle that at the moment!

Thanks for the chat x

I guess the PM will at least give you some answers and stop you wondering about things which should help. Glad both your bosses have been understanding as well. That would definitely not have been something that you would have wanted to deal with on top of everything else.

I'll keep my fx that you hear something soon and can get things finalised.

Oh space after all you & DH have been through!

Some people are like that which is just painful.

Sending you many hugs of sympathy and support. Just focus on what you need to do and let others sort out MIL. It's not about her so don't let it be.

Do not let the buggers get you down.

And you can always rant at us.

Xxx

Oh, space, what a selfish cow your MIL is. Your DH is lucky to have you

Just been catching up as have in laws a staying and no time...

Nature keeping my fingers firmly crossed for you - hopefully it'll be very simple to solve, but horrible having to wait...

Space your MIL sounds like a nightmare. Poor you and DH I know exactly what you mean about needing your mum however big you are. Thinking of you guys.