December 2013 - waddling slowly onwards

[LadyMedea]

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Morning all.

Hugs to all. Whisper are you home yet? You have had a rough few weeks. Xxx

I feel everyone else's pain lol. Feel huge, heavy and achey. Can't sleep and so tired but have so much to do I feel guilty if I nap in the day. Got a poorly pony too which is adding to the job list.

Cant wait for half term next week. At least dd is off so no school run and at 9 she is old enough to help out with chores. And we are going shopping for her winter clothes so going to have a nice girly lunch too.

Meant to say anyone who wants to know about local groups and stuff check the notice boards at your local schools or children's centres or give them a call. DDs school has quite a lot of stuff going on especially if they are involved with surestart or any of the bfing support groups.

i'm still here and now hugely itchy thanks to a bad reaction to the drugs in the night. I never do anything by halves me. Even if I was feeling well I wouldn't have got any sleep thanks to the woman next to me sang in her sleep. No word of a lie the woman bloody sang opera tunes. She had a lovely singing voice but it would have been nice if she shut up. The midwives kept waking her up and every time she fell asleep she started again. She was lucky not to get strangled.

Whisper sorry but that made me laugh!I hope you feel better soon!

Froubylou i cant wait for half term either!I love Halloween,we are doing lots of Halloween themed crafty stuff and baking and going to a zoo where they have all Halloween stuff going on next week,also going to the theatre with the older 3,i cant wait i love the holidays.

Ive been thinking about getting a post natal doula,ive been looking and they help you with breastfeeding which i always find tricky in the first 2 or 3 weeks,I find the nhs midwives can be hit and miss with bf and i cant really get to groups,which is a shame as i went to le leche league with the first 2 and it was great there....Some also do stuff with the placenta too which i quite like the sound of but dh just rolls his eyes at me when i mention it!

Sorry to hear you're stuck in hospital Whisper, that sucks! Think I'm still traumatised from the 1 night I had to be there a few months ago, thanks God our local hospital only has private rooms for post-natal care, I HATE having to be in a bay, I can't abide being stuck with strangers when I'm not feeling good, I'm antisocial at the best of times!

She mumbles to herself when she is reading too. I am going to throw heavy things at her head soon if she does not shut the hell up. My earphones broke in the night so I'm trying to read till DP gets here at 12 with some new ones. I don't think she realises she's doing it, it's just like a low level hum noise that is driving me fucking insane. I hate other people

Lol whisper hope you're feeling better though.

Ahhh ds2 seems to be tons better and both kids slept until 8am and I didn't wake up much due to that painful numb spot under my right boob.
So happy as I needed at least one good nights sleep before back to work tomorrow

Have a great day everyone xx

Feel like a right cow for having such a go at DP last night, he was up nearly all night with the puking child to let me sleep. I thought he was going to call in to work but he's gone in after all having had about an hour's sleep

Still much vomiting going on, the doctor yesterday said to give it 24 hours after she'd stopped being sick to give her something to eat but she's not really had anything since Sunday lunchtime and the poor soul is really hungry. Might give her something later on, any ideas what would be gentle on her tum (and not too bad coming back up?)

When DD was born and we were living in England there was a really good baby group at the local surestart centre, they also had other activities too. Since moving up here, they don't seem to have surestart centres but I found plenty of toddler groups on the other site

Bohemian I'm in a similar situation as we only moved to this area 18 months ago and still don't know many people. Although I've got quite a few close friends nearby in London, it'll be a lot of hassle making the 20 minute train journey up to see them with a newborn and a pram etc. and as you said, they're all at very different points in their lives and not all that interested in babies.
I start my birthing/ yoga classes next month though so I'm hoping to meet a few people then...
Maybe try finding some local bumps and babies Facebook groups? It's not just NCT that organises things like that so you might have a bit more luck elsewhere. Might help having an online meeting point as well, as people are more likely to chat and can still have some involvement even if they can't make it to every meeting.

Feather that is a shame but it definitely sounds like the most sensible decision right now. If you love the job enough then I'm sure more opportunities will present themselves in future

And Whisper I hope you don't have to stay in for too much longer. Sending you big hugs and positive thoughts! Also, if you get bored sitting around in hospital I think you should start turning bits of your life into a film or some sort of sitcom... Honestly, sleep singing?! You just couldn't make that sort of thing up if you tried!

I slept so badly last night, think I must've woken up once every hour! Had pains right across the middle of my bump which made it impossible to get comfy lying on either side, even with lots of pillows. The pain seems to have eased off a bit today though so I'm hoping little one was just stretching out or lying at a funny angle...

Clare, when I was little and feeling poorly I remember my mum offering up things like bread, plain toast, crumpets, soup, sponge cake and lemonade. Would any of those things do the job?
Hope your little girl feels better soon, the poor thing!

claire is it just vomiting or is it diarrhoea too?we always use the BRAT diet,bananas,rice,applesauce and toast,to make the apple sauce literally ct up an apple and stew it til it goes all mushy,its worked almost instantly with mine.

Also breatmilk is good as it kills the germs in their tummy,if youve got any.

www.thekitchn.com/sick-try-the-brat-diet-43754

Oh Claire, if the vomiting is still going strong, I would get in touch with the doc again and be firm. They probably didn't expect it to go on for so long.

Haha, Whisper you're cracking me up! Glad to hear they've figure out what's wrong and you're on the mend.

I'm also in a similar predicament Bohemian. I'm the first of my friends to have a baby and although they're happy for me they aren't at that point in their lives yet so just aren't interested. They seem to feel it's all a bit too grown up and I think they also think I'm boring now as I'm not able to do as much with them, for example they couldn't understand why I didn't want to go to a festival and camp out in the rain when I was 25 weeks
It's daunting but I think it's time to branch out and make some friends that are in a similar position in life. There does seem to be a lot of parent and baby clubs and activities going on. I've started by looking on my local mumsnet page for things in my area and might also go to one of their meet ups.

Hope everyone's aches and pains are easing up and you're all coping I've slept for 10+ hours a night this week, feel groggy but soo much better for it.
Wishing everyone a lovely day!

claire when I was little and sickly my mum always gave me thin arrowroot biscuits and flat lemonade and that usually went down ok

claire I was always given and I now always give my kids anything dry, like toast or plain biscuits, even crisps and my mum always let coke or lemonade go flat and give that to me.
If the sickness has been going on a while, get back in touch with docs, the doc gave me dioralyte sachets for ds2 yesterday in case he couldn't keep fluid down and told me to give him bananas and cheese or cheese crackers.....anything salty he said as he needed to replace salt and potassium I think it was.

Thanks for the tips everyone, just rang NHS 24 and spoke to a nurse who said that as long as shes not dehydrated then not to worry too much, can offer her food if she wants it, will give her some crackers as she loves them. The antibiotics should make a difference to her chest within about 48 hours and its the phlegm from that that is making her sick.

Goodness these children don't half cause you some grief, what am I thinking having another!

clare Dry toast definately and seconding the dioralyte sachets. They taste grim but at least thay have all the electrolytes and stuff in them. My friend usually gives her DD lollies made with frozen lemonade to soothe sore throat and it tricks the dicky tum.

thanks everyone for the advice, you know when you just can't see the forest for the trees? Trying to join as much as possible, just find it difficult ... and the few pick-em-drop-em "friends" you think you have just make you feel like no one particularly wants to see you anyway, let alone when you are aching and the size of a bus.

I have a mental health session next week so hopefully talking about it will avoid banging down the doctor's door demanding pills.

Let's all hope for sleep tonight.

clare it's horrible when they're that sick. I always think the worst thing about parenting is when the kids are ill. Feel so helpless and sorry for them (not to mention the lack of sleep for us parents!) all the suggestions are great- only thing i'd add is what to avoid and that's anything rich, fatty, creamy, spicy and ESP milk till her tum is back to normal. BRAT diet is great. Ds1 has a dodgy tum at the mo (loose stools) so trying to make sure he eats plain/bland stuff and no milk.

Well, had my first scare of what is no doubt going to be many! Arrived early for MW appointment, had a horrible pain sort of under and behind my bump when I got there. In the half hour I waited to go in I had another 3, so was quite worried by the time I got in! She checked bump and said baby isn't in my pelvis, she can palpate his head freely and she couldn't feel any tightenings. I was reassured by this until I remembered someone saying exactly the same 3 hours before I gave birth last time! Anyway, thankfully pains have settled but I agreed I'd go straight to the delivery suite if they started up again and didn't settle or came back with any other 'labour-y' symptoms. Was bricking it for those few moments I was considering the possibility of actually being in labour!

good job you were already waiting for the MW feather and managed to be reassured and seen quickly! I wonder how many of us will actually end up with December babies??

Put my big parachute pants on that I bought yesterday and have been so comfortable all day, I don't care that they come up over my belly button and are the least attractive looking things ever, I never want to wear anything else now for the rest of the pregnancy

granny pants are the best mrsshrubs I have been wearing them since about 20 weeks and I love them so much. I'm not sure I will ever go back to uncomfy underwear ever again haha.

ooh glad nothing bad happened feather hope baby stays put in there for a while longer.

mrs mumble in the other bed has not shut up all day. She makes this weird noise a bit like a bee or a wasp or something constantly. I don't think she knows she makes it. I am fully pissed off about it now and have come to the sitting room for a break from her. The midwives are getting annoyed by it too, one of them kept asking if there was a wasp in the room haha! I'm not sure I can take another night of her opera singing either, but thanks to the bad reaction to the drugs last night I am being kept in again so I guess I'll just have to put up with it. How he husband hasn't murdered her I will never know.

Feeling sad this evening. I've been packing and sorting things for when we move and found the Christmas card I sent to dp for our first Christmas. It says how much fun I'd had with him that year and how much I was looking forward to 2012. It's really brought up a load of bad feelings as by April we'd both been made redundant, I'd lost my flat and my Great Uncle, who had been like a father to me, had died suddenly. It was early on in our relationship and should have been a happy time, but I couldn't help spiraling into depression and putting him through so much stress. I remember moving in with him the day after my uncle died, driving up in the van with him trying to make it a positive experience but me just crying all the way.
Things have changed a lot, I'm on the mend and we're starting to recover money/job wise but reading that card has made it all feel raw again. I was so happy one moment and then inconsolable the next. It's the reason why we rushed into trying for a baby tbh. I didn't want to hold back or put it off because of reasons to do with money or situation when it seemed like these things were so unreliable anyway. It was a bit reckless, especially as we're now rushing around madly trying to get ready for the arrival but becoming pregnant has totally changed everything and kicked us both into gear to get our lives back on track and be happy again.
Hopefully it won't be too long until we can relax a bit more and start enjoying life again.

Sorry for long post and rambling on, hope everyone is having/had a good day and feeling better

meandbumpy It sounds like you and DP have been through a lot and come out the other side stronger and better for it which can only be a good thing for your little one.

Aww mean I recognise that feeling of going from everything being great to everything being in pieces around you. It's really tough, but it sounds like you're definitely back on track now.

whisper that would drive me absolutely crazy. You must be a saint to put up with it because I definitely would have thrown something at her by now.

clare hope DD is feeling better. I do think after a certain point if the vomiting hasn't stopped it's better to be throwing something up than just water. It's not like it's food poisoning - DS gets the nasty, phlegmy cough-to-vom too - and plain food may just be easier to keep down.

Glad it wasn't anything serious feather just keep counting off the days - every day counts! Although given your history did you consider asking for an internal? I'm really not a fan of them but second babies can engage a lot later, like when in active labour, and if your contractions weren't detectable last time her not feeling anything isn't necessarily reassuring.

3rd tri scan tomorrow. Hope baby behaves and consultant can confirm position!

I'm kicking myself at the moment for agreeing to knit 20 pairs of baby bootees for a charity thing. I have 3 pairs complete, and about 3 weeks to do 17 more.

do you knit two at a time on the same needle nom? I found it much quicker to do it that way. Just make another little ball from the yarn you are using and away you go.

oh mean that doesn't sound like fun. You are moving forward now though and the bad times are behind you. Just concentrate on your little family now. Hope you feel better soon.