December 2013 - waddling slowly onwards

[LadyMedea]

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Hello all. I'm struggling with work too. I'm putting on a play in three weeks which is madness! But when I said I was struggling my boss just said 'I'm busy too'. I feel like if I plead pregnancy it is somehow showing weakness. I work myself into the ground and just feel all the extra stuff I do is expected; it's not like putting on a play is d I've planned to work until 38 weeks and I'm now doubting I can do it. My hope is once the play's over I'll be back to reasonable working hours (I'm terrified of sitting at home twiddling my thumbs for weeks), but getting through the next 3 weeks will be hell. And I'll only get into trouble if the play is rubbish and doesn't polish the school's ego. Arg!

mrsshrubs keep an eye out for headaches and flashy lights in your vision, or back ache or nausea. Swelling could be the start of worrying things so just keep an eye on it please.

my eyesight never improved and I got another headache and threw up a bunch of times so am back at the assessment ward being monitored over night. They don't really know what's up with me but it's probably an infection somewhere. One thing is for certain I feel bloody lousy. Codeine is my new best friend. it's the only thing that stops the headaches.

I finish at half term, so only 3 days left, then a week of holidays, then maternity leave. Although today someone from the junior school came and asked when I am going on leave, when am I due. I said I finish work on Friday, but I'm not due until the beginning of December. Her response was "But you're huge!" Thanks. I know. It doesn't help that the last baby I heard about from work was 5.4kg. And the people who worked with his mother think I am huge!

10.5 teaching hours left. But I have a massive pile of marking to do before I leave. And there's been a massive issue with an IT transfer, so a whole scheme of work I have written has not transferrred properly,so I will be rewriting it in the holidays. I would leave it to someone else, but it's my baby and I don't trust the men I work with to write the sex and relationships programme.

bohemian I'd love a pedicure! Can't justify it tho with not working and money so tight :-( but may ask for a voucher for Xmas so I can at least feel more yummy than slummy mummy by that point!

whisper hope they find out the cause/infection and you feel better soon.

I've got a serious case of trapped wind. The pain is excruciating- on top of my bump too. With years of IBS experiment behind me I recognise it as trapped wind but doesn't help me deal with the pain. Baby must be squashing my colon something chronic!!

bohemian I'd love a pedicure! Can't justify it tho with not working and money so tight :-( but may ask for a voucher for Xmas so I can at least feel more yummy than slummy mummy by that point!

whisper hope they find out the cause/infection and you feel better soon.

I've got a serious case of trapped wind. The pain is excruciating- on top of my bump too. With years of IBS experiment behind me I recognise it as trapped wind but doesn't help me deal with the pain. Baby must be squashing my colon something chronic!!

mum trapped wind is the most excruciating pain isn't it?

My poor DD is now tucked up in bed, having had another huge puking fit this afternoon. The poor wee thing has been asking for something to eat all day, although the doctor said to leave it 24 hours after the last sickness I might cave and give her something in the morning

DP has just been on the receiving end of both barrels, I've spent all of the past 2 days cleaning up vomit and dealing with a grizzly 3 year old, he came in from work and straightaway started pissing about with the computer that he has been trying (and failing) to fix for weeks. I also needed to pick up a fairly vital ingredient for dinner that I couldn't get because of DD and he said he would get on the way home, he's only just gone now and I really don't think I can be arsed to start cooking.

Sorry for rant, feel really moany when there are people in hospital

whisper keep us posted. But also don't forget that the chances of at least one of us being awake are incredibly high. So we can keep you company most of the night.

clare, hope your DD gets well soon.

whisper, hope hospital is ok and you get to go home tomorrow if all is well. Thinking of you.

oh and mum, definitely get the lump checked out. If it is something you'll catch it early, if it's nothing you'll have peace of mind - win-win!

no idea where that biscuit came from whisper, sorry! stupid phone.

Oh dear life isn't treating us well, is it? :(

Sympathy, anti-bacterial/anti-viral vibes and soothing massages all round!

I'm going to catch up with TGGBO so if you watch it don't tell me who wins! I'm a week behind because I have to wait for them to be uploaded to YouTube. I suspect the final will be up tomorrow though.

whisper hope they get to the bottom of what's wrong soon....hope you start to feel better.

stom I have this electric ladies razor from boots and when the hair grows back it doesn't itch at all.
My dp shaves it all for me so that way I know I'm not hairy and I'm all nice and trim and I think he actually quite enjoys it TMI ALERT although I did have to kick him away tonight after he decided he would try and see if he could see the babies head

mum I don't have any lumps but I would agree that it's probably milk ducts or something but best to get it checked anyway.

clare hope your dd feels better own, just had my ds2 to the walk in but he's got a viral so its just paracetamol and ibuprofen until he's better, hopefully we will all get some sleep tonight.

Oh I'd love a pedicure, I may treat myself after I start mat leave but I've still got another week after this one I honestly don't know how I'm managing to stay on my feet for 9 hours 5 days a week. How the hell I did it until 39 weeks last time is beyond me.

Not sure who mentioned swelling but my hands are really tight and look really fat but my feet etc are fine and I honestly think my headache is just tiredness from no sleep the last few nights.

Hope every feels better soon and our final weeks go a bit faster than they have been.

I was hoping to get to 38 weeks at least, but I've been so tired this last week I don't know if I'll make it I'm just going to keep going and see, but 5 weeks feels like an eternity at this point! Sleep is crap again too, which probably isn't helping.

I've got tea and cake and GBBO on tv though, so I'm going to sit with my feet up under a blanket and relax before an early night.

Hope everyone feels better soon, this home stretch feels like a long one

alyssa that made me laugh
Thanks for the replies
All those feeling rubbish hope you feel better soon
I'm so tired hopefully I'll sleep tonight

Sorry for all those feeling shit. I am pretty tired too but it's probably self inflicted as I've been staying up late with DP watching House of Cards on netflix. So addictive.
Only two more weeks of work after this one! Cant wait to finish but stressing not going to get everything finished.
whisper hope you feel better soon.
claire hope your DD feels better soon. Poor her.
feather good luck with the interview.
Sorry for anybody I missed out. Hope we all sleep well.

I accept the biscuit anyway violet thanks

been told I have a water infection and am on iv antibiotics so hopefully I'll start to feel a bit more alive soon.

had a bit of an emotional outburst earlier and the midwife was lovely and calmed me down. she made us tea and listened to me ranting and getting worked up and gave me a hug and told me everything will be alright. it was really nice. she sat with me for ages and explained everything clearly

Seems as if everyone has started feeling ill and rubbish the last couple days...i have noticed such a difference in my pregnancy in the last week. I feel more tired and weak and my stomach feels so much bigger and i also feel like im getting a few of my symptons back from the first trimester! How strange things can change in the space of 1 week...nearly in november so not long left ladies :)

Glad they've got to the bottom of it whisper and hopefully you'll start to feel better soon. Thanks for the advice with watching out for headaches etc with the swelling, will be keeping an eye out!

Definitely can tell we're not that far away now all the aches pains and things are really kicking in, today's the heaviest and most tired I've felt in a while, was so glad the trains were running okay today because yesterday was a nightmare, think that wore me out more than anything yesterday.
Big hugs to everyone and here's keeping everything crossed that we get some sleep tonight!

glad everything is okay whisper been worried.

Shrubs I'm also getting waddly too - hoping for a nice night after GBBO on the on demand.

chilli is House of Cards good?

Just a question, more of a plea. I am dreading maternity leave as I have very few friends living around here and even less that are pregnant/expecting (the only two I know - one has had hers and the other is just into second - have decided to - quite simply - go off in their own happy haze). I have tried joining nct classes to meet others, but the class doesn't seem to want to meet. I'm hoping to have more luck with pregnancy yoga but even the teacher commented on the quiet class.

Basically any tips on just making maternity leave less lonely and isolated?

I am sorry we are all feeling aches and pains. But glad they have found the route of your poorliness whisper.

I went for my swim earlier and it was lovely. I haven't done any excercise since my last spin class in September, uust before my first bleed!

It was nice to not feel the masses of extra weight I am now carrying and as they were running school classes in half the pool, I didn't have to tackle lengths. Just widths. I took it really steady and feel so much better for it. Am going again with a freind on Friday before lunch and my mw appt.

I also got to wear my new maternity tankini and have to say I felt very comfortable with none of the self consciousness I usually get at the pool. I recommend it to everyone. Especially if your council offers free swimming for the upduffed.

Take care of yourselves. No doubt I will be on here a lot over the night as we have no internal doors upstairs. It is very strange using the bathroom with no door!

Goodnight all, sleep well.

I mean I recommend the swimming, not the tankini :)

bohemian see if your NCT area has a Facebook group. Mine does and they advertise all sorts of social things including. 'Bumps and babies ' meet ups etc. so you could meet different mums than just the ones from your class. Also try checking out if there are any breastfeeding Facebook groups as again my local one does loads. I'm going to be brave and go along to my first bumps and babies on Monday as I'll be 34 weeks and feel sufficiently bumpy.

you all sound like your having a tough time,hope you all feel better soon!

Whisper, hope the antibiotics kick in soon and you're feeling much better.

bohemian, I've got similar worries to you. I have few friends nearby, and all are either in full time work or study, and none are at the 'baby' stage of life yet. I have my mum and mil nearby for support, but feel like I might want to meet other women with babies who have gone through it more recently. I was thinking about the nct bumps and babies already suggested, or the bf groups if I manage that. My local children's centre also puts on baby massage classes and things like that, so I'm planning on going there, is there anything like that near you?

On the other hand, as I'm only talking 6 months mat leave I'm worried that if I go and make friends as soon as I'm back to work I won't have time or opportunity for any of the groups, so I wonder if its worth starting anyway

God, that was the worst night ever. Can't turn over without serious planning and effort and it's hideously painful, but shoulder/hip hurts if I lie on one side for too long even with a body pillow. Then DS decided to come in with us (I wish I had the energy to be consistent with putting him back in his own bed for long enough for it to be worth it) and then started kicking me and DH - DH lost his temper and shouted at DS, who got really frightened/upset because he was half asleep. DH then turned over and went back to sleep while I spent best part of an hour calming DS and persuading him to lie down and go to sleep. By now it's 2am and I haven't actually been to sleep yet. Managed to doze but combination of pain and restless DS means I never got to sleep properly and my whole body hurts. It's minging outside and I can't be arsed, so DS and I are having a tv morning. He's going out with my mum later while I go to the MW, so I'm appeasing my guilt with the knowledge he's getting out later!

I think I've decided not to go for the interview. Getting the job would mean going straight back into a new job after mat leave, a more senior one which would involve spending the first 6 months doing an intensive uni course on top of working full time, and I'm not sure that's a good idea with a toddler and a small baby, having to juggle childcare and relying on relatives anyway. I'd love to do the job but I'm not sure it's the right time.