September 2013- Annoying "Any news?" texts, maternity leave and BABIES!

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Bring on the irritating texts from family members and best friends to find out whether you've had your babies or not (like you wouldn't tell them.....), more weird and disgusting labour symptoms, more internal examinations than you can shake a stick at, and LOTS OF BABIES!

Congrats purple and well done you, look forward to seeing pics

triple hurrah for having a plan in place, must feel good :)

That's great triple let's hope baby complies now!
Well done purple that's amazing news, hurrah!

Oh congratulations purple, how wonderful.

Oh blimey Kittens you must be twiddling your thumbs. I know the pain as I was told that due to my 1st's size this one would be induced if she wasn't here by due date but after a perfectly normal growth scan I was told I would be left to my own devices and could run the normal 14days over. So am now overdue when I spent an entire pregnancy thinking I never would be! Hummph!

Congrats Purple! Hope you're now enjoying lovely cuddles and doing nothing but resting!
Commiserations to everyone still waiting and especially to those overdue - DD1 was 12 days overdue so I can definitely sympathise!

If one more person tells me 'the baby will come when it's ready' I may actually punch them...

Wow purple not even gas and air! You rock well done! Just a teeny bit bigger than Robin :)

Haha ready youwant to go "REALLY?!" Holy shit, I thought I could order it!

My fave is things like "all babies loose weight, don't worry". Usually from childless people who have no idea what it is to have has 25 mins sleep in 24 and be crapping it over a jaundice baby that won't feed!

Well done purple and good news triple :)

We're inching ever closer to the big appointment on Friday. Though I just noticed he has a lip tie as well as tongue tie so I hope that won't be an issue :(

Yesterday was a bad day... I tried to nap all afternoon and failed as ds wouldn't sleep. When DH phoned just before 6 to tell me he was still well over an hour away I lost it and had my first cry.

Today, I decided not to even try to nap and although I am more tired, I am feeling better psychologically and emotionally. I think the stress of trying to nap and failing was worse than just not trying...

Also, I think I'm starting to see a pattern in his sleep - he goes down from 9-11am and again for a bit after that, but between 1pm and 4pm he does not sleep. In future I should try to nap in the morning if I need to and go for a walk with the sling during the post lunch fussy period.

Congrats purple!

Oh my god kittens and wibbly I am so feeling your pain. 41 weeks today and baby is happy as larry in there. I've been crampy and all the rest of it for awhile now but twice now my midwife has had a feel up there to do a sweep and gone "nope! still closed!"

I reaaaallllllllly don't want to be induced...have the "chat" on friday and am prepared to push it as far as I can go. I think this baby is just on Cornish time and therefore super laid-back and in no rush whatsoever.

readytosettle I know right? I swear the next person who tells me to "eat a curry" is getting a kick right in the mouth-stones.

What gets me is that I'm not going around moaning about when my baby is coming (except to DH obv). They're the one's saying 'when are you due?'.....might just have to start heading them off at the first question...'I'm due when the baby is ready'

So... went and had a sweep again today (40+6). Much more successful as she could reach and have a good old rummage. Painful but not unbearably so. Anyway DH, MW and I had a chat about inducing the bairn. MW rang up the hospital and discovered that as they are super busy next week (only four beds in our wee hospital) I have to go in tomorrow night for assessment and then be induced on Friday morning.

Eeeek!

Really hoping that it won't come to the chemical induction but as SPD pain has got so much worse I'm pleased in some ways that this will be over sooner rather than later.

I'm also relieved that I'll be in hospital and won't have to make the call about when to go in. We're so far away from everywhere that it's a huge weight off my mind that I won't have to travel 20 miles along the crazy single track road stuck behind a tractor mooing like a wounded beast before giving birth in a passing place to the mild interest of the deer population.

Fingers crossed for Kitten, Ready, Wibbly and Poppetty. My punching hand has itched for all of the people with the curry, sex, bumpy track "advice".

Congratulations purple. Amazing.

Joskar PMSL at the tractor mooing like a wounded beast...could see that happening round our way too. Good luck for the next few days!

Oooh! Fraser has just taken his first expressed bottle with no bother - downed 4 oz in a sleepy state in 5 minutes! My other 2 were both such boob monsters that it was a real battle to get them to take the expressed bottle, it took weeks and weeks of perseverance. Let's hope it wasn't a one off.

It was a bit of a pain though as then had to express anyway as I started leaking everywhere. I then proceeded to pump 6oz really quickly, which makes me wonder how much he actually takes at a feed...could explain why he's suddenly looking enormous.

Fingers crossed for a peaceful/productive night all, depending on which side of the labour divide you're on

Ooh that's good kips! It was such a mare trying to get dd to take a bottle that I never even tried with ds. Here's hoping Casper might break the mould!

Can't get over how much Casper looks like dd as a baby. I keep thinking soneone's shrunk her!

Congratulations Purple, and respect for the paracetamol! Thanks also for sharing how the difference felt compared to the false labour. Very helpful.

Joskar you should seriously consider a side career as a comedian once this childbirth lark is over!

Hospital too busy for me tonight. Delayed til tomorrow night. Ooof! The anticipation might just finish me off. Didn't sleep hardly at all last night because of the excitement/nerves/fear. It's like going for a flaming job interview!

Hope all the other extra timers are coping. Fingers crossed!

I will go and catch up on the fred in a sec - littley has rather taken up all my mn time but I must ask, my milk can in last night and my boobs are ginormous! They are so sore. How long does this bloated agony last for? I feel like a fat barbie doll!

It's my due date today and since last night I've felt a bit off and sick. Had a clear out this morning and saw midwife. She did a sweep and said I was 2cm dilated and she thinks labour could start in the next 48 hrs. Think I've had a show this afternoon but not sure. It wasn't mucous, was more like brown blood like the end of a period. Is this the start of things? No obvious contractions yet apart from bh but not v painful just like period cramps. Baby is quiet. Eek bit nervous now...

That's definitely a show, Pink, I'd say things will start happening pretty soon!
And Hetty - sadly the ginormous porno-boobs could be with you for a few days, as your body gets used to the whole supply and demand concept. If they start to hurt or feel warmer than they should, then have a go at expressing because it's easy to get a bit backed up in these early days.

Ohh good luck Pink and fingers crossed for tomorrow Joksar!

I've finally managed to book in for getting a sweep tomorrow to see if there is any moving this little lady! Got my usual nightly BH and backache here.

Labour thoughts to all you overduers!

Hetty, have you tried the old wives tale of cabbage leaves on your boobs if they're very engorged and tender. All the mums I know swear by it and the midwife even recommended it at our breastfeeding guidance course! Pop it in the fridge and then a put a cooled leaf in each cup of your bra, apparently it is very soothing...

Joskar rather... Silly iPhone.

wibbly afaik not an old wives tale! somethingt to do with the enzymes in the leaves? You prick the leaves beefore butting them in the bra. ANd they feel great! Can also try nipple shells and nipple cream which also work. I use all three!

Ion had s great 24 hours with Good feeds etc. Night was pretty bad and then I got uppset cos patient lovely dh told the baby to shut up :-(

am trying not to be competitive about lack of sleep etc but I've been up 6 times for feeds since 10 pm and cuddled him from ten pm feed til 2 am as he refused to sleep in mosses basket. Dh slept through basically all of that except after 2 am I asked him to do a nappy change and put the baby down. He was if fine with this except when baby didn't go down and style he hit frustrated and grumpy and then claimed it was because he was tired. I guess it's hard because I must have lots of hormones trekking my body that an hours kip is enough and dh doesn't have that? Either way is frustrating!

I was the same last night, fl0 - DD2 has a cold, poor little thing, so she can't settle lying down at the moment & needs to bed held upright which means knacker all sleep for me! Eventually asked DH to hold her after the 5.30 feed and he huffed and puffed and then at 7am when she wanted more food from me, he was yawning and moaning about being tired.... Grrrrr! I wouldn't normally moan but it's not a nursery day today so I've got DD1 to entertain all day plus HV coming, and friends, and a trip to Mothercare to try and squeeze in too! Zzzzzzz

Sorry in advance for what will probably be a bit of a self centred essay. Feeling a bit emotional, and still a little stunned by everything that's happened. For those not on facebook, Isobel was born by EMCS 00.16 on the 17th, and she's doing really well. Very proud of her . We went in for monitoring after my waters went on the 16th in the early hours, and Isobel's heart rate was up. She wasn't dealing very well with contractions, so we were admitted and continuously monitored.

After an improvement they started me on the syntocin drip. We were still hoping for a mobile labour and vbac, and things were going well. I was managing through the pains with movement and breathing. My lovely midwife was fab, and told me I was hardcore!

Then Isobel started to struggle again, and a very calm decision was made to go for CS as it was safest for her. All prepped and ready, spinal given, Dh brought in, opened up and then things went a bit wrong.

Turns out that when my body decided to heal up after my last CS, it went a bit over the top, and knitted my uterus, bladder, and bowels together with a big old web of scar tissue. they couldn't reach enough of the uterus without removing the scarring, so 2 specialist surgical consultants got brought in to try to get it done before my spinal started to wear off. Ended up with a general anaesthetic when my abs started flinching.

I've been kept in under consultant care, and not allowed to eat to start with because of the work done to my bowels. I've been having referred pains in my shoulder and neck, which, at it's worst was making me struggle to breathe. Because of this we've switched to formula, which is sad because Isobel took to feeding like a duck to water, and latched on beautifully. I've also been told that because of the amount of scarring, I'll never be able to have a natural birth.

Lastly, DD1 has been staying with Grandma all week. She's been to visit, so has met Isobel. I'm missing her like crazy. I just want to get home and snuggle up on the sofa with her. Baby blues have kicked in, so I keep bursting into tears when I think of her.

On the plus side, I am now on the mend, and will hopefully find out today when they're looking at discharging me.

If you managed to read all of that, thank you for your patience! Sorry for the downer.

O mango you've really been through the mill over the last few days and its understandable that you'd be feeling a bit low. As a fellow c sectioner, I'd say that a vaginal birth isn't all it's cracked up to be, at least we have no damage to our bits! (No offence to non c-sectioners) ;) I really hope the doctors are able to sort out your referred pain and that you are home and on the mend very soon.