February 2014 take 2

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well new thread already ladies.... lets go

Lol! Mine are already that big - I dread to think how ginormous they are gonna end up! At least we all have lovely maternity bras to look forward to

Omg. It's so hot. Chilling outside waiting for my OH to finish. Lapping up the sun for alf hour!

I'm looking fat now. Lack of ms has done ne no favours. All outward from here. I'm super self consious!!!

8 weeks btw.

I'm laid in the garden in my bikini and lack of morning sickness has done me no favours either! I look about 20 weeks pregnant!

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I swear extra sleep is helping with my morning sickness this time round. We had a busy morning visiting family in London and by the time we got home, DS needed a nap so I put him to bed and then climbed into my bed - had a good 90 min snooze and think I can push through to bedtime now (albeit an 8.30p, bedtime!)

Champagne I feel so bad for you, my sickness was definitely worse with first pregnancy (although looking back I wonder if getting lots more rest would have eased it - I just carried on regardless with work, busy evening social commitments etc) and there is nothing so debilitating. Really hope it eases for you soon. I think in your position I would seriously consider getting the doctor to sign you off work for a couple of weeks.

Stay home Champagne - we can do daily "what's happening on Jeremy Kyle" updates lol!

DH was working today so to make up for him doing absolutely everything this last week I chucked tea in the slowcooker this morning - bacon, carrots, onion, potato, turnip, sweet potato, lentils, stock - under the vague assumption that we'd have soup.

It worked, I pureed it and I've just eaten two whole bowl fulls! Aside from the Greggs pasty on Thursday it's the only meal I've genuinely enjoyed for the last fortnight, I don't know it's because it's fairly smooth or if it's the simple flavours or what but it's gone down easily and stayed down. Happy days!

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that's such a good idea bearfrills! I'm glad you've managed to eat something . I might try and make my mums lentil soup this week - its yummy, simple and i guess a good protein source seeing as i'm off most meat at the moment!

Anyone else find that their OH's just don't 'get it?' I'm absolutely shattered, feel hormonal, can't stop crying and to top it all I have a raging bed chest :( Hence me posting at nearly 4am as I can't stop coughing. My (D)H is driving me insane! He just doesn't seem to understand it or sympathise with how rubbish I'm feeling. Just looks at me like I'm being miserable for the fun of it. He never asks how I'm feeling or even offers to take the load off. We have 2 other kids 4 and 2 and I'm finding them utterly exhausting. I've had them all week and was looking forward to a break today but no he needs to piss about in the garden so I've been stuck in all day feeling miserable with 2 bored kids. I feel too ill to just take a jaunt to the park but does he give a crap??? No of course not! He's just stomped round the house all day and barely spoken to me.

As I put before we lost a baby in April so I'm feeling particularly sensitive and anxious but he just doesn't seem bothered at all. Keeps telling me to stop looking at the negatives.

When I had my early scan last week he was away all day at an event, I text him to tell him how it went and he did text back but he really didn't seem that bothered. When he came home he was very excited to talk about the event and what happened and how great it was and never asked about the rollercoaster of emotions I'd experienced that day. When I questioned him he admitted he'd hardly thought about it all day. I'm still hurting from this comment really :(

Why do men have to be such insensitive arseholes??

Oh and those who struggled with Breastfeeding or want to Breastfeed I highly recommend getting in touch with your local Le Leche League. They were by far the best support when I was struggling with my daughter. I only managed 3 weeks with my son and was devastated but managed 14 months with my daughter after much support and visits from my local LLL lady. Everyone else (Breastfeeding support workers included) said her latch was fine when clearly my shredded nipples were saying differently! LLL lady showed me how to latch her more effectively and from then on it started to get better

Poor you Fluff, rubbish to be awake in the night when you need to look after your DC today. Hope you can get some rest and watch the tennis with your feet up. I wanted to send some positive thoughts, I'm finding that the nausea and generally feeling yuck symptoms are subsiding and I actually feel like I might fancy fresh veg and simple protein (and not just chips).

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Champagne - I really feel for you. All I can say is that in my experience at 14 weeks it got a lot better so much so that I was eating chocolate again when hadn't touched the stuff those first weeks! I really would get signed off and take some time to rest and hopefully feel a bit better.

Fluff - I sympathise. While my dh isn't that bad he has his moments. Have you tried sitting him down and telling him how you feel. I did and its been a lot better. With two dcs to look after you need the support and help - he has to play his part or you're going to end up really ill and exhausted. Tell him - otherwise tell your midwife and I bet she'll have no qualms at telling him! Hope things improve for you.

I agree fluff, lay it out for him and be honest about what you need from him. DH was a little like this when I first got pregnant with DD, I ended up having a one-sided screaming row with him (me screaming, him not) and it turned out that a lot of his issues were to do with my previous pregnancy, which I lost at 15wks, he felt like he didn't want to be pleased about the new pregnancy because it meant he had to be glad about the mc (without which there'd have been no new pregnancy) and he didn't want to get too attached or excited in case it happened again. Disconnecting and being an arsewas his way of dealing with it all.

Awwww fluff I feel for you. It's bad enough feeling rubbish without DH not being the most supportive. I definitely agree you need to talk to him about it it you will just feel worse.

Champagne, I know what you mean about work people. I spoke to my friend yesterday who knows why I'm off and she said this other woman had been trying to find out and had even asked if I was pregnant. People are just nosy alas. I just wanna be like "fuck off - why is it your business what is wrong with me!" I'm sure people are gossiping and wondering why I'm not in, but I'm just trying not to think about it and rest as much as I can. I hope your doc is sympathetic. I'm sure they will be, you're feeling dreadful and you just can't work when you are that ill. I hope you feel a bit better today. I'm gonna attempt some breakfast now and hope I don't have a repeat of yesterday's seeing it again x

And yaaaaaay I finally realised how to "flip this thread" on my phone app so I don't have to scroll down for ten mins anymore to find the bottom lol! That'll teach me not to read anything but the top thing in looking at!

Glad you're feeling a little bit better. It's good that hubby is looking after you. Try not to feel guilty, you can't help how you're feeling and I'm sure he knows how much you wish you felt better to be able to do fun things. It's rubbish isn't it - I had no idea that early pregnancy was this horrendous! One day at a time and well be at 12 weeks before we know it feeling fantastic!

He sounds so unsupportive fluff. I can understand laziness to some extent and avoiding helping if he can get away with it but to not show interest in the scan is odd behaviour. I'd try and talk it through with him to see if something is bugging him.
I am very lucky that I have a very supportive partner but even he couldn't get too excited by the first scan. I'm not sure what he was expecting but it obviously wasn't a blob on a screen. It takes a while for it to feel real for men so maybe he just needs time. Hope you manage to talk it through.

Does anyone have any idea as to what I can eat at a Thai buffet? Its a family birthday meal today (15 family members going) but only my mum and step dad know I'm pregnant. I've tried googling and it says to avoid everything including rice and meat. I think I will look very rude if I don't eat something.
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