February 2014 take 2

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well new thread already ladies.... lets go

Awww champagne sorry you are struggling so much today. It really is the most awful feeling, i really feel for you!

Have you thought of trying acupuncture? I still feel pretty rough but definitely finding it easier to cope since my sessions, and i have more energy. Also try to get as much sleep as you can - i find that seems to help. I know its hard when you feel so wretched.

When i'm having a bad day about the only things that help are sleeping, or sometimes reading in a warm bath (although sometimes this does just make me feel sick!).

Food wise i'm finding crisps are my best friend. Not good for me but they stop me from feeling as sick and don't seem to come back up.

Awww bearfrills i'm sure I would have been welling up at the video too, it sounds very cute!

Guineapigmum thanks for the advice on the book - I definitely wanna do lots of reading about it before hand so that i'm fully prepared . Have you thought of ice lollies to help with hydration? or sugar free squash? I found a few weeks ago i was soooooo thristy ALL THE TIME and could not drink enough. Apparently its because the amniotic fluid replaces itself every few hours or something, eeeek.

i've never watched OBEM however i did record the last series - haven't been brave enough to watch it yet!

I definitely find if i sleep in a bit i feel loads better. Are you still working from home? I keep my sea bands on constantly and even sleep in them. Don't know if they are helping but not willing to risk it and take em off lol!

I watched OBEM before I was pg with ds but never since. There is too much pressure on the show to have an angle on every birth - from the few episodes I have seen, I have yet to see a woman giving birth without a fuss. I'm not saying child birth is hunky dory but one of the things I took from hypnobirthing is to remove yourself from negative stories and influences. In my mind I was totally cool, calm and collected during child birth and not dangling over my bed imagining a big fat epidural and wailing

I cry EVERY time they give birth on 16 and Pregnant though on MTV

Today I remembered, on my 10th trip to the loo, that I spent the entire first and third trimester pissing. I was confused about why I kept getting up in the night for the last 2 weeks and was annoyed it was interrupting my sleep At least I know it will pass.... briefly

Just ate a huge plate of mixed lettuce and balsamic dressing. Nothin else. Absolutely amazing, best thing I've eaten in years. Odd but I am only enjoying cold, crunchy, preferably vinigary things... Thinking about opening the jar of picked beet root I've got in the fridge!

I managed to breast feed DD for two weeks. I had no idea it was going to be as hard as it was, I went to classes before she was born and did a fair bit of reading but I was still taken by surprise. She fed every hour and a half for the first week and I was like a zombie. Then my nipples started to crack and bleed, they were honestly as bad as labour every time I fed DD. it was awful. After 10 days I went to the local clinic and cried, and all I got was a patronising woman who said, "nobody said it would be easy, love" and sent me home. By day 14 I was at breaking point and sent DH to buy bottles and milk and never looked back - DD turned from a wailing banshee into a happy smiley baby overnight, or so it seemed. I fed on demand at first which settled by itself into every 4 hours, and everyone was happy. I am happy that I managed the first two weeks for the clostrum (sp?) and I am planning to try again. But I won't be beating myself up (or taking any notice of the breast is best bullies) if it doesn't work out.

As for birth plans - hospital all the way!

That's what I would hope from hypnobirthing pettyprudence - anything that would help me relax a bit would be a godsend as birth is very daunting!

Awww champagne if you're still feeling awful can you not go to your docs and see if they can sign you off? I know it sucks to be off but if you're ill, you're ill. You need to look after yourself at the moment. Big hugs, just try to believe it will pass (hopefully soon!). I know its hard, when i'm feeling really bad it's like I can't even remember feeling normal as its been weeeeeks of feeling constantly shit, but surely soon things will improve! x

Snap littlest :)

I had abnormally low amniotic fluid last time, plus DD was a missed breech (the fluid thing was missed too) with the cord around her legs and the remainder of the cord was lying coiled directly on top of my cervix. I was in early labour and it could have been very serious, as it was they did a scan and picked it all up so off to theatre went for an EMCS. This time will hopefully be a VBAC but before I make my final decision I want a scan at around 36wks to check position because I have no faith at all in someone feeling my bump - last time they told me DD was head down and fully engaged! Hopefully I'll get an understanding consultant who will do the scan to put my mind at rest.

I'm undecided on breastfeeding. DS was bottle, DD was breast then mixed then bottle. I'm just going to do whichever fits in with us all when the time comes.

I think that's totally the best approach ladies. It's crazy how many people seem to be sooo obsessed with other people breast feeding and seem to try to make anyone who doesn't feel like they are doing something terrible for their child. Ridiculous! You've got to do what's best for you and baby so that you both can be healthy and happy

With most parenting issues, including breastfeeding, I found the best strategy was to talk to experienced mums, especially those in my local NCT. They gave me much better advice than most health professionals I spoke to. The midwives in hospital were hopeless with bf, I wish I'd known to take what they said with a pinch of salt. Also useful is finding some mums who have babies just a couple of months older than yours... If its your first baby they will be an invaluable source of knowledge and you can see a couple of months ahead what 'phase' your baby might be going through

Will try the ice lolly suggestion tomorrow, by the looks of it it's going to be hot hot hot

Just saw my mummy who exclaimed "look how big your arse is getting!"! I was horrified until she told me that that's where we're storing the fat to make breast milk. So if I find bf will I have a giant ass for the rest of my life?!!! That's reason enough x

Champagne - we all do it (the questioning) but honestly, you will be fine. It will probably seem easy after this particularly hard start for you. I'm sure you'll start feeling better soon. Just focus on 1 day at a time and get as much rest as possible. Poor you feeling so sick :( I've got off very lightly again with my nausea which only strikes if I'm hungry.

There was a discussion on our local radio this week about this - saying that the patronising/judging approach is putting pressure on women that makes them think they've done something wrong if they don't breast feed until dc are on their way to infant school. But if the 'support' isn't supportive then it's no wonder many women stop. It shouldn't be down to luck of the draw whether or not you get someone who'll listen to you instead of being rude or off hand.

I'd like to bf but am a little worried it won't go well as I've always thought I've got inverted nipples. Dr google was no help when i looked for info though - too many boob sites mixed in with the useful ones

Sunflowered, definitely speak to your midwife about that as there are lots of things you can do to help breastfeeding with inverted nipples.

I have struggled with severe bloating for weeks but have woken up feeling so much better this morning. It took a lot of prunes and avoiding solid food for a while but my tummy is looking a lot better. I looked 5 months pregnant yesterday. So I'd recommend a day off carbs, eating prunes, probiotics, loads of water and lots of belly rubbing if you're also suffering. I need to avoid food for as long as possible today to help my system catch up. I do so desperately want to eat pizza with everyone else later though.
Hope everyone has a good weekend and enjoys the weather.
9+1

sunflowered I had inverted nipples too but the feeding helped to correct them. I think I remember them adjusting during pregnancy actually.

Thingymajigs I can imagine feeding would sort inverted nipples out

Awww Thingymajigs I'm 9+1 today too

Started the day puking up my brekkie (nice) but I feel a bit less horrid now and managed to nip out to have my eye brows threaded. Being swung around in the chair was NOT pleasant but i feel better now that i'm not an eyebrow beast after feeling too wretched to even look at my face for the past few weeks!

Knackered now tho so I think an afternoon of resting is in order.

Champagne - I'm sure the wine emoticon snuck itself in as a nice reminder that in 32+4 you will get to enjoy having a lovely new baby AND a well deserved celebratory glass!

aaaahhj massive E cup boobs!!!! that is all.