Hello puddeycat!
Holly, darling, you must go and talk to someone.
I spent my first PGy 9 years ago miserable. My not so darling DP was an absolute nob. We spilt up (or I booted him out) when I was 4 months PG. He moved himself back in when I was 8 months and vunerable. We worked together so I had to see him every day regardless of whether we lived together or not.
He ruined the first and last parts of my Pgy, and most of the middle bit as well, and those precious first weeks with my DD.
My advice would be to concentrate on you and your bean. Put all your energy into being happy about being pg and enjoying it and trying to bond with your baby now. I was in denial all the way through PGy, didn't buy a thing until about 2 weeks before I had her and then only because a good friend came and dragged me to mothercare lol.
Your relationship with your DP will be tested, both now and when the baby comes. If you don't think it will stand the test then take a temporary break now. If its just little things he is doing then pull him on them. Tell him you are finding his behaviour unacceptable and he has to change. I think the problem with some menfolk is that once we are up the duff, they lower their standards as they think we are stuck with them.
If you had stopped TTC before then just because you are PG it doesn't mean that it is right for either you or him or the bump to limp on in a relationship that won't work. I promise you being a single pg woman is easier than being a pg woman in a shitty relationship. And being a single parent is hard. But easier than coping with someone who you don't want to be with.
And with regards to that cow you work with tell her next time she comments that for a doctor (she is a dr isn't she?) she is incredibly rude and unprofessional. Remind her that you are equal partners in the firm and that you do not have to listen to her shite day in day out, thank you very much. And that her bedside manner leaves a great deal to be desired.
And then have a cream bun.
But find someone to talk to. You may have antenatal depression, but it may just be the pressure of everything else in your life, combined with being PG that is mounting up.
If your fellar is worth anything he will change. And if he isn't or won't then he's not worth spoiling your pgy for. Dump the fecker and move on. It will feel like the end of the world but for me, looking back now I wish so much I had done it and stuck to it from the beginning.
9 years on and he is still a fecking wanker lol. So I know it wasn't just me being hormonal but although I wasted a bit of time with him, I enjoyed by DD much more when he had gone (or when I had gone should I say) and my only regret is not doing it sooner.
I'm not saying your DP is a fecking wanker btw, just saying that you need to decide if your relationship will last through the pgy and over the first months. And if you think not then change something now. xxxxx