December 2013 - part 3

[Holly1977]

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/antenatal_clubs/1740732-December-2013-part-2

Starting yet another thread as us chatterboxes have filled up 2 already!

Jucy, I'm so sorry to hear your news. Big hugs, wish there was something more I could say.

Frouby, if you're feeling crap just fuck the housework off, I do! It'll keep.

I'm scared and excited in equal measures about the scan on Friday. Looking forward to seeing bean and being able to get on with things. But obviously scared of getting bad news like Jucy... 2 days, 1 hour and 50 minutes to go!

My friend has offered to be a birthing partner too. I may well take her up on it, I suspect she'll be more help than OH. And as I'm planning on having a home water birth and OH has already invited his bloody mum (!) think it'll be good to have a friend there. I'm not private at all, have zero issues with people seeing me naked (as my neighbours will tell you) and she's seen me throw up enough times from our party days (though never shit myself to be fair) that I'm not too fussed about that.

So pleased you're feeling better Holly, I bet the meditation really helps. I mean to practice every day but months go by and nothing... Must try and sit for at lest 5 mins today and take it from there...
I did hypnobirthing when I was pregnant with DD and found it really helped. I'd definitely recommend it. Helped me stay relaxed and 'in the zone' throughout, and I was even smiling towards the end!
I teach yoga so am still doing a fairly regular practice, but if I go to classes now I think I'll stick to pregnancy ones. I think the key is to view them as good birth prep, helping you stay as comfortable as possible during pregnancy, but not really excercise as such. I'd do swimming/aqua natal for that.
Gah, that move sounds super stressful, hope you get to enjoy the place a bit more today (despite all the unpacking and work left to do...)
And really pleased you finally got to see your consultant feather, thank goodness things are back on track. Hope things go smoothly for you from now on, sounds like you have out up with a lot so far.
I'm another one suffering with the heat, was ok up to this morning, when I came over all faint on the bus.
Also, I'm having pain in my coccyx, hope it's not the beginning of pelvic problems... Anyone else had this?

Gosh, lots to catch up on!

I'm glad appointments are going well- nice to hear that your experience is getting better feather! And glad you finally had yours mum!

Violet, your move sounds really stressful. At least it's all done now - the only way is up!

I am struggling a bit this week. After my scare last week I have felt a bit strange. I don't feel pregnant anymore and I'm stressing about it. I've got 2 weeks until my 20 week scan which seems so long away.

Work is crap too. We have been moving classrooms and people (not my department) gave me grief about not moving my stuff yesterday. I haven't for 3 reasons- I have nowhere to put anything because I don't have a classroom to put it in, I was teaching all day (unlike others) and I'm pregnant. Although nothing would probably happen if I lifted some boxes, I'm not willing to risk it.

So yes, I don't have a room next year. As I'm leaving at October half term, (so will still be there for 8 weeks) they have decided that it will be best for me to carry books around the school. I have counted and I will be in 9 different rooms, all over the school.

My head of dept is trying to sort it, but my line manager (who I'd normally go to with problems) is in charge of the timetable, so has put me in all these different places.

I don't really know what to do or who to go to about it. I don't think I will be able to do it. Others (women who have been pregnant) are saying its completely ridiculous and it is crazy they have even suggested it.

It's all just shit.

Just trying to catch up!

Thanks for the stats thread Dasie

Feather really glad you had a good appointment, hopefully it will stay that way for you now & you're now feeling more reassured.

Really sorry to hear that gannet, do you think your line manager has even realised how ridiculous it is to have you here there and everywhere for those 8 weeks or have just not thought at all and slotted you in? Hopefully your head of department is able to sort something out for you. Don't do any lifting or anything at all that you think may do any harm, better to be over careful especially if you're worried.

Baby Shrub is wriggling all over the place today, feels so weird but so amazing, usually only feel something very occassionaly but today it's as though they're having a party in there!

Gannet sorry to hear your crap work situation and worries about your pregnancy. Two weeks may seem like an eternity till the scan but if you keep yourself busy then it'll be here in no time and hopefully will reassure you.

I've had a wobble this evening- had my 16 wk appointment this morning as I mentioned earlier and mw said she couldn't see my blood results on the screen- they still hadn't been sent over from the hospital since my 13 wk scan 4 weeks ago! She had to call them while I was there, but it was too early and no-one was answering so she said she'd call me with the results later. She left a voicemail after 6pm but it was completely garbled- due to a bad signal all I could hear was 'results are a little low....should be nothing to worry about...blah blah etc. I left a message asking her to call me back asap- what was I not supposed to worry about??? I was so anxious thinking it was something bad. Anyway she called me back and said my platelet count is low - 129. It should be above 150 but its nothing to be concerned about unless it drops below 100. So I have to have another blood test tomorrow to see if it's gone up or down. I asked her what would happen if it was below 100 she said that it's to do with blood clotting (which I kind of knew about) and they need to monitor it etc.

I am now a bit of an emotional wreck. DH was very rational and said it's normal now and nothing to worry about so I shouldn't worry! Easier said than done. My dad died at 69 of an AAA (Abdominal Aortic Anneyrism) he had an emergency op to fix it but due to a blood clotting disorder they couldn't control the bleeding and he didn't make it. I think that's why I'm so scared of it getting worse. What if it affected the birth?

I'm trying to block out all the irrational horrible thoughts going through my head but it's hard. Anyone else had low platelets during previous pregnancies?

I just wish everything was just 'normal' but I'm sure I'd still find something to worry about! On a positive note, have felt lots of prods and pokes from sweet potato today (sweet potato was used to describe the size of my baby on my What to Expect App and I thought it was cute!)

I'm not sure mrsshrubs. She is a bit of a strange one. Sometimes she can be really strange/moody and the next day she's trying to send me home because I look tired and she thinks I should rest! It's very weird. It turns out that the people above her are not happy with the whole timetable for English and have advised the head of dept to redo it and give me a very light timetable so I can do intervention stuff. So hopefully it will be sorted soon!

I don't have any advice for you mum. It must be awful to have thoughts of your dad in the back of your mind having had these results. However, try not to stress until you have the next set of results back. As you said, it will more than likely be fine. And if its not quite as if should be, they know early so they will look after you!

It's lovely that you have felt baby move. I'm 18+3 now and have felt diddly squat. Has anyone at 18 weeks felt much? Should I worry? (more than I already am!)

Hey all,
Thanks for the good wishes.
Today has gone well, had a heart to heart with DM to clear the air and have sorted a big pile of boxes into the newly-cleaned kitchen cupboards, with help from DH's gran and auntie and my DM. Exhausted from the heat and have been scoffing cornettos and magnums from the freezer all day! Haven't weighed myself for a while but I've probably put at least a stone on in weight so far.

Gannet, hope school sorts out your timetable, sounds awful! BTW, I'm 18+1 and haven't felt a thing yet. Hopefully things are still ok in there! Hand-holding to all those with worries.

Feather, so glad to hear consultant appt went well! Go you!

That sounds terrible Ganet :(

Got my 20 week scan tomorrow at ten to two, and have to leave at twenty past twelve to get there so probably won't post before it but I'm absolutely bricking it right now. So much so that I'm absolutely wide awake and I doubt I'll get much sleep tonight.

Hope it goes well today futterby, will be thinking of you at lunchtime

Morning all!
I have so much to catch up on... it's been a rough few days.
I had food poisoning last week, which got me quite dehydrated, but thankfully it only lasted about a day so I didn't go to A&E. Then yesterday I was really tense so went to have a 30 minute massage and fainted in the poor girl's chair. I totally traumatised her, it was drama drama drama.

With all this I'm really worried that the little one is ok. I am 17 + 4 and I have gained.... 3 lbs total. I feel like I eat for more than 2, but I don't know where it's all going!! I don't care about my weight as long as I know that the baby is getting what it needs, but it's getting a bit worrisome. People at work are starting to wonder if I'm really pregnant which is embarrassing. The MW was completely useless at reassuring me, the 16 wk appointment was SUCH a waste of my time. I'm off for two weeks on Friday to go back to Canada, and I'm really hoping that I will start to show when I come back. Still 3 weeks to wait for the scan arg!!

Anyways, sorry for the rant. all this combined with planning the move to Los Angeles has been really stressful. but I'm trying to stay calm for baby's sake.
Oh before I forget, I dont know where to put this but here it is:

Roselau DC1, EDD 21/12/13

oh and violet, I'm not feeling a thing either! Yesterday I lied down for 20 minutes really focusing on trying to feel something, putting my hands on my belly. I think my imagination made me feel something, but I tried again this morning and nada.

hugs to everyone who's having a rough time.

Gannet, go to Occupational Health, you may be able to self refer. That is clearly a ridiculous solution to the problem. I'm gobsmacked at how crap all the public sector employers seem to be at dealing with pg ladies, they really should know better. Can you afford to pay for a private scan to put your mind at rest? 2 weeks is an eternity in pg land when you're worried about something.

Mum, I don't know anything about low platelets in pg but I'll ask my colleague now if he gets a spare second. It does sound like they're on top of it with you though.

Sorry to hear about your dramas Roselau. Hope you're feeling better now. Think I had food poisoning yesterday. Had my usual Tuesday sandwich from Boots and had spectacular diarrhoea last night (sorry, way tmi!). Don't feel ill or anything and haven't vomited. But I think bean has moved again and is squashing my urethra or bladder or something because I just couldn't empty my bladder last night, no matter what positions I tried, how much or little I pushed etc etc. So frustrating, I ended up going to bed early just to be nearer the toilet. Had to get up every hour in the night and naturally couldn't get back to sleep in the end so have pretty much been awake since 3am. NOT a happy bunny today! Anyway, diarrhoea has settled down now so just have a 30 degree office to cope with and no brain due to not having slept.

Yogafan, meditating regularly is much more important than doing it for long periods. So 5 or 10 minutes every day is better than doing an hour once in a while. It's not easy to discipline yourself and make time for it but it's definitely worth while. i'm hoping that that combined with 10 years of yoga and the breath control that goes with it AND the hypnobirthing thing will make the birth a positive and not traumatic experience. I've got a link to a video of a woman giving birth totally naturally outside if anyone's interested. It's pretty amazing.

It is a shame about yoga but ashthanga just isn't right for pg ladies if you ask me, especially in this heat. I read a long article yesterday about how to modify the practice, which asanas to avoid and how to modify the other ones. But in this heat and with my teacher being so obsessed with keeping the room hot and making you sweat, I don't think it's safe to do for me. So I'm going to try and make some time to do self practice, at least then I can take my time, do the asanas I want, not have to repeat stuff or keep doing the same old thing when they're doing stuff I can't. I was thinking about finding a hatha or iyengar class but I've always found them boring in the past and don't imagine it'd be any different now. Think I'm better off just doing self practice, swimming, going for walks and cycling when I can.

Oh and I haven't felt a thing either, YET!

Gannet you must have the same EDD as me - 14/12/13? I'm 18+4 today, yesterday I felt a lot of movement all day but today I've only felt it once. My OH's cousin is a MW and she says my bump looks a lot bigger than what I am (apparently she thinks I look as big as some do at 24 weeks lol) so she thinks we're having a big baby so maybe that's why I can already feel baby shrubs moving? Fingers crossed for you they do sort something out. I'm quite lucky, I do admin and secretarial work at an employment law firm so they are all being extra nice to me and basically wrapping me up in cotton wool seen as they've got to set the example on how to treat your staff!

Lots of luck to you today futterby

violet I think I'm going to have to stock up my freezer with treats now too!

mum I really hope everything is okay, now that they're aware they can keep you monitored and everything in check. Hopefully your next blood test will show a higher count ( and they'll get the bloods processed quicker than this time round ). I've just read that pregnancy itself can be a cause for a lower than normal platelet count and that ensuring you have vit B12 in your diet (either supplement or through foods) can help increase your platelet level?

...I remember the days when I was pretty (tonnes of makeup), slim and young--I could say anything and somehow people would do whatever I wanted.

Sadly this little trick doesn't seem to work now that I'm pregnant, older and obsessed with wearing my maternity nighty to work (I work from home). Our ceiling is still a disaster and I'm having a massive dinner party on Saturday.

There was a family feud (dh's side of the family) last year (I thought the whole thing was silly and would have been fixed by now) but turns out it hasn't and a whole bunch of people who hate each other are scheduled to be in my house on Saturday. I should be worried about what to feed them; but I'm more concerned abut my brown liquidy ceiling and the putrid odour in the sitting room. 

Also, I tried the whole hair flipping, trying to be sexy thing to get the house fixed sooner--I got a 'you aw-right luv?'

Hi folks,
Sorry to jump in here - haven't really posted much before. Was just looking for some advice from ladies at the same stage as me - I'm 19+3 today. Has anyone else not really felt any movement yet? I am beginning to worry that I haven't felt anything (1st baby, not really sure what the movements will feel like at this stage?) and am looking for some advice/ reassurance. Have had lots of stories from friends/ family about feeling baby move at 17 weeks etc - aargh!

I was starting to get a little worried as have only felt slight movement very irregularly and hadn't for a couple of days, but the consultant did a quick 'hello' with the scanner yesterday and baby was waving, stretching and kicking, I just couldn't feel it! I'm 19+6 today.

Queen, your whole ceiling debacle sounds like a perfect excuse to cancel the feuding family for Saturday. Lol about the hair flipping.

I'm 17 + 3 and haven't felt so much as a twinge. I'm not worried and don't think you guys should be either. There's huge variation in when people feel their beans moving for the first time apparently.

There's no-one else in the office this afternoon so I've taken my bra off (my tits look awful!) and tried to have a wee lie down on one of the consulting couches but it's just too hot. So I'm sitting with both feet in a washing up bowl full of cold water. It's bloody marvellous, highly recommend it! Need to crack on and get finished so I can bugger off home and lie on the sofa naked (my favourite pastime recently) but can't find the energy.

Just posting quickly to say everything went well and we're having a boy! Thanks to everyone who wished us luck :) I'll catch up when I get home :)

Congrats Futterby!

Wow so much to catch up on! Will add my stats to the separate thread, especially since we found out we're having a boy too :) I'm going to have a son, how marvellous!!
Sorry to everyone having a rough time atm, especially combined with the heat etc, it's a bumpy (cough) ride!
Probably telling new boss today that I'm pg. Having my one-week review and it's getting ridiculously obvious. Hoping she doesn't sack me on the spot (since I don't get contract till after 12w of employment) but hopefully worst case scenario is that she won't offer me one in 12w time which'll mean stopping work a month earlier than planned. But shall see... Will catch up properly later just wanted to check in :)

21 weeks tomorrow and I've put on 12lbs since booking in appointment. I was going to ask about everyone's weight gain, as I'm feeling pretty big, my arse is growing by the day, I'm pear shaped so it always goes on my bum/hips. I never weighed myself during my last 2 pregnancies until after I'd had the babies and put on insane amounts of weight both times. So, hopefully I seem 'on track'. Was hoping about 2 stone gain ish, as I know quite a bit of that will go post-birth and BF.

But I'm sure my starting weight with both previous pregnancies was about the weight I am now so fingers crossed (think I was actually more with my 1st pregnancy).

Think I might just avoid the scales

Just avoid the scales 2labs!

Nothing much to report here except I am too fecking hot. Had cankles last night as well which is attractive and I hardly slept a wink. DP is a bed hog and likes to 'cuddle'. I really want to not be cuddled just now lol.

Ice pops are my friend. And we're tipped for this for at least another 10 days, then it might, just might, break a little. Can't wait for school holidays to start. At least then I might be able to get some bedspace and actually sleep a bit when DP gone to work. DD likes her lie ins (would be in bed until 10am every day if she could) so should be able to snooze a bit.

I'm still not feeling any regular movements. Am getting the odd prod every now and again but nothing regular. Be glad when it starts. Nothing more reassuring than a dancing baby. Am 18 weeks on friday.

Its going pretty quickly isn't it!

Worst case scenario has happened. I've lost my job. Don't know why I've come straight on here but OH at work and I'm 100 miles away from my mum. Just when everything was going perfectly. I literally can't move for sobbing.

Hi guys!

Everyone has double confirmed for Saturday (just as I was about to send out a mass text saying I had to cancel). This party is most definitely going to happen...

The good thing is, none of the drama involves any of me-so I could just sit down with a good bag of popcorn. I'll be busy making sure everyone has a plate and that the food isn't cold. My motives for this dinner party are pretty simple: To foster a lifelong relationship between my son and his cousinsso he'll have someone to talk to at family weddings. :)

Thanks Holly!

Omg abc!! How can they do that?! Can you contact HO? Sending you massive hugs