December 2013 - part 3

[Holly1977]

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/antenatal_clubs/1740732-December-2013-part-2

Starting yet another thread as us chatterboxes have filled up 2 already!

Jucy, I'm so sorry to hear your news. Big hugs, wish there was something more I could say.

Frouby, if you're feeling crap just fuck the housework off, I do! It'll keep.

I'm scared and excited in equal measures about the scan on Friday. Looking forward to seeing bean and being able to get on with things. But obviously scared of getting bad news like Jucy... 2 days, 1 hour and 50 minutes to go!

My friend has offered to be a birthing partner too. I may well take her up on it, I suspect she'll be more help than OH. And as I'm planning on having a home water birth and OH has already invited his bloody mum (!) think it'll be good to have a friend there. I'm not private at all, have zero issues with people seeing me naked (as my neighbours will tell you) and she's seen me throw up enough times from our party days (though never shit myself to be fair) that I'm not too fussed about that.

futterby That is insane! Blimey we all have enough on our plates with pregnancy without everyone else making snidey little comments all the time and trying to bring us down. You would think we were all knocking back 2 bottles of vodka a night and chain smoking 50 a day the way some people regard you for eating a bar of chocolate or a slice of pizza.

Hope everyone who is living in the UK enjoyed the sunshine this weekend! We made a start on clearing out what was our office and will become the nursery - so exciting!

Is anyone else still gagging or heaving all the time?? Poor guy on the train on the way into London today was petrified I was going to throw up but I'm not, it's just the heaving

I've been struggling loads this weekend with back and hip pain and aching muscles. Went to (proper) yoga on Saturday morning which caused it all I think but even when I've not been for a while, I NEVER ache this much. No idea what's going on other than that it must be pg related I suppose. Determined not to give up on exercise just yet though, only 15 weeks! Am going for physio appointment this afternoon so I'll let you know if they tell me anything useful or helpful. Was utterly exhausted all weekend too. Slept for 10 hours Saturday night and still had another power nap yesterday aft!

I finally found a NHS dentist who takes new patients, I won't be going back to my old dentist after my free care expires. Not that he'll even notice I'm sure!

I realised on the way in to work this morning that I dread coming here now. I'm dreading the next bitchy comment from my horrible colleague and rehearsing how to defend myself against her next attack. And the other realisation I've had is how utterly indifferent she's being to the fact that I'm having a baby. We had a different doctor in on Friday who I haven't known as long and don't work with as often but the difference between how she is with me and how bitch colleague is really hit home. She's so giddy and excited and nice; always asks how I'm feeling, about symptoms etc then tells me about how it is was for her, we compare notes etc. It's just nice, kind of affirming and supportive to talk to someone who's been there. I can ask questions and stuff, she reminisces, it's nice.

I don't know, maybe I'm being unreasonable but I just think it would be nice if my colleague (business partner actually and friend when it suits her) could at least pretend to give a shit and be happy about me having a baby. But she doesn't. She doesn't ask how I am, doesn't ask about it at all. And when I'm talking to other colleagues and people in the office about it she just rolls her eyes and says things like "oh gawd, we've got another 6 months of this haven't we". I get that not everyone is baby mad but honestly if she could at least give the hostile comments like that a rest that would be good. Must be pg hormones, normally this kind of stuff doesn't bother me at all but for some reason she's really getting to me. If I worked for a proper company I'd complain to the boss. But I am the boss so there doesn't seem to be much I can do really. I think she's jealous. Maybe that's why she sent an email over the weekend entitled "My baby" with a picture of her new car attached?!! Urgh, I don't know, don't know what to do about her really. Just needed to vent, again! Sorry, it's all I seem to do on here these days!

holly
she sounds horrible and if she is causing this much stress just replace her with the other doctor from Friday. A hostile work environment is unacceptable everywhere.

The sad/harsh thing I've learned through these two pregnancies and even marriage is that sometimes there are people who are child-free/family free through no choice of their own. It can be quite a traumatic deal watching everyone around you be happy with what they are given; I used to have a lovely aunt who was just magical, she was the most beautiful sister out of 8 (my mother is sister no.2 out of 8) each one of her sisters had children and every year she became more and more sad, bitter and angry. Her husband had a child from a previous marriage so it was considered 'her fault'.

Now, although she finally did have a set of twins she is one of the most evil people I know. Anger, bitterness and cynicism is all that she is. She revels in creating drama between all her sisters and their children. I really hope it wasn't just the fact that she had soo much difficulty that has turned her this way, but I keep too far a distance to figure out whats caused this much damage to her life.

Whatever it is, she's made a series of decisions that affect the way I view her, and I'm not important so hopefully it won't reflect on her for the rest of her life, but my son could have known a lovely lady. He won't.

She is, absolutely vile. But she has got a child, that's what I don't get. She's got a lovely grown up daughter who's also a doctor now. She's doing really well and they're quite close. So wtf is her problem? Maybe she's just not capable of being happy for other people? I don't know. Counting down the days until I go off now already. I can't replace her with the other doctors, I wish I could. Lots of boring logistical reasons why not which I won't bore you with. I suppose all I can do for now is minimise my contact with her and try and get my head in a better place about her. I can't change her, all I can change is how I react to her ghastliness. She's a lot like my mum, which is probably why she pushes my buttons so successfully. I'd like to say something to her but know I would end up crying and really don't want to give her that satisfaction.

Okay, here goes. Sorry for the long post!

Feather massive congrats :)

Hope you have an amazing holiday weechops!

Alyssa, I totally feel for you. Woke up this morning with dreadful tonsillitis, and now I'm panicking that it's strep throat. Aah, pregnancy worries :)

You're totally right pistachio, everyone always has a bloody opinion. MIL pretty much told me yesterday that I must be a terrible person for wanting to find out the sex because it shouldn't matter and I'm going to be a terrible mum for not loving my child either way. No idea how she came to that conclusion; I'm totally 100% happy with a boy or a girl and incredibly excited, but my main priority is a health baby. Didn't really know how to respond to her.

music, I feel your pain. Get a physio referral, it really helped me when my MW diagnosed me with sciatica early on. Hope you feel better

Queen, I know it's difficult but try not to worry - high risk doesn't mean 100% risk. You still might not develop it :)

Frouby, congrats about the pony show!! Your DD will be really proud showing them all off

MrsShrubs, seems we missed the sun in the West of Scotland! grumble grumble, glad you enjoyed it though! :)

No advice about that awful work colleague holly but have a and a and try to relax

I've got my 20 week scan on the 17th, two weeks on Wednesday!! Oh my god so excited, panicking slightly but trying not to worry too much. Best of luck to everyone with scans coming up soon, if I don't post before then :)

Hello all!
well it's monday again. ugh. hope everyone enjoyed the sunshine last weekend
i went preggo shopping and fyi found some great sales at pretty pregnant in angel. 15 wks + 2 days today and i've definitely popped out! it's kind of fun starting to show. i know it will not be as fun at 8 months, but enjoying it for now :-) any thoughts on what to expect from the 16 weeks MW appointment? I have it in 10 days.

hay fever hit me hard this weekend, but giving me a bit of a break today.

so jealous of all of you getting your scans so soon! i'm actually a bit worried because mine is scheduled for aug 9th, and i will be one day shy of 21 weeks. shouldn't the scan be done between 18 -20 weeks. why did they schedule mine so late? will they not be able to get all the measurements because it's too late?
still sooooo long to wait! the good thing is we're on holidays the two weeks prior so that will be the only positive to look forward to coming back home after holidays :)

holly and futterby so sorry you have to deal with such horrible people in your lives. given how emotional i am right now, i would probably punch them in the face and blame it on hormones... ok probably not, but would dream about it :)

oh and Happy Canada Day!

I've been in the UK for 3 years and miss it sometimes :-) any other Canadians by any chance?

holly

well, if all else fails just remember you're younger? OH maybe it's the menopause? My mil and mother were both terribly evil when they hit it; and they both decided to menopause at the same time.

Holly your colleague sounds so horrible. I know it's easy for me to say, but try and let all her comments go over your head. It really does sound like jealousy, why are some people so cruel? Glad you found an NHS dentist though, me & the kids have a check-up this week.

Can't flick back a page once I've started a message, but I know someone asked about my scan next week. It's 1 week today, and it's my 20 week scan, although I will be 19+4 weeks. I'm still feeling so nervous, just want little one to be healthy, I'm not actually that fussed about whether they can tell the sex, although DH & kids are dying to know. So, maybe this time next week we will know if it's a pink or blue baby.

Got my appointment with the consultant the following day, still not sure why I'm seeing him, hopefully he will shed some light. I think it's due to the amount of blood I lost having my DD. I know they weigh you at consultant appointment though and I'm not looking forward to that, just had about 5 nice biscuits again after tea, need to stop it

Roselau, at mine she asked if everything was ok, checked urine sample and had a listen to the heartbeat. It was only a quick one but I forgot my list of questions lol so could've been a lot longer. My 12w scan was at 14w and she managed to do measurements etc so a week over your 20w shouldn't matter.
My 20w is on 16th (2 weeks on Weds), naturally nervous about everything being ok but excited to see Archibald/ina jumping around on screen :) Think I've felt some tiny kicks too, they're in the right part of my abdomen so I've decided that they are
Thanks for mentioning the Mothercare sale feather, got some matching sleepsuits & bodysuits for half price (then had to drag myself out), and some ridiculously comfy elasticated trousers from Adsa.
Hope everyone's work problems get sorted out soon, just think of leaving work behind at the end of the day, putting your feet up and having a nice bath. Or thinking of the little life bouncing around inside always helps :)

Ooh lots of scans coming up in the not too distant future

Mines on the 15th when I'll be 20+5, I had a bit of a stress as I got told this morning that its a bank holiday here but apparently the local holidays don't mean that everything shuts down. One day I'll get used to the holidays up here in Scotland!

Got asked by the first time today if I was pregnant, I must have got past the stage of just looking fat!

I popped onto the mother care website today too, thank you feather for mentioning it :)

Felt him move today for the first time too :)

Hope you feeling better soon futterby
My nose is just a little stuffed today but I'm tons better.

So exciting everyone's scans coming up, I can't wait to hear what you are all having as me and DF are not finding out.

music I hope you are better soon, sciatica is the worst.
Is everyone finding out babies sex?
Xx

We'll hopefully find out if DS has a baby brother or sister (and that he or she is anomaly-free of course, that being the whole point of the scan!) on 18th July, I'll be 20/40 exactly! I can't wait! Really hope they can tell us as we're going away the next day to stay with FIL, it's the first anniversary of MIL's death while we're with him and it would be lovely to have some news for him.

Woohoo Taking- that must be great! I'm still not convinced my "movements" are real.. Think it's wishful thinking!!

Started an antenatal Pilates class tonight- was great. Never done it before- was harder work than I expected but was a lovely group. Roll definitely try and get there every week now.

Ooh looking forward to hearing about all the 20 week scans!

I cracked and booked a gender scan for July 20th. We're taking DP's Mum along since my Mum got to come to the NT scan. Now that we've actually made the decision to find out I'm super excited!

Exciting news about the scans coming up!

I think I'm getting a UTI though I'm back to peeing every 5 minutes, nasty stinging sensation and stomach ache.

cc we've got a 4D scan booked for the 3rd of August (I'm far too impatient to meet my lo!), is that what you're doing? :)

Pregnancy insomnia is really hitting me hard. I would be so grateful for one night of proper sleep.

Pregnancy insomnia is pants isn't it Futterby. I don't think I have slept through since a week before my BFP.

I find if I get up and have a wee, have a couple of sips of water and just try not to think about it I eventually drift back off. Laying there trying to force yourself to sleep doesn't work hun, and you just end up awake for longer. I also refuse to look at the time as I just think about how many hours I have left before I have to get up.

And if I really can't get to sleep I have a look on here, have a look on FB and my pony forum then play Candy crush for 10 mins lol. Seems to do the trick!

So sorry to hear that people are still having a shit time with arseholes especially people that you can't avoid like work colleagues and family. Next time they say something awful or stupid or thoughtless to you all, call them on it. Ask them to clarify what they mean and where they get their facts from,ask for references so you can research it. And when they can't give you that just raise your eyebrows, tut, and say 'weeeellll, moving on then.....'

Weljel of all of you with your 20 week scans soon. Mines not until begining of august so seems ages away yet. I'm finding out what colour too, can't wait lol. Got my 16 week MW appt next week though so will hopefully be able to hear babies heartbeat.

I have a new and very annoying symptom. Bloody Restless Legs. Anyone here had it? Its so bloody irratating. Everytime I get in bed and relax I feel that horrible almost like an itchy, stretchy, crampy, twitchy feeling. Have had a google and iron definciency can cause it so back on the pregnacare, which will make my constipation flare up again. So back to guzzling orange juice which gives me heartburn. Tis a balancing act pmsl.

Morning all

DS, repeat after me - 4am is NOT a reasonable time to want to be up and playing! And when I give up an hour later and bring you into mammy and daddy's bed, snuggling into my pillow and going to sleep before I can get my own head on it is also unreasonable no matter how adorable you look!

Morning all,
I'm so tired this morning but a bus driver just made my day by re-opening the doors for me as I rushed down the road waving my arms about like a loon. Usually they just drive off when I'm that far away and I have to wait 20 min for the next one!
Hope work goes well for you today, those who have it, with no bitchy colleague comments!

Lady I'm a cloth user. They're great as long as you into the swing of it early! I'm also not averse to using disposables as and when needed...

Bugger. MNing session is being curtailed. Will catch up soon.

futterby no, we're just having a quick, cheapy ten minute one that finds out the sex, gives you some photos and that's pretty much it.

I've been tired and grumpy too this morning violet, just woke up from a two hour nap! Don't know where the rest of you are, but the weather in Scotland's been rubbish today! (Quelle surprise, right?) On top of that , we had a guy out to look at the mysterious buzzing in our garden shed today and a HUGE swarm of wasps flew out. Apparently they also like to stay inside when it's colder!

Send me some positive energy vibes please ladies....heading out shortly for the first of four night shifts

We have probably decided to keep the flavour of our baby as a suprise for its birthday

Have a lovely recharging evening everyone!