December 2013 - part 3

[Holly1977]

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/antenatal_clubs/1740732-December-2013-part-2

Starting yet another thread as us chatterboxes have filled up 2 already!

Jucy, I'm so sorry to hear your news. Big hugs, wish there was something more I could say.

Frouby, if you're feeling crap just fuck the housework off, I do! It'll keep.

I'm scared and excited in equal measures about the scan on Friday. Looking forward to seeing bean and being able to get on with things. But obviously scared of getting bad news like Jucy... 2 days, 1 hour and 50 minutes to go!

My friend has offered to be a birthing partner too. I may well take her up on it, I suspect she'll be more help than OH. And as I'm planning on having a home water birth and OH has already invited his bloody mum (!) think it'll be good to have a friend there. I'm not private at all, have zero issues with people seeing me naked (as my neighbours will tell you) and she's seen me throw up enough times from our party days (though never shit myself to be fair) that I'm not too fussed about that.

Nom, it's very girly yes, but I've decided to go for it anyway and deal with it later if its not needed. I've absolutely no instinct at all of the sex of the baby though.

No movements yet here, although I can feel blood flow pumping in my stomach when lying still, which isn't completely pleasant.

I've had some horrid dreams so far, including being strangled by a stranger who broke into my house. Really vivid and difficult to fall asleep afterwards

Just trying to finish the cleaning of the flat we just moved out of. If only I wasn't too scared to ring a cleaning company to pay someone else to do it. The hardest thing is we rented it furnished, so there's a lot of stuff to clean around, rather than cleaning an empty place. Just kitchen and bathroom to go (once I get the quilt cover on)

I dreamt last night that I was cooking in the kitchen at work naked and noone minded then I got upset with my manager as she put me on shifts that I couldn't do due to me being on holiday or not finding a babysitter. Then I got really upset cos I couldn't find my uniform :-s very strange
Hormones are an odd one

Morning everyone.
Sorry I haven't been on to say hello for ages. My aunt died suddenly last week so I've been a bit preoccupied with that (naturally).

queen and 2labs glad you're both staying here in the Dec thread. My c-section will be end Nov although my EDD is Dec so I'm sticking to this thread too.

The whole way through the pregnancy I've thought I was having a girl and despite the wiggler not behaving for the 16 wk scan on Sat, my consultant was able to get a quick look and confirmed it... I'm having a girl
Hoorah!!

I think I'm ill been throwing up like a trouper, doesn't feel like morning sickness though. Had to get the OH to pull the car over on our way back from shopping so I could throw up. Not sure whether its worth going the drs or just waiting it out.

On the plus side bought some maternity jeans and leggings from H&M yesterday and they're so comfy!!

Queen, 2-4 times a DAY?! Seriously?! How on earth do you find the time or energy? Even at our peak OH and I rarely did it more than 2-4 times a week! We've only had sex like 3 or 4 times since I got the bfp. At times I'm so horny I could just die. At others I really cba. I think it's the same for him and sadly it's rare that our horny moments are coinciding! It's ok though. Though I do have my odd paranoid moments where I think it's cos he doesn't fancy me any more, though he's always saying how he thinks pg women are sexy and he can't wait until I get bigger. Though he may change his mind when I'm no longer able to keep my lady garden nice and trim!

(belated TMI alert!)

Bitch colleague just overtly stared at my belly for ages this morning, god she annoys me. Though she told me last week that she's been feeling really low and down about herself. Felt like saying "yeah I thought so, is that why you've been such a BITCH recently?" !!!

Feeling more relaxed now I've seen bump again. Kind of wish the sonographer had been able to say definitely what flavour it was or we hadn't asked cos not I'm thinking it probably is a girl but I know it might not be so can't get too excited yet. Of course I'll be happy either way but must confess that I'd prefer a girl first. Just cos the clothes are so much cuter and I have all these silly fantasies about doing girly things together, plaiting hair etc etc. And if we have boys, it'll football football football all the way! But apart from a really tiny bit this morning, there's been no blood since Saturday so think it's easing off now. Maybe OH and I just need to be a bit gentler on the rare occasions we do manage to dtd!

Sorry to hear that MrsShrubs, hope you feel better soon.

holly
we were on lots of red bull those years, I was finishing another masters and he had just joined a hedge fundalso we were newly weds and we thought we'd stay virgins till we got married. (we met at 18 and married at 22in hindsight I really could have used the extra experiences). I only wanted to stay a virgin because I really needed to do well at Uni or else I'd lose funding for my degree...and in my family university educations are a must, and if you can't do it on your own then you don't go and everyone treats you pretty badly.

I really need therapy.

I hate bitchy people. I don't understand what anyone gains from being mean/rude/passive aggressive/condescending. I went to a play group yesterday morning and tried to speak to a pair of mothers and realised that sometimes people just have bitch faces and don't know how to hold a conversation. Smiling and nodding is all they are capable of...but then other parents are overly intense and it's a little bit hard to find the right mix. Perhaps I'm too picky.

TakingTheStairs, so sorry to hear about your aunt, but massive congratulationson finding out the sex! :)

I actually had an argument with the lady behind the counter in a charity shop the other day, who decided to tell me that "I don't think you're pregnant hen. There's no bump there at all." What?! I'm very definitely pregnant. I was wearing a baggy top but what?! fucking knob.

Sorry for the expletives, typed them to get it out my system and pressed send too early.

I would like to point out that she insisted for a good ten minutes that I'm very definitely just fat, not pregnant.

That's a relief Queen, it's been many years since I shagged with that kind of frequency! Once a week or so is fine with me, as long as it's a damn good shag!

I know, I hate those sour faced cows. Possibly I'm being paranoid but I did feel like my reception at pg yoga was distinctly frosty. I've tried to be chatty and say hi and even sort of jumped in on a conversation last week but they didn't seem all that receptive. Oh well, fuck them! Maybe they're only getting laid once a year?!!

Flutterby, that's unbelievable! Wtf?!!

Am very pissed off that my dentist won't let me swop to NHS now I'm pg and covered for free care. I've gone to him for 20 years and paid privately. I've just asked if he'll let me go NHS or at least meet me half way on costs and the stupid bint on reception said no. And the nearest NHS dentist to me is bloody miles away. I know he doesn't have to but me and everyone in my immediate family has gone there for yonks and we've all got terrible teeth so we probably put his kids through uni. It'd be nice if he could meet me half way at least. Well arse to him, I'm going to find another dentist and may well write him a strongly worded letter of protest!

Sorry to hear of your loss takingthestairs but good news about finding out the sex!
futterby I'd have gone mad at her, she had no right to make a comment like that! It's like there has to be a physical protruding bump there for a woman to actually 'be' pregnant.
OH and I used to be 'at it' nearly every night but recently it's less cause he's got a new job which requires ridiculous hours. We've talked about what's gonna happen when I get bigger so hopefully it is just work and not the fact that I look/feel like the back end of a bus lol.
Extremely random dreams recently, the other night I heard someone use the loo and I woke up thinking it was me peeing the bed... Yet I went right back to sleep!

Thanks abcdemma and Futterby

Futterby - how f*&%ing rude was she. Stupid cow!

ARGH bitch colleague is at it again. Stay calm, deep breaths don't punch her in the face

Having spent the morning checking out my belly I could see her ogling my lunch out of the corner of my eye. At the moment I'm going through a phase of eating a sandwich from M&S with crisps in. Don't ask me why, it's just what I HAVE to eat. I love how the crispiness of the crisps contrasts with the soft sandwich. Anyway conversation goes like this

BC - do you know, I've never seen you eat so unhealthily.
Me - thanks.
BC - I'm just concerned you're going to end up the size of a house
Me - Yeah I know, you said.
BC - well I'm saying it again.
Me - ok.

I didn't look up from my crisp sandwich once during the whole exchange. I'm fuming. Stupid fat cow, how dare she have a go at me and disguise it as concern for my well being. She can just FRO, ARGH!

And on the way back to work, this man standing outside a pub said, god I hate it so much when men say this, "cheer up love". So I kind of fake smiled and he said "oh and you've got a lovely smile too".

is it just me or does anyone else find this incredibly patronising? Firstly, I don't need to cheer up, I was just thinking. Secondly, I bet you don't say that to men, or comment on their smiles. Thirdly, I'm sure if I had your life where I'm standing outside a pub with a fag and a pint in my hand at lunchtime, I'd probably have a lot less to worry about. So you can FRO as well!

Sorry, rant over! And today started out quite well too!

What a cow Holly! She should be more concerned your pregnancy hormones are going to send you into a violent, murderous rage

I'm just back from DP's sister's wedding, her husband told everyone I was pregnant in his speech which was a bit embarrassing! I had ONE glass of champagne, noticed her husband's dad's eyes kept flicking down to my glass when he was talking to me and ended up only having two thirds of it becaus I was worried everyone would be judging me. This was the ONE drink I was planning on having the whole pregnancy and I didn't even get to enjoy it On the bright side my DP and the bridesmaid were SO hungover this morning, while I was fresh as a daisy

Was SO sure at the start of the pregnancy we would just wait and have a surprise, but the more it goes on (and the more people keep asking if I know what I'm having) the more I want to know. Is anyone else finding out?

I think these wacky women are either just jealous or seriously have social issues.

Grrr, I hate it when people do the whole 'cheer up, it might never happen' and totally agree, he prob wouldn't have said it to a bloke. I saw this cartoon one time (wish I'd cut it out of the paper to keep it...) that had some cheerful looking bod shouting into a room 'cheer up it might never happen' then the door swings shut behind them, saying 'post traumatic stress disorder support group' - anyway I found it hilarious. You just don't know what is going on for people, telling strangers to cheer up is bang out of order.

FRO to him and bit h colleague.

Sorry you didn't get to enjoy your glass of champagne without judgey stares, maybe you and your DP should share a mini bottle at home one time instead. You got a lot to celebrate!

Last para meant for cc!

Afternoon all

Holly, did you tell her she was fat herself yet and should just shut about you and your belly? I think now is the time hun. Go buy yourself a creamcake. If you are near enough to M & S to nip out this afternoon go about 4pm. Purchase a pack of 2 cream and custard choux buns. Eat one this afternoon (preferably washed down with some really sugary fizzy pop, or full fat milkshake). They are quite squidgy and messy so you will be able to lick fingers, catch bits of cream/chocolate falling out etc etc.

Whilst you are at M & S buy a small packet of carot sticks or sliced apples. They do them on the kids pack up section. Half way through your bun (when she has either combusted with longing or outrage) say everso innocently 'oh, I forgot I got you a treat too. Hear you go. I know with your age/figure/metabolism you struggle to eat stuff like this. I'm young and beautiful and natrually skinny so can afford to indulge now, especially whilst I'm preggers'. Chuck her the packet quickly so she cant see it but make sure it falls on the floor. Then watch the fucker dive for it, so convinced its the other cream bun. Problem solved!

And if anyone doubts you are PG again just agree and say 'I know, its another fart with a bonnet on but I just can't control myself' and burst into floods of tears.

There you go girls, all problems solved with a huge dollop of PGy induced sarcasm which will amuse you greatly.

Big News. Jesus has his/her own drawer now pmsl. Have finally given up and put away all my normal clothes in normal sizes. Have nothing to wear now apart from about 6 tops, 2 of DP's hoodies, 2 pairs of jeggings and a pair of leggings. But I have a huge drawer free now so have started Jesus's kit off. He/she has a couple of babygro's, a couple of vests and a couple of hats. And a tiny little cuddle clothe thing with a teddy on it. Poor Jesus has less to wear than me pmsl. But if I see stuff in the sales I will need at least I have somewhere to put it now.

But at least I have started de-cluttering.

Got a mega annoying cough. Kept me awake all last night. Then I woke up DP who growled at me half asleep. I bit his head off, he woke up properly and growled again. I told him to feck right off. Then couldn't get back to sleep because he was annoying me too much, so tossed and turned and coughed a bit more which woke him up again. PMSL, he doesn't do being woken up. Asked him what the feck he's gonna do when I'm up breastfeeding all night. Grrrr, men are a waste of skin sometimes I think.

Glad it's not just me Yogafan. I have been on hyper feminist mode ever since I got pg, constantly on alert for the evil patriarchy and its evil ways.

And thanks Frouby, you always cheer me up! Maybe next time I could say "thanks your concern but as I'm blessed with such a great metabolism and have never had problems staying slim before, IF I do put a bit too much weight on during this pg I'm sure I won't struggle to lose it again". Then give HER fucking waistline a long meaningful stare for a change. Only problem with that is if I do get fat, I'll need to lose it pronto or have to eat my words!

So do any of you NHS folks know anything about the dentist situ? I've phoned a few dentists today, none of them are accepting new patients. I phoned NHS choices again and they said they don't think my dentist can refuse to change me from private to NHS. And to report them to the local health authority if they refused. I phoned the dentist again, she said no but would check with the main dentist dude. I think, given that I'm already registered with the practice, they can't refuse to see me on the NHS. Does anyone know for sure?

Holly is it a fully private dentist practice or do they take both NHS & private patients. If it is fully private they may not be registered with the NHS? But that is just a guess.

As for your colleague.... what. a. cow.

Holly is this person for real???? Doesn't she know that she should beware of pregnant anger?! I would just tell her to f off really.

Anyways ladies I feel so so so guilty. I just spent 4 days in Barcelona with 15 friends in this amazing villa which has been lovely but 4 days of pizza, crisps, white bread and cheese. I don't feel very well after all this junk food and feel so guilty I've been feeding my little bean all this crap. I keep reading about how important it is to eat healthily and I have just been binging on crap over and over. I am just on the verge of tears right now - am I hurting my little one by being so careless???? Maybe I am overreacting but I need reassurance. What do you think???

After this I definitely have a bump... A pizza bump. I probably gained 5 lbs in 5 days.

Aaaaaaaaaghhh I need self discipline!!!!

ccsays
No I'm not finding out, I'm trying to stay strong lol as I would love a Surprise this time, I really hope I succeed [sceptical]

holly
I really wanted a girl first time but I never realised how loving and clingy and kissy little boys are.....love them I have 2 and although I would love a little girl I would still be very happy with another boy, my oldest is a little mini me lmao.

I'm quite lucky I have some lovely women work for me bless them, even through all my pregnant hormone fuelled rants lol.

even lol

Holly I'm lucky that my private dentist has agreed to put me on NHS for my free period, and I only have to pay for my hygenist appointments. Not sure if they are obliged to offer you NHS treatment. Surely they will have children registered though who go through the NHS system?

I got my official leaving date for work today, so bleeding excited!! My last possible day of work will be 20th October and I'll then have 4 weeks leave before my mat leave so I'm finishing at 34 weeks. I've already started counting down!! Got 2 weeks hols in august too so it doesn't actually work out too many working weeks left!!

Rose, don't feel guilty! Pizza etc. isn't that bad, could have been a lot worse.

Think of all the junk food the kid will eat during his/her life. I don't reckon a few days of junk food now will make much difference at all!

Also, was it sunny there? If so, think of all the healthy vitamin D you were giving baby!